The Power of a Praying Wife
When I asked my husband to share with me his deepest fears, one of the things he mentioned was the fear of not being a good father. “I believe it’s something men in general tend to fear,” he said. “We get so caught up in doing what we do in our work that we’re afraid we haven’t done enough with our children. Or we’re afraid we haven’t done it well enough, or we’re missing something.”
Have you ever had someone pray for you when you couldn’t think straight, and after they prayed you had complete clarity and vision? I’ve experienced that countless times. I believe this is what can happen for our husbands when we pray about their parenting. If they are tortured with doubt and burdened by a sense of responsibility, we can minimize these feelings with our prayers. Prayer can help them gain a clear perspective of what it means to be a good father, and open the door for Holy Spirit guidance on how to handle the parenting challenges that arise.
The following is a suggested prayer to guide you in praying for your husband’s role as a father.
Lord, teach (husband’s name) to be a good father. Where it was not modeled to him according to Your ways, heal those areas and help him to forgive his dad. Give him revelation of You and a hunger in his heart to know You as his heavenly Father. Draw him close to spend time in your presence so he can become more like You, and fully understand Your Father’s heart of compassion and love toward him. Grow that same heart for his children.
Help him to balance mercy, judgment and instruction the way you do. Though you require obedience, You are quick to acknowledge a repentant heart. Make him that way, too. Show him when to discipline and how. Help him to see that he who loves his child disciplines him promptly (Proverbs 13:24). May he never provoke his “children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord,” (Ephesians 6:4).
I pray that we will be united in the rules we set for our children and be in full agreement as to how they are raised. I pray that there will be no strife or argument over how to handle them and the issues that surround their lives.
Give him skills of communication with his children. I pray he will not be stern, hard, cruel, cold, abusive, noncommunicative, passive, critical, weak, uninterested, neglectful, undependable or uninvolved. Help him instead to be kind, loving, soft-hearted, warm, interested, affirming, affectionate, involved, strong, consistent, dependable, verbally communicative, understanding and patient. May he require and inspire his children to honor him as their father so that their lives will be long and blessed.
Lord, I know that we pass a spiritual inheritance to our children. Let the heritage he passes on be rich in the fullness of Your Holy Spirit. Enable him to model clearly a walk of submission to Your laws. May he delight in his children and long to grow them up Your way. Being a good father is something he wants very much. I pray that you will give him the desire of his heart.
dear jessie– i fel for you tough, i have friends who have spouses that are unchristian too they keep praying for them. prayer–father God continue to provide for jessie and her husband, i pray for salvation for her husband and help jessie too give her wisdom and guidance as she is at her wits end give her dreams and visions about her husband i pray protection around them and open his eyes to see that you are the only one he is needing i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i will keep praying for you all
My husband and I have been through just about everything the 4 years we have dated and 2 that we have been married. His anger, abuse, emotionless from ptsd.
He has stuck with me through sickness, car accidents,being sexually assaulted, income fluxating and doctors saying I was infertal at age of 22. Being a young married couple and finally expecting our own little girl in the next couple of weeks I feel God has more then blessed us! in the last year i have had a tumour removed from my left overie, attached by a coworker, hit head on by a 37,000lb water truck and pregnant all since January of this year. After a high risk pregnancy almost losing our precious girl many times, were finally 3 weeks away from being parents and holding our precious girl. Laying in bed tonight my husband made me nervous revealed to me he has so much hate in his heart not for me or our child but for all the bad things that have happend. He tells me the only way he thinks he can make it go away is to get into a fight. Go after the guy who assaulted me. He is furious how flawed the criminal justace system is after watching me struggle in a losing battle just to get something to stick so maybe the next girl will have a fighting chance. I have a close relationship with God and have found blessings in everything that has happend this year as much pain and suffering I have been through I can still smile and praise God! My husband has told me that praying does not work. He feels like his job isnt putting food on the table or paying the bills. We have never had one late bill and we may not have alot of food but God always provides even if its just enough to survive. As a wife I pray for him daily I pray that God will give him the peace he has given me and Let my husband trust in him. At wits end I pray someone can point me in the right direction !
Lulu, I think that it’s always appropriate to pray – especially for the people we love. It’s wonderful that you are already praying for this man that you might share your life with. What a wonderful foundation to build your marriage upon.
I have not read this book but I do own one titled “Power of a Praying Woman”. I am in a courtship and I want to pray for my man right away before he encounters all the problems husbands face once we are married. Is it right to pray for him before we get married? I believe I should as I have more free time now than I would have by the time we are married. So I will get a copy of this book here in South Africa.
Humbulani, I hope you do go ahead and get the book! You and your beloved ones will be blessed. Let us know
Thanks for the encoraging words, I’m going to by this book….
Amber,
It sounds to me like you need to learn how to communicate with one another without arguing and fighting. If he cannot forgive you for cheating on him, then perhaps there is a deeper issue here that you need to deal with. We have some great online mentors that would love to walk alongside of you on this journey. Just fill in the form on this page and one of them will email you. http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/
Me & my long term b/f and father of my child recently gotten engaged well we arguee and fight all the time we both love each other so much its crazy & we love our child so very much but i recently talked to a marrige councler by myself and she actualy kinda siad he might not be the on i dk how that could be if she only knew how much i lvoed him. alot of our problems spur from when we first got together before our son was born i cheated on him and he can not forgive me for it & i dk what to do im pushed and stressed to my limit i just need a lil elp or some kind of advice
Lord God I pray for Precious and her husband. I ask that You would work in their lives to bring about newness in You. I pray that Precious would never lose her confidence in You and that her husband would find peace and satisfaction in You. Amen.
I had purchased this book a few years back, i just got married a month ago- but my husband has taken to drinking and coming home late- i remembered i had this book and i have started my 30 day journey, I cant wiat to come back on this forum and testify to the goodness of our Lord- I know He will see us through and we will have a great marriage.
Dear Cherese,
My heart goes out to you and I wish that I could give you a big hug…consider yourself hugged though…((((Cherese)))))))) I will pray right now for both you and Anthony –
Dear Heavenly Father,
I lift Cherese and Anthony up to you today and ask that you would work in their lives and their marriage. Help Anthony to see that he needs to get help, to get into rehab and stay until he has gained victory of his addiction to alcohol. Bring healing to his body and mind. Thank you for Cherese’s faith in You Lord. Give her strength for each day. Amen.
Cherese we have a wonderful team of online mentors that would love to pray for you and with you as well as walk alongside of you. Just fill in the form on this page and one of our mentors will email you. http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/
Years ago when I was in my first marriage, I purchased this book and also the CDs to listen to. However, I sowed the CDs to a friend because she was facing difficulty in her marriage. My marriage ended in divorce seven years ago, and I am now married to a man who has a problem with alcohol. Anthony has been an alcoholic most of his adult life and has been in rehab 10 times. The last visit ended in him leaving rehab after only two weeks.
I cannot express to you how much pain I am in due to his drinking, not coming home at night which occurs 2-3 nights out of a week. I have never in my life been in such a situation where I have had to deal with such stress.
I believe God can and will heal Anthony. However, it is me who has no patience. I want the transformation of Anthony to occur overnight and we can live happily ever after. I know this is only in fairy tails. Please, please pray for my strength and pray for Anthony for his full recovery and restoration..God is a healer and I know He loves me…I am His daughter and Anthony is His son. God Makes no mistakes and I do not believe He made a mistake in putting us together.
Thank you so very much!
Thank you for your reply and prayer. My husband actually is not hiding it, he does it w/me in the room and I have spoke to him about how it makes me feel. My pastors do know and I am in contact w/them.Just trying to get more prayer warriors out there to stop satan’s work on my family. We are now as of today out of a job as our business partner and my husband had a disagreement and my husband walked. Please continue to pray for us and thank you for your dedication and commitment to praying for all in need.
love to you
wendy
Dear Wendy,
I am sorry to hear that you are having such a stressful time. You mentioned that counselling had helped in the past, do you think your husband might be willing to go to counselling again? His excuse for watching porn, “he assures me he is merely looking for different ways and techniques to please me during love making” is pretty sad. It’s garbage. I hope he doesn’t think that you agreed with that as a valid reason. He obviously doesn’t believe it himself. If he really felt that he was doing something to benefit your marriage he would not be using your laptop in secret in the middle of the night. That is not the behaviour of a loving husband doing research. That’s the guilty behaviour of someone trying to hide the thing they know they should not be doing.
I am not convinced that hiding your pain over his use of porn is the answer. What is that telling him other than that it’s totally okay for him to keep doing this because, look, you aren’t even reacting? I definitely think that giving it to God is incredibly important and prayer is going to help. But hiding your reactions from your husband is not the road to a better marriage. It must be difficult for you to share a bed with him knowing that he’s getting up in the night to spend time with porn.
You need to help him see that his behaviour is affecting your marriage and that his choices have consequences. Otherwise, what reason does he have to change? If he can have porn and you then it’s likely he’ll stay in this pattern of behaviour because he gets everything that he wants and doesn’t have to give anything up. You need to talk to him, sometime when you’re both calm and it’s not time to go to bed. Tell him how his use of porn makes you feel. Refuse to accept his excuse that it is somehow for you. Remind him that you do not want to be treated like a porn star. Point out the things that have changed since he started and tell him that you want to work with him to improve your relationship but that the porn has got to go.
Consider taking some practical steps as well. Change the password on your computer. Install porn tracking software and make sure he knows that it is on there. There are several options from services that block certain domains to ones that email you a list of all the sites that were visited on your computer. Whichever one you choose make sure he knows that you put it on there, that you’re not trying to trap him but you cannot allow him to use your computer to look at that junk.
I would strongly encourage you to see a pastor or counsellor. If your husband won’t come with you then go alone. You’re dealing with a lot right now and you’re going to need some support.
Let me pray for you right now:
Father, I pray for Wendy. You see the love she has for her family and her husband and her desire for their relationship to be restored. I pray for some relief for her. There is so much stress right now. I pray that someone else would be able to help with the kids, or that her daughter would be able to find another place to stay. I pray that the needs of the whole household would not fall on Wendy’s shoulders. I pray especially for a breakthrough with her husband, especially in his use of porn. Help him to see that it is not benevolent, that is hurting his marriage. If porn has a hold on him I pray that you would release him from that bondage and set him free. Help him to take steps to remove porn from his life. If he is doing drugs as well, help him to see that he needs help to get better and to go and get that help. I pray for peace for Wendy in the midst of so many conflicts. Show her the best way. Answer her prayers Father, even today. Thank you for loving Wendy, her husband and their whole family. May they be a story of restoration, a picture of how great a family can be when they are united and following you. In your name I pray, Amen
Wendy, if you would like to talk to someone about this privately, we have mentors standing by. Just use this form and a mentor will contact you by email.
I have this book and love it!! Have seen many changes in my marriage since I started using it. I do now need a lot of prayer for my husband who is taking a lot of prescription drugs as a way to cope w/stress. He is also getting on my laptop in the middle of the night and looks at nude pictures of celebrities and watches porn for hours. I see that he seems to have a supernatural strength even though he is getting only a few hours and sometimes less sleep each night. I also am wondering if possibly he could be doing drugs aside the narcotics. I love my husband very much but he takes on too much and i’m fearful that he is at his breaking point as he works very hard at our business that he runs and also has moved in his alcoholic daughter and 2 grandkids who are all very disfunctional. She was supposed to leave months ago but has managed to talk him into letting her stay longer several times. She does have a job and makes enough to live on her own. I am left daily to parent them along w/my 3 children and it is wearing on me. My husband and I have had counceling in the past which led us to a close relationship. We both are saved and serve the Lord. I have mentioned that the porn hurts me and he assures me he is merely looking for different ways and techniques to please me during love making that books just cant give. I now am praying and trying to give it to the Lord to take over and trying to be quiet about the pain I feel for his countless hours w/porn, and the fact that having the family members in here is very very stressful.I am frustrated and need help. Please please please pray for my situation and the level of stress both my husband and i are on.
Wow I can’t imagine how difficult your situation must be with your significant other of 11 years suddenly leaving you.
I can’t promise things will work out the way you hope but I can your Heavenly Father is with you in all circumstances and He is intimately involved in every circumstance of your life. God does not cause things like this to happen but He promises to help us and turn our lives around. Your Heavenly Father is so deeply moved by your circumstances and longs to make Himself real to you like never before.
In terms of what you should do or pray, the most important thing is to fully surrender our lives to God’s will and His plan. God wants us to have a neutral heat so we can follow and pray according to His plan. After 11 years of being in a relationship, scientists have discovered our emotional connection to a significant other is so strong, we literally feel attached to that person.
I wish this situation would have a happy ending and you will reunite with your significant other but based on what he has said, this might not be a possibility. Certainly this is a difficult reality to face if this happens you need to know God will give you the strength to do it.
When teaching the disciples how to pray, Jesus told us to always pray according to God’s will. God knows what is best for us and how to orchestrate our lives to find true fulfillment that can only come from a deeper relationship with him. I just finished writing an article I will be posting pretty soon called Delighting Yourself in the Lord because He alone can give us the desires of your heart. I would not normally do this but given the situation I think this article might really help you today so I have posted it on my blog if you would like to read it go to http://joelpowertochange.wordpress.com. Especially in difficult situations like this it is really hard to know what is best for you and best for your child. Our only hope of experiencing fulfillment in life is delighting ourselves in the Lord and trusting Him! For example, if there is not a possibility to get back together, it would not be wise spending emotional energy on something that will not happen. I think right now it is impossible to know exactly how the situation will play out and the best thing to pray for. In situations when we don’t know how to pray, we should ask God to continue to show us His will for the situation and how we should pray.
If you trust God and fully surrender your life to Him I know with complete certainty He will lead you and guide you to the best possible outcome for this situation. I can’t promise what this outcome will be, but I know your heavenly Father longs to provide the best for you in this situation. Allow Him to lead and guide you at this time. I know from my life, it was in times of desperate need I grew most in my relationship with my heavenly Father. I can’t imagine anyone else could quite understand how you feel but there is One who does! He has born our griefs and carried our sorrows. He knows our every thought and deepest secrets of our hearts.
Please go to http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor/ and allow one of our mentors to further care for you but above all else go to your heavenly Father! Share your heart with Him. Tell Him exactly how you feel.
He longs to comfort you. His heart breaks to see you, his most precious child, going through this situation. He longs to gather you in His arms and embrace you. He longs to reveal His love to you in a greater way than ever before. Sometimes when something like this happens it is hard to trust or feel loved by anyone. But unlike human love, your Father’s love will never fail! Even if everyone else abandons you, He will always love you and be with you!
I just pray the Father would completely flood your heart with His love and fill the emptiness in your heart you are feeling today.
I have been with my boyfriend for 11 yrs, we have a 7 yr old son. I know we are not married but for about a week I have been praying these prayers everyday for him, even though I do not want to. We broke up 2months ago….He told me we are done, there is no going back and he does not love me. I don’t know if another female is involved. My heart is so broken, crushed barely beating. I am I wrong to pray these prayers for him. I need hope!!!!!
Father in Heaven I pray for Reesha’s husband. Open his eyes to the ways that his choices hurt his wife and children. I pray that the Holy spirit would convict him of his sin and that he would repent and receive the grace and forgiveness that comes through the grace of Jesus Christ. Heal this family and empower them as Your witnesses in their community. Amen.
Prayer changes situations, keep on praying ladies. Nothing is impossible for the one above.
Praise the lord.my name is reesha i am worried about my hus only bec he have some bad character pls pray for him (drinking, and playing cards) he have no responsibility for family i have two childrens.
hmmmmmmmmmmm,this book practically turned my life around.Am blessed to be part of those privileged to read and see it impacts. many things will want to drive u crazy but trust me, take them to God in prayers, and remember,there is no stupid prayer before God. if u want him to eat a particular meal, wear a particular dress yet you cant get him doing them for you, liaise with God.
married women need to read this book, its a must have.women need to pray for their husbands
Ope,
It must be extremely frustrating for you. There is nothing for you to be ashamed of as for whatever reason it would appear that the issue is with your so called husband. To be officially be married sex needs to occur otherwise there is no shame in getting the marriage annulled however I would caution to keep this private so he can deal with issue he faces. It might be that God is protecting you from a marriage that is not meant. You were never married as you never became one. I mean to wait a full year at least for me would be a bit much and I would not blame yourself! I would suggest to contact one of the mentors who can encourage you as you don’t have to live this way for the rest of your life. God Bless
I remember posting on this forum in june about my sexless marriage. Well, this month marks our first wedding anniversary and we’ve still not had sex. I’ve prayed, gone for marriage counselling and tried all sorts;lingerie, patience,etc. I’m a christian and I know there’s nothing impossible for God, but I think I’m done with the marriage. I’m frustrated and there’s a lot of resentment and bitterness. I don’t feel like praying anymore.
I hope this would also include prayer for husband to overcome stress and difficulty as he is trying to do his responsibility for the family and to help him feel there is God whom he can ask for help and make him realize he can never do things alone, that he needs God more than anything and that he needs to balance work and relationship.
The Power of a Praying Wife is indeed a very powerful book Sharol! I absolutely agree and the best part is that it is really practical as well.
Charmaine, I apologize that no one really responded to your question that you posed back in August about the guy that you were dating who was having problems opening up on his finances. That is a tough question and is a lot harder for some guys than for others. I know that when my husband and I were dating I had no idea that he was broke! He even had to borrow money to buy my engagement ring!!
Trust is something that is earned, so hopefully as you have continued in that relationship he has begun to open up more about his finances. Sooner or later he will need to open up if you are considering marriage. We do have personal online mentors that would love to walk alongside of you on your journey. If you would like to correspond to one privately, just fill in the form on this page and someone will email you. http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/
good article, thanks for sharing it
I just met a guy I like so much and he want to marry me but it was very difficult for him to open up on his finances and I love him so much, How do I start to help him without hurting his pride or using my money. I jwould like to be there for him but this will take alots from me and will affect my thinking and I am trying not to think otherwise… please help!
I will pray for you too margarita. God is above all that happens and I believe that you found the book in the right time. I also believe that God can and will heal situations and He wants marriages to last. If you want further prayer, we offer that here at Power to Change. Just enter your prayer request and you will be contacted by one of our prayer mentors. Blessings to you today.
This is a great book, sad that i came across with it after my separation from my husband. He is a great man who made a mistake. I handled the situation the wrong way. Now I am by myself for over seventh months. He don’t want to talk to me. He is getting the wrong advise from other people. I am desparate, 17 years of marriage down the drain.I am praying for him and for me to save my marriage. I am waiting for a miracle, I have FAITH is going to happen.I know God is going to put his hands in all this. Like the book say have faith and believe that GOD can change people and situations no matter the circunstances. Amen
i do pray for my husband, i also pray for other people and the church we attend and the church universal
how can i order the book? i stay in zimbabwe at harare. repl
were can i buy the book the power of a praying wife.
ade, it is a very popular book so perhaps you should check online to see if you can order it there in Nigeria.
can i get the book in nigeria
Well! I like the reading for today.
I have been without my ex for some time now and enjoy my singleness.
I still care for the nman in some way, but will still stayu single. Wehn we ere together, I think if we had the Lord in with us, that it woudl have been a better relationship.
i havnt read the book yet. but im already inspired by the reading the testimonies on this website. it was recommended by a friend of mine. she borowed the boook to me. and i will start reading tomorrow. on this page. the first prayer point what was i needed for my husband. this was not a mistake. im immensely blessed. and i know by the time im done with the book my life will be transformed to that of the virtue woman the book of proverbs talked about.
GOd bless.
Ope Yemi I understand the frustrations that you must feel being married to someone who is unable to express his physical love to you. One of the many mistakes that woman make is feeling that the reason they do not wish to be intimate is as a result of how they look when majority of times it is a much deeper issue. Many men are unable to be intimate as the act of intimacy makes them vulnerable which is often why they don’t wish be intimate.
The issue is most likely of a deep fear of mistrust and when a person is unable to trust they turn inward. The secret to healing your marriage is to pray together and to seek professional counseling as until the reasons behind the behavior are discovered it will be a physical less relationship. Yes I agree to pray but until the poison inside is removed it will be a big hindrance the secret is to kindly and gently without anger discuss with him that both need to go to counseling and that it is not an option. I personally went to counseling although I am not married I did discover the areas in my life I had to change and God has freed me in ways I thought I would never imagined. It is critical that prayer becomes your corner stone in your marriage as when you look to Christ then each others faults do not seem so big. In John 8: 32 And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. Ask Christ to give you wisdom and to show you the truth and he will open your mind to his wisdom through the holy spirit in such a manner that your husband will want to be healed as the reason for his behavior is much deeper than just masturbation as that is the cure that he mistakenly believes is helping him when it is killing his soul. God Bless and trust Christ he will show you …
I was also seperated with my husband for a year. I always had the book but never used it. During our seperation God reminded me of it. We got reconciled praise be to the living God. God led me to opening a women prayer group called Noblewives that meets every month to pray for our husbands using the book. It has been an awesome journey to meet and pray for our husbands together.
Thank you Stormie for the book it is indeed a blessing and saving so many marraiges. May God richly bless you.
I’ve been married for 6 months but we’ve talked about divorce more than twice. He’s been masturbating since he was a teenager and can’t seem to enjoy normal sex like he does masturbation. Now I feel like I made a mistake breaking up with my ex. He was everything to me,I just went stupid. Been praying to God to make me love my husband the right way, despite the lack of sex. It’s hard. I feel encouraged with all I’ve read but I need extra prayers. God bless u
Wow, what a great story of reconciliation Dana. Thank you for sharing!
My husbnd and I were separated for 2 years, and our divorce was almost final. I started reading his book and praying for him. We reconciled, and 3 years later are still happily married. This book taught me to change the way I see things, pray for my husband, and accept him the way he his. This book helped save my marriage. Thank you Stormie for writing it!
That is awesome news FDE! Praise the Lord! thanks for sharing your ‘God-story’ with us as an encouragement to others who come to the site.
I was separated from my husband for 2 1/2 years and our divorce was finalized for 6 months when I finally picked up this book and within a month of finishing it we reconciled. This book has literally changed my life. TO GOD BE THE GLORY! ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE THROUGH HIM!
Sinnah,
The link that Leah provided above is a website link to Power to Change’s online bookstore where you can purchase the book. You may also visit another online bookstore to purchase it. We are unable to provide any number in South Africa. I suggest looking online to see where you can purchase it in South Africa.
I cant get through may be i donot understand please send me the nearest telephone for the nearest store in south africa EG JOHANNESBUR,CAPE TOWN AND SO ON
Hi Sinnah
Please check out our bookstore to order the book. http://store.powertochange.org/p-168-the-power-of-a-praying-wife.aspx.
Thank you
what is the nearest store to can have this books
I would like to order the book but need the price please,i dont how to order
give the information to the said mail ( the power of the praying wife
Ohh what a good morning to read such an inspiring prayer. I will make sure i go around our nearby book storee so that i can get myself a copy so that i can read more about praying for my husband. I shared it with a friend / workmatwe who had had a bad night with her husband after reading this she prayed , called him and someone who had sworn never to speak to her called and they talked happily…MAy God bless