Comments on: Romance for Dummies

By: Adrienniana

Adrienniana — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 22:01:09 +0000

This Romance stuff is really hard to follow- I just started dating. But this kind of helps, also with watching romantic comedies and stuff. People in their 20′s should defenietly read this.

By: Doug

Doug — Fri, 01 Apr 2011 22:42:33 +0000

I’m really struggling with this romance stuff. I’m sure glad I found this site, some great ideas, gotta get in touch with my romantic side.

By: Tamara Barry

Tamara Barry — Wed, 24 Feb 2010 00:35:16 +0000

can you send this Web page via e-mail to my husband?

By: Nick

Nick — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 05:46:56 +0000

Hey man, I like this. I’m 17 and not married yet but it gives me something to look forward to. You make a very good point that you have to put her needs before your own. All along I’ve asked what she wants me to do to be a romantic and she either says ‘I don’t know’ or ‘Think of something’. Needless to say I’m a hopeless romantic and that would probably be why I’m on the internet looking for advice. I need to know when to play around and when to just be a comforting person. You had practical ideas and I was surprised that I could understand them so easily and it’s not an expensive thing to do. Hopefully I can get a job before the Army so I can get her flowers and things like that. Thanks man.

By: maricor yang

maricor yang — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 17:43:37 +0000

the best thing that we have in our relationship is love n understanding for God is our center, and the next things is flavored of lives.

thanks
dave

God bless

Amen

By: assane Damoue

assane Damoue — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 12:19:00 +0000

you are talking about life as the bible said human being must not live only according to food feast and all of those things but we must also live by all words comming from God mouth mathew 4 v 4 because we are composed on 3 parts the body the soul and the spirit the body need food to live but the soul and the spirit need the real word of god to leave like he was before coming in your body .

So let-s reply now to that question what’s this word of God ?

because there’s the real one and the wrong one .

By: Claire Colvin

Mon, 16 Feb 2009 18:07:53 +0000

Richard, I think you make a really good point. Romance is neither gender’s domain nor should it always go from one to the other. Like all aspects of marriage, it needs to go both ways. I take issue with Mirriam-Webster’s definition, I think romance is simply “taking notice and acting for the other’s benefit”. I think a steak can be very romantic, doing the dishes can be romantic, something as simple as leaving the light on can be romantic. It can say “I was thinking about you, and I noticed that you like/need/prefer ______ ” and so I took action, for you.

I think that romance gets killed, for both genders, when it gets marred in expectation or entitlement. When there’s a sense of “you’re supposed to” or “you should” from either partner it takes the romance right out of it. I’m always saddened when I talk to women around Valentine’s Day and ask them what they are planning to do for their husband and they seem to think that they have no responsibility there. Romance is not gender-specific, both men and women need it, although I agree with you, what it looks like for each gender is different. But beyond that I think the definition of romance is different for each person. When we make the mistake that romance has to be a huge gesture, I think we really miss out. Sometimes the quietest moment can be the most romantic of all.

By: Richard Klassen

Richard Klassen — Fri, 13 Feb 2009 15:35:47 +0000

Thank you for this well thought out and practical article. I, for one, could use a lot of help in my “romancing” of my wife.
I do have a concern however that always bothers me when I read this kind of article. I suppose my concern relates to the definition of romance. The on-line Mirriam-Webster Dictionary defines verb form of romance as “to try to influence or curry favor with especially by lavishing personal attention, gifts, or flattery”. Most articles on romance immediately refer to candlelight, chocolates, roses, etc. It seems to me that these things relate to a feminine form of romance. Us men always come out looking like “dummies” and the women are the experts. But is there not also a masculine side of romance? To me a good steak sounds quite romantic. To some men hunting is romantic and they are very thrilled when their spouse shows some interest. And the list could go on.
Certainly, as a husband I need to “romance” my wife in the way that she finds romantic (In our case my wife would be more pleased if I went with her to a yard sale than if I brought her a dozen roses.) But I maintain that my wife then also needs to “romance” me in the way I find romantic.
Who is more romantic? I say men and women are both equally romantic – but it depends on the definition.
God bless.