Living Life to the Fullest as a Single Woman
As a single woman it’s easy for me to feel all alone even in a crowded room of many other singles. But I’m determined not to let it get the better of me.
There’s more to life than men, and by focusing on those other things, I’m maximizing my life as a single woman. Here are my suggestions for living that life.
1. Know who you are – One of my favorite verses is in Zephaniah 3:17 which says, “He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.” When we get a picture of just how precious we are to God, we can’t help but enjoy life. Life is worth living because He is worth living for.
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You are single today because He wants you to be. There are some things in life that you can only accomplish in this particular season of life. When God called Moses to speak to Pharaoh about releasing the Israelites from slavery in Egypt, He asked Moses to use what was already in his hand, his staff. He didn’t ask Moses to use something he didn’t have. What’s in your hand? What are your strengths? What are the special gifts that God has given you that you could use today to bless somebody?
2. Have a great support network – “No man (or woman) is an island.” I never realized how much I needed good, supportive friends until my recent breakup with my boyfriend. God has brought some wonderful people into my life, all of whom play different roles.
I have an accountability friend who keeps me on track by asking me the hard questions, I have a ministry friend who plays a role similar to mine in her church, and I have many friends with whom I can just have fun and be myself. I also have a couple of close guy friends. Our relationships are so secure that we know there will never be anything more to our friendship; they are “safe” guys. I have found it helpful to understand a male’s perspective on many things I may be dealing with in my life.
3. Have fun – This year on Valentine’s Day, my roommates and I decided we would have a girls’ night at our place for all our single friends. We had a lot of fun making the invitations (so much fun that I’ve found a new hobby of making cards!) and planning the menu, decorations and so on.
Of course, we all still have “down” days and we have to allow ourselves to go through them. But don’t stay there. Watching sappy love movies or reading romance novels doesn’t help, so stay away from those. Here are some things you could do instead:
- Have a girls’ night
- Enjoy a regular “pamper yourself” day
- Find a hobby
- Aim to meet one new person every week
- Travel
- Attend a women’s conference
- Get some exercise.
Give your hand a go at different things if you’re unsure of your place in God’s kingdom. Look for opportunities to serve people and to serve God. In the meantime, if God happens to bring alongside you someone who seems to be running at the same pace and direction as you, that’s awesome! But if not, keep serving anyway. The Bible says that when we get to heaven we will have to give an account for what we did with our time, so let’s make the most of every day.
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Hi IBK -
The feeling of being left for someone else is not a good feeling at all. ((Hugs!)) I pray that you know that decisions and behaviors that guys make are more about the guy and not so much about the woman they are not staying with. It’s great that you are trying to live a full life without him. The sooner you move on, the better it will be for you.
I want to share this scripture with you – Proverbs 4:23
NIV -
Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it.
The Message –
Keep vigilant watch over your heart;
that’s where life starts.
It’s important not to be hung up on the wrong guy if God has a different one for us. Guarding our hearts with the help of God’s Holy Spirit will help us to be available for whomever God has in store for us. I pray that you come closer to God’s heart through this situation, for His love will never leave nor forsake you. Have you come to accept Christ into your life? You can find out more about how you can have a personal relationship with God through Christ here – http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/
There’s so much room for growth in our relationship with God that prepares us for a future husband. Really, there is. Even when we think we have all our bases covered, sometimes God shows us what areas are preventing us from becoming the spouse we need to be for our future husband. Even without knowing what the future holds about having a future husband, I always find that my relationship with God is its own reward. Only He alone can truly satisfy. Living our life to the fullest is possible through Christ because it is He who came to give us Life abundantly (John 10:10).
I hope will seriously consider clicking on the link http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/ if you had not had the opportunity about how life chance change when we have Christ in it. Lord I lift up IBK to You, and I pray Lord that You provide her the guidance on how to guard her heart. You alone know her the best, out of anyone in this world. You know the number of hairs she has on her head and what she is about to speak before she opens her mouth. So I pray Lord that You draw her closer to You through this situation so that You may bless her with the desires of Her heart.
Visit us again IBK!!
Am a single lady,and am trying to get over a guy that am inlove with cos he left me for someome he met after me,waited for him to ask me out but to no avail! So am nuturing my broken heart and trying to embrace my single life and make the most of it
KImberly, I can understand that feeling of life going on without you – if that’s the case then it’s up to you to join back in. I know that it’s probably not practical for you to go and find a new place to live just yet, and making friends takes time but that does not mean that you are powerless. What is one thing you can do today to start to move towards a less lonely life?
Is there somewhere you can volunteer? Do you eat lunch at your desk work, is there a lunch room where you could eat with other people? Are you an approachable person? Is there something you could do to be more approachable? You could try wearing a brighter colour, or really thinking about smiling at people. If you think about what it is that you like to do, is there a place where there are other people who like that too? If you like animals, animal shelters often need people to walk dogs or help socialize kittens. Do you go to church, is there a group there that you could join?
It can be really scary to think about changing your life but there are often small things we can do that are a step toward change, a step, quite literally, in the right direction. Just the other I came across a quote that says, “Every day of our lives we are on the verge of making those slight changes that would make all the difference.” Mignon McLaughlin What is the slight change you can make today? Can you make it again tomorrow? It’s not easy, believe me I know it’s not easy, especially when you don’t have a partner by your side (I don’t have one either). But I have to live the life I build for myself, I GET to live the life I build for myself. And while we are not necessarily always at fault for our own loneliness, we do have a hand in it which is good news – great news even. It means that it is within our grasp to start to change it.
Unforntaley I live with my mother, who sometime can be a unpleasant persont to be around. I don’t have girls night our or in because I don’t have any friends. Help!!!!
I have living the single life for a long time. Unfotunately I don’t have friends that I can have over for a girls night, and I live with my mother who is not the most plesant person to be around. Sometime I want to scream!!! what in the world is going on with my life. Help!!
I have a group of singles girls in my place. I agree that we are trying to live life to the fullest as singles girls. But today my day is down. I know I will not stay here for a long time but believe me it’s not easy.
I just become single again few months ago, I wish I could have more girls night and friends to stay with. However, most of the closest friends are married and they don’t have time for me. And for a few girl friends I know who are single, for some reason, they don’t seems like hanging out with others.
I wish God could help me to physically connected with a few close girl friends to support each other.