The Wisdom of Depending on God

Written by Gail Rodgers

Carrie was frustrated. Anger played at the edge of her heart. Why didn’t God answer her? Why didn’t He rescue her in her situation as she begged Him too?

She began to pray less. One day she realized she had stopped praying except for her habitual prayer before meals. She realized she had quit expecting anything from God. Her trust in His goodness had melted away in the heat of her struggle and God’s silence.

Countless Christians have experienced their prayers erode to a trickle of empty words of habit or panic button prayers. Some lose faith when life’s hard circumstances make no sense and God fails to intervene as they think He should. Others simply get too busy to bother. Many experience feeling let down and disappointed by the church or other Christians and paint God with the same brush.

It’s easy to begin depending on our own best thinking when we lose heart in expecting God to answer our prayers. Trusting God, when our path in life grows muddy, is not an easy task. The mud of weariness, busyness and hurt can cause us to trip and even fall. We wonder how we will ever get up again. Faith can feel like a thread that threatens to break.

Trusting God with your life, even when it makes no sense to you, is to choose to grab hold of the pearl of wisdom. As Christian women we know the vital connection prayer is to our God, yet we can let it slip away from fingers muddy from falling. We must be deliberate in choosing to cling to it. There is great wisdom and reward in depending on our God even in the silence.

Maintaining that vital connection to God in prayer is a choice. Step by step, through the fog on our pathway, we can choose to trust that God has our best interest at heart and lean on His strength to get us through our day… or … we choose to shrug Him off with little expectation and lean wearily on our own understanding.

When we live our lives with prayer on the fringe we are really telling God that we don’t trust Him. Often with our lips we declare trust but with our lives we show that we really don’t believe He will see us through. Ask yourself the hard questions…

  • Do I really trust God to have my best interest at heart?
  • Do I really believe He will strengthen me today to walk where I need to walk…even in the dark and the silence?

Choose to increase your trust in God and to bring prayer into focus from the fringe of your life. These steps will help you firmly grasp that treasured pearl…and you will discover the wisdom of depending on God. Choose to TRUST.

  • T – Thanks
    Thank God for the things He has done in your past. Go back as far as you need to.Begin to chart His track record in your life. Ask Him to remind you of times past when He was there for you. Then find something in your life today to be grateful for. Living thankfully is God’s will for your life.

    “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
  • R – Repent
    Say you are sorry to God for intentionally allowing things in your heart and your life that you know would disappoint Him. Having a rebellious heart toward God’s ways in one area of your life can cause your prayers to hit the ceiling in other areas. Take an inward look and ask for God’s help in changing attitudes, thoughts, motives and actions that need a correction.“If I had cherished sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened: but God has surely listened and heard my voice in prayer” (Psalm 66:18 & 19).
  • U –  Unify
    Unify broken relationships. Whether you have offended someone or have been offended, God leaves the ball in your park to seek restoration. If restoration isn’t possible give God the broken pieces and ask Him to root resentment out of your heart. Bringing peace to fractured relationships brings blessing.Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the children of God” (Matthew 5:9).
  • SShare
    Share the journey. When times are tough and trust wears thin, find a friend to pray with you and for you. Tell someone your struggle and ask her to walk with you awhile on the road of life. Getting help in our weakness leads to healing and to power in praying.“Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective” (James 5:16).
  • T – Take time
    Take time to spend with God. If your heart is dry set aside some time to listen to praise music and use the words of the songs as prayers from your heart. Till up the ground that has become hard from the worries of life. Learn to spend time in the presence of the Lord and find refreshing beyond what you can imagine.“He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of the Lord, “He is my refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust”” (Psalm 91:1 & 2).

Depend on God in new ways today. Trust Him… even in the silence and in the dark. The wisdom of depending on God will bring results in your life that will surprise you. “My God, in whom I trust”… with expectation!


48 Responses to “The Wisdom of Depending on God”

  • Aldo says:

    Trudy, thank you for your witness. I believe it will minister to many who are in need of it. God bless, and keep up the good work.

  • Trudy says:

    WOW! Thanks be to you for this site and our glorious GOD who keeps our feet from stumbling and who wants the very best for us!!!!! I never stop thinking for the best. Yes, hardships come but we must KEEP our eyes focused on the LORD not on our problems!!!! (just saying). WE have to keep our eyes focused on the way out not continuing to look at the mess (of course I can only speak for myself but this is the better way). My blessed thought is: I am grateful that I can go back in my past as far as I want to and grab whatever I want!!!! amazing. I was always told “put that down, don’t go there and so forth. BUT I see the LORD in the most amazing ways bringing me back and forth on memory lane and using it in today!!!!! He is the greatest teacher. Despite the setbacks, HE intervened!!!! and also it is helping me to see all thing things that went on in my Mom’s life (I think she depended on my Dad too much. . Even though she read the bible, when Dad didn’t live up to expectations (not her fault) and left her after 29 years, it was devastating and she basically gave up on God because a lot of things didn’t turn out right and now she’s basically crazy and kind of well let’s say a lot bitter. Anyway, she introduced me to God and I knew I was going to Heaven and it’s true. Even though the rest of family didn’t follow, the little sheep did. GOD NEVER GAVE UP. Jesus saved me and brought me to Heaven and transformed me into Heaven on the sea of Gallillee. I am depending on the LORD and leaning on some of my own understanding too. LIKE GO STUDY>>>>for job. Love you all. May God bless you. I have also learned it isn’t up to me to solve everyone’s problems but I can tell anyone this. ….do lean on your understanding that you get from the LORD. I can tell you that the best advice is the one that I understand and it has lifted me and moved me when nothing else could. Delight yourself in the LORD and HE SHALL GIVE YOU THE DESIRES OF your heart? Many false prophets have gone out into the world. You should depend on the LORD but He will give you understanding. If you give up too much of your mind, you will be very depressed. Dont’ do it. You can rely on your understanding. AND, for anyone having suicidal thoughts, you don’t need to be here. You need to get to the ER and fast! Do not sit here on the PC and try to handle things yourself. GOT IT???? Now get going and fast. amen.

  • Shelley says:

    Thank you my friend for your comment and may the Lord our God bless you as you continue to seek His grace each day, that He has given to you, in Jesus Mighty name Amen

  • barb says:

    I came across this sight feeling the same as many, lost! I always felt my faith was strong however like many mention. Heartache, loneliness, andbsevere financial struggles have me questioning what I believe anymore. Can’t even think of any past answered prayers. I just always accepted no as my answer. I too don’t want to give up believing. I truly need these prayers to receive a yes answer. Thank you for prayers

  • Trish Hicks says:

    I have a great sight here that i use for alot of these questions. For the most part it is usually Faith and trust and patience, and courage from how i have always understood it,that is used to depend solely on God, yes naturally wisdom is usually needed. However i believe that the main working Character here would be Faith. Here is a page which states just that.: It’s really interesting information if anyone is interested in reading it.
    I hope and pray it can help someone whom is having such a situation such as this. I really have not come to a part in my life yet where i could have to depend solely on God. However i am learning more and more about it.
    may God bless

  • Aldo says:

    Eva, I agree with Elkay and her prayer for you. May the Lord God Almighty lead, guide, and direct your steps as you endeavor to live for Him and serve Him, in Jesus Name I pray, amen.

  • eva says:

    God bless you too sherlley and all.

  • Shelley says:

    May the Lord our God bless you Eva.

  • eva says:


  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Eva, we don’t know why God is allowing the difficulties you are having but He does have a plan to make everything beautiful at the right time, maybe even after Christ returns. It is wonderful that your attitude is so thankful about the good things in your life and that you know nothing is impossible with God. We do pray,

    “Heavenly Father, Eva believes in You and is grateful for the blessings You have brought into her life. We join her in thanking You for her health and for her son and ask for continued protection for both of them. Lord, You talk about a “cord of three strands” that cannot be broken, how two are better than one; Eva desires a God-fearing husband who can help raise her son and we pray that this be Your will and that You bring it about in a way that honors and glorifies You. And Lord, Eva’s business needs to grow so that she can provide for her family; may it blossom in such a way that everyone know it came from You. We bring this prayer in Jesus’ name to Your Throne of Grace to get help for Eva in her time of need. Amen.”

  • eva says:

    Praise be to God. I am in kenya. Please pray for my business to pick up and for me to get a life partner. God fearing. I believe that God is able and that nothing is impossible with God. I thanl God so much for restoring my health after battling cancer and loosing my second born child. I thank him for my little boy. My husband left when i was undergoing chemotherapy. Please pray for me and be blessed.

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Leah, although they seem overwhelming, your feelings and your depression cannot be trusted. Feelings are not objective truth. Feelings are subjective thinking and you need to explore the thoughts that have led you to suicidal thoughts. Only facts are to be trusted, and the facts are that God knows what is going on in your life and He loves you even though you may not feel that.

    I know God’s love seems worthless if it doesn’t translate into rescuing you from the painful things in life. I wish I could tell you why God was allowing all this to happen to you, but I don’t have that answer. You are a person of value. You are important and you can change your thinking and improve your life! God says this to you, “Here is My gift . . . I allowed My Son Jesus to die on your behalf so that I can bring you into My house to live as My child, to be with Me forever. I want to begin blessing you immediately in so many ways.”

    You talked about a wonderful Christian family who constantly prays for you, a lovely Christian therapist and new medication and the love you have for your daughter. Dwell on those blessings. I implore you to keep on praying and giving God a chance to give you hope as well. Turn to God, trust Him and seek His help and guidance. Read the book of John and believe all that Jesus says. I have witnessed how He has changed lives and brought hope to those who feel lost.

    Let me repeat a prayer for you: Heavenly Father, I pray for Leah and ask that You would bring relief from all the painful circumstances that have bombarded her life. I ask that You would show Yourself to Leah and renew her confidence in Your love and care. Guide her decisions and actions so that she avoids pitfalls that often come with depression and discouragement. Amen.

  • Leah says:

    I have been diagnosed with severe depression and panic/anxiety attacks. I also struggle with suicidal thoughts although I am a Christian. I hate myself inside and out and although I have a wonderful Christian family who constantly pray for me, a lovely Christian therapist and new medication, I’ve stopped believing that I deserve God’s help and forgivEness. I feel like He should also give up on me. My toxic boss drove me deeper into depression and self hatred because of her horrible treatment of me.

    I’m a single mom struggling financially on disability now due to my depression, that may be cut off at any moment. I love my daughter but I don’t deserve her either. She deserves a good role model who is financially secure, kind, loving, encouraging and fun. I’ve been awful

    I feel like everyone would be better off if I was dead because I don’t want them to worry about me & I’m tired of disappointing them. I have no career anymore, no passion for anything, no money & no energy. I’m so scared that God is too angry to forgive me anymore or to save me.

    Thank you for this devotion. I’m trying not to give up on life and on God.

    Love you in Christ.

  • Shelley says:

    Gary-God also said, that we have a choice to make in life.Whom are we to serve.

  • GARY says:

    GOD does not say that we won’t have problems. However He says he will be right there with us when we have our problems. Continue to trust GOD. This could be his way of making you strong for something else. Your breakthrough is about to come. He is preparing you for a great blessing any day now…

  • Kate says:

    Standing with you in faith keijo leppioja

  • keijo leppioja says:

    Hello in sure the truth with us in wisdom to depend into God daily and be his the vessel in our own the towns salvation today and joy when the Holy Spirit fild us of the power and help us and let he heal my the eyes sight in Jesus name and send me to preach in Jesus name ,thanks and bless and pray,keijo swednen

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Mu,
    I am so sorry that you have had to endure such difficult circumstances. I know it can really shake your trust in God when hurts pile up like that. I don’t know why God would allow all that to happen to you. But I do know that God loves you and the painful things you have experienced are not evidence of God abandoning you. God’s promise is “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5) God has shown His love for you by sending Jesus to die on your behalf. Paul wrote, “If God is for us, who can ever be against us? Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else?” (Romans 8:32) So if God was willing to allow Jesus to die on your behalf why would He now abandon you?

    I know God’s love seems like a worthless thing if it doesn’t translate into rescuing from the painful things in life. I wish I could tell you why God was allowing all this to happen to you, but I don’t have that answer. But I recommend that you continue to look to God for help and leading. Trust that He is doing something greater than what you could ever have planned for. Honestly share with Him about how you are feeling and ask Him to show Himself to you.

    This last weekend I had a bunch of friends over who all have faced some pretty difficult circumstances together years ago. It was so cool to hear from each of them how God had used those difficult situations to do something in their life they could have never anticipated or planned for. It doesn’t take away the pain (we shed a few tears together as we remembered what had happened) but it does give us confidence in the powerful love of God and His wisdom to lead and guide our lives.

    Let me pray for you: Heavenly Father, I pray for Mu and ask that You would bring relief from all the painful circumstances that have bombarded Mu’s life. I ask that You would show Yourself to Mu and renew his/her confidence in Your love and care. Guide Mu’s decisions and actions so that he/she avoids pitfalls that often come with depression and discouragement. Amen.

  • mu says:

    i have been finding prayer very difficult,for the pas few years i feel God forgot i fully exist in this world.i got a serious injury while at wok,was beaten by my employees forced to sign a false contract under durance.i was also forced to pay my medicals.its been a difficult years,i have seemed for him to do me good but i have always come across against bad situations,its like someone dint like my position,up until now i have lost almost everything i have worked for although I’m blessed to have a beautiful baby sometimes i ask myself what am i ever going to give him ?i need to get all my belongings back people took advantage of my kindness,i became weak n terrified i always ask for GOD to come in my life at the right time but i seem to be losing all my faith.i need help i don’t want to stop believein in God but at the same time i wonder if he will feel anything for me.

  • Doris Beck D. Beck says:

    I am so glad that you found our site!! Check out our Daily Devotional Blog where you can also sign up to have them delivered right to your Inbox You will be encouraged every morning to trust God and walk with Him even during this waiting time.

    Something that I have found really helped me have a different perspective is to daily look for at least 3 things to be thankful for and write them down in a journal. It helps me to realize how much I have to be thankful for and to look to the God who truly does supply all of my needs and so much more. Just an idea.

    Let me pray for you right now too:
    Dear Lord,
    Thank you for the work that You are doing in Natasha’s life right now. Continue to provide for her and her family Lord, and in Your time, lead her husband to the job that You have in mind for him. Show them Your faithful provision for them as a family Lord, and continue to reveal Yourself to them more and more. Amen

  • Doris Beck D. Beck says:

    Nzondelelo , in God’s economy there are no accidents!! He led you here and we are so glad that He did! Let me pray for you right now:

    Dear Heavenly Father,
    Thank you for Nzondelelo and his desire to do your will in his life. Show him what it is that You have planned for him and may he be willing to do Your will once and for all as he said. Show Him the way Lord, one step at a time and give him the courage to walk in that direction. Amen

  • Natasha says:

    Found this site by searching in google “Depending on God”. My husband, our little sons and I moved to a new state last year and I prayed that God would put us where we needed to be. Over 6 months have passed and my husband ended up not finding a job and I made the decision to stay with my family for a bit during the holidays. Well only recently have I realized how selfish I have been ..thinking about only what I wanted in my life and everything I want to accomplish. I kept thinking about what I wanted my kids to do in their lives and being a perfectionist, I tend to plan out everything. During these last few months I felt as though God was not answering my prayers and I begin to feel really distant from him because of all the things my husband and I were going through during our move. Only now do I realize that he really did answer my prayers. Before we moved, I asked God to put us where we actually need to be to follow him and I really believe that he will soon show us. I asked for patience with my kids and just patience in my own life to slow down and stop thinking so much in the future. I feel as though I have taken for granted many things in my life and through this waiting, I have gained much more knowledge and #1 is that I can’t do it by myself. As much as I hate to ask for help, God is the only one I need to rely on. I needed to stop thinking that my husband will get me through everything. It is God that we need and to trust in. I took time tonight to pray aloud with my toddler as I laid in bed with him to put him to sleep and everything started to come together. I am looking through my bible right now and thats how I ended up on this site because I needed bible verses and more info on how to get through this. My husband is still looking for a job but I am okay with waiting and trusting in God. Thank you for this site. I can’t wait to look more into it and learn!

  • Nzondelelo says:

    God be praised forever!!!I came by accident to the site because of a feeling in my soul that God is making a breakthrough for me.

    I am a law student by profession ,started working on 1st March 1993 until now.During 2013 I encountered challenges at work which left me at the lowest level and even think of giving up.I always call on God to show me the way but I always run away from the calling to lead a Church and call people to the Lord by weighing that if I am to leave my job how can I sustain my family and meet my bills.

    Having read your article on prayer and when we are at our weakest has given me direction to trust on his power to take care of me.I ask your prayer to help me reach my destiny and do his will once and for all.

    I open my heart to God and am willing to rededicate my entire being to serve him for my remaining life. Thanks in advance for your prayers,promise to pray more often on the way ahead!!!

  • Sharon says:

    dear jessica– i am soooooooo happy for you for your husband working again congratulations thank you for letting me know God bless you all too

  • Jessica Lynn Sedore says:

    I forgot to tell uou Sharon my Husband Dave was hired at the new company and started working immediately TUE 28 MAY 2013. Thank you my heavely Father. I love you and our family is so grateful for our blessings and miracles through our trials. You are always with us, by our side.

    ~Jessica Lynn Sedore~ (Clarendon, NY)

  • Jessica Lynn Sedore says:

    Blessings Sharon! My husband Dave Sedore (also a blessing from our MIGHTY, GRACIOUS God), my two sons were are my amazing blessings from God Jayson (11), my son Hunter (7) and Dave’s daughter also Jessica Sedore (13) who is my wonderful step-daughter all want to thank you for your prayers for our family! God gave us our miracle and my wonderful husband Dave was given the opportunity to find work and get hired! Praise our God and unconditional loving God! The BEST thing of all it was someone at our amazing church Calvary Chapel Westside who SO kindly helped Dave in finding a job at his company. The best part of all is that there are four Christians right now (maybe more) working in various parts of the company and they know eachother from our AMAZING church. I will tell you that no one can ever give up on God and their hope and faith in His mighty works. I firmly know and believe that in God’s timing everythinh works in His will. I know that He was waiting for the right job fror Dave. Faith in our mighty God is so precious. In all trials and tribulations we are to cling to Our Heavenly Father more than ever. We are always supposed to give ourselves and our lives to Him completely. It’s about the sacrafice that Jesus made for us on the cross. We must always remember that even though we will go throgh trials in life we always have to look to Jesus and remeber and praise Him on a daily basis in how He laid down His own life for us. God is what matters and He ALWAYS comes firstin our lives. I love that word “JOY” and what comes from it: Jesus (first in our lives), Other’s )always come second in our lives and lastly Yourself (we come last). lOVE AND MANY BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY Sharon!!!
    “As for me, may I never boast about anything except the cross
    of our Lord Jesus Christ. Because of that cross, my interest
    in this world has been crucified, and the world’s interest
    in me has also died.”
    ~Galatians 6:14

  • Sharon says:

    to jessica– prayer– father God i pray for jessica and her husband and family i pray that you will lead this man to a good job a job just suited for him and give him favor with the employers so he can provide for his family again i pray also for jessica for her to sleep too through the night peacefully bring other christians along their path to encourage them, i pray for a miracle for them i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i ma praying for you all

  • Jessica Lynn Sedore says:

    Gail I feel so blessed and thankful that I came upon your website tonight. My husband lost his job of 15 years
    last July 2012, we have been struggling. I am on social security disability for Multiple Sclerosis. We have three children, my two boys ages 11 and 7 and my step-daughter. I wake up at all hours of the night, sometimes not being able to fall asleep at all. What you had said about praying and being closer to God and not giving up in the silence. I keep telling my husband that we have to wait on God and be patient in His perfect timing for our lives. It does get so painfully hard when it seems everything that can go wrong does. I do know that through are trials and tribulations in life God strengthens us and we truly need to cast all of our fears and anxieties to Him. We must completely trust in Him.

    Blessings and prayers

    ~Jessica Lynn Sedore~

  • Andrew says:

    @ Trish I understand as even if it feels like God is not there he will guide you. I went through the same thing many years ago but looking back it free me. Lord Jesus I pray that you will be with Trish and Lord i pray that you will reveal your presence to her in a very real way. Lord I pray that she will not look inward but upward towards you for healing. Bless her, In Jesus Name, Amen

  • Trish says:

    The article & comments were helpful. Just separated from husband who had multiple affairs & manipulated me often into thinking I was the one doing something wrong. I prayed for God to deliver me out of the situation and He did, bit in those lonely times since I have been on my own I have struggled to feel Gtood’s presence. I ktnow He is there, but this article helped to affirm it. Thank you

  • Sharon says:

    good article– thank you for posting it i think in times like these we need to depend on God solely and nothing or any one else will save us

  • Lorie says:

    sometimes I feel disconnected from the Lord and that He doesn’t listen but reading this shows He truly does care because this was exactly what I needed and He led me to this link tonight:)

  • Brenda says:

    Thank you so much for this, Gail. I cannot tell you how helpful your devotional is to me this morning. It is exactly what I needed! God bless you!

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Thanks so much everyone for taking the time to visit our site and post your comments. We always enjoy hearing from our visitors.

  • John says:

    Hi Gail: I am leading worship on Sunday, the theme (for the 5th Sunday of Easter) being, “Don’t be Troubled – Trust in God” (John 14). I found your words and hope to incorporate some of the ideas in the “pastoral prayer”. Very helpful. Thanks you!

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  • elizabeth says:

    i found what i needed at thed time when i needed it most. God blees you n make a precious tool in His hands.

  • Carl says:

    Thank you Gail,

    I have been strugglig recently with a job loss and poor money management. After 4 moonths of interviewing I gave up and turned everything over to God. In less than a week he provided me with employment and has worked other miracles in my life. Praise the lord.

  • Linda says:

    Thank you Gail. I needed this. My husband of 25 years has been having one affair after the other and I have petitioned the Lord always but it seems to be unending. But I know he is there and is taking me thru or I wouldn’t have come this far. I must wait patiently for the day he will lift me out of all this pain.

  • Lana says:

    I needed to be reminded to trust God. I have an adult son going nowhere and I was starting to blame God for not answering my prayers to guide him in the right direction. I must keep praying and be patient.

  • Kim says:

    THANK YOU.This is really where I am. I have been struggling with a painful health issue for 3 years now.My heart is broken because I don’t see God moving in on my behalf . I needed to be reminded that He loves me and is working on my behalf, even when I don’t see it.

  • […] Carrie was frustrated. Anger played at the edge of her heart. Why didn’t God answer her? Why didn’t He rescue her in her situation as she begged Him too? She began to pray less. One day she realized she had stopped praying except for her habitual prayer before meals. She realized she had quit expecting anything from God. Her trust in His goodness had melted away in the heat of her struggle and God’s silence… (read the rest of this article) […]

  • Joanie,

    If you feel like you need to speak to someone right now, I urge you to contact one of the many free and confidential suicide help lines that are available. You can find several here:

    You can also email an online mentor, and they will read your email and reply to you, again privately and confidentially:

    We also have an online study about suicide here:

    I encourage you to explore these resources. God loves you very much and wants to encourage you through these difficult times.

    Lord Almighty God, I pray for Joanie, that regardless of what she’s going through that you would be with her, nearer than anyone could possibly know, and encourage her to realize that since she is still here on this Earth that there is so much more that You have planned for her. Please give her strength and peace amidst her difficulties, and please help her in every way by the power of your Holy Spirit.

  • Joanie says:

    I need help. I am suicidal and trying desparately to depend on God.

  • Alan says:

    GAIL THANK YOU! God bless you always! I was in deep need of such words!! Your words entered deeply and directly into my heart & I thank God because I was searching for answers in this tough time & I feel God answered them through you! Thanks God & Jesus & Holy Spirit & Sainte Mary!

  • jone says:

    thank you Gail, it was very comforting indeed. i know that prayer requires patience and trust

  • kanj says:

    thank you for this text Gail. it was very comforting indeed at a time where I needed to be re-reinforced. I realize that prayer requires patience and trust.

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