Comments on: Forgive Yourself

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 04 May 2011 12:55:46 +0000

I am dealing with this now. My husband of 27 years is divorcing me due to my disrespect, irresponsible spending and arguing. I have made it worse by arguing to try to get him to stay in the marriage. All that did was prove to him that he was right to leave. I hate myself for it. If I had handled things differently maybe he would have stayed. Our kids are brokenhearted and we also have to sell our house where our kids were raised. So much pain, and I feel it’s all my fault. I wish so badly he would give me another chance but he won’t. I don’t know how to deal with my guilt and regret.

By: ashley

ashley — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 13:35:25 +0000

Thank-you! i did enjoy it. and i never realized what a crazy time in my life this would be right now. i’m learning more and more to just trust and rely on God.He is the only One who can truly help through anything and everything, the good and the bad.

By: Dr. Muriel Larson

Dr. Muriel Larson — Wed, 15 Sep 2010 13:23:37 +0000

I rejoice, Ashley, if this article of mine has helped you! My articles, “Moving On From The Past” and “Feelings, Forgiveness, and Peace” might also be of help. They are listed with their urls on my website: http://AdviceDrMuriel.blogspot.com
May our Lord lift you abovs everything with His love, peace, and joy, as He did for me.

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By: Claire Colvin

Wed, 28 Jul 2010 21:41:16 +0000

Hi Tommy, It sounds like you've had a lot to think about lately. It's great to hear that you have a Bible and have been reading it, but you know you don't have to start at the beginning. Try reading the book of John first - it's the 4th book in the New Testiment (the second half of the Bible). John tells the story of Jesus, of how much he loves you and what he did for you. If you'd like to talk to someone as you read through the book you can do the lesson here Pictures of Jesus (Portraits of Christ) the lessons talk about the different ways the book of John describes Jesus, who he is and what our relationship with him is like. If you decide to do the lesson when you get the end of each section you'll see a place to send your answers to a study coach. The coach (sometimes called a mentor) will write back to you to discuss what you're learning, answer questions along the way and pray for you if you'd like. It can be a great way to learn and it's free and private. Another lesson you might find interesting the is Knowing Jesus Personally series. These lessons were written for people who have recently accepted Jesus - they're a great place to start. The lessons have videos to watch and questions to think about. They also come with a study coach so you don't have to learn alone. Don't worry if you doubt sometimes, a lot of people go through occasional times of doubt. Our doubt doesn't make God any less real, it can't hurt him. I hope this can help. If you'd like to talk to a mentor without doing a lesson, you can do that too. Just use this form to ask a question and your mentor will email you back. You can ask anything, it's free and private.

By: Tommy

Tommy — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 08:13:32 +0000

I’ve always been somewhat confused weather or not to believe there is a god, a heaven or even an afterlife for that matter. I’ve done some things I remember as a young child that have haunted me for 9 almost 10 years now, I didn’t kill anything or anyone, I was curious about sexuality and well, I did some things that I’m ashamed of. I’m 17, almost turning 18 now, I recently was caught selling weed and I ended up in juvie for the first time in my life, told i was going to sit one night and i would go home to my family the next day, i sat 11 days instead, It was a hell for me. I know 11 days isnt much but it really shook me, I felt so much regret for what it put my parents through mentally and physically. While I was in there I prayed more than ever before, A pastor came in every few days to talk to us..he gave us a few talks on the bible, I felt like it all happened to put me in this place, this cold cramped room with no freedom, to meet this man in my time of confusion and worry. My amazing step mother came to visit me every day, after she came to visit i went back to my cell, I showed up just as the pastor was leaving the room and he pulled me aside and asked me if i believe in christ and accept him as my lord and savior and I looked him in the eyes and I told him yes, he smiled and placed his arms on my shoulders and told me to close my eyes and asked me questions one after another, do you accept the lord jesus christ as your savior and trust your life and soul to him? “yes” i said, to every question. He pulled me in and hugged me tight and said that my sins have been forgiven, i felt a huge weight lift off my heart and i felt tears in my eyes it was amazing and I am crying just explaining the experience. I hugged him back and thanked him he smiled again and he left, the man was a volunteer, who took time out of his day to go into such a cold dark place as a detention center to speak to us. Those who did not want to talk about it he did not push it on them, i respect this man with every bit of my soul. I layed in the cold cell that night, thinking about the way things have worked throughout my life, every time i start going down a wrong path, the love of my family and my friends changes me. I prayed with every bit of my soul that night, i prayed my heart out I cried and I felt so good, I felt accepted.
I now own a bible, I read genesis while i was juvie, I am waiting a while before I continue. I may be a little unsure sometimes, but It seems that there is always this inner voice that believes in god, I always find myself praying from time to time, I appolagize to god for being unsure sometimes and I hope he understands this. But now, looking back on everything ive gone through, not just this whole juvie thing, but my life’s path…It seems like god has been watching me, even when i didnt believe like i do now, he was there for me guiding me and helping me when things started to go wrong. I’m learning that I need to forgive myself for my past, I have changed a lot and learned a lot. I believe god is understanding. I am going to sleep now, heh its 3 in the morning and i just got hit with thought so i decided to talk about it. Thanks for posting all this and thanks for reading this It would be cool to hear feedback or stories from more of you.

By: Cassie

Cassie — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 01:55:07 +0000

I agree with Ashley. This really is an inspiration and I must say it gave me comfort as well. I’ve been a Christian all my life but have been finding it hard to forgive myself of my mistakes and it’s just good to hear such a positive and uplifting story. It’s really opened my eyes to see that if God can forgive me then who am I to think any differently and keep a grudge against myself. Thank you for your words and please keep writing.

By: dave

dave — Mon, 01 Feb 2010 13:10:40 +0000

so glad to read this. i gave my life to christ over 12yrs ago. but i got engaged to my heartrob 5yrs ago, i kept he relationship undefiled but at a point i knew i was tired, i push to tie it up but my in-law delayed it unneccessarily, i then messed-up(had sex with her). i confessed and believe in Gods forgiveness but i found it difficult to let go the pains, regrets etc for having denied myself so long and cant kept the testimony though …

By: ashley

ashley — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 11:44:37 +0000

this was inspiring. i’m not divorced, or even married yet, but i have kind of had this same issue going on- the battle of regret and worry over a matter that happened around a year ago (and then some). i’ve spent many prayers just asking God to erase it from my mind- but i know He has forgiven me of it. and the past is the past- i can only move on and eventually those memories will fade as we move onto wiht our lives together. i’m so glad i read this today!