http://powertochange.com Sun, 03 Jun 2012 19:04:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://powertochange.com/experience/spiritual-growth/friendships/comment-page-1/#comment-126495 Doris Tue, 14 Jun 2011 22:25:34 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=8685#comment-126495 We are all at different places in our relationships Lisa and I think this article gives us some great background to that. As the author says, no one person can meet all of our needs. It's also important to realize that we all relate differently to people: some are multirelational and have a huge circle of friends, some are familiar with a smaller, intimate circle and then some are what we call singular, with the need for just one close friend. If you are like that, your expectations are that your friend is the same way, where in fact she might be multirelational and have other people she is relating to and be totally unaware of the fact that her lack of initiating contact is communicating that she doesn't care. Understanding this basic difference in people's personalities really helped me understand the multirelational people in my life who are never the ones to initiate because they are busy with others. We are all at different places in our relationships Lisa and I think this article gives us some great background to that. As the author says, no one person can meet all of our needs. It’s also important to realize that we all relate differently to people: some are multirelational and have a huge circle of friends, some are familiar with a smaller, intimate circle and then some are what we call singular, with the need for just one close friend. If you are like that, your expectations are that your friend is the same way, where in fact she might be multirelational and have other people she is relating to and be totally unaware of the fact that her lack of initiating contact is communicating that she doesn’t care. Understanding this basic difference in people’s personalities really helped me understand the multirelational people in my life who are never the ones to initiate because they are busy with others.

]]> http://powertochange.com/experience/spiritual-growth/friendships/comment-page-1/#comment-125403 Lisa Sat, 11 Jun 2011 04:07:51 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=8685#comment-125403 This article has hit home for me. I have or had a friend that I wanted to talk to everyday or at least once a week. I felt like if I did not hear from her that she did not love me or care about me. We argued the last time we talked and we talked a week ago, but I wondered during that week if she would ever call me. I get upset when I feel like I have to call her all the time. I don't think that's fair. I call when I have time and usually I make time to call her. Why can't she make a little time for me? I understand this article, but it defenitely hurts when all you want is your friend and they don't want you. This article has hit home for me. I have or had a friend that I wanted to talk to everyday or at least once a week. I felt like if I did not hear from her that she did not love me or care about me. We argued the last time we talked and we talked a week ago, but I wondered during that week if she would ever call me. I get upset when I feel like I have to call her all the time. I don’t think that’s fair. I call when I have time and usually I make time to call her. Why can’t she make a little time for me? I understand this article, but it defenitely hurts when all you want is your friend and they don’t want you.

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