Understanding Your Relationship with Jesus Christ

This is part 1 to a 4 part series – Lessons for Christian Living

lesson1The following four lessons will also help you think more clearly about your new relationship with God. Once you’ve completed these lessons, you may also want to talk to a minister or a Christian friend about these issues. You’ll soon discover that developing a relationship with God is a lifelong process.

Knowing Jesus Christ is the most exciting relationship you can have. It is the beginning of a life of adventure with an all-loving, all-powerful God. If you have sincerely asked Christ to come into your life, you can be sure that your relationship with God is secure. As a result of Christ’s death on the cross, the only sufficient provision for a relationship with God, you have been completely forgiven and accepted by Him.

There are many exciting things that are true in your relationship with Christ. Understanding these truths will help you build a firm foundation on which to grow.

1. Christ forgave your sins.

“In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace…” (Ephesians 1:7).

When you trusted Christ for the forgiveness of your sin, all your sins were forgiven…past, present and future. What difference do you think it makes to know that all of your sins have been forgiven?

2. Christ made you a child of God.

“But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God, even to those who believe in His name — children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God.” (John 1:12,13).

What did you do to become a child of God?

3. Christ came into your life and He will never leave you.

(Christ speaking) “Behold, I stand at the door and knock; if any one hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him.” (Revelation 3:20).

  • a) Where is Christ right now in relation to you?
    (Christ speaking) “Whoever comes to Me I will never drive away.” (John 6:37)
  • b) Under what circumstances might Christ leave you?
  • c) According to this, how many times is it necessary to receive Christ?

4. Christ gave you new life.

“Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17).

When you trusted Christ to be your Saviour and Lord, you began a new spiritual life. God will increasingly produce many new qualitites in you as you grow in Him.

5. Christ gave you eternal life.

“And this is the testimony; God has given us eternal life, and this life is in His Son. He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.” (1 John 5:11-13).

  • a) In whom is eternal life found?
  • b) Who has eternal life?
  • c) Do you have the Son (Jesus)?
  • d) Do you have eternal life?
  • e) When did eternal life begin for you?

Key question: If you were to die tonight, how sure are you that you would spend eternity with God ? Please choose one.     0% – 25% – 50% – 75% – 100%

These wonderful benefits are based totally on Jesus Christ. None of them can be earned. You received them the moment you placed your faith in Christ.

Which of these five truths are especially meaningful to you now? Why?

Dealing with doubts

Even though feelings are important, your relationship with Christ is based on facts, not on feelings that can change daily. Doubts, questions and varying emotions are common parts of everyone’s life, but they are very unreliable gauges of anyone’s relationship with Christ. The Christian lives by faith in the trustworthiness of God and His Word.

But what if you don’t feel like a Christian tomorrow? Place your faith in the faithfulness of God Himself and the trustworthiness of His Word. The more you learn, the more you will be able to answer any doubts with solid facts. Your feelings will begin to respond to the truth of God’s Word and not to your circumstances.

Summary: Since you have trusted in Christ’s payment for your sin, understood the basis of your relationship with God and have learned five truths about your relationship, you can be confident in your relationship with Christ.

Suggestions for further growth:

  • Take one truth each day and reflect on it.
  • Read the accompanying verses and thank God that this is now true to you.
  • Tell someone this week that you have a relationship with Christ.

Key question: What happens when you struggle and fall short in your efforts to live the Christian life? For the answer, study Lesson 2.

Next: Lesson 2 – Experiencing God’s love


2) You received Christ, you believed in His Name.
3a) In your life.
3b) None
3c) Once
5a) Eternal life in the Son (Jesus).
5b) All who have Jesus in their lives.
5c) The moment you received Him.


9 Responses to “Understanding Your Relationship with Jesus Christ”

  • Aldo says:

    Hello Joseph. I am so happy to hear that you are a believer in God.

    If I may, allow me to ask you this key question: If you were to die tonight, how sure are you that you would spend eternity with God? Please choose one: 0% – 25% – 50% – 75% – 100%.

    You see Joseph, believing in God or having a relationship with Him are two different things. Even demons believe(James 2:19), but they are not going to heaven. Only those who have a relationship with God through trusting in His Son Jesus Christ, have their sins forgiven and are going to heaven.

    I pray that is your case. Amen.

  • joseph says:

    hello i believe in God

  • Sharon says:

    good article thank you for posting this

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Darian, thanks for your commitment to knowing what is God’s best for you and your fiancee in regards to your sexual intimacy. The Bible does make a distinction between couples that are betrothed to be married (aka engaged) and those who are joined together in matrimony. The purpose of those passages are not directly addressing that issue, but it is clear from how they are written that there is a difference between an engaged couple and a married couple. One example is in Deuteronomy 20:7 where the context is discussing the preparations for the army of Israel going into battle and those soldiers who have reason to be excused. All of the situations are of people who have not yet been able to benefit from something new in their life like built a new house but not dedicated it yet, or planted a vineyard but have not yet had the first harvest. In verse 7 it reads, “Or who among you has become engaged to a woman but has not married her?” Obviously here the soldier who is engaged has not yet been married and been joined with his wife sexually. Later, these same situations are used to describe the consequences of sin against God, “You shall betroth a wife, but another man shall ravish her. You shall build a house, but you shall not dwell in it. You shall plant a vineyard, but you shall not enjoy its fruit.” (Deuteronomy 28:30) Again, the implication is that the engaged couple are not sexually active until they are married. From the New Testament we see the example of Mary and Joseph who were betrothed but still she was a virgin. The understanding is that they would not be sexually intimate until they were officially married. Another place where we can get the indication that an engaged couple is not sexually active is in Paul’s letter to the Corinthian Christians. He wrote, “If anyone thinks that he is not behaving properly toward his betrothed, if his passions are strong, and it has to be, let him do as he wishes: let them marry—it is no sin.” (1Corinthians 7:36) It is pretty clear here that the passions to which Paul refers are sexual and rather than committing a sin by sleeping with her prior to marriage because of his passions, they were to get married and then enjoy the union of husband and wife.

    So it does appear that the Bible does see a difference between an engaged couple and a married couple. I understand that this is not the common perspective of the society we live in where sexuality is not confined the the committed relationship of a husband and wife.

    So the question now is, how does this apply to you two? Have the two of you talked about this together? Are you receiving any pre-marital counselling from anyone?

    I look forward to hearing back from you, and will be praying for you both. Let me do that now: Lord God I thank You for the way that You have brought Darian and Jolene together in love, committing to share their lives together as husband and wife. I pray that as they go through this crucial period of preparation for their marriage it would be a time of setting solid foundations in their relationship with each other and with You. Guide their conversations about issues like their sexual intimacy so that their lives reflect Your priorities. Bring people into their lives who will give them godly counsel and be an encouragement and support for them. Bless their marriage together. Amen.

  • darian says:

    Hey im engaged and have a child.we are getting married this june 25 and just wondering if were in the wrong or right ? Having sex yes . Are we fornicating ? We belive were one and that signing a peice of paper dosent make us write with God. Please help us Thanks Darian& Jolene

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Caleb, I love your statement, “It has to dies!” That is evidence of the Holy Spirit at work in your life pointing you toward new life in Jesus Christ. He is the one who will help you gain control over your sinful thought life. Paul states, “walk by the Spirit, and you will not carry out the desire of your sinful nature.” (Galatians 5:16) What that means is that as you are able to focus your attention on the Spirit of God in your life, He will overpower the sinful thoughts and patterns of your life. “Walk by the Spirit” means that you follow His leading in every situation and moment of life. In order to do that you need to be talking to Him asking for His help and thanking Him for it. You need to be listening to Him speak through your prayers, your Bible reading, your interaction with other believers and through His guidance of your thoughts. As you do those things you will find that the Jesus becomes the central part of your thoughts and life and the sinful nature is pushed further and further out.

    Specifically regarding your thought against Jesus I would say that you need to ask for the Spirit’s help to rid yourself of those thoughts. When they come up ask for His help to resist the negative images, and remind yourself of the truth of who Jesus is. Memorize Colossians 1:15-20 (or even 1:9-22) and recite those truths when the dark thoughts creep in. Spend time pouring over the Gospels to remind yourself of the things that Jesus did when He was on the Earth. Sing songs of praise that recount the amazing attributes of Jesus. As the Holy Spirit uses those activities to gain control over your thoughts say thanks.

    Let me invite you to connect with one of our online mentors. They can be a good person to help remind you of the character of Christ when you are getting overwhelmed by the lies that Satan is trying to sneak into your mind. If you fill out the Mentor Request Form at http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor one of our mentors will get in touch with you by email soon.

    Let me pray for you: Lord God I pray for Caleb’s thought life. You know the darkness that is there and how he is powerless to change. I ask that Your Spirit will lead him to a life that is free from those lies and filled with the Truth of Jesus. Guide him in confession, prayer, study, worship and fellowship so that he will be immersed in Your goodness and washed clean from the evil forces that surround him. Bring godly people into his life who will help point him to You and walk this path with him. In the power of Jesus’ name, amen.

  • Caleb says:

    I have given my life to Jesus time and time again. I’ve had really dark thoughts against Him…thoughts I didn’t want and really don’t need them.
    Can you help me gain control over my ” sinful thought life.” It has to die!

  • Tamrat says:

    Dear Kido,

    I tried to explain u how much I love you , I much I want to take care of you if you get in my heart . But you don’t seem to understand me. However, I will not stop from preaching you about my love to you untill you understand me one day.

    Ever yours and only yours,

    Your Lover,


  • Tamrat says:

    Greet you in the name of the Almighty,

    My name is Tamrat ,35. I am a social worker. I thought that I am a real Christian, it is after having gone through (browsing)ur website that I found myself that I am lagging behind.

    It is really a mirror through whcih I sae myself and determined to renew myself spiritually.

    Can u help me ?

    Your Brother in Christ,


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