Lesson 4: Growing in Your relationship with Jesus Christ

This is part 4 to a 4 part series – Lessons for Christian Living

lesson1With the Holy Spirit directing your life, you will experience a deeper relationship with God and you will grow in your ability to trust Him.

What does it mean to grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Growing in your relationship with Jesus means to know Him better, to love and obey Him more.

“And this is the way to have eternal life-to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth” (John 17:3).

“Jesus replied: ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.’” (Matthew 22:37-38)

Your growing love for God will lead you to obey His commandments.

[Jesus speaking] “Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them.” (John 14:21)

Just as it’s natural for a child to grow in a loving relationship with a parent, it is also natural for you to grow in your love relationship with God.

How can you grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Communication is vital to any relationship. Four aspects of communication will help you develop your relationship with Jesus.

  • God communicates with us through the Bible, revealing His character and His will.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. It is God’s way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

  • We communicate with God through prayer, sharing our thoughts, our needs and our desire to do his will.These verses tell us we can pray about everything. When we pray according to God’s will, he hears us and answers us. Thanking God is also part of praying.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

“And we can be confident that he will listen to us whenever we ask him for anything in line with his will. And if we know he is listening when we make our requests, we can be sure that he will give us what we ask for.” (1 John 5:14-15)

“No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

“And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Ephesians 5:20)

  • We communicate with Christians through fellowship, encouraging and building up one another.It is important to spend time with other Christians to encourage each other to love and do good. The Greek word for fellowship, koinonia, means “sharing in common.” We need to share our Christian experience with others who love God, and likewise allow them to share with us. God appoints the church as a place for us to meet other Christians and learn about God. Bible studies and other meetings are also helpful.

“Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25)

  • We communicate with others who don’t know God personally by sharing about our relationship with Jesus.

“There is salvation in no one else! There is no other name in all of heaven for people to call on to save them.” (Acts 4:12)

Suggestions for further growth

Set aside a time and place for daily personal Bible study and prayer. A good book to begin with is the New Testament Book of John (included in the next section). As you read, underline verses you find particularly meaningful. Pray and ask God to show you who He is and how you can respond to Him.

Study other passages, such as the ones in this lesson. Also read Psalms 1, 34, 103 and 145; Matthew 7:7-11; Luke 9:23-26; John 15:1-7; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27; 2 Corinthians 5:17-21; and Colossians 1:9-12.

This is the beginning of your Christian life and there is much more to discover than what’s covered in these four lessons. Take the initiative today to find a church in your neighbourhood, and make plans to attend regularly. For additional Christian materials, check out your local Christian bookstore (try looking under “books” in the Yellow Pages).


As you rely on the Holy Spirit for power, read the Bible, pray, spend time with other believers and tell people about Jesus, God will produce His character in you and you will mature spiritually.


46 Responses to “Lesson 4: Growing in Your relationship with Jesus Christ”

  • abi ashish says:

    I’m very much touch by your teachings thankyou soo much

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to kishore– my apologies- i didn’t finish and it ened on me–God i pray for christians to come along kishore’s path to encourage him in his faith i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i am praying for you all i feel for you i went on a spending spree years ago and we were in a financial trouble too we ended up going through bankruptcy after that. God be with you at this hard time heep close to God HE will help you get through it. from sharon

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to kishore– prayer– father God i do pray for your provision upon kishore and his family, i pray that you would provide for them, i pray for a miracle for them to get out from under this financial burden they are under, in 1 john 1 9 in the bible it says if we confess our sins HE is faithful and he will forgive our sins and he will purify us from all unrighteousness. just to talk to God saying forgive my sins God and i rededicate my life back to you now and now come into my life and change me for your glory

  • kishore kumar says:

    Dear friends..

    Am a furm believer and i know jesus is out lord and saviour but i have back slided on many occassions and now its come to a stage that i need to be 100 percent with jesus.. pls pray for me and my family as we are going thru very hard times financially n have lost my job because of my bad ways.
    I confess today my sins and accept jesus as my saviour and forgiver.. i need him back i need the holy spirit and that gift of living a sinless life i once again surrender my life to jesus and need him to take control of me i love jesus i love him am madly i am in love with jesus i need his divine touch and mercy.. pls keep me in ur prayers..

    Love.. kishore

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to chris– prayer–father God i pray for him to grow closer to you God you are with him always and i pray that he can sense your nearness, let chris feel your loving arms around him at this time and draw him near you so he can draw near you and grow deeper in love with you bring other christians along his path to encourage chris in his walk with you God i pray all of this in JESUS name amen i am praying for you chris keep leaning on God and also join other christians in church and also let God talk to you through HIS word the bible God bless

  • Chris muindi says:

    Pray 4 me i want to draw near to God

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Jacqueline, thank you for opening up your heart and sharing your journey with the Lord. It is so lovely to hear how the Lord never gave up in pursuing after you no matter how many times you tired to push Him away. This is a demonstration of the unconditional, everlasting love God has toward all of His children. No matter how many mistakes we have made, no matter how far we wonder off to do our own thing, no matter how many times we fall…His righteous Right hand is always willing and waiting to take us back into His loving arms.

    You mentioned, “you pray that God will send you companions to pray with you.” We have online prayer partners that will come along and pray on your behalf and with you. Here is a link so you can send in your prayer request: http://powertochange.com/experience/need-prayer/

    I pray that you will continue in your steady walk with the Lord. I pray that God will bless you with wonderful, godly, compassionate, and encouraging people that will help you to grow in you relationship with God and in service to Him as well. May God’s blessings of hope, provision, and protection be with you wherever He may lead you to go.

  • Jacqueline says:

    Hello, I have been on a long journey. Searching, spending time in India, becoming a Buddhist. And then, Jesus just stepped into my life, he was always there, when I was a child, he was with me. When I was lost and afraid he was with me. I spent time in the Holy Land and he was there. But I pushed him away again and again, and went on to make more mistakes. H still tried to touch me, I always pushed Him away. And then he came so strongly, so lovingly I could not push anymore, and fell to my knees, and asked his forgiveness, and he filled my heart with love. I do not like the church or the vatican, but I love Jesus, and I want to worship him. So I pray and talk to him. Nobody around here, where I live in a village in Italy really loves Jesus. So I am lonely, but I pray that He will send me companions to pray with me.

  • Michael Jantzen M. Jantzen says:

    Hi Thandi, I’m so glad that you’re experiencing the joy of growing in Christ. I would love to pray for you: “Lord Jesus, a pray that Thandi would experience your power moving through her to help her walk in freedom from old habits and thought patterns and to joyfully share about you with others. Amen.” Take care! If you need encouragement and tips for sharing your faith, I would encourage you to visit http://www.thelife.com

  • Thandi Mbhem says:

    I like this, I have set the Lord always before me;because He is at my right hand, I shall not be moved (Psalms 16:8)I like to have a strong relationship with Jesus at my secrete place where I will have all piece. My purpose since the grace of Jesus Christ has given me a gift of accepting Jesus Christ as my Saviour, I want to share this to those who have not yet accepted Him as their Saviour so that they will change their ways to Jesus Christ, wherever you are pray with me in the name of Jesus Christ to do this right now I am declaring and demonstrating His power!Amen

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to andy– thank you m janzen for your email to andy- also in the bible it says too as far as the east is from the west so far have i removed your sins from you

  • joan says:

    All I can say is that God is Love
    He is my strength and my savior. And I thank him for all the blessings that he gave especially my Life and everyone that surrounds me. I LOVE YOU Jesus.

  • Michael Jantzen M. Jantzen says:

    Hello Andy, It seems like you are trying to not drown in guilt over things you’ve done. It also seems like you think it would be disastrous to open up about it. Our mentors are confidential and free, so that could be a starting point for working through what you’re experience: http://powertochange.com/experience/talk-to-a-mentor/ This is also a great article about how the Holy Spirit makes an amazing difference in our walk with God: http://thelife.com/challenges/the-spirit-filled-life You also might want to read this article called “lost the weight of shame.” http://thelife.com/challenges/lose-the-weight-of-shame

    I’d love to pray for you: “Lord, please help Andy see clearly through the fog of shame to know your unconditional love and amazing grace. I pray that days of freedom and joy will soon come into his life. Amen.”

  • andy says:

    I have committed sins in the past and dare not to confess it to my family and people I have sinned. I just would like to ask jesus to give me and guide me give me strong faith to return. Do u think I stil can get closer with god? I go to church more often as I always admitted my sins to god. I know I am wrong but is it too late?

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Andile,

    It is so nice to hear that you love Jesus and that you are longing to get closer to Him. One of the surest ways to become closer to the Lord is by reading your Bible, prayer, and connecting to a local church. Are you connected to a local church?

    Here are a few links that I would like for you to look over which will help you to understand more fully your relationship with the Lord and help you gain fuller understanding of the power of God’s Holy Spirit indwelling and working within you.


    Should you have further questions please feel free to leave another comment. I would love to cheer you onwards in your walk with the Lord.

    At this time I would like to pray for you.

    Lord, I pray on behalf of Andile who loves You and wants to draw closer to You. I ask that You would reveal yourself fully to Andile at this time. I pray that Your Spirit would open Andile’s heart and mind to receiving more truth about Your unconditional love and the wonderful plans You have prepared for Andile. I ask that You place godly, loving, supportive people in Andile’s life that would teach Andile more about You and Your ways. In Jesus name I pray, Amen

  • andile says:

    i love jesus. I need a prayer,help i wanna get closer to jesus please help me.

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    dear just browsing-=- thank you for your comment also there are christian music out there CDs and radio stations that play christian music to uplift people too and praise God more too

  • Just Browsing says:

    Ever thought what it would be like if replace your everyday distractions, with worshipping and focusing on God?

    Try This: Put down the magazine and read a chapter in the bible. Forget the club, go to church. Watching tv? turn it off, look at the scenery and pray. You can go to work everyday, so too can you attend church.

    You are being badgered everyday with the devil’s work. It’s repeated in the music you hear, the videos you watch the material you read, it’s being topped up daily, yet God hardly is.

    Get your daily dose of God and you will feel more than just a cool breeze while praying, or meditating in silence. You get to experience HIM. Heaven is beautiful~

    -True life experience- and everyday since then has been unique!



  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up all who have read this article, an that they will be encouraged by what Jesus said to us. In Jesus Mighty name amen

  • hlanganani Luthuli says:

    i used to go to church, but at the church i went to, i never had anything about repentance or about Jesus for that matter, but it was always about praising pastors and paying money, i never knew Jesus as lord and savior, i would go to church just because there was a girl i was hoping to date and eventually sleep with, i was deep into wicked things, i was disrespectful at home and i use to swear and would always disrespect at home, i started getting into alcohol and into smoking with my brothers and with my home boys, we would play together and end up sleeping(having with sex other boys who were our friends) something that was like homosexuality, i never thought for a moment that was wrong, well i ended quitting alcohol and smoking, and some of these things because my mother cried tears when she saw me drunk and that really hurt me. but i just could not give up sinning, i continued to sin and now as i grew i got addicted to pornographic videos and to masturbation, especially when i was in high school, i would touch girls private parts and so on and get enjoyment out of it, i hardly prayed to Jesus or even think about Him for that matter, i never saw myself as sinful, but i then went to study at the University of Cape town which even now i do not think i deserve, i mean being a sinner as i am why would God save me,my friends went to church on campus and told me how it was nice, so i decided to go to church as well after a long time. but i was til on my sins, especially masturbation. when i went there it was nice environment, nothing compared to the church i went to as a kid, people were worshiping and calling the name of Jesus and i don’t remember much on what was preached but i remember the guy who was preaching asking “is there anyone in this room who has never received Christ as Lord and savior” i think i was the first one to stand up and to go forward and i was led to a prayer and received Jesus into my life and since that hour, i hated sin, i started hating harmful hip hop music, and started hating the things i was doing, i stopped living in wickedness and through Knowing Jesus Christ that day,my life was changed, now it has been than three years and Jesus Christ has not left me and recently even my mother got born again and my younger sisters who are twins started attending church , so as i am sharing this testimony i hope that u will be encouraged , because i know Jesus can save. He SAVED ME FROM MY SINS…and with the help of the Holy spirit i have been growing especially in intercession and testifying and gaining boldness, i love the Lord and all His people. thank you so much for allowing me to share my testimony may Gods countenance and presence be upon you in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth amen. t

  • Gigin says:

    I have learnt what I have not known;I wanna built better relationship with God.This article is my guidance.Thanks.

  • thank you for the study material which can be taught to others also. May God bless you.

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  • Kate Kate says:

    Lord Jesus, it is wonderful to know You. It is also wonderful to know that You know us – You see right into our hearts, know our pain, brokenness and frailty. Thank You for Your patience in enduring with us, for bringing us through every day that we face, and for being our solid rock and refuge!

  • Roczaye Carelse says:

    Wow how great is our God… All I dire for this year is to know Jesus more and more !!!.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Dear Morgan, So glad to hear that this website has helped you and that your relationship with Christ is growing. Hope you take time to read the other wonderful articles, devotionals, and bible studies found throughout the site.

    Have you personally accepted and invited Christ into your heart and life? If not here is a simple prayer that you can use.

    Father God,

    You loved the world so much, You gave Your only begotten Son, Jesus, to die for our sins so that whoever believes in Him will not perish, but have eternal life. Your Word says we are saved by grace through faith as a gift from You. There is nothing we can do to earn salvation.

    I believe and confess with my mouth that Jesus Christ is Your Son, the Savior of the world. I believe He died on the cross for me and bore all my sins, paying the price for them. I believe in my heart that You raised Jesus from the dead. I ask You to forgive my sins. I confess Jesus as my Lord. According to Your Word, I am saved and will spend eternity with you! Thank You, Father.

    In Jesus’ name.


    Please let us know if you have any questions. We are here to encourage you in your understanding and growing relationship with the Lord. God Bless

  • Morgan Dowd says:

    This is a good website. I learned my way to have a relationship with Jesus Christ.

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    That He is Onias….so very awesome! Have you tried completing any of our online Bible Studies? We have a variety of them that you might enjoy completing. An online study coach will then respond to your and pray for you once you submit them as well. To find a list of some that are available, just go to http://powertochange.com/discover/ll_list/

  • onias muza says:

    Jesus is awesome

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    good article thank you, i think after prayer from friends i get closer to God i love him more and more

  • vandana says:

    thank you guys, bringing me so close to Jesus.. evryday I used to worry about negative things, negativity had fully engrossed me.. but I have Realized that Jesus Love me lot and he is cares for me lot and protecting me always. he has shown me the righteous path.. hence forth i will never think negative and hurt my husband… hence forth m filled with positive powers because my Lord Jesus is with me and he is caring and loving me lot lot more than i could ever think.. Thank you so much Lord Jesus .. Love You lot.. Praise the Lord :)

  • kofi says:

    hey uh, i dont want to type to much because im abit lazy aha, but i just want to say a MASSIVE THANK YOU,and i really appreciate this, you have no idea thow much significance this is to me. Thank you heaps :DD

  • B. Miller Brenda says:

    Thank you, Suzanna, for a beautiful testimony of your faith walk with Jesus. It is wonderful to hear how you are not only experiencing our Lord in your personal walk every moment, but also how you are powerfully sharing His love with others you meet. I pray the Lord Jesus continues to shine brightly through you as He has so obviously been doing, and that you continue to be filled with powerful manifestations of His Love and Power to sustain you and to share as a testimony of God’s glory with all people, and especially those who are still in darkness. I ask these things in Christ’s holy name. Amen.

  • Suzanna says:

    Hi there,
    I surrendered my life to Jesus 2011 Jan and my life was transformed just like Nicki when I praise and worship the lord i fell intense heaviness and electricity in my arm yes the Lord manifests himself to his children he is real the bible is real what does it take to get close to him when you spend time reading praying and thinking how you can further his kingdom I don’t watch secular TV waist of time and most of the the time inappropriate visuals for a christian you must love God with all your mind and soul and when you put his desires before yours he is there it is a wonderful feeling as Nicki said he is there with you and feel him in your body just to give you an encouraging example one night i was coming home late in a train station and I heard these groans i looked to my side and saw a homeless beggar on his knees with his head down and arms up holding a hat to collect money I walked to him gave him money and talked about Jesus and how he loves him and wants to heal him and take him out of this situation but he needs to take that first step he said thank you for reminding me yes I am a sinner and i need to repent when I walked away i felt this intense tightness and heaviness go down my arm the same feeling when I pray worship and praise him to be intimate with Jesus he expects commitment I walk with such peace and hope and I hope this helps people to draw close to Jesus.

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    thank you shelley i pray for that every year too and try to stay close to God too throughout the year

  • Shelley Shelley Anderson says:

    Every year when people are making ther resolutions I pray that I will get closer everyday with my Lord.I get closer to Him by prayer, reading and serving inwhat he wants me to do. Some place do not have His Word, but I do and can enjoy my time with Him.. i also do a soaking in prayer either myself or with another friend and let the Holy spirit fill me to over flowing of His goodness.

  • Thank you all for your wonderful testimonies, May God richly bless all of you and your families, friends, co-workers, and your spritual authorities!!!!!!!

  • Christine says:

    Thats wonderful to do all those things but What if those are steps to know about jesus rather than know jesus. Jesus said come to me and you will never be hungry or thirst. So I belive what your step program says is religon. its still good but not satisfying to my soul

  • Ndanatsei says:

    My life has been moving in circles eversince i got married.Things seem to have been better before i tied the knot than they are now.My husband and i have become merely housemates and i have been very worried also because i am jobless and jobss eems to be stuck on the air.I made a decision today that i am not going to worry about what is happening but i am going to rededicate my life to Christ and seek His Kingdom once again and develop a very close relationship with God.I want too to love God tooo much like Niki says.I am hoping that things will change and life will become worth living for me once again.I qoute for myself,
    ? “from today onwards i declare that my life will never be the same again,i have decide to rededicate my life to Christ, to start again seeking THe KIngdom of God and see what is in store for me.It is about God not about me.’

  • niki says:

    I Love God deeply. Truly do. What I have realized is that because He knows I love him deeply he has manifested himself in awesome ways. For example I know when he is around me when my hands begin to feel electric-like feelings. I will feel this cool breeze in the dead center,middle of my hands and feet. Sometimes my mouth will get heavy or numb when I praise his name aloud or worship him. Sometimes I feel his love soo much that I become filled with tears of love for him. I also will get so weak during prayer that i have to lay down while I worship him. One time I felt so great electric like feelings in my body and hands that I felt my hands move without my effort. I was so shocked and amazed that this Jesus Christ is soo real. So So So real that it makes me afraid sometimes and comforted to know I have such great power that loves me. The secret to having this closeness with God is actually replacing the occasional stupid every day thoughts and worldly attention with silent worship in your head. Thats what I did. Anyone can do this. Probably if we all tried we would see some pretty neat stuff that blows our minds always like how he did it to me!. Yes I am a Christian and I have never been happier in my life! Nothing no longer troubles or worries me because I tell God to handle it and I keep repeating Jesus will handle it over and over until the worry thought goes away.Boy No man, husband, father, wife, girlfriend or any human being can love like Jesus, trust me about that! That man is sooooo awesome no words can describe him!!!! I So Love HIM!!!! Tooo Much!!!

  • Dave says:

    Its all about choosing to follow him and his ways, I have been much the same as you for many years. You can probably ask yourself if you believe there has been a time when you truly think he’s left you. The answer will probably be no. If you have asked him into your life he NEVER leaves and you will always be aware of him in some capacity. Don’t forget HE draws US and not the other way round, we respond to his calling. So you can be assured if you are thinking about him, its because HE is putting it in your heart to do so. He is seeking a relationship with all of us. I totally understand the vicious circle that one can get stuck in. It seems like a cycle where you have a blitz on seeking Him (usually at a time of need!) and then the enthusiasm somehow fades. No opportunity is wasted by God, but the choice is to respond to Him and KEEP responding through prayer/reading the bible. This naturally goes hand in hand with repentance and the knowledge that you are out of synch with God. Even conviction of sin comes from Him. Essentially we are useless until he begins his work in us. I’ve just gone back to the church I used to go to 20+yrs ago, and because I showed a choice and move towards his calling, even though it was an internal battle to do so, I have noticed changes already in me, but i have to keep pushing on seeking a deeper relationship with him.

    hope this gives you a little encouragement


  • Marylou says:

    My relationship w/ God has always been on and off, thru lifes trials He was always there for me to help me but it seems after that I forget and go back to my usual way.I am afraid and fearful and have lots of doubts, of how true Jesus is ,He was in my life a lot of the time to help my family in time of needs.I did not have a very good education about God ,but I am searching now .I thank you all for guiding me at this time.

  • Nokubonga says:

    Good thing about the relationship we have with Christ is that its something you can not tell describe…besides being private and personal or anything, its beyond our human understaniding. As a teen, I say am gonna strive to develop my relationship with Him! Amen

  • LIZ says:

    thank you for the versus as they helped me plan my sunday school lesson.

  • Emilia says:

    God bless you all Amen.

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