Lesson 4: Growing in Your relationship with Jesus Christ

This is part 4 to a 4 part series – Lessons for Christian Living

lesson1With the Holy Spirit directing your life, you will experience a deeper relationship with God and you will grow in your ability to trust Him.

What does it mean to grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Growing in your relationship with Jesus means to know Him better, to love and obey Him more.

“And this is the way to have eternal life-to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth” (John 17:3).

“Jesus replied: ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.’” (Matthew 22:37-38)

Your growing love for God will lead you to obey His commandments.

[Jesus speaking] “Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them.” (John 14:21)

Just as it’s natural for a child to grow in a loving relationship with a parent, it is also natural for you to grow in your love relationship with God.

How can you grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Communication is vital to any relationship. Four aspects of communication will help you develop your relationship with Jesus.

  • God communicates with us through the Bible, revealing His character and His will.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. It is God’s way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

  • We communicate with God through prayer, sharing our thoughts, our needs and our desire to do his will.These verses tell us we can pray about everything. When we pray according to God’s will, he hears us and answers us. Thanking God is also part of praying.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

“And we can be confident that he will listen to us whenever we ask him for anything in line with his will. And if we know he is listening when we make our requests, we can be sure that he will give us what we ask for.” (1 John 5:14-15)

“No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

“And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Ephesians 5:20)

  • We communicate with Christians through fellowship, encouraging and building up one another.It is important to spend time with other Christians to encourage each other to love and do good. The Greek word for fellowship, koinonia, means “sharing in common.” We need to share our Christian experience with others who love God, and likewise allow them to share with us. God appoints the church as a place for us to meet other Christians and learn about God. Bible studies and other meetings are also helpful.

“Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25)

  • We communicate with others who don’t know God personally by sharing about our relationship with Jesus.

“There is salvation in no one else! There is no other name in all of heaven for people to call on to save them.” (Acts 4:12)

Suggestions for further growth

Set aside a time and place for daily personal Bible study and prayer. A good book to begin with is the New Testament Book of John (included in the next section). As you read, underline verses you find particularly meaningful. Pray and ask God to show you who He is and how you can respond to Him.

Study other passages, such as the ones in this lesson. Also read Psalms 1, 34, 103 and 145; Matthew 7:7-11; Luke 9:23-26; John 15:1-7; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27; 2 Corinthians 5:17-21; and Colossians 1:9-12.

This is the beginning of your Christian life and there is much more to discover than what’s covered in these four lessons. Take the initiative today to find a church in your neighbourhood, and make plans to attend regularly. For additional Christian materials, check out your local Christian bookstore (try looking under “books” in the Yellow Pages).


As you rely on the Holy Spirit for power, read the Bible, pray, spend time with other believers and tell people about Jesus, God will produce His character in you and you will mature spiritually.


77 Responses to “Lesson 4: Growing in Your relationship with Jesus Christ”

  • john says:

    please pray for my spiritual maturity
    ,because i know the power of the prayer of righteous.

  • Aldo says:

    Melissa, a personal relationship with Jesus starts when you “… confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” (Romans 10:9-10)

    Salvation comes by believing that Jesus Christ is the “only begotten son of God;” that he gave his life on the cross of Calvary to pay the price for your sins and the sins of all mankind; and that if you believe and confess that you will be saved.

    Melissa, if you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, here is a suggested prayer. Remember, God is not as concerned with the words you use, as He is with your attitude.

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and for giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

  • Boyet says:

    Thank you for this.Hallelujah!!! praise God!!!

  • Sharon says:

    to Melissa– I don’t know on what bible you are reading but I am wondering if the message version or another version is good like the English standard is good too. just saying God bless you— sharon

  • Melissa says:

    Thank you so so much for writing this. I was really at a stand still and didn’t know how to proceed forward. I do read my Bible, but it’s hard to understand at times and I was just looking for answers. Most people tell you that you need to have a personal relationship with Jesus, but don’t break down how to go about it. This is the article I’ve been looking for, for a very long time!!!

  • Abuchi Precious says:

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  • Aldo says:

    Ella and Caroline, thank you so much in sharing how the article has blessed you both. I pray that the Lord will continue to make Himself real to you, and that you will continue to grow in the wisdom and knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

  • caroline masumpa says:

    i thank God almighty for giving me oppotunity to read thi lessons that will lead to grow more to my Lord Jesus Christ i really pass my grattitude to u all may God reachly bless u aboundandly shallom

  • Ella says:

    Thanks for the help.

  • Aldo says:

    Khanyi, thank you so much for your words of blessing, approval and encouragement on the article. I pray that you will continue to seek God from His Word, through prayer, and by being a witness for Him in these last days. God bless you and yours.

  • khanyi says:

    thank you so much for this lesson.it has encouraged me to have a much deeper relationship with God.Not for my only benefit but also for my other relationships with family, friends and people around me.May God bless you all.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Tiffany, I am glad to hear that this connected with the two of you. Not a lot of divorced couples go through studies together. Did the two of you go through the full four lessons together? What was it about these verses that was meaningful for you?

  • Chris says:

    aaron oborairuvwe…..sorry to hear of your struggles….i would encourage you first with romans 11.29 where it says Gods gifts and callings are unchangeable. at the same time, we do need to make sure that our relationship to christ is the right one, trusting in him alone for our salvation and forgiveness of sins so we have the right message to share as well. you can confirm your salvations reality by logging onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or by clicking talk to a mentor above. i would cuation you also to not make a confliction between your regular work vs. spiritual work. wherever we are, we are jesus ambassadors to the world. 2 corinthians 5. as one minister said…the world is my parish which means wherever i am or go, work, leisure or otherwise, jesus wants to use me for his glory. as you seek jesus for wisdom, he will give it. james 1. he has a plan for your life that may not always be in agreement with your human logic, so be led by the holy spirit in your heart, not your head. working at a job is important also just as paul did to help him pay for his expenses in sharing the góspel as found in acts 18. praying for you now that you would leave all on jesus altar of romans 12.1 to 3 so that what is of his will for your life will pass through the fire and what isnt, will be burnt up by the fire. blessings!!

  • Tiffany says:

    Iwould like to take the time to thank you wonderful child of God for such a amazing line up of scripture that has truly blessed myself and ex spouse. We read the scriptures together today and they were exactly what we needed, so thanks again. May God continue to use you as a blessing for others

  • I have a serious calling by physical angel at Warri in 1992 and God used me to the dead on several occasions, but due to lack of availability coupled with family issues. I couldn’t submit initially but now due to pressure from my company work, I do not the presence of God as usual. Please advise me on how I can restore my lost glory. Please now I need your help Evang Aaron

  • Aldo says:

    Ella, below I have included a part of an article entitled: The Trinity, by Bill Gordon.

    In it he writes:

    “The doctrine of the Trinity is one of the most important beliefs of Christianity. It is central to the Christian understanding of God and is accepted by all Christian groups.”

    The article can be seen at:

    In answer to your question, Ella, I’d like to think that the more you know the better off you are.

    Mike Rundle writes in flyosity.com, “Architects don’t just draw blueprints, they need to know what the ground is like under the building, what types of weather the region receives, and what building materials work best considering all the variables. They don’t just draw, the craft the entire structure, and need a deep understanding of materials and processes in order to effectively do their job.”

    “Chefs don’t just put ingredients together and hope for a delicious dish, they have a deep knowledge of food and how things taste to people in certain situations.”

    “Potters aren’t just sculpting clay blocks into beautiful forms, but also firing the clay to keep it in its shape forever. They need to know about glazes and temperature and the science of firing in order to create their works of art.”

    In understanding The Trinity, Ella, one can better comprehend the Oneness and Unity of the Godhead, which the Bible speaks a good deal about.

    Hope this helps.

  • Ella says:

    How is knowing more about the trinity, enhance the Christian lifestyle?

  • Elkay says:

    Vivian, thank you for your response as we are pleased and blessed any time our topics are helpful to others. Your girl’s interest is a gift from God and I would encourage her to develop a number of “spiritual disciplines” so as to grow close to God. These include Bible study, meditation, so-called “quiet times” for prayer and simply being “still” before the Lord. Let us pray for her . . .

    “Heavenly Father, I ask You to give Vivian’s little girl a hearing heart so that she may clearly discern between good and evil (1 K 3:9). Teach her to wait on You and submit to You. (Ps 62:5) Help her to draw close to You and You close to her; teach her to be humble before You that You may lift her up. (Ja 4:8). Teach her to listen to Scripture and to treasure Your commands. Tune her ears to wisdom, and her understanding. May she grow to fear You and to have life-saving knowledge of You. (Pr 2:1-5, Jn 17:3). In Jesus’ name we bring this prayer to Your throne of grace. Amen.”

  • Vivian kikta says:

    My little girl love’s this app and it is worth it

  • Aldo says:

    fr. christuraj, yes Alfred’s words are inspiring and encouraging. You can also chat with a mentor one on one by going to Talk to a mentor at the bottom left of this page.
    He or she will be happy to discuss religion with you, or just to pray with you.

    May God continue to bless you richly as you endeavor to live for Him and serve Him.

  • fr. christuraj says:

    your inspiring sharing of God’s Word inspired and helps me. thank u so much. God bless you greatly.

  • Alfred says:

    Yes, we are blessed indeed! The “four aspects of communication” are all important. Some may wonder about the fourth one, of sharing our faith with unbelievers. This “telling others” helps us to grow, since we need to know what we’re talking about. That may seem like head-knowledge, yet the listener will know whether it comes from the heart also. Secondly, we grow in telling others, because in obedience to God, we are drawn closer to Him, and get assurance from Him. I’ve personally experienced a “thrill of approval” as a thank-you from God for having done the right thing! I’d say that the joy of “knowing Christ Jesus more intimately” is limitless. Hallelyah!

  • Alexander mensah says:

    God will bless you!!! keep on

  • Ayuba Dauda says:

    Thank You what a inspirational encouragement and quotes from bible scriptures, to help us grow more intimate relationship with God. be blessed Amen

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi JJ, I appreciate your emphasis on living with a conscious awareness of the presence of Jesus and His Spirit in your life. There is no one denomination or church tradition that has a monopoly on that focus. I have me people from many different church backgrounds that live with that kind of single-minded devotion to following Jesus leading every moment of every day.

  • JJ MOLINA says:

    What is it in our unconscious minds that creep up when the Spirit leads us? There were many catholic believer churches that have think they are being led of God. . We are either in the process of resisting God’s truth or in the process of being on you if you live your life. “God’s great life” has forced them to smile the true meaning of the divine holiness in the Church of God.

    This thought was our life when God was very real people believed that the blessed God’s life comes to us and makes us “children of God” and “with Christ. Proverbs, he is about the kind of person who lives like God is not real. All the real issues and questions of life ultimately find their answer in the knowledge on God’s holy Churches our life-the power of God is within you, God conceived in man’s image; so that there can be no church whose central life of our expectation the Catholic Church on the Eucharist.

    But they didn’t make it into the church to enjoy life, family, friends, work, and church, which our life experience doesn’t bear it out either. It is also a sign that we need more of God in our lives. My whole body was filled with the consciousness of God’s presence, a consciousness that, intimate communion with God.

    It is important to realize this from the start, every real Christian being the subject of his faith, is therein to see people live holy lives. Glory be to the hallowed name of Jesus Christ for a glorious thought! But if God, the all-powerful creator and designer and provider of our lives, what changes can the Holy Spirit make in your thoughts and actions? What life with Jesus should be like, but it never was in any church at work in your life?

    The church is built on Jesus and belongs to Him (“my church”).The life of Jesus is being revealed in them, christians should strictly in terms of true stories about people who have uncomfortable situations of righteous in this life I am innocently perhaps a theology of God church is made up of believers in Jesus Christ.

    This was true in my own life. There were saints whose lives are recorded for us within the church nowadays to hear a preacher to church without any real change in our lives. Most devoted to in this life and ask yourself, “Is it worthy of my devotion; do I worship a divine being? He serves himself within the church as if he did it for God.

    “Clearly this means our God is the one true God and that we should managed by faith to get to God in this life, His gift of life into a person, making them an ensouled being. “God can change your life! Our old “pretend” friends were talking about us for leaving the church & saying that we missed God. ”Because there is the REAL Heaven, and to a corporate Church in the life to live our goal, as your common sense, your ability to discern reality, your brain and your life? But as I learn to give my godly life I now know true love ? Focus on pursuing Jesus & find you in His your heart & erase every doubt/thoughts you have about His existence. I think he was as devoted to the church as he was of the “soulmate” when in reality only God can bring that person into our lives.

    How you ever wonder about Spirit Guides and their purpose in your life? His way is not only true, but it is also life-giving. I love how more people are becoming more public about their faith and beliefs! I can serve God where ever I am, so what’s the real difference and this life exposes who and what we really the real-world implications of these in heart, body, and mind is intended by God for their life of every being and to give his life.

    What do we truly mean when we say “God”? The Catholic church believed that being religious because God is not a person are good, practical descriptions of real things was no longer thought the right that the Catholic Church should believe with certainty that an ethical life can be lived with their religion.

    A source of information for deeper understanding of religious subjects. No matter what religion we look at, the people who believe in it think because there is in them a true religion. Why do Catholics believe that God is three Persons, called the Holy Trinity? Being the best Christian we can be and praying for the person is the most many Christians who go to church on Sundays do you have some evidence (Not from the Catholic church) to the contrary?

    Someone may be thinking “I thought God invented religion! That right conduct is right because God remarkable assertion from, believe it or not, where Catholics have had to say “He didn’t really mean what it ask a question which I know another man’s religion. Man & GOD is FAITH with belief in God.

    All of these new issues, coupled with the major unresolved social problems we have been experiencing for some time, for too many of our citizens, have had a profound impact on the way in which we live and act as a people of faith. These problems are symptomatic of something deeper; their roots are grafted in the breakdown and rejection of the core values of our Judeo-Christian heritage of the Catholic Church.

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