Lesson 4: Growing in Your relationship with Jesus Christ

This is part 4 to a 4 part series – Lessons for Christian Living

lesson1With the Holy Spirit directing your life, you will experience a deeper relationship with God and you will grow in your ability to trust Him.

What does it mean to grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Growing in your relationship with Jesus means to know Him better, to love and obey Him more.

“And this is the way to have eternal life-to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth” (John 17:3).

“Jesus replied: ‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment.’” (Matthew 22:37-38)

Your growing love for God will lead you to obey His commandments.

[Jesus speaking] “Those who obey my commandments are the ones who love me. And because they love me, my Father will love them, and I will love them. And I will reveal myself to each one of them.” (John 14:21)

Just as it’s natural for a child to grow in a loving relationship with a parent, it is also natural for you to grow in your love relationship with God.

How can you grow in your relationship with Jesus?

Communication is vital to any relationship. Four aspects of communication will help you develop your relationship with Jesus.

  • God communicates with us through the Bible, revealing His character and His will.

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. It is God’s way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do.” (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

  • We communicate with God through prayer, sharing our thoughts, our needs and our desire to do his will.These verses tell us we can pray about everything. When we pray according to God’s will, he hears us and answers us. Thanking God is also part of praying.

“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. If you do this, you will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6-7)

“And we can be confident that he will listen to us whenever we ask him for anything in line with his will. And if we know he is listening when we make our requests, we can be sure that he will give us what we ask for.” (1 John 5:14-15)

“No matter what happens, always be thankful, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

“And you will always give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (Ephesians 5:20)

  • We communicate with Christians through fellowship, encouraging and building up one another.It is important to spend time with other Christians to encourage each other to love and do good. The Greek word for fellowship, koinonia, means “sharing in common.” We need to share our Christian experience with others who love God, and likewise allow them to share with us. God appoints the church as a place for us to meet other Christians and learn about God. Bible studies and other meetings are also helpful.

“Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage and warn each other, especially now that the day of his coming back again is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25)

  • We communicate with others who don’t know God personally by sharing about our relationship with Jesus.

“There is salvation in no one else! There is no other name in all of heaven for people to call on to save them.” (Acts 4:12)

Suggestions for further growth

Set aside a time and place for daily personal Bible study and prayer. A good book to begin with is the New Testament Book of John (included in the next section). As you read, underline verses you find particularly meaningful. Pray and ask God to show you who He is and how you can respond to Him.

Study other passages, such as the ones in this lesson. Also read Psalms 1, 34, 103 and 145; Matthew 7:7-11; Luke 9:23-26; John 15:1-7; 1 Corinthians 12:12-27; 2 Corinthians 5:17-21; and Colossians 1:9-12.

This is the beginning of your Christian life and there is much more to discover than what’s covered in these four lessons. Take the initiative today to find a church in your neighbourhood, and make plans to attend regularly. For additional Christian materials, check out your local Christian bookstore (try looking under “books” in the Yellow Pages).


As you rely on the Holy Spirit for power, read the Bible, pray, spend time with other believers and tell people about Jesus, God will produce His character in you and you will mature spiritually.


96 Responses to “Lesson 4: Growing in Your relationship with Jesus Christ”

  • Aldo says:

    Scott James, thank you for your comments. Continue to pray for many to come into the fold of the Lord.

    If you would like to chat one on one with a mentor, click on the Talk to a mentor button at the bottom left of this page. Someone will be happy to discuss whatever issues you have. God bless.

  • Scott James says:

    I just want to say praise God for everyone seeking Him n keep on we must finish are race! Philippians2:1-16 Praise Jesus mighty name ! 1Thessalonian 5:16-24 God bless you all my brothers n sisters pray n encourage each other !

  • Kate says:

    Glad to hear from you David :)

  • David says:

    I believe in jesus. Jesus is d way, truth n life. Jesus bless u abundantly amen

  • Sharon says:

    good article and good comments God bless you all– sharon

  • Herman Wabomba Timonah says:

    Iam really encouraged and working my maturity
    through the help and guidance of the Holy Spirit. All comments are very good and encouraging.

  • C says:

    And if you have nothing else to be thankful for today, you can always be thankful for what Jesus Christ has done for you. And for other believers as well.

  • C says:

    MATTHEW 28v. 16-20

    MATTHEW 25
    COLOSIANS 3v. 1-2

    ACTS 17v. 22-31, specifically 26-28
    1 JOHN 4v. 11-19 Specifically 4v 7 11,12 and 16-19

    Also Psalm 91, for all- Find “your” scripture, post in your cube, on your wall, wherever your definitely going to see it, and read it when all hell breaks loose. Let the Spirit of God give you peace. Blessed so you can be a blessing to others, in every way, in and out of the workplace.

  • C says:

    Also, http://www.ransomedheart.com and, watch The Toy Story time forgot from a Biblical Perspective for a new look at surrender, and the results of a life given to Christ, as illustrated by Reptilus Maximus and Trixie too, for that and for humility as well, satisfied in Christ.

  • C says:

    Spiritual Maturity is to 1. Know and be like Him, 2. to enjoy and become LIKE Him (Not become Him), and 3. to Spread His Word.(Make disciples of all nations-


    For further (To further your) Spiritual Maturity, I would also suggest meditating on your gifts and talents. Your skills and what you’re good at, when lined up with God’s purposes and ways in which The Kingdom can be furthered, and GOD’s Word can be spread to more people, tell you what your spiritual gift(s) and talent(s) are…most people have more than one, but never ask, or seek, or meditate on it, so they never even fathom the thought of, much less discover, their special God given gifts and talents that HE will use for His Will. Our favor is not for us, but for Him, and His Word, that the Church may spread so that everyone who will can may and has the chance to…all so we can spend eternity with Him in LOVE! That’s the purpose of life and the importance and joyous vitality and vital-ness of maturity. It’s why were called to be disciples and to Count the Cost: What will we give up (our time, a video game, a bad habit, a point of view, money, fear, hatred or and old hurt, unforgiveness of another, homosexual feelings or many girlfriends/boyfriends- It can be harmful or it can be harmless, but if it gets in the way of growing up in and with God, it’s not good for you, your maturity in Christ, the working out of your salvation, or for others who could benefit from the good you do, which you may never see, or your testimony, which is how pain, trials, suffering, problems, etc. can be and are/is used for good (Think of Paul’s thorn, or what Peter said about to thinking it strange that we suffer while on earth; think of the testimonies of Job, David, even Solomon- The Psalms, Proverbs, and other books have problems of life on every level, from problems involving direction or sickness or loss of loved ones, to problems with love, with drawing close to God or feeling abandoned, or struggling with sin- every problem we face, every victory we gain, every effort we make*, when it is in line with God and pushed towards His purpose, even when we don’t understand, is never in vain. (* “If”, a poem by Rudyard Kipling) That’s faith- trust in what we don’t know, but that He knows, and trusting in Him, as well as in what we do know. Prayer is answered so that HE is glorified and people see this and come to HIM (War Room- the book))- to share with others, and understanding, and form bonds of closeness.)to help our Heavenly Father spread His LOVE for his children? For us? For someone far away, spiritually or physically?, or very near. When God tells you what He wants you to do, that’s your name! (For more on this, read John Eldredge’s, “Waking the Dead” and “The Sacred Romance.” (These will touch you deeply and resonate with your Spirit and soul, as will his many other books.), as well as John Piper’s, “When I don’t Desire God: How to fight for Joy.” (I found this to be convicting, powerful, and even controversially thought provoking, but sound as well, and very satisfying, dare I say filling, for my soul in times of waning desire, maturity, and even faith.), and Amy Voskamp’s “1’000 gifts”- This one is very good for reminding you about being thankful; you don’t read this book, you experience it.) Another good book is Paul Coughlin’s, “Unleashing Courageous Faith: capturing God’s Passion for Your Life”.(Great for men, and a perspective on masculinity, and for women with men, but the stuff in this book is empowering good and beneficial for everyone who reads it, male or female) These helped me in my walk and growing in Christ and the lessons and reflections I’ve written down, recorded, and remember still lead me deeper into Christ today, and not just into religion. The heart grips the heart and the gut grips the gut. The heart of the matter is that matter of the heart, because the lesson I had to learn on my Path to maturity was and still is, that seeking to Know GOD isn’t seeking what HE knows, or His knowledge, but seeking HIS heart for us and what He wants for me individually. I don’t have to worry about the plan if I can trust in our Triune God’s promises, of which there are many. It’s not what the enemy, the devil, knows either. A sin focused life, a life lived in fear or guilt, fasting or beating yourself up, or sabotaging yourself, depersonalizing and crawling up into your mind and hiding there in the “What if’s” while life passes you by…” all of this hinders your walk because doubt, which is unbelief, is the absence of Faith, which is trust and risky and scandalous, and wild and wonderful as Jesus Himself. So seek the heart of God in humble expectation, every day and often, and He will be your true Joy. Even when you are really scared, you won’t really be scared. (“War Room: the novel inspired by the motion picture” or the movie itself, but mostly impactful and intimately, the book and “Pilgrim’s Progress” and/or “Little Pilgrim’s Progress” and “Hind’s feet on High Places” by Hannah Hurnard (An allegorical fiction from a female characters point of view, but again, male or female, I can personally say that this book is tremendous for anyone in their walk, especially those who struggle with fear, fear of God’s love and goodness and timing, and of the unknown, but also for reflection on the struggles of everyday life-hence the allegorical part-), “The Shack” by Paul Young,-and other books by this guy-(Hard stuff (to stomach?)for a few chapters when you’re in the middle of the beginning chapters, but keep going, it gets much better), and Tales of the Kingdom (a children’s storybook version/rendition of Pilgrim’s progress)are also fantastic books (novels, these) I’d recommend. Ultimately don’t focus on fear- Focus on God and Who HE shows himself to be; on Jesus, and Who He is and what He’s done for us, Him being God’s living Word and God and the very reflection of God in the flesh. Be thankful, spend time often with God, be reflective, and honest with yourself, and seek HIS Holy Spirit for guidance in all things, but also don’t be afraid to trust and try, and realize GOD gave you a mind, and put you in circumstances and places, and gave you gifts and made you you, the way you are, for a greater part of the story than you can imagine; for His purposes. Practice what you preach and your witness will be a honor to God. Pray before meals, spend time in the bible, listen to music, use your gifts and talents, have fun (Yes, you can still watch a movie, or go to a game, or play videogames or a sport, or dance, or sing or draw or hike, or whatever it is you like to do),and abide in God. When HE is the focus and His will becomes your will, you mature, becoming more like HIS likeness every day, in every situation. Accept HIS Grace and chase after Him. He’ll meet you halfway, and wherever you fail, remember that Jesus fulfilled he law: so wherever you lack, Jesus will make up the difference and fill that lack, and guide you back home. Just ask Him. Forgiveness is free and the choice is yours. He’s hates sin, because it separates us from Him, but he loves you. And HE calls everyone to Himself, which is why us (the hands and feet, the salt and light, the disciples- followers and student/sons or daughters of Christ”) are to spread His Word. GOD is LOVE. Spread Love, HIS LOVE, and save lives. Excited, intimidated? So is every Christian. But just remember this awesome, exciting, Glorious journey is just for you, and yours is exactly for you- a gift of dynamic and Graciously beautiful proportions. Be thankful that you are marked out, predestined by God, to be a Blood-washed believer, chosen to do His Will, Spread His Word, and be Alive! All in and Because of HIM. All Glory and Power and Praise be to GOD, in the name of HIs son Jesus, the Christ, by the Holy Spirit, I say, walk in expectation reader. Move with God, Press into Him, and make every day an Awesome day. Amen

  • Sharon says:

    to John my apologies for no one responding to you earlier – prayer father God I pray now for John for his spiritual maturity I pray bless him and I pray for Christians to come along his path to encourage him in his path to spiritual maturity I pray all of this in JESUS name amen are you going to a good church otherwise find a good church that preaches JESUS as God and the trinity and let the men there encourage you in the LORD I am praying for you– sharon

  • Somzana says:

    I truly enjoyed the article and may God continue to bless you. Jesus rocks

  • Aldo says:

    Nancy, a personal relationship with Jesus starts when you “… confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead… For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” (Romans 10:9-10)

    Salvation comes by believing that Jesus Christ is the “only begotten son of God;” that he gave his life on the cross of Calvary to pay the price for your sins and the sins of all mankind; and that if you believe and confess that you will be saved. Let’s pray:

    Father God, You know and have heard that Nancy desires a relationship with You. Grant her such by drawing her by Your Holy Spirit, in Jesus Name I pray, amen.

    Nancy, if you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, here is a suggested prayer. Remember, God is not as concerned with the words you use, as He is with your intent.

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died for me, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and for giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

  • Nancy Cordes says:

    I wanted to find out who Jesus was for myself so I started reading the 4 gospels. I didn’t let myself get bogged down with things I didn’t understand. Instead, I focused my attention on learning about Jesus, his character (values),how he treated other people that was so different from the others in his society. After awhile, I started to form a picture of who Jesus was for me. He became like a living person to me. Jesus was someone I could trust.someone who wanted the best for me and someone who would be with me through good times and bad,someone who wanted to be in a relationship with me.

  • Njabe Shaolin says:

    Thank God for your good work. I strongly believe this article will transform my live by knowing my Saviour Jesus Christ. He is the same yesterday, today and forever.
    Glory to God.

  • Sharon says:

    good article thank you for posting this

  • elcan says:

    thank you for the lesson.totaly blessed.ill start right away being real christian

  • Sharon says:

    to Karen– I am happy for you for focusing on JESUS instead of your problem good for you God bless you– sharon

  • Karen says:

    I have been struggling with major worry and anxiety for the past six months. The kind of gripping fear that just wouldnt let up. I have been in the word this entire time and nothing budged. I was praying scripture over my circumstance and backing it up scripture. I was trying too hard but kept just focusing on my situation. As soon as I stopped focusing on my problems and just started focusing on Jesus and asking him to reveal his love to me and studying about Jesus, the cloud lifted and I am feeling his love and freedom from fear. I am seeking a real relationship with him and he is carrying my burdens now. He is so real and faithful and I am so full of joy now because I am seeking him and his love. Praise Jesus…

  • john says:

    please pray for my spiritual maturity
    ,because i know the power of the prayer of righteous.

  • Aldo says:

    Melissa, a personal relationship with Jesus starts when you “… confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” (Romans 10:9-10)

    Salvation comes by believing that Jesus Christ is the “only begotten son of God;” that he gave his life on the cross of Calvary to pay the price for your sins and the sins of all mankind; and that if you believe and confess that you will be saved.

    Melissa, if you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, here is a suggested prayer. Remember, God is not as concerned with the words you use, as He is with your attitude.

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me, forgiving my sins, and for giving me everlasting life, in Jesus name, Amen.”

  • Boyet says:

    Thank you for this.Hallelujah!!! praise God!!!

  • Sharon says:

    to Melissa– I don’t know on what bible you are reading but I am wondering if the message version or another version is good like the English standard is good too. just saying God bless you— sharon

  • Melissa says:

    Thank you so so much for writing this. I was really at a stand still and didn’t know how to proceed forward. I do read my Bible, but it’s hard to understand at times and I was just looking for answers. Most people tell you that you need to have a personal relationship with Jesus, but don’t break down how to go about it. This is the article I’ve been looking for, for a very long time!!!

  • Abuchi Precious says:

    Jesus is the best

  • Abuchi Precious says:

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  • Aldo says:

    Ella and Caroline, thank you so much in sharing how the article has blessed you both. I pray that the Lord will continue to make Himself real to you, and that you will continue to grow in the wisdom and knowledge of the Lord Jesus Christ, Amen.

  • caroline masumpa says:

    i thank God almighty for giving me oppotunity to read thi lessons that will lead to grow more to my Lord Jesus Christ i really pass my grattitude to u all may God reachly bless u aboundandly shallom

  • Ella says:

    Thanks for the help.

  • Aldo says:

    Khanyi, thank you so much for your words of blessing, approval and encouragement on the article. I pray that you will continue to seek God from His Word, through prayer, and by being a witness for Him in these last days. God bless you and yours.

  • khanyi says:

    thank you so much for this lesson.it has encouraged me to have a much deeper relationship with God.Not for my only benefit but also for my other relationships with family, friends and people around me.May God bless you all.

  • Chris says:

    aaron oborairuvwe…..sorry to hear of your struggles….i would encourage you first with romans 11.29 where it says Gods gifts and callings are unchangeable. at the same time, we do need to make sure that our relationship to christ is the right one, trusting in him alone for our salvation and forgiveness of sins so we have the right message to share as well. you can confirm your salvations reality by logging onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or by clicking talk to a mentor above. i would cuation you also to not make a confliction between your regular work vs. spiritual work. wherever we are, we are jesus ambassadors to the world. 2 corinthians 5. as one minister said…the world is my parish which means wherever i am or go, work, leisure or otherwise, jesus wants to use me for his glory. as you seek jesus for wisdom, he will give it. james 1. he has a plan for your life that may not always be in agreement with your human logic, so be led by the holy spirit in your heart, not your head. working at a job is important also just as paul did to help him pay for his expenses in sharing the góspel as found in acts 18. praying for you now that you would leave all on jesus altar of romans 12.1 to 3 so that what is of his will for your life will pass through the fire and what isnt, will be burnt up by the fire. blessings!!

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Tiffany, I am glad to hear that this connected with the two of you. Not a lot of divorced couples go through studies together. Did the two of you go through the full four lessons together? What was it about these verses that was meaningful for you?

  • Tiffany says:

    Iwould like to take the time to thank you wonderful child of God for such a amazing line up of scripture that has truly blessed myself and ex spouse. We read the scriptures together today and they were exactly what we needed, so thanks again. May God continue to use you as a blessing for others

  • I have a serious calling by physical angel at Warri in 1992 and God used me to the dead on several occasions, but due to lack of availability coupled with family issues. I couldn’t submit initially but now due to pressure from my company work, I do not the presence of God as usual. Please advise me on how I can restore my lost glory. Please now I need your help Evang Aaron

  • Aldo says:

    Ella, below I have included a part of an article entitled: The Trinity, by Bill Gordon.

    In it he writes:

    “The doctrine of the Trinity is one of the most important beliefs of Christianity. It is central to the Christian understanding of God and is accepted by all Christian groups.”

    The article can be seen at:

    In answer to your question, Ella, I’d like to think that the more you know the better off you are.

    Mike Rundle writes in flyosity.com, “Architects don’t just draw blueprints, they need to know what the ground is like under the building, what types of weather the region receives, and what building materials work best considering all the variables. They don’t just draw, the craft the entire structure, and need a deep understanding of materials and processes in order to effectively do their job.”

    “Chefs don’t just put ingredients together and hope for a delicious dish, they have a deep knowledge of food and how things taste to people in certain situations.”

    “Potters aren’t just sculpting clay blocks into beautiful forms, but also firing the clay to keep it in its shape forever. They need to know about glazes and temperature and the science of firing in order to create their works of art.”

    In understanding The Trinity, Ella, one can better comprehend the Oneness and Unity of the Godhead, which the Bible speaks a good deal about.

    Hope this helps.

  • Ella says:

    How is knowing more about the trinity, enhance the Christian lifestyle?

  • Elkay says:

    Vivian, thank you for your response as we are pleased and blessed any time our topics are helpful to others. Your girl’s interest is a gift from God and I would encourage her to develop a number of “spiritual disciplines” so as to grow close to God. These include Bible study, meditation, so-called “quiet times” for prayer and simply being “still” before the Lord. Let us pray for her . . .

    “Heavenly Father, I ask You to give Vivian’s little girl a hearing heart so that she may clearly discern between good and evil (1 K 3:9). Teach her to wait on You and submit to You. (Ps 62:5) Help her to draw close to You and You close to her; teach her to be humble before You that You may lift her up. (Ja 4:8). Teach her to listen to Scripture and to treasure Your commands. Tune her ears to wisdom, and her understanding. May she grow to fear You and to have life-saving knowledge of You. (Pr 2:1-5, Jn 17:3). In Jesus’ name we bring this prayer to Your throne of grace. Amen.”

  • Vivian kikta says:

    My little girl love’s this app and it is worth it

  • Aldo says:

    fr. christuraj, yes Alfred’s words are inspiring and encouraging. You can also chat with a mentor one on one by going to Talk to a mentor at the bottom left of this page.
    He or she will be happy to discuss religion with you, or just to pray with you.

    May God continue to bless you richly as you endeavor to live for Him and serve Him.

  • fr. christuraj says:

    your inspiring sharing of God’s Word inspired and helps me. thank u so much. God bless you greatly.

  • Alfred says:

    Yes, we are blessed indeed! The “four aspects of communication” are all important. Some may wonder about the fourth one, of sharing our faith with unbelievers. This “telling others” helps us to grow, since we need to know what we’re talking about. That may seem like head-knowledge, yet the listener will know whether it comes from the heart also. Secondly, we grow in telling others, because in obedience to God, we are drawn closer to Him, and get assurance from Him. I’ve personally experienced a “thrill of approval” as a thank-you from God for having done the right thing! I’d say that the joy of “knowing Christ Jesus more intimately” is limitless. Hallelyah!

  • Alexander mensah says:

    God will bless you!!! keep on

  • Ayuba Dauda says:

    Thank You what a inspirational encouragement and quotes from bible scriptures, to help us grow more intimate relationship with God. be blessed Amen

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