Practicing Patience When God Has You Waiting

Written by Barbara Erochina

When God has you waiting

When Prayer Seems to Fail

Some days, it is a lot harder to be patient. When we’re bringing our concerns to the Lord again and again, we grow tired of waiting. It soon begins to feel like our prayers are falling on deaf ears. Often our desire is to take control and just “do the best we can”; it is our fleshly reaction to the silence. We know Galatians 5 lists patience as a fruit of the Holy Spirit so we confess our desire to rule our own lives. We ask the Spirit to fill us, empowering and directing us even as we continue to wait on the Lord.

This doesn’t mean our circumstances change. Our only child remains sick in the hospital, the thread our marriage hangs on continues to splinter, and the hope we’ve held on to for years fades with increasing speed. Having prayed fervently about whatever issue you are facing too many times to count, it’s easy to feel your bank of patience depleting once again. On these days, let these reminders on the nature of patience be an encouragement to you as you continue to wait.

You are not alone in the waiting.

“We know that the whole creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time. Not only so, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for our adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. For in this hope we were saved. But hope that is seen is no hope at all. Who hopes for what he already has? But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.” – Romans 8:22- 25 (New International Version)

Waiting is a common experience. All your brothers and sisters in faith, as well as all of creation know what it is like to wait on the Lord. Consider those who have waited before you: Job, David, a myriad of Prophets. There is plenty of encouragement in the Bible concerning a need for patience and those who have excelled in it. James 5:7, Colossians 1:10-12, Psalm 40:1 and Revelations 14:12 are just a few examples of the myriad of passages about the topic.

The New Bible Dictionary defines patience as “God given restraint in the face of opposition or oppression”. Patience is only needed when there is a reason to not wait. It is only necessary in the face of opposition. This is why seeking patience is in many senses a battle. The promise we can lean on here is that patience is God given restraint. The Lord is the one who provides us with spiritual armor to go into battle. We often think of patience as mere endurance, but such logic is faulty. We are not exercising restraint on our own strength. In truth, our only responsibility is to trust that God will provide the strength to hold on, and then act accordingly to our faith in that promise.

How is this strength given us?

We receive this strength by being filled with the Spirit. As Christians, we know that the ultimate source of patience lives within us. Our role is to trust that the Holy Spirit does live within us, and ask Him for strength to persevere in whatever situation we find ourselves in. This is a provision we can claim by faith as taught us in Romans 5:1-5.

Patience as listed in Galatians 5 is often called longsuffering. The original Greek word is makrothumio, meaning “long temper”. We are to keep a long and slow temper towards God, others and ourselves. This spiritual posture calls for grace. It is grace that compels us to trust God, grace that we can extend to others when they hurt us and grace to forgive ourselves when we stumble and fall.

The experience of waiting on God reminds us that our reality as Christians is not within our apparent circumstances, but rather in the truth of Christ’s love and life in us. This gives us hope as Romans 8:28 assures us that “we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” It is not in our abilities to know the time or way in which God will work things out. Ecclesiastes 3:11 and Isaiah 55:8-9 are great reminders that these rest solely in the domain of God’s knowledge. Our role here is to trust the promise of Philippians 1:6 and wait with hope as God’s brings about to completion the good work He began in each of our lives.

What is our role in the battle?

Consider again the definition of patience as God given restraint. God allows us to access divine restraint, but it is our choice to accept it and act in willful obedience. Adam and Eve were given complete free will. They were gifted many provisions in the garden so they wouldn’t need to partake in the fruit that was forbidden. However, they chose to not exercise restraint and instead disobeyed God’s command. When we use God given restraint to wait on His will and timing, we renounce their fallen actions and step out in obedience towards God.

There is purpose in the process. Take a look at Hebrews 12:2. Waiting on God forces us to look to Him. It casts our eyes rightly to Christ as the source of our faith and the assurance of our salvation. It reminds us that Christ’s death and life is the reason we can be filled with and empowered by the Holy Spirit. Trials cause us to persevere by deepening our knowledge of God and relying on him more intentionally. As James 1:2-4 tells us it is here that a mature and complete faith is grown.

Standing patiently when we wait on the Lord does not mean being stuck at a standstill. Consider Ephesians 6 which instructs us to “put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then.” To hold ground by remaining obedient to the Lord while waiting is not passive. Note that the word stand is repeated three times. Patience is an act of the will to claim ground for the Kingdom of God, and is rewarded richly by Him. Revelations 3:10-11 tells us of God’s care for those who persevere through the battle.
Whether we feel we lack patience to wait on God, or to continue to love those that may be hard to love, we do in actuality have access to all the patience we need. We can trust God to give us the strength to bear our circumstances and instead use the time of waiting to grow in intimacy with the Lord.

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181 Responses to “Practicing Patience When God Has You Waiting”

  • Chris says:…otros sitios que podrían ayudarte son…

  • Chris says:

    jay…when we are dealing with spiritual truth, its so very important to use concrete examples as jesus did in his teachings rather than abstract and symbolic expressions. if you could specifically share who or what you are talking about and give a definite example then that would help sound counsel to come forth. thanks!!

  • Chris says:

    jay…sorry to hear you are struggling…one important principle in growing in christ is understanding luke 16.10. when we are talking about finances and prosperity, its true we are tempted to think in terms of big but usually we need to start out small like a seed and watch our lives grow in Gods prosperity. God can take the smallest and most insignifcant of Jobs and make them grow into something larger. as we are faithful to do the Little things, God will give us more. i encourage you to let the holy spirit give you the work of his choosing as you wait before him and to be guided in your heart not your head in jesus name amen!

  • Jay says:

    Hello once again
    Oh and why do some people get more provisions to handle the storm while they are waiting over others? Two people can be running the same race to success but one person gets more help and less obstacles than the other person does. Does god favor others over others? Just kindly wondering.

  • Jay says:

    My question is why does it seem like when you move on faith for BIG thing to happen in your life. It seems god keeps taking you backwards instead of forwards. Its seems to have no logic to it.I just can’t can’t figure it out. My BIG thinking is not matching my reality. I finally understand being patient but being idle with no income coming in is torcher. Thanks

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Steve Smith, by the comment you left it looks like you are going through some tough times and that you are angry with God. Is there something particular that has you so upset? Perhaps if you shared what has you so worked-up I’d be able to encourage you through it. Look forward to hearing back from you.

  • Steve Smith says:

    [expletive removed] God he’s a [expletive removed]

  • Shelley says:

    Thank you both for your comments and may the Lord bless you both.

  • Phelile says:

    This is a thanks to Sue may God truly bless you for that encouragement to Chris Shaw, it has encouraged me too. And to Chris Shaw, Jamie and all my other brothers and sisters in Christ who struggle with waiting on God remember we are in this world but we are not of this world. And so there are many things of this world that distract, discourage and lure us to think God has forsaken us including our own flesh but that feeling is a LIE! Do not give in to it because as we struggle the devil is also trying to prey on our weaknesses using worldly notions and logics. Always remember God will not put you in a situation you cannot overcome because Jesus overcame for us already and the Holy Spirit he has left with us as our strength and guide. Remember to trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and never lean on your own understanding. In ALL your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your path. Prov 3:5-6.
    I love the part of not leaning on our own understanding because to me here lies the key to my instruction. To me it means I trust even when I don’t know how God could possibly make it better considering the situation, timing or magnitude of my problem. Then I remember that He is the author of time and life itself. He is the great ‘I AM'(Exodus 3:14) so every problem should bow to this name. Sometimes we need to remind the problem that He who is in us is greater than he who is in this world (1 John 4:4). And more times we need to remind ourselves this fact too.
    God bless you all, I too am waiting and I hope this helps someone out there in their waiting. Greeting from Africa :)

  • jamie says:

    Thank you Chris and May God Bless you.

  • Chris says:

    jamie…its possible that the dream has something to do with your past relationship in the sense that you had a bad experience mostly from what you say because at that time you werent walking as close to the lord as you should have been and lacked some wisdom about the situation. perhaps jesus wants to help you be sure you arent tempted to get into another deceiving relationship again so he could be trying to drive home the point to you. so often we as humans have the tendency to repeat our mistakes. see 1 cor 10. meantime stay in the Word and prayer. have godly women pray over you so you can run the race of endurance to receie the promises jesus has in store for you! heb 6.12, 1 cor 9. amen

  • jamie says:

    Hello, its me once again. I wanted to share another experience i recently experienced. And to those that have read my previous posts, i hope someone can help me and if that has to do with what i am about to share. Recently, ive been having nightmares. Sometimes i would gasp for air when i awaken. The nightmares have been surreal for me and has left me worried. A couple of weeks ago, i dreamt that i was in a place that was dark, cluttered with old things and gave a sensation of fear. I remember i was in a room that was in that place and that I was trying to hide from something that was trying to cause me harm. At that time, i remember running to the room and closing the door. When i was immediately locking the door, the thing bangs and bangs on the door, trying to get in. I then run to my mother, sister, and nephew who were in the room as well. I remember feeling a sense of responsibility that i had to protect them and i couldnt let the thing hurt them. Later in the dream, i remember i walk into another room that was in the place and while i was walking in, a sensation that i was in hell overcame me. When i walk into the room, i encounter the thing that was causing my fear, it was a little girl dressed in a white dress that was filthy, her face looked evil and i then knew that it was a demon. I remember running back to the room and locking it. I look over to my sister and mother and wondered why they looked calm and in peace. While i was feeling terrified that this demon would get into the room. Fortunately, someone wakes me from the nightmare and i wake up. This has been the first time i have dreamt this. I have prayes to lord about this but i still worry. I dont know what God is trying to tell me. Idk if he’s trying to tell me something in regards to the experience i went through, the one i talked about in my previous post. I know this doesnt relate to the topic of having patience, but I do wish if someone could offer me some help. Thank you and god bless.
    Please if anyone can offer me help. I have tried not to worry but its been difficult. Th

  • Chris says:

    jamie…now you have a life experience under your belt. you can apply this knowledge now to be sure in the future, any possible marriage candidate has to be a true Christian and submitted to a true pastor in church. blessings to you always!!

  • jamie says:

    Hello Chris,

    Thank you for responding and may god bless you. Unfortunately, during the time I was seeing this guy, i did not go to church. However, I had a strong relationship with the Lord and have always waited gor him, in everything. Including relationships. Thus, this guy was the first guy i have ever dated since i always attempted to avoid dating and to guard my heart from heartbreaks. Surprisingly, when i met him, I had an incredible connection with him, not physically but in a manner that is unconditional. Sadly, since i did not take this relationship to any pastor bc i never went to church. Yet, i took this relationship upon the Lord and always attempted to keep this relationship pure. Yet, now that i have found out that he is with someone after we seperated has caused me distressed. I also did not mention that this young man is a nonbeliever. He has told me that he has given himself the chance to have a relationship with the Lord but there was always something interfering. Thus, he has lost hope and continues the ways that he has followed since he was young. Hopefully this clear up some of the info i posted before. Sorry if i was not specific enough.

    On the other hand, i am grateful for the responnse you have given me. I will wait upon the Lord and the plans he has for me. Maybe i need to refocus and focus more on the Lord. And know that his plans are better than mine and that he wants me to have the best of the best. I just need to remind myself everyday about his promises. Thank you for your support, Chris and may god bless you.

  • Chris says:

    jamie…so sorry to hear of your struggles. at the same time i would encourage you that as long jesus is your personal lord and savior, then you can rest on romans 8.28 being true for you that jesus has a plan for your life that includes whom you will marry and its worth waiting for. sometimes as humans, we fail to go through the spiritual check points needed to verify if a relationship is of christ or not. without knowing your details, when we perceive a serious relationship starting to develop, we need to get with our pastors and be sure, with both present, if a couple really has a future together. some simple spiritual questions and in your friends case, asking about any other people already involved in his life, could have eliminated you from having wasted your time with him but not to worry, romans 8.28 is still there and always will be for you. as the saying goes, many times we learn from our mistakes. they arent totally a waste. now you have gained valuable life experience and perhaps my suggestions also can be of help to you in the future. i pray jesus encourage your heart today in knowing that no person can even ruin your life as long as you dont let them. Shalom!!

  • jamie says:

    There are some mistakes in my writing. I typed my post using my phone and of course i didnt check it until it was finally posted. I hope it is still understandable. Anyways, thanks to those who decide to help me. May god bless you.

  • jamie says:

    Hello everyone, I am a 19 years old woman seeking help because i have been experiencing a lot of difficulty in trusting God fully, with all my heart. I find it very difficult to place all control of my life in His hands and to let go of my past, my sufferings, and anything else i hold dear. Especially in regards to relationships. Three year I met a young man who i feel deeply in love with, however due to family issues, we decided to seperate. Of course, I was heartbroken and felt angry towards myself and God. I startes to blame myself and God for the seperation and the pain i was going through. This continued for the following two years until one day I heard the Lord speak to me in silent whisper. Never has this happened to me before but while i finally decided to pray about what i went through, i felt within my heart that Lord said “Wait”. From that moment, my faith grew and my relationship with the Lord has become close. I started to change, spiritually and in everything else. I finally felt retored and in peace. Two years later, i rencounter the same young man with whom I fell in love with. We started talking once again and I began to pray to the Lord to do his will. By the end of the month, i discover that he was in a relationship with someone for the past two years. Clearly, i was heartbroken once again. From the moment we seperates, i didnt get involved with anyone because i felt that he was the ONE that God had for me. But now i feel so lost and I dont know what to do. Somwtimes i feel like God has ignored me, does not hear me. I feel frustrated with him and myself. I know i shouldnt feel like this but i dont know how to wait on God anymore, especially when it comes to relationships. Ive asked God for signs if this young man is the One and i always get them. But at the end i always end up frustrated. I feel as if i misheard God when he said “wait”. And what if this guy isnt the one that the Lord has for me. Its been difficult for me and continues to be this way. I dont know what to do.

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up my friend to You, that you will respond to her request, as she is seeking Your grace, in Jesus Mighty name Amen

  • Bebe ko says:

    How is the attitude when you are praying and waiting for someone and yet the others push Him in the other girl but still om here praying to our Lord at the right and best time.Sometimes i feel sad everytime i thought that nobody wants me to him.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Dave I tried the links you gave but they don’t seem to lead anywhere. Can you check the addresses and share them again please? Thanks

  • dave says:

    K. Christiansen -Just wait on God in Silence.Early in the morning is the best time and Do Not restrict God by what you feel and want.Download Andrew Murray’s writings on Waiting on God [editor’s note: incorrect URL given] Also try [editor’s note: incorrect URL given] for further reading

    Lamentation 3:25

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Oh K., I was saddened to read your post and thought about how hard it is to try to be positive when everything seems to be going wrong. Life is sometimes like that and we can’t understand why the Lord who loves us is allowing the trial and pain to continue.

    One of the keys to walking through times when life seems to be crumbling and the future’s looking grim is to embrace, to really get a hold of the reality of the Lord’s presence. (At the moment of salvation, the Holy Spirit comes to live within and seal us as belonging to God and no circumstance, suffering, or loss can separate us from Him or His love says Rom. 8:35, 38-39.)

    With the power of the Holy Spirit, we can endure difficulty and accomplish whatever the Lord calls us to do and face circumstances with a sense of confidence, not in ourselves but in God, who is all-knowing and capable and only does good things. As hard as this is to believe in the middle of adversity it is very true.

    I imagine God’s love seems non-existent if it doesn’t rescue you from painful things in life. I wish I could tell you why God was allowing all this to happen to you, but I don’t have that answer and pray that it ends soon and that you can then look back and see God’s hand in your life and thank Him for it.

  • K. Christiansen says:

    I have been unemployed for five years. We are living with friends who complain about everything. I had such a fantastic job interview that I deleted going to law school another semester. The law firm hasn’t kept their word with me in getting back to me and now I’m at an utter loss.

    We have been through so much financial adversity, I cry every single day. I totally feel like God has forgotten me and I’ve been a Christian for 33 years.

  • Shelley says:

    Thank you David for your comment, may the Lord our God bless you.

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  • Aldo says:

    Sue, thank you for your great response and encouragement to Chris. I hope he reads it, and blogs back to you. Good job.

  • Sue says:

    This reply is to Chris Shaw; Chris, I don’t know you but out of all the letters,
    yours stuck out to me. I have been in the same place you are (or maybe “were”);
    All of Gods children have been in that place at one time or another. I hope that
    things have worked out for you at this time (I only saw this post for the first time today), but whether they have or not know that God loves you and promised He will NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU!! He is working behind the scenes.
    Sometimes He will allow a delay but He never forgets His promises to us. Think of the ways that He has sustained you through the hard times and sent someone with a word of encouragement to you, just when you were about to give up.
    He has not and will never forget you. He is for you. Whether it feels like it or not. That’s why it’s important we forget our “feelings” and stand on what we know
    to be true from the Word of God. He cannot and will not lie; the scripture
    says His word will NOT return void; meaning it HAS TO accomplish what God Himself
    has promised. Keep praying…GOD HEARS YOU!!! Your problems have an expiration
    date….God knows when the perfect timing is for the answer to every prayer.
    Sometimes it’s not you that’s not ready, sometimes it’s someone else He has to
    work on to accomplish the fulfillment of the promise. But it WILL happen.

  • Michael Jantzen M. Jantzen says:

    Hello Sherry, I would encourage you to connect with one of our online mentors for prayer. You can privately share your worries and concerns, talk things through and pray together for miracles. Here’s the link: I would also encourage you that these miracles do happen. You can read/watch many such stories here: Take care.

  • Sherry says:

    im struggling to hold onto faith that God will come thru with divine intervention in our 40 yr old child who has left her husband of 16+ yrs, and our youngest child who struggles with sexual addiction and also has been jobless for 3 months

  • Shelley says:

    Awesome message!!

  • Michael Jantzen M. Jantzen says:

    Hello Sharon, I agree with most of what you’ve written, but your second sentence is not entirely true: Jesus got angry when he cast the salesmen out of the temple. Certainly he wasn’t sinning then. So righteous anger is not sin when we’re upset about an injustice, but anger arising from a hateful or unforgiving attitude is certainly sin.

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