Recognizing Your Boaz: Getting a second chance

Written by Aisha Long-Bascom

spiritualgrowth_secondchanceWhen my precocious five-year-old prophesied that she’d one day marry a prince, have a big wedding, and become a nice mommy with lots of children, I smiled. I was moved by the purity of her hope, but then the unexpected happened–I began to weep.

Every tear unearthed memories of my own age of innocence, when I too believed that my life would unfold with such accuracy and simplicity.  Somewhere along the road I had left behind the little girl I once was. I scoffed at the dreamy teenager who yearned for happy endings, and morphed into a single-mother convinced that a series of wrong turns had disqualified me from receiving God’s best.

Even though I had repented and rededicated my life to Christ; I still feared that I forfeited my right to God’s promises.  My daughter’s proclamations reminded me of Ruth’s story.

One evening after the toys were stacked, with tear-stained hands I leafed through the book of Ruth. The Lord started teaching me about Ruth.  He reminded me that their story is proof that God is a God of second chances.

Ruth’s story

While the humbling field experience served as a reaping ground for Ruth, it was a proving ground for Boaz. Before Boaz ever said “I do” — he did. As Ruth worked to sustain herself and her mother-in-law, God used that time not only to establish Ruth’s reputation as an honorable believer within her community, but to allow Boaz an opportunity to exhibit the five essential components of his character. He proved himself to be a provider, a protector, an intercessor, a coverer, and a redeemer.

Though Boaz was a man of wealth and power, he was humble enough to respect a converted Gentile woman, and wise enough to admire her courage, devotion, kindness, and fidelity to Naomi (Ruth 2:11).  He considered himself blessed to be wanted by a woman who he believed could have gone after a younger man (Ruth 3:10).

Boaz’s kindness and admiration was so overwhelming that at one point Ruth asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me– a foreigner.” (Ruth 2:10) Like many of us Ruth felt that her past, her poverty, and her status as a foreigner in Bethlehem made her less than the other women. Yet, Boaz “noticed” her. In Hebrew the word “notice” means to “acknowledge with honor, to understand.”

So it wasn’t that Boaz simply saw her, he understood and revered her. He understood that Ruth was more than the culmination of her past misfortunes and present dire circumstances.  He honored the woman she was within and the woman that she could become if he became her coverer and redeemer.

Are you a Ruth?

God desires for us to see Ruth and Boaz’s union as an example of how He “notices”, loves, and redeems each of us, especially those who feel as though life has ravaged all promise and purpose.

Ruth was a woman who lacked the right pedigree, position, and purity that most people would have expected a man like Boaz to desire:

  • she was not Jewish, she was a foreigner
  • she was not a virgin, but a widower
  • she was not wealthy; she was less than a servant girl

Yet, she obtained favor from an honorable man who loved her wholeheartedly and willfully provided, protected, covered, prayed for, and ultimately redeemed her.

Boaz loved Ruth because of her character and her heart. When Boaz agreed to redeem Ruth, one of the first things he said was, “All my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character” (Ruth 3:11). He felt blessed to have such a woman and in turn blessed her with the “rest” that Naomi prayed Ruth would one day find in the home of another husband (Ruth 1:9), the rest that many of us long for and can find in God.

So now when my daughter optimistically prophesies into her future, instead of weeping, I too employ my tongue as the “pen of a ready writer” calling those things which be not as though they were (Rom 4:17), believing that I can be blessed with a second chance Boaz, God’s very best.

We are expected to learn from her story and to follow her example by genuinely submitting to Jehovah God whom she trusted her present and her future with.  And to the woman who feels that your situation is so dire and your past so shameful, that no one is equipped to love someone like you–be encouraged!

What made Boaz perfect for Ruth had very little to do with his relationship to Naomi, his influence, or his wealth. It was the fact that he was the son of Rahab (Mat 1:5), a Harlot woman who by grace (undeserved favor) was wedded to one of the Israelite princes. Thus, Boaz spent his childhood in preparation, observing the love and respect his royal father showed to his mother.

Thanks to the glorious God we serve who knows the beginning from the end, Ruth’s second chance love was born to the right set of parents, with the right dispositions and experiences to teach their son how to love Ruth with divine precision before she was even born.  What God did for Ruth, He is able to do for you!

Do you struggle with feeling like you are not enough? Do you wonder if your circumstances have taken you beyond God’s plan for your life?  Throughout the Bible God speaks to His people of redemption.  “Repent and come back to me” He tells them over and over.  His arms are always open.  If you need Go’d strength in your circumstances today, be encouraged!  He has promised to leave His Holy Spirit with you to work in and through you to do His good pleasure.  Why not pray and ask Him to fill you with a fresh breath of His Spirit today?  You can pray a prayer something like this:

“Dear Father, I need You. I acknowledge that I have been directing my own life and that, as a result, I have sinned against You. I thank You that You have forgiven my sins through Christ’s death on the cross for me. I now invite Christ to again take His place on the throne of my life. Fill me with the Holy Spirit as You commanded me to be filled, and as You promised in Your Word that You would do if I asked in faith. I now thank You for directing my life and for filling me with the Holy Spirit.”

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? If so, bow in prayer and trust God to fill you with the Holy Spirit right now.

If you prayed this prayer, we would love to hear about it!


90 Responses to “Recognizing Your Boaz: Getting a second chance”

  • Chris Chris says:

    stefani…we lift you up before jesus throne of grace and mercy today so that you can follow his perfect plan for your life including the people he would have to help you along your journey in accordance with his promise in isaiah 43.4 in the old testament in jesus name amen!

  • Stefani says:

    It is so comforting to know that I am not alone in my feelings and journey. I have been reminded of the story of Ruth and Boaz time and time again. I relate and then eventually my humanness and longing desires to have a God fearing man in my life take over. Then once again, God gently reminds me by speaking through writings like this. Thank you for sharing your story. Thank you for God’s reminder of His love for us. Thank you for letting me know I am not alone. I too want a man to love and to love me back. But I will not settle for anyone than Gods best for me. I just need to learn how to overcome those times when my patience is weak and when my emotions are flying in different directions. Someday it will just happen, right??

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear heavenly Father.

    Lord I lift up my friends to you that You will comfort them in many ways and that they will feel your presence, in Jesus name amen

  • JC says:

    It will soon be 8 years since my husband died. I have recently had my heart broken by a man that I believed was my earthly Boaz. He, too is widowed. It will soon be two years since our first date and on Thanksgiving he told me it was not going to work. He had said he loved me and wanted to grow old with me. We went to church every week and prayed together. I still love him. My heart is bruised but I know that God did not toss me aside. I’m praying about this and trusting God for His will to be accomplished. Will you pray for me?

  • Kasa says:

    I love the story of Ruth and Boaz, I am currently getting married in 42 days. I am seeking to ensure that my second chance is right and in Gods calling. He is a great God with real second chances I examine myself to ensure I have the foundation needed and the reputation. Thanks for this story I needed it!

  • Chris Chris says:

    panashe…i praise jesus for the wisdom he is building in your life and pray with you that with your solid foundation in christ and building thereon, you will masterly look for the person jesus has planned for you as your husband and co-inheritor in this life amen! 1 cor 3

  • panashe says:

    Hello ,
    For some reason God led me to read the story Of Ruth & I have heard the story before, but had forgotten about it . I just love this story. It has taught me a lot about God and relationships in just a short amount of time. This story clearly shows God’s faithfulness and love. It makes me want to be more like Ruth.. “a woman of noble character” that is my deepest desire, to be a woman led by God in all her ways. In all my 18 years of life I have been wrong about relationships. I thought expressing your feelings to a guy , vice versa is a way to ensure a good relationship. I was wrong, in order to build a good relationship there has to be a foundation first. Boaz and Ruth didnt start out being all romantic with eachother, they were just friends & they observed eachother’s characters & when they saw how good their characters were for eachother they married. Wow.. Its all God.

    My prayer is simply to be a woman of noble character. I want to be led by God in all my ways & I also want my Boaz in the name of jesus. Thank You & God bless

  • SHARON says:

    Was lead to this site and I am believing for my BOAZ
    I just dont want to have meet 1000 men to get to my BOAz I do realize I must be friends first I just want GODS PREFECT will done Thank you for standing in agreement with me

  • Chris Chris says:

    mary…we pray for your request before Gods throne of mercy and supply knowing that God has a right time for all of our needs to be met. we send you mark 11.22 to 24 for your encourgement today in jesus name!

  • Mary says:

    I’m asking for prayer for God to bless me in the new year to meet my
    Boaz he has chosen for me. I know in my faith in the Lord he has
    a chosen God fearing Boaz for me. Praying in faith for Gods chosen
    equal yolk for me. I trust God for that man that “speaks the same language”
    as I & that’s the ( Love of Christ ). I believe & trust in faith that the chosen
    “Boaz that God has chosen for me is for me” is forme in the New Year. God
    blessed Ruth & in faith & belief in God he will bless me the same.

  • Sharon Sharon says:

    to Lydia– prayer-father God I pray for Lydia right now for her Boaz to come along her path. God you love her. lead her to a man she cam love and a man to love her I pray you do have good plans for her plans to give her a future and a hope in the bible it says I know the plans I have for you to give you not to harm you but to give you a hope and a future. I pray for patience for her and give her a miracle this Christmas for a good Godly man to come along her path I pray all of this in JESUS name amen I am praying for you. I pray hope for you that a Boaz will come along your path I pray soon. I feel for you. I know people who waited for their Boaz they did get married. love Sharon

  • Lydia says:

    Thank you! I have been struggling for so long! I have been feeling a burden of shame for some of my past and feeling like I may have missed my Boaz. I have been tempted to revert back to an old flame but I know in my heart that is not the path I should be taking. God has a Boaz just waiting for me! A man who will love me for me, a man that is everything that I need and most importantly a man who will lead me closer to God. I needed to read this tonight and I thank God for his intervention and for your writing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for reminding me in an hour of desperation that I have a Boaz who will be my provider, protector, intercessor, coverer and redeemer.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Donnasue, glad that this article was of help to you!

    Lord, thank You for loving Donnasue as your beloved daughter. May she continue to wait patiently for the husband You have in mind for her. May You richly bless her in this waiting period. In Jesus’ name, Amen

  • Donnasue says:

    This is truly a blessing to me. I have repented to God for trying to make relationships work. I enjoy companionship and I vow to wait on God for the mate he has for me. I’m waiting in action and preparing myself as the Lord continue to humble my spirit

  • Chris Chris says:

    ann…we lift up your needs to the lord jesus. we pray for your Christian mate in Gods timing, way and purpose. lord receive glory now for supplying ann all she needs that pertains to this life in jesus name amen!

  • theresa says:

    pray god sends me a husband like boaz god fearing man that will do what it says to in the bible for me to have faith and not give up. for god to make away for me to meet a husband that he wants for me

  • Ann says:

    Lord please may I be liftd higher restore me and provide me with an honourable man such as Boaz and more please bless me with a husband please pray with me

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up Sonia to You at this time in her life that You will bless her as she is seeking a husband, in Jesus Name Amen

  • Sonia says:

    A couple of weeks ago I had a vision with me hugging a man and then I had to leave it seemed I was going some where. This is the first time The Lord showed me a man. When I woke up the Holy Spirit told me that was my husband. Today as I came to speck to The Lord I asked God was that my husband in the vision? As I waited for God to speck to me I heard him say Boaz I had heard of this name but never knew the story. How wonderful is this love story. To God I give the glory and I will wait until God sends my Boaz. All we have to do his BELIEVE. God bless you and as we seek the Almighty God may he be your comforter in the present time. Let God be your Bridegroom and Husband until he sends you your earthly husband.

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up Lux Gansion to you at this time in there life, that You will bless them. In Jesus name amen

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord i lift up Grace to You at this time in her life, that you will bless her beyond measure. In Jesus name Amen

  • Grace says:

    Thank you all for sharing this on this site. God has led me to read ruth and i have been reading the same chapter, ruth 3 over and over again. I am not sure why God led to it but i love what your son said Doris and at the same time confuses me. Thanks Ah for sharing your story. I really want Boaz as well, i have been praying for him a lot.

  • Doris Beck Doris Beck says:

    I have to share something with you that my son once told my daughter after she told him she had been dating someone that had potential. His advice to her was…..”Don’t ever date potential!!! That’s as good as it gets!’ In other words, don’t date someone that you want to change. While you are dating he should be on his best behavior and if you now that is ‘very dark’ as you said, then perhaps you need to reconsider your relationship.

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord i lift up my friend to you at this time that you will comfort them and heal them in Your own special way. In Jesus name amen

  • catherine says:

    hiya I love this story however im a 19 year old girl who knows what she wants in life I believe awareness is key to love and have felt connected to and seen the potential in a man whos 29 he treats me with kindness yet isn’t on the same spiritual level as me as he is very dark.He is known to be a bit of a handful as he seeks happiness in other thing please jesus change his heart and get him a job so he realises his raw potential <3

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up my sisters to You at this time that they will lean on You for a mate in there life. That they will seek Your guidance in this area. In Jesus name Amen

  • Terri says:

    Thank you for such a beautiful story. The story of Ruth speak to all women out there. If we were all so patient & we were trusting God, we would save ourself all this painful experiences that we end up going through. Ruth was patient, loyal & had faith in The Lord. She didn’t even use self effort to win Boaz. I guess for me the moral of this story is that God speaks to a man about marriage, he sets the time & the how & uses a man to persued a woman. A woman.s job is to place her heart in God.s hands. God will sure place in the hands of a worthy & deserving man.

  • Sissy says:

    Hello. Been married for 12 yrs now, but my husband has been emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive. Started in a church with very strict legalism. Tried to change me when we first married. March I realized there is more to being married than what I had. I began to fast, pray, read my Bible, seek and even got marriage counseling. My husband thought it selfish of me to work on me. I’m saved, I’m forgiven, move on. No, I wanted a deeper walk with God. Getting to the point where everything I did was wrong, I stopped talking to him. We separated June 28th. I don’t feel the love I’m suppose to for him. We are better as friends. For now. I found the page, ‘Modern Day Ruth’ on Facebook. It is amazing. And yes, I have read Ruth a couple of times. I want a Boaz. I want to feel that kind of love. I come from a dad who always told me I was worthless, wouldn’t amount to anything. In a way, my husband did the same thing to me. He would even use scripture against me. I am still fasting, praying, reading, seeking… I’ve lost 30 lbs since May 11. I’m a big girl and have a lot more to lose. What is your advice? Thank you and thank you for your inspiration!

  • Janice says:

    I have been listening more closely to my spirit.I was told today that i reminded someone of Abigail. So I read the story of Abigail which led me to Boaz and Ruth. Its always so amazing how loudly God speaks to us sometimes. Thanks for such an inspiring post!

  • AH says:

    Hi there Doris-

    About a month ago The Lord revealed to me the man that I’m supposed to marry. This man is a true man of character and integrity who loves Jesus. Anyway, God directed me to take read the book of Ruth for insight and confirmation that what He said was true. I had never read that book and after reading I was still confused. So God gave me a dream of this same man sending me a letter saying that he would be honored to be my future husband. It’s been a month and I keep asking The Lord if this is all really true and He says, “trust me and have faith.”

    Do you think that this really could be true, especially if God directed me to the book of Ruth and gave me that dream? Also this post was very inspiring, thank you for writing it!!!

    Love and blessings.

  • Alfred Alfred says:

    Though still married for almost 52 years, I know of several widows who have relied on the Lord’s support to raise their families. HE has come through strong in all cases. Knowing that her son was on a date with his girlfriend, this mother would sometimes pray that he come home. Every time it happened, God would send that boy home and he would be there within about 20 minutes! Those boys grew up to be fine young men! Another widow has 2 daughters and one son, who all love Jesus and are doing well in their chosen careers…. God is blessing them, and who knows, there may be a Boaz that will find one or both of these widows that I mentioned. I also know a man whom I used to work with, whose wife left him. Several years later he married a beautiful single lady that was about his age, and now they are in a Christian ministry together.
    For someone who still feels that there is too much filthy baggage for God to accept, take courage, for God will clean us up AFTER we come to Him. So never say “never”; we serve a loving God who sometimes gives second chances!

  • Cathy says:

    Hi Doris, Thank-you so much for your sweet prayer! Funny thing, before I read your response my daughter who lives with me was offered a job on Monday night! Praise the Lord!!! She had been unemployed for almost 3 months. Also, the next day after reading your response I sensed a sweet peace and comfort all day while out shopping with my daughter. I noticed that the Lord was giving us several little blessings of convenience like upfront parking spots,a great doctor’s appt. for me, a yummy supper, and a good shopping experience finding new clothes for my daughter’s new job! But mainly the feeling of being more content in Him. No Boaz as of yet! But, I have been emailing occasionally with a nice, godly, widowed man for friendship only who I had met on a dating site a couple of months ago. Maybe the Lord will honor your prayers for us and allow it to develop into something more!? But if not, I will still trust that the Lord will be faithful in caring for me and my children! Peace and blessings in Christ as we approach Resurrection Day! :)

  • PK says:

    Vanity although it didn’t happen in front of me, my husband took his life in 2013 in our bedroom after being together for 12 years and married for the last three years… and I could only imagine your pain in having to see that! God has brought us this far to leave us now so continue to trust Him. I focus on our five year old son who is now without a father ad I’m praying that The Lord sends a Godly man into our lives to help me raise him as being a single mother to males in this day and times is not easy. I pray Good’s continued blessing on yo and that you will get all the desires of your heart in His perfect timing!!!!!

  • Doris Beck Doris Beck says:

    Cathy and Debbie I am so sorry for your losses. The resources you mentioned are great Cathy. I personally recommend the Jerry Sittser book, A Grace Disguised, often because it is the best book I have read on loss and grief.

    Let me pray for both of you right now,
    God, you are the God of all comfort and I thank you that You are that God for Cathy and Debbie. You are their strong tower, their refuge and their rock! Lord I pray today that You would fulfill their hearts’ desires for a Boaz to come into their lives. Thank you Lord that You haven’t changed and that You are still the God of miracles. Perform those miracles for them dear Lord. Amen

  • Cathy says:

    Dear Vanity, I’m so sorry for your loss and what you had to witness. Here are two scripture references that have been close to my heart and have greatly encouraged me as I learn to be content in the Lord and as I wait for my Boaz! Isaiah54: 4-8 and 61:1-4. Probably when the yearnings for our Boaz subside is when he’ll arrive! ;) Also, two good grief resources are the books A Grace Disguised by Jerry Sittser and Postcards From The Widow’s Path by Ferre Hardy(she also has a widow’s blog at You’re in my prayers! May you always feel the Lords comfort and peace as your go through your “new phase” of life!

  • Vanity says:

    what encouraging words..I myself im a widow. ?.my husband of 12 years committed suicide in front of me 1 year ago …it has been a journey” but”if it wasn’t for my faith and for my Jesus I would have crumbled..I’m believing my Heavenly Father is preparing my boaz..
    l tell all my girlfriends God is preparing my boaz..I believe that with all my heart I will continue seeking God Optimus wisdom …and remember his word never returned back void..I miss my husband so very much he was my very best friend be sides Jesus of course!! if you could keep me in your prayers that God would replace that vold in my heart …I know Gods Word says he loves the widow so I should lean on his promise..what an amazing God we serve! ?.blessings to you
    God Bless

  • Cathy says:

    Thanks for an encouraging article! It makes me think of the Bible verse Isaiah 61:3 “beauty for ashes.” As a new believer many years ago when I first heard a sermon on The Book of Ruth it was early on in my marriage. I thought to myself I’d never follow my Mother-In-Law like Ruth did! Now I’m a widow of 4+ yrs, and recently my mother-in-law has became a widow too! We’ve never had a good relationship, but I felt led by the Holy Spirit to help her. I think part of the “second chance” application for me is to show godly love towards her for God’s glory! Also, I was starting to feel like I wasn’t worthy of another husband with godly qualities because of the baggage that comes along with being widowed, like how Ruth felt. Middle age love is not like first love at age 17! :) I figured I would have to accept second best or less at my age and because of my baggage. But, your article reminded me it’s about God’s will and plan for my life, not about my circumstances in what God chooses for me, but for His glory! He doesn’t want me to have less than the best! He doesn’t want me to listen to the evil one who whispers lies. But, I do know whether or not the Lord allows me another earthly husband is that He is my Kinsman-Redeemer for now and eternity through His son Jesus! I will be content in that knowledge by His grace and tender mercies. I’ve passed this article along to a widowed friend who is going through a similar situation as me. I’m sure she will be blessed from your article as well! Peace and blessings in Christ!

  • Antoinette Darden says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge on Boaz character. Reading this article has blessed me emencely. I believe that my Boaz shall come and redeem me in Gods perfect timing. Thanks again!

  • Doris Beck D. Beck says:

    Cynthia I too love the story of Ruth and Boaz and the power of redemption! I agree with what you said,’ our plan should be to develop a stronger relationship with Christ continue to keep our body pure and holy(celibate) keep reading his word to encourage ourselves, once we seek him first im positive thats when Boaz will find us!’

    The focus for everyone, single or married should be to seek God first and find our fulfillment in Him and Him alone!!

  • I love the story of Ruth and Boaz, it lets me kniw that there is still hope out there but, we must be willing to wait on the lord for the man he has designed for us, we have to remind ourselves we are queens and deserve nothing less than a king, in my life i struggled with this thinking i ,have done to much in the past for God to ever send some one for me but, we have to free our minds of those thoughts that are not of God,so our plan should be to develop a stronger relationship with Christ continue to keep our body pure and holy(celibate) keep reading his word to encourage ourselves, once we seek him first im positive thats when Boaz will find us!

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