Recognizing Your Boaz: Getting a second chance

Written by Aisha Long-Bascom

spiritualgrowth_secondchanceWhen my precocious five-year-old prophesied that she’d one day marry a prince, have a big wedding, and become a nice mommy with lots of children, I smiled. I was moved by the purity of her hope, but then the unexpected happened–I began to weep.

Every tear unearthed memories of my own age of innocence, when I too believed that my life would unfold with such accuracy and simplicity.  Somewhere along the road I had left behind the little girl I once was. I scoffed at the dreamy teenager who yearned for happy endings, and morphed into a single-mother convinced that a series of wrong turns had disqualified me from receiving God’s best.

Even though I had repented and rededicated my life to Christ; I still feared that I forfeited my right to God’s promises.  My daughter’s proclamations reminded me of Ruth’s story.

One evening after the toys were stacked, with tear-stained hands I leafed through the book of Ruth. The Lord started teaching me about Ruth.  He reminded me that their story is proof that God is a God of second chances.

Ruth’s story

While the humbling field experience served as a reaping ground for Ruth, it was a proving ground for Boaz. Before Boaz ever said “I do” — he did. As Ruth worked to sustain herself and her mother-in-law, God used that time not only to establish Ruth’s reputation as an honorable believer within her community, but to allow Boaz an opportunity to exhibit the five essential components of his character. He proved himself to be a provider, a protector, an intercessor, a coverer, and a redeemer.

Though Boaz was a man of wealth and power, he was humble enough to respect a converted Gentile woman, and wise enough to admire her courage, devotion, kindness, and fidelity to Naomi (Ruth 2:11).  He considered himself blessed to be wanted by a woman who he believed could have gone after a younger man (Ruth 3:10).

Boaz’s kindness and admiration was so overwhelming that at one point Ruth asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me– a foreigner.” (Ruth 2:10) Like many of us Ruth felt that her past, her poverty, and her status as a foreigner in Bethlehem made her less than the other women. Yet, Boaz “noticed” her. In Hebrew the word “notice” means to “acknowledge with honor, to understand.”

So it wasn’t that Boaz simply saw her, he understood and revered her. He understood that Ruth was more than the culmination of her past misfortunes and present dire circumstances.  He honored the woman she was within and the woman that she could become if he became her coverer and redeemer.

Are you a Ruth?

God desires for us to see Ruth and Boaz’s union as an example of how He “notices”, loves, and redeems each of us, especially those who feel as though life has ravaged all promise and purpose.

Ruth was a woman who lacked the right pedigree, position, and purity that most people would have expected a man like Boaz to desire:

  • she was not Jewish, she was a foreigner
  • she was not a virgin, but a widower
  • she was not wealthy; she was less than a servant girl

Yet, she obtained favor from an honorable man who loved her wholeheartedly and willfully provided, protected, covered, prayed for, and ultimately redeemed her.

Boaz loved Ruth because of her character and her heart. When Boaz agreed to redeem Ruth, one of the first things he said was, “All my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character” (Ruth 3:11). He felt blessed to have such a woman and in turn blessed her with the “rest” that Naomi prayed Ruth would one day find in the home of another husband (Ruth 1:9), the rest that many of us long for and can find in God.

So now when my daughter optimistically prophesies into her future, instead of weeping, I too employ my tongue as the “pen of a ready writer” calling those things which be not as though they were (Rom 4:17), believing that I can be blessed with a second chance Boaz, God’s very best.

We are expected to learn from her story and to follow her example by genuinely submitting to Jehovah God whom she trusted her present and her future with.  And to the woman who feels that your situation is so dire and your past so shameful, that no one is equipped to love someone like you–be encouraged!

What made Boaz perfect for Ruth had very little to do with his relationship to Naomi, his influence, or his wealth. It was the fact that he was the son of Rahab (Mat 1:5), a Harlot woman who by grace (undeserved favor) was wedded to one of the Israelite princes. Thus, Boaz spent his childhood in preparation, observing the love and respect his royal father showed to his mother.

Thanks to the glorious God we serve who knows the beginning from the end, Ruth’s second chance love was born to the right set of parents, with the right dispositions and experiences to teach their son how to love Ruth with divine precision before she was even born.  What God did for Ruth, He is able to do for you!

Do you struggle with feeling like you are not enough? Do you wonder if your circumstances have taken you beyond God’s plan for your life?  Throughout the Bible God speaks to His people of redemption.  “Repent and come back to me” He tells them over and over.  His arms are always open.  If you need Go’d strength in your circumstances today, be encouraged!  He has promised to leave His Holy Spirit with you to work in and through you to do His good pleasure.  Why not pray and ask Him to fill you with a fresh breath of His Spirit today?  You can pray a prayer something like this:

“Dear Father, I need You. I acknowledge that I have been directing my own life and that, as a result, I have sinned against You. I thank You that You have forgiven my sins through Christ’s death on the cross for me. I now invite Christ to again take His place on the throne of my life. Fill me with the Holy Spirit as You commanded me to be filled, and as You promised in Your Word that You would do if I asked in faith. I now thank You for directing my life and for filling me with the Holy Spirit.”

Does this prayer express the desire of your heart? If so, bow in prayer and trust God to fill you with the Holy Spirit right now.

If you prayed this prayer, we would love to hear about it!


123 Responses to “Recognizing Your Boaz: Getting a second chance”

  • Aldo says:

    Chas Young, thank you for that tremendous testimony. I am sure it will minister to those who visit this page and read it. I pray that God would use it to draw many who are in a like situation as you were, closer to Himself and the Savior, Jesus Christ.

    May God continue to bless you and use you as you endeavor to live for Him and serve Him, in Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

  • Chas Young says:

    I am a 38 y/o female who felt exactly like that, like I had missed out on the goodness of God because of had past decisions. In my early 20s I married a man that had no relationship with God and I was just starting to learn who He (God) was due to death in my family. I tried to grow closer to God but it was basically impossible because of the union I was in. I divorced him and began my journey to learn who God is. Even in those years I made bad decisions in picking men. I finally grew tired of all the bad choices and decided to trust and believe in God’s promise. Even though I could not see it and had no other choice but to believe it. I had written down everything I wanted in my husband, a union that would never end. My Boaz had found me and he is everything I written in my note to God. It is truly amazing. God is amazing. I’m still in awe at his goodness. I had given up on myself when God was still waiting for me to come to Him to show me how he takes care of those who follow him. I could go on and on. It’s like my new friend and I have known each other all our lives and just met. He came to me. I didn’t have to search like I was doing. Boaz has finally arrived just for me and he thinks I’m perfect just the way I am. God is real.

  • Susan says:


    God has a plan in your life. He loves you that is why again and again you feel the pinch. In the Bible in 1 John 1:9 …If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. This is applicable if you are already accepted Christ as your personal savior. If not, then first you have to commit your life to Jesus. He loves us. No matter our past is so bad but if you are Really willing to change, then He is ready to forgive and accept you ask His child. Now, if you are already committed your life to Jesus and then again sinning, God still gives us chance that is 1 John 1:9. But, every time if you confess and then again doing the same sin..again then God will punish us. If you are willing to change, then God will help us to overcome. He knows that we are not so strong to overcome.

    MaKeda, you go to God the way you are and ask for forgiveness(say one by one). Read Psalm 1. If your friend is not interested in listening about God then I would suggest you to stay away from him. Because, this type of relation can steal your spiritual life. Please be careful. Stay with people who are walking with God, obeying His word, those who are hunger and thirst for God…be with such people. God gives us chances. Use it wisely. Be and live like a child of God.

    I would encourage you to log on to

    Let me pray for nyou.

    Father God,

    I pray that You guide MaKeda and draw her closer to YOu. Holy Spirit, teach her Your ways and guide Your child. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  • MaKeda says:

    Hello, I recently receiver my Bachelor’s degree from college, I’m 22 years old, and I am a proud woman of God in the making. My love for God is consistently growing but I have a dilemma. As all may say I wasn’t the perfect example of a Christian. During my college experience I was in an on and off relationship with this guy who I just knew was the one for me. I lost my virginity in college, I was going down the wrong path by seeking attention from different guys, having sex, partying and drinking and I distanced myself from God. I knew what I wAs doing was wrong but because my spirit man was not strong enough I continued to straddle the fence. Now when I met this guy, he didn’t take a personal relationship serious, he didn’t go to church often, barely read His word, and always made me feel like I couldn’t talk about God a lot and we have awkward conversations when I bring it up. He only did things according to God’s word because I wanted him too and there was no self driven actions from him. Over these four years he took some things more seriously but I don’t feel like he helps me grow spiritually and he doesn’t lead as a man of God to me. Everything seems logic to him. He’s all about making money to provide for himself and me if I need help and money is required to make me happy when we go out on dates and stuff. The type of man I want in my life is someone I can talk to about God and can relate with each other, somebody I can go to church with and feel like we both want to be there and not just me alone, someone who suggest to do things like reading our word together and talking about different things in the bible or about Jesus that can help both of us grow together spirtiually…I feel like when I’m with him I’m holding back my full potential of being myself and sometimes I fall short be cause I find myself being negative about situations I know I can just pray to God and forget about it or using language that I wasn’t raised to let pass my lips, or feel like I’m settling with Christ. As for an old friend of mine that I recently started talking to and getting back in touch with, he is now a minister and we can talk and hold a conversation no less than an hour and talk about God and everything that can relate to it and I feel so opened and free to be a true Christian, old feelings have kind of stirred back up between us but I’m still talking to the other guy and trying to see if things will work. Maybe I’m wrong about the guy I’ve been talking to and just go along with him having his own type of relationship with Christ… But I feel that if I were to continue the friendship with the old friend and grow stronger with him, I would be happier and feel that our relationship will have a strong foundation of God and He will always be first in everything we do, I don’t know how to know who my “Boaz” is and I don’t want to make a big mistake and be unhappy for the rest of my life, please help me

  • Chris says:

    talesha…i regret to hear of your situation. at the same time i encourage you with exodus 15.26, psalm 103, psalm 37.4 among many others where God, who cannot lie has promised to give us the desires of our hearts and to heal our lives. remember what jesus said so many times during his ministry to needy people….be it unto you according to your faith. we know God has no limits. he can do anything and everything but the only limits he might have are the ones we place upon him. God does have his men who know how to love uncondtionally. i am not perfect, but that is how i love my wife. otherwise i wouldnt remain married to her. we are just too different to live under the same roof but by Gods grace. as you seek the lord for the desires of your heart, he is listening to you but you must be willing to follow his instructions, be at the right place at the right time so you can meet your mate. he wont be knocking on your door per se. we need to be acting on our faith as james 2 teaches us, being in Christian churches with Gods family so God can form our own for us. exodus 1.21. i pray that jesus brings you your Christian mate because for jesus nothing will be impossible. luke 1.37. blessings to you!!

  • Talesha says:

    Thank you Ms. Kathryn I needed that encouragement. Because I am a bald woman who has alopecia, men don’t want a woman like me. But I realize that the Lord God is my husband. The story of Ruth is encouraging, and I know that every woman desires a Boaz like ruth has, because I do. But there are no Godly men any more that will accept, love a woman unconditionally. Men accept and love on condition, and they are visual. Of course we all desire someone who is fine got it going on got the banging body and looks, but this is reality every one is not made the same nor look the same. We all deserve to be loved like God loves us. That’s why I’m single. God bless you all

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    I am always thankful that we have so much to learn every time we turn to the Bible to get wisdom and advice about any matter. The (true) story of Ruth and Boaz is certainly exciting and encouraging to all and how we need it in this day and age when there is so much controversy about marriage. Our young people especially need our prayers in this matter. As an “old hand” at marriage (and to the same man!) I have personal experience how satan is constantly trying to destroy marriages and also families. We need to be alert to this and seek to come alongside those of all ages who may need good teaching as well as spiritual counsel even before they think about marriage as well as issues that may surface afterwards. Marriage is not just for us it is also meant to represent the mystical union of Christ and His bride, the church. This is another reason why we need to be firmly grounded in God’s principles for the gift of marriage so that our testimony may be to His glory.

  • Chris says:

    What a lovely inspiring article. Thank you for the courage to share it. I too am waiting for my Boaz. His character , love and humble disposition is what I desire in a man. Most of all, I desire a man with a heart after God. If he is in a growing relationship with God,and a student of his word, he will Love me as Christ love the church and gave his life for it. I was divorced after 14 years of marriage because of horrific betrayal. I was washed, purified and redeemed, set free from that marriage. Ten years later, I remarried a man that I had to be an example to, he passed away two years after we married. He too was not Gods perfect plan of a husband for me but he graced us. However, there were many trials in that marriage and Gods mercy covered us. I believe my husband is at rest in the Lord. I am now 52 and waiting for my Boaz. A man after Gods own heart, a man to serve God, family, friends and strangers with. A man to love me and me him according to Gods standard. Because of your article, I have the courage to share. May God bless you with one awesome Boaz. Be blessed lovely and highly favored daughter of the most high God.


  • Susan says:


    Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I am so happy for you. You are a child of God and You know how to handle things. God bless you my sister. But, just keep on praying for your precious husband. God’s ways are not our ways.

    God bless you Kris.

  • Jen says:

    God is truly amazing!

  • Elkay Elkay says:

    Kris, back on May 26, when you said “If a man is going to love you correctly, he must love God crazy first and foremost.” you nailed it! At the highest level, marriage is a spiritual connection between and woman and a man that in some manner emulates the Trinity. In other words, just as the Father, Son and Holy Spirit are differentiated in the Trinity by their roles and relationship to one another, in the same manner, a husband and wife are defined by their roles and relationship to one another. This is what is mean by “become one flesh” in Gen 2:27 and is also why marriage is a sacred institution created by God to honor Himself.

    “Loving correctly” is a deliberate decision (not an emotion) to take the love God has for you and let it flow from Him through you to your mate, regardless of whether they respond appreciatively or respond in kind.

    Despite the obvious challenges, as God said, “It is not good for man to be alone” and so if you can achieve a successful marriage, you will also find satisfaction in life that cannot be replaced by any other relationship other than that with God Himself.

    And since nothing is impossible with God we pray, “Abba Father, You created marriage as a sacred institution so that man and woman could bind together, become one in Your eyes, reflect Your image and worship You. Please make Kris’ husband know that marriage is a decision to be committed to her no matter what, and from that commitment, may unselfish love again flow between them as they receive Your love. May they minimize each other’s weaknesses, praise and magnify each other’s points of beauty and strength, and again see each other through a lover’s kind and patient eyes. And then, Lord, give them a great spiritual purpose in life so that they seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness and honor You forever. We ask for this in the powerful name of Jesus. Amen.”

  • Kris L. Allen says:

    My husband and I were not Christians when we married. We became Christians 4 years later. We’ve been married for 30 years this November. He has barely moved past baby Christian. He has no desire to seek a relationship with GOD in the same sense that I do. GOD is almost in my every thought and deed, and is just a passing thought for him. GOD has already told me that my husband will never exceed his relationship status to more than what it is. He knows whose hearts are totally devoted to him, and whose are not. Just like he exiled the Israelites for 70 years, He knew they would never turn to him until 3 generations later in captivity. He has already told me this. He gives me insight as to what is “going” to happen, and who is and isn’t fully devoted to him. My husband has a saving knowledge of GOD, for that I am thankful. I know that when GOD finally does take my husband, for the first time in his life, he will be completely and totally happy and free. Right now, depression has a stronghold on him, like in the parable of the sower. The worries of this life, choke the life out of him, therefore, he is not fruitful. He is a good man, just not a godly father or husband. I am trapped in a loveless/romance free marriage. We both had cancer last year, and his cancer “killed” him, if you can understand that. I am blessed with GOD’s extra presence though, so I am grateful. GOD makes up for what our husbands lack.

  • Susan says:


    You are right. Yes, His grace…that is what we require.

  • Susan says:


    Praise God! I am glad that this article helped/encouraged you.

  • Susan says:


    God is Almighty, He is the Creator of this universe. Everything belongs to Him, He is the beginning and the end. His wisdom is beyond our imagination. So, why are you thinking, you will not get marry? For God, all things are possible. Ask God for His will be done in your life. He loves you and care you. I appreciate you Talesha that you still have faith. God is your everything…wow!

    Let’s pray:

    Father God, I pray for Your child,Talesha for a right partner. Lord, bless her and I pray for Your will in Talesha’s life. Thank You for hearing our prayers. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

  • Susan says:


    I know living with an ungodly husband is not easy. It’s like two parties in the house. I know because my husband is not saved yet. But, Kris, I have experienced one thing that, it is useless to force them for seomehing especially God and God related things. It is better, we go on our knees and cry out for them. Kris, when did you accepted Jesus as your personal savior? Before marriage or after marriage?

  • Kris L. Allen says:

    I have a husband, believe me, you don’t want to settle for anything less than GOD’s best. There is NOTHING worse than being trapped in a marriage with an unGodly man. Thirty years, with 26 of them as me growing in Christ and him growing in his hobbies, to the point that they have replaced me in his heart. He said a man should have hobbies, I say a man should have GOD first, then hobbies, but he’s not interested in the GOD thing. So, I say wait patiently for your Boaz or you might end up with a Mahlon, and you don’t want one of those. Lord knows, there are way more Mahlon’s than Boaz’s. If a man is going to love you correctly, he must love GOD crazy first and foremost. Blessings to you, and thanks for this article. It gives me hope that someday, GOD will rescue me from a husband who can teach a college course on how to reject one’s wife!

  • God's own says:

    Tanesha, the Word of God says that without faith, it is impossible to please Him. It also says that whatever you ask in Jesus name, not doubting, you will receive. I stand in agreement with you right now for the blessings God has in store for you. Have you asked for restoration? God will give you hair and a husband, or He will give you a husband who will love you with no hair, it is whatsoever you say. Lord, bless my sister with your exceedingly abundantly above all that she can imagine or think. Your ways and thoughts are higher than ours, so we humble ourselves and submit to Your will. Thank you in advance for sending Your angels to comfort her while she waits. In Jesus name.

  • Talesha says:

    I read all of the beautiful comments on this site. They are encouraging. I don’t mean to sound negative of anything, but I , know that a Boaz will never want me. I have alopecia, I have no hair I am bald, my body doesn’t look the best but im grateful to God for loving me rite where I am all my imperfections. I will never be married again, but my husband God loves me. me and my family are going threw a lot rite now. Maybe one day we will know what it really feels like to be abundantly blessed like the word says. And experience and real man of God in our life. Rite now that’s impossible

  • Alfred says:

    What a thrill, Joice, that you’ve now received encouragement and hope! We DO serve a God who gives second chances and sometimes opens doors we did not even know existed.
    I was increasingly distressed at my wife’s growing obesity, to the point that I was looking for someone else to embrace, but never found anyone. Then God showed me her inner beauty! We took a class called “Married for Life” (by Marriage-Ministries International). That was my second chance at a lovely marriage. I am so very thankful!

  • Joice Freeman says:

    So powerful your sensitivity to the presence of God in the passage of text, you’ve pulled the very essence of God who is married to the believer. I am reminded to cling to the reality of his presence in my daily experience of living as a single woman. I’m encouraged to hold onto the presence and the promise thesr scriptures teach about living a surrendered life to the creator, and that I to can have this blessing of a Godly man in my life. I am invigorated with hope, Thank you and Bless God.

  • Nadia says:

    Truly an inspiration. ….I’ve been feeling like that lately but now i feel hopefully. I feel empowered. I KNOW that God will come true for me. Thank you.

  • Eva says:

    I heard often enough about the story of Ruth and Boaz, in fact, I read the Book of Ruth a couple of times too but I never really got it in those times. I only had head knowledge then. But your post spoke to my heart and enlightened me of the extent of their love story. Thank you so much as now I have a much clearer idea of what my Boaz is supposed to be like. Most importantly, Ruth gave me hope for second chance at love that God can indeed grant us grace, an undeserved favour! Thank you God for giving me hope this evening.

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