Comments on: Dads, Princesses and the Power of Woo

By: Human Being

Human Being — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:21:19 +0000

This article is really enriching, emotional, fulfilling, engrossing dream of every daughter, girl, and woman. The beauty of nature comes true when a child opens its eyes first time to see the happiness of her mother who is still bewildered by her creation and still trying to understand how she could achieve such a marvellous creation. Next the child sees another pair of eyes (father’s) worried with the thought as to how he is going to protect her from the evil spirits of world around in which she is born. This child grows surrounded by illusion created by her parents that the world is so beautiful and that people can only be good and never be otherwise. Not even a thought of unwise behaviour of people that ever crosses her brain, until one day she opens her eyes to the actual world around her to see the world is not what she has been thinking. A world filled with rage, jealousy, inhuman tendencies, she would be enraged by her own thoughts, how could she been in dark so long. Lots of questions creep up her little brain, which is borne by a woman who has not actually seen the world for such long! She has truly had her rebirth into the actual world! With whom is she expected to fight, herself? Her parents? Or any other evil beings in the world?
She probably hopes that, had she never opened her eyes to this real world, would her illusion world been any better? But she has to face the facts, she has to learn a lot, she probably would not know where to start, she would need help of strong shoulders to lean on, to face the world and soft heart to cry to and a warm heart in whom she would devote her complete self! Yes it is the story of every daughter, girl, and woman.

By: Octavia

Octavia — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 06:55:14 +0000

A very true article. The sad part is when you don’t have that special relationship with your father and you settle for receiving love and attention from whoever is willing to give it. Growing up you do not realise that something is missing in your life, that affirmation that you are special and beautiful. A father who not only provides and brings home the cash, but who is truely present in your life. As a grown woman I realised I was yearning and longing for this kind of relationship with my father, so I initiated “dates” with my father. It was a very special time and I got to know my Dad a bit better. But after a while a very sobering truth hit home, ultimately no human can affirm you the way God intended, only God can do that. I’ve also learnt that a relationship works both ways; both parties need to give and receive. So now I’m grieving a relationship that existed for only a short while. But I’m also learning to accept things the way they are, and learning to accept people the way they are. You can’t change for anybody else, only yourself. And it starts with me becoming the change I want. So to everyone who has that special relationship with their fathers, treasure it. It is life changing and not all of us have that. And fathers, love your daughters as God has intended. If not, someone else will give her what she is longing for. I know.

By: deebee

deebee — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 14:37:05 +0000

Great article Shaun!!! As the mother of two adult daughters I just had to let you know that you are right on!! One of our girls in particular was Daddy’s girl and to this day she has that special relationship with him.

They both still remember going on their dates with Dad(they took turns getting to go for Saturday morning Breakfast) and even what food they ordered!! So good job…keep on taking her on those dates, listen well and tell her she is beautiful. You won’t ever regret the time will spent.

By: Jason Eyre

Jason Eyre — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 00:38:49 +0000

Hey man,
a superb article. I’m not a father yet, honestly I’m not even married. For the past two months the topic in my young adults group has been about sex. I’m learning some key things that would have been good to know well…like 10 years ago when I was 14. Dad’s play a HUGE part in there kids lives or at least they can.

WARNING – Dad’s have a built in RADAR! so if a guy comes knocking and something doesn’t sit right…don’t throw caution to the wind.

Rule one if the boy asks to date your daughter…prayerfully consider and ask the key points ” what are your intentions with my daughter.” If it’s to date…kick him to the curb if it’s to court well ask him to join your family for a few dinners and then you’ll see.

Relationship is key and Shaun Smith covered this well in his article. The “woo” you have with your daughter determines how much of a say you have in your daughters life later in life. Care to little and you’ll have no heard say.

I could go on, but that’s not an area as I said that I know much about on a personal or experience level. Dad’s love your kids, pray for them and be there for them. I use to say ” I hate my dad and never wanted to be like him.” well I’m eating my words today because the things my dad did and taught me has played a KEY role in who I am today and I’m going to apply the same to my kids one day.

Happy Fathers day to all the dad’s out there.

By: Anika

Anika — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 23:56:09 +0000

This is really beautiful, Shaun! The wonderful thing is that I know you live this out every day. You delight in every moment that you spend together with your daughter.
You remind me of the relationship that I have with my father. He never did play dress up with me (he wouldn’t look so good with at tiara), but we did have our “dates”; our time to just be together. We still have them. I treasure every minute of it! I pray that when she is 23, that you and your daughter will still get together for those special moments.
I know for a fact that she will always be thankful to have two amazing Papas. One in heaven, and here on earth.

By: kimu

kimu — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 17:04:00 +0000

hmm, these are good words. as father of a 3yr old i can totally relate. as we watched our daughter receive the princess makeover at disneyland recently, i felt a bittersweet moment thinking ahead to her wedding day and how i might feel when she reached that stage of her life. tears? what tears? no, it was just something in my eye…

thanks for the reminders of how we can play a special part in our daughter’s lives. it’s an important role we have to fill, and too often we only have bad advice and role models.