Comments on: Tackling the Teenage Crisis: Helping Parents Survive Adolescent Rebellion http://powertochange.com Sun, 03 Jun 2012 03:08:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Ogeyi http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1383876 Ogeyi Mon, 21 May 2012 12:53:43 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1383876 Tania, My encouragement to you and joy is this: Jesus has overcome the world (and everything in it)! So for this cause we are charged as christians to rejoice forevermore! If for the sake of our salvation and deliverance Christ went to hades and took the keys of life and death from the enemy, I know your son's salvation is inclusive in this package too! My greatest prayer for him is the grace for him to resist total acceptance of this "medical fact" that might not necessarily be the "gospel truth". When God made all things, HE SAW THAT THEY WERE GOOD. Jesus' love is more than sufficient to save his soul. Be strong, firm and loving as you have always been and try as much as possible to show all the boys EQUAL attention (even though the 17yr old needs alot of that right now). Reward and rebuke your 17 yr old on issues just like you would have before he told you about his sexuality. This will help him through this phase to reassure him about how you feel towards him. Christ loved us while we were yet sinners, this means He loves the sinner, but hates the sin. Your son needs to know that Christ loves Him and is still reaching out to him, no matter what! Above all i pray for God's grace and peace to see you through this period. What people say, may and will hurt but all that TRULY counts is what GOD says. Tania,

My encouragement to you and joy is this: Jesus has overcome the world (and everything in it)! So for this cause we are charged as christians to rejoice forevermore! If for the sake of our salvation and deliverance Christ went to hades and took the keys of life and death from the enemy, I know your son’s salvation is inclusive in this package too!

My greatest prayer for him is the grace for him to resist total acceptance of this “medical fact” that might not necessarily be the “gospel truth”. When God made all things, HE SAW THAT THEY WERE GOOD.
Jesus’ love is more than sufficient to save his soul.

Be strong, firm and loving as you have always been and try as much as possible to show all the boys EQUAL attention (even though the 17yr old needs alot of that right now). Reward and rebuke your 17 yr old on issues just like you would have before he told you about his sexuality. This will help him through this phase to reassure him about how you feel towards him.

Christ loved us while we were yet sinners, this means He loves the sinner, but hates the sin. Your son needs to know that Christ loves Him and is still reaching out to him, no matter what!

Above all i pray for God’s grace and peace to see you through this period.
What people say, may and will hurt but all that TRULY counts is what GOD says.

]]> By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Joel Pukalo is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Joel Pukalo</span> http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1382379 Joel Pukalo Mon, 21 May 2012 04:21:06 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1382379 Tania, my prayers are with you and my heart breaks for this very challenging situation. One of my really good friends is a passionate Christian who desperately want to help homosexuals discover a relationship with Christ and be changed. He has met this incredible friend and mentor named Chad Thompson who has also written the book "Loving Homosexuals as Jesus Would". I would highly recommend reading this book and there is even information in the back of the book to contact Chad to ask for advice and help. Personally, I am learning and find it challenging to authentically express the love of Christ to these individuals while not expressing your approval for what they are doing. It is important to accept and love people how they are but allow God to use you in His time and His way to transform them to be more like Christ. My prayers are with you. Please write me if you need help as one of my friends is very knowledgeable in this area. At times all of us are confused about who we are, but no matter what happens our heavenly Father will never give up on us and do everything possible to keep leading us back to Him. I pray you would be encouraged and know your heavenly Father is actively pursuing your son. Tania, my prayers are with you and my heart breaks for this very challenging situation. One of my really good friends is a passionate Christian who desperately want to help homosexuals discover a relationship with Christ and be changed. He has met this incredible friend and mentor named Chad Thompson who has also written the book “Loving Homosexuals as Jesus Would”. I would highly recommend reading this book and there is even information in the back of the book to contact Chad to ask for advice and help.

Personally, I am learning and find it challenging to authentically express the love of Christ to these individuals while not expressing your approval for what they are doing. It is important to accept and love people how they are but allow God to use you in His time and His way to transform them to be more like Christ.

My prayers are with you. Please write me if you need help as one of my friends is very knowledgeable in this area. At times all of us are confused about who we are, but no matter what happens our heavenly Father will never give up on us and do everything possible to keep leading us back to Him. I pray you would be encouraged and know your heavenly Father is actively pursuing your son.

]]> By: Tania http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1381066 Tania Mon, 21 May 2012 00:53:41 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1381066 Thank you Mikaela and Tony for your reply, I have a wonderful open relationship with my sons and we discuss life situations daily, I have now separated the boys into different rooms due to the arguments and also made it clear that aggressive and offensive behaviour is not tolerated, Mikaela, dont get me wrong I love all my children and would never push them away, I just dont want them hurt in any way at all. Since coming out he has lost most of his friends and has become very withdrawn, he knows I love him and support him and would lay down my life for him. He is a very soft gentle boy and I am concerned he may be misled by others. Of course its not the ideal situation and I would love grandchildren but thats not a necessity in life its a luxury but I certainly want my children to be happy with themselves and their choices. Life is always full of uncertainties so i will keep doing what I been in loving, nurturing and caring for my children as they are the biggest blessing in my life and only God knows what the next step will be. I have trust and faith in him and his decisions and direction. He blessed me with 5 beautiful boys and I will raise them with my complete heart and soul. Thank you Mikaela and Tony for your reply, I have a wonderful open relationship with my sons and we discuss life situations daily, I have now separated the boys into different rooms due to the arguments and also made it clear that aggressive and offensive behaviour is not tolerated,
Mikaela, dont get me wrong I love all my children and would never push them away, I just dont want them hurt in any way at all. Since coming out he has lost most of his friends and has become very withdrawn, he knows I love him and support him and would lay down my life for him. He is a very soft gentle boy and I am concerned he may be misled by others.
Of course its not the ideal situation and I would love grandchildren but thats not a necessity in life its a luxury but I certainly want my children to be happy with themselves and their choices.
Life is always full of uncertainties so i will keep doing what I been in loving, nurturing and caring for my children as they are the biggest blessing in my life and only God knows what the next step will be. I have trust and faith in him and his decisions and direction.
He blessed me with 5 beautiful boys and I will raise them with my complete heart and soul.

]]> By: Michaela http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1379070 Michaela Sun, 20 May 2012 19:55:41 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1379070 Tania, The most important thing is to love your son. Love him hard, and love him strong and make sure that no matter what he knows that you love him and that you are on his side. He is probably incredibly confused and scared right now. I cannot speak for all gay people, but for those that I know personally they have known about their sexuality for years before they express it. It's a terrifying thing to be different, especially this kind of different which seems to close so many doors. I know that some people believe that gay is a choice, but I don't believe that. I have never met a person who chose. I know people who talk of realizing, accepting, coming to terms with, trying to hide or finally admitting that they are gay but I have never met someone who chose it. Who would chose a life that attracts so much hate? Whether or not you get to be a part of your son's life will largely depend on how you treat him now. If you are a safe person, if you are someone who loves him then you'll get to keep your relationship with him. But if you are someone who pulls away from him because of this, or one more person who looks at him with sad and disappointed eyes, you may lose the chance to be part of his life. I know that this is not what you would have chosen for him, and I cannot see the future, I don't know if he will always feel this way or not, but he will remember how you reacted to his secret and he needs you now more than ever. He needs your love, he needs your protection, he needs to be able to talk to you about the things that he's scared about or happy about. As much as you can, make your home a safe haven. Let your other boys know that you will not tolerate meanness directed at your son. Remind them, all the time, that gay and lesbian teens are at a significantly higher risk for suicide. He's likely going to face a lot of negative comments, make sure that your home is not one more place where he has to take that. I realize that this will be a sacrifice for you. This is not what you would have chosen for your son and I can imagine that there is a part of you wondering if certain dreams of yours are dying. Will you see him get married? Will he have kids? Loving him while dealing with your own questions is going to be hard. But you're the grown-up and you're the parent. Hard work is what we signed up for. I would encourage you to get some counselling for yourself. You're going to need someone to lean on too. He's still your son, he's always your son. Pray for him and love him and protect him and walk with him. Choose him and let other people worry about their own opinons. You won't be sorry. Tania, The most important thing is to love your son. Love him hard, and love him strong and make sure that no matter what he knows that you love him and that you are on his side. He is probably incredibly confused and scared right now. I cannot speak for all gay people, but for those that I know personally they have known about their sexuality for years before they express it. It’s a terrifying thing to be different, especially this kind of different which seems to close so many doors.

I know that some people believe that gay is a choice, but I don’t believe that. I have never met a person who chose. I know people who talk of realizing, accepting, coming to terms with, trying to hide or finally admitting that they are gay but I have never met someone who chose it. Who would chose a life that attracts so much hate?

Whether or not you get to be a part of your son’s life will largely depend on how you treat him now. If you are a safe person, if you are someone who loves him then you’ll get to keep your relationship with him. But if you are someone who pulls away from him because of this, or one more person who looks at him with sad and disappointed eyes, you may lose the chance to be part of his life.

I know that this is not what you would have chosen for him, and I cannot see the future, I don’t know if he will always feel this way or not, but he will remember how you reacted to his secret and he needs you now more than ever. He needs your love, he needs your protection, he needs to be able to talk to you about the things that he’s scared about or happy about. As much as you can, make your home a safe haven. Let your other boys know that you will not tolerate meanness directed at your son. Remind them, all the time, that gay and lesbian teens are at a significantly higher risk for suicide. He’s likely going to face a lot of negative comments, make sure that your home is not one more place where he has to take that.

I realize that this will be a sacrifice for you. This is not what you would have chosen for your son and I can imagine that there is a part of you wondering if certain dreams of yours are dying. Will you see him get married? Will he have kids? Loving him while dealing with your own questions is going to be hard. But you’re the grown-up and you’re the parent. Hard work is what we signed up for. I would encourage you to get some counselling for yourself. You’re going to need someone to lean on too.

He’s still your son, he’s always your son. Pray for him and love him and protect him and walk with him. Choose him and let other people worry about their own opinons. You won’t be sorry.

]]> By: Tony http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1371900 Tony Sat, 19 May 2012 20:57:59 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1371900 In my humble opinion the absence of correct Christian teachings exposes any child to the ungodly , secular and carnal philosophies of this world. America's educational systems are under the bombardment from those that promote homosexual agendas and ideas to force and compel school boards to teach and illustrate their students to accept as normal the package of information and ideas that supports the homosexual, gay, lesbian, transsexual and other styles of sexual identities they alleged are real and normal. Many of these groups are now trying to create laws to declare parents as criminals if you should teach in your homes that homosexual living is wrong or a sin. These groups declare that it is parents who are harming kids when they will not allow them to pursue the conduct of a alternative lifestyle. Even some christian churches or institutions have altered their previous doctrines and now accept these homosexual conducts as normal. It is very easy today for a parent to neglect to teach their child about Gods opinions concerning these and other topics. Children can be quite rebellious and hostile to church and christian instructions. Why? Because it puts limitations on their curiosity to experiment or learn about what they see so many others doing. So then when the knowledge of God is absent in their minds and all that is inside their heads is "video games, facebook, twitter, or the latest movie flicks or the messages of Lady Gaga then they will gravitate easily to follow what the Pagans Heathens and Philistines are doing. It is called carnal living, humans will follow the lust and appetites of their flesh. OK,,, so to try and fix it, you need wisdom, not yours but Gods, and the source of all of Gods wisdom is demonstrated and spoken to us through the words of Jesus 1st. If you are a Christian, then you follow what Jesus commanded, not your opinions, not the secular worlds views, nor do you hope or assume that one day your child will stumble upon it. It is clear that after a period of time that the heart of people will enter full rebellion and stubborness and will defiantly enter into enmity against Gods instructions. At that time God can allow them to become fully reprobate and then their minds will be so poisoned and confused that they will call evil good and good evil. Sadly today we see that already happening in many people. OK,,,, what you need is power to make a person free, and that is only going to happen inside of their "mind", the mind must be born again, the mind must be renewed, and this is to prevent the condition of a reprobate mind. To do this,,, the genuine Gospel and the commandments of Jesus must be get into the persons "mind" so that they can "repent" and change their "mind" and thus be empowered from God above to live correctly. The power to do this is in Matthew Mark Luke and John. People must "hear HIS voice", Jesus the King, Jesus the Lord, and follow Him. Read to your children the 4 gospels, Learn the 4 gospels and all the messages that Jesus speaks to adults and children. Learn to know the voice of Jesus so you will not follow the wrong voice. If you neglect to do these, then the devil, Satan, Lucifer, Beelzebub, the Dragon who deceiveth the whole earth will take your children. Do not let that happen. It is too easy for your to learn what to do and devote your parenting to that task if you will just deny self and follow the voice of the Master. Jesus will teach you to know the truth so that the truth will make you free and free all the children from the power of the enemy. Therefore get a Bible,,, read the 4 Gospels, pray for God to take control over your children's lives, expect a miracle, plan for a war, take back what the enemy will steal from you and he will put up a fight, aks God to fight the battle, pray more, let love cover a multitude of sin when your kids come back home just as the prodigal son returned to his father. The Gospel is Gods "power unto salvation", learn it, know it, study it, consume it, share it, and rejoice in it! It works! May wisdom from above comfort the task ahead and peace fill your homes. In my humble opinion the absence of correct Christian teachings exposes any child to the ungodly , secular and carnal philosophies of this world.
America’s educational systems are under the bombardment from those that promote homosexual agendas and ideas to force and compel school boards to teach and illustrate their students to accept as normal the package of information and ideas that supports the homosexual, gay, lesbian, transsexual and other styles of sexual identities they alleged are real and normal. Many of these groups are now trying to create laws to declare parents as criminals if you should teach in your homes that homosexual living is wrong or a sin. These groups declare that it is parents who are harming kids when they will not allow them to pursue the conduct of a alternative lifestyle. Even some christian churches or institutions have altered their previous doctrines and now accept these homosexual conducts as normal.
It is very easy today for a parent to neglect to teach their child about Gods opinions concerning these and other topics. Children can be quite rebellious and hostile to church and christian instructions. Why? Because it puts limitations on their curiosity to experiment or learn about what they see so many others doing.
So then when the knowledge of God is absent in their minds and all that is inside their heads is “video games, facebook, twitter, or the latest movie flicks or the messages of Lady Gaga then they will gravitate easily to follow what the Pagans Heathens and Philistines are doing. It is called carnal living, humans will follow the lust and appetites of their flesh.
OK,,, so to try and fix it, you need wisdom, not yours but Gods, and the source of all of Gods wisdom is demonstrated and spoken to us through the words of Jesus 1st.
If you are a Christian, then you follow what Jesus commanded, not your opinions, not the secular worlds views, nor do you hope or assume that one day your child will stumble upon it. It is clear that after a period of time that the heart of people will enter full rebellion and stubborness and will defiantly enter into enmity against Gods instructions. At that time God can allow them to become fully reprobate and then their minds will be so poisoned and confused that they will call evil good and good evil. Sadly today we see that already happening in many people.
OK,,,, what you need is power to make a person free, and that is only going to happen inside of their “mind”, the mind must be born again, the mind must be renewed, and this is to prevent the condition of a reprobate mind.
To do this,,, the genuine Gospel and the commandments of Jesus must be get into the persons “mind” so that they can “repent” and change their “mind” and thus be empowered from God above to live correctly.
The power to do this is in Matthew Mark Luke and John. People must “hear HIS voice”, Jesus the King, Jesus the Lord, and follow Him.
Read to your children the 4 gospels, Learn the 4 gospels and all the messages that Jesus speaks to adults and children.
Learn to know the voice of Jesus so you will not follow the wrong voice.
If you neglect to do these, then the devil, Satan, Lucifer, Beelzebub, the Dragon who deceiveth the whole earth will take your children.
Do not let that happen. It is too easy for your to learn what to do and devote your parenting to that task if you will just deny self and follow the voice of the Master. Jesus will teach you to know the truth so that the truth will make you free and free all the children from the power of the enemy. Therefore get a Bible,,, read the 4 Gospels, pray for God to take control over your children’s lives, expect a miracle, plan for a war, take back what the enemy will steal from you and he will put up a fight, aks God to fight the battle, pray more, let love cover a multitude of sin when your kids come back home just as the prodigal son returned to his father.
The Gospel is Gods “power unto salvation”, learn it, know it, study it, consume it, share it, and rejoice in it! It works!
May wisdom from above comfort the task ahead and peace fill your homes.

]]> By: Tania http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1362746 Tania Fri, 18 May 2012 11:49:35 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1362746 I have found this site very helpful and now I realise where I was going wrong with my teenagers too as I did not understand that this was normal for boys to act out and you described everything so well, I really appreciate it and due to this site my sons and I have a wonderful relationship now. I do have one question though, my 17 year old has proclaimed that he is now gay, is this a normal thing, is it in his genes like the doctors say? My reaction was calm and supportive but my Christian beliefs do not encourage this. He is my son and I love him regardless, I am not sure how to work with this as the other teenage boys are very angry and disgusted by this and it causes severe arguments between them when he speaks to other male friends of his. Any advise would be much appreciated thank you . I have found this site very helpful and now I realise where I was going wrong with my teenagers too as I did not understand that this was normal for boys to act out and you described everything so well, I really appreciate it and due to this site my sons and I have a wonderful relationship now. I do have one question though, my 17 year old has proclaimed that he is now gay, is this a normal thing, is it in his genes like the doctors say? My reaction was calm and supportive but my Christian beliefs do not encourage this. He is my son and I love him regardless, I am not sure how to work with this as the other teenage boys are very angry and disgusted by this and it causes severe arguments between them when he speaks to other male friends of his. Any advise would be much appreciated thank you .

]]> By: Robert http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-1352573 Robert Tue, 15 May 2012 09:23:17 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-1352573 I am spartacus!,ironically my wife and I worried that our eldest daughter was too timmerous, now she has found her voice,loudly declearing her indepence and will not do any thing we ask of her, at school she back answers her teachers and is very disruptive.one extream to the other. When she finally finds herself, we will be blessed with the perfect daughter with whom we will share our lifes with. Metamorphosis the fist of three others! I am spartacus!,ironically my wife and I worried that our eldest daughter was too timmerous, now she has found her voice,loudly declearing her indepence and will not do any thing we ask of her, at school she back answers her teachers and is very disruptive.one extream to the other. When she finally finds herself, we will be blessed with the perfect daughter with whom we will share our lifes with. Metamorphosis the fist of three others!

]]> By: Tony http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-760601 Tony Thu, 08 Mar 2012 22:47:43 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-760601 OOOpppsss,,,, I gave a wrong quote, New Numbers Just quoted! WOW WOW WOW ---- WHY? Lady Gaga has set new statistics quoted by New York Times. FANS are doubling and tripling! WHY? Face Book 48,800,000 million fans ! week ago 22 million. Twitter 20,000,000 million fans ! week ago 7 million. She recently launched her own social network, Little Monsters, which gives her fans an outlet to create or share Lady Gaga-related content, and communicate with other fans to show whether they like what other users post. Barack Obama can only manage eighth place with 12.84 million WHY IS LADY GAGA SO POPULAR. Numbers are doubling per week. What is the attraction to Lady Gaga? What are her techniques? What skill does she have? What can she say to motivate people to follow her? opinions welcomed! OOOpppsss,,,, I gave a wrong quote, New Numbers Just quoted!

WOW WOW WOW —- WHY?

Lady Gaga has set new statistics quoted by New York Times.
FANS are doubling and tripling! WHY?

Face Book 48,800,000 million fans ! week ago 22 million.
Twitter 20,000,000 million fans ! week ago 7 million.

She recently launched her own social network, Little Monsters, which gives her fans an outlet to create or share Lady Gaga-related content, and communicate with other fans to show whether they like what other users post.

Barack Obama can only manage eighth place with 12.84 million

WHY IS LADY GAGA SO POPULAR.
Numbers are doubling per week.

What is the attraction to Lady Gaga?

What are her techniques?
What skill does she have?
What can she say to motivate people to follow her?

opinions welcomed!

]]> By: Tony http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-760439 Tony Thu, 08 Mar 2012 21:40:16 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-760439 To Anonymous_Girl,,, It was nice to see your concerns expressed to help make families work better and parents to do a better job. I have been a Christian since January 1977. I have only one daughter 35 years old and a son-in-law. From them, I have 3 granddaughters, one 16, one 13, one 12. We all live next door to each other. I love it. We hang out a lot and shoot the bull about all kinds of stuff. My daughter lived with and was raised by me, my ex wanted freedom and left us. Of course I took my daughter to church all her life and taught her Christian values from the Bible. For 9 years I was head coach for our churches girls baseball team I taught Bible studies. I took lots of girls to Church campsites in the summer. I took lots of my daughters church friends out for lunches and dinners and events when they happened. I had a blast and lots of fun. 2 of my best adult friends at church all had girls only in their families and we visited them often and did various outings. Several girls would come over to our house and spend the night and hang out and did lots of exploration in the neighborhood discovering the mysteries usually riding bikes and expanding their knowledge about the area. I miss those days watching my daughter grow and all the great girls I met as she was growing up. Many of them have married and moved away and all have families and children. My daughter and her family all go to a local church, my daughter sings with the worship team, my son in law plays drums, my 3 grand daughters all volunteer and help with the kids nursery areas and they volunteer to help at the concession coffee and pizza stand they have in the church. They all do a great job, I am proud of all of them. My son in law is a hard worker and provides for all of them. My daughter is a stay at home mom, and she home schools all 3. Years ago I had a church friend family that home schooled their 4 kids and my daughter and I visited them often, and my daughter remarked that she remembered that family and how well educated they were and above all how well behaved and well mannered they were every time we visited them. My daughter has dedicated herself to the duty to train up her girls with the same values and role model character she saw in that family. It has worked out very well. The 3 girls are smashing geniuses in my humble opinion. Above all they are 3 fully different personalities with profound ideas about life and their futures. Every week they come over and we do a hangout night and get pizza, or Chinese food, or i cook for them because they like my burgers. We hang out and have a blast. Last night they came over, watched a movie, American Idol, played on the computer and we had some intense conversations. They know we can talk about anything and they ask me all kinds of questions and have ideas and opinions we talk about. Last night we talked about modern female singers and their lifestyles. They were shocked when I said I wish I could meet and talk with "Lady Gaga" and spend time getting to know more about her life and growing up. Since all my life I have been surrounded by girls and see and hear their discussions and views and experiences it has caused me to be an intense researcher and investigator about modern female people and the influences they make upon girls and older women too. I research history, schools, friends past and present, college transitions, career paths, business acquaintance's, musical preferences, personal preferences, family lifestyles, and religions. All of these topics influence girls when growing up. And when I study girl topics I learn the enormous amounts of information that girls take in that contribute to form behavior patterns that lead to destructive attitudes and lifestyles. There are amazing similarities I find in many of the modern pop stars and celebrity girls and women that they use to guide their lives. Most of it is destructive influences or principles which they acquire from observations of other girls and women which they then use to invent their way they are going to live. My grand daughters and I had a wonderful conversation last night and we listened to some "Lady Gaga" music and studied the words in the songs. We studied and read the reasons or motivations why Lady Gaga writes lyrics for her music. We discussed and analyzed what Lady Gaga was saying to her fans. My 3 grand daughters are sharp smart girls, and can quickly figure out the destructive and harmful problems that so much of the pop culture and societies have shown girls in the modern world of music TV and movies which causes girls to use conduct in ways that hurts their home life and alienates them from family. Of course Lady Gaga is an extreme young woman with an agenda to achieve some specific task through her music and videos. But recently a female TV reporter quoted that "Lady Gaga" is now considered the most powerful influential woman in the pop culture, and affecting the lives of many young and older women. Somehow the free spirited brazen appearances of Lady Gaga along with her video images and musical lyrics are deeply affecting young and old women that find Lady Gaga as an acceptable lifestyle. Lady Gaga invites freedom of living life anyway you want without concern for your ethics or morals or the consequences. Lady Gaga is the first to exceed 1 billion views on youtube, she has over 22+ million face book fans and over 7 million twitter friends. Lady Gaga returned from her last world tour where she made $224.7 million dollars for less than 1 years work of a normal worker. Lady Gaga is sought after by all kinds of businesses from around the world looking to exploit her popularity, her imagery and her fan base so that they can sell products or merchandise and make lots of money off her. Who is Lady Gaga? She is a real girl, with a real heart, with real feelings. Lady Gaga has value, she is the daughter of a family, she has a sister that she loves and loves her, Lady Gaga is loved by God, Lady Gaga needs the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Lady Gaga needs Gods truth,,, in my opinion! Who is Lady Gaga? She is, "Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta". 25 years old. Lady Gaga shows us the a path a girl can follow that leads to harmful living to herself and others she influences. Who will imitate Lady Gaga? Lady Gaga list Madonna as her queen role model along with many others. But one does not need to be on the Lady Gaga path to cause hurt or harm to themselves or others. Our latest example is Whitney Houston. I see so many girls and even church girls all their lives following the wrong information learned from pop culture people that creates harm to their lives. I have always taught my daughter and my grand daughters to read the4 books of the New Testament called Matthew Mark Luke and John. My grand daughters all know that if girls do not know what these books teach then their lives and family relationships would be a mess. These girls now know real love and are sharing this with other girls. They have said that knowing these 4 books has given them wisdom that other girls do not know about. Their lives are better because of the information in these. There is a path that seems right for a girl but the ends of that path are hurt, harm and destruction. This website believes these principles. * The Lord Jesus Christ commanded all believers to proclaim the gospel throughout the world and to disciple men and women of every nation. * The fulfillment of that Great Commission requires that all worldly and personal ambition be subordinated to a total commitment to “Him who loved us and gave Himself for us. Do you understand these? Thank you, TONY ps Thanks for sharing your story. I hope you like my story too. To Anonymous_Girl,,,

It was nice to see your concerns expressed to help make families work better and parents to do a better job.

I have been a Christian since January 1977.
I have only one daughter 35 years old and a son-in-law.
From them, I have 3 granddaughters, one 16, one 13, one 12.
We all live next door to each other. I love it.
We hang out a lot and shoot the bull about all kinds of stuff.
My daughter lived with and was raised by me, my ex wanted freedom and left us.
Of course I took my daughter to church all her life and taught her Christian values from the Bible.
For 9 years I was head coach for our churches girls baseball team
I taught Bible studies.
I took lots of girls to Church campsites in the summer.
I took lots of my daughters church friends out for lunches and dinners and events when they happened.
I had a blast and lots of fun.
2 of my best adult friends at church all had girls only in their families and we visited them often and did various outings.
Several girls would come over to our house and spend the night and hang out and did lots of exploration in the neighborhood discovering the mysteries usually riding bikes and expanding their knowledge about the area.
I miss those days watching my daughter grow and all the great girls I met as she was growing up.
Many of them have married and moved away and all have families and children.

My daughter and her family all go to a local church, my daughter sings with the worship team, my son in law plays drums, my 3 grand daughters all volunteer and help with the kids nursery areas and they volunteer to help at the concession coffee and pizza stand they have in the church.
They all do a great job, I am proud of all of them.
My son in law is a hard worker and provides for all of them.

My daughter is a stay at home mom, and she home schools all 3.
Years ago I had a church friend family that home schooled their 4 kids and my daughter and I visited them often, and my daughter remarked that she remembered that family and how well educated they were and above all how well behaved and well mannered they were every time we visited them.
My daughter has dedicated herself to the duty to train up her girls with the same values and role model character she saw in that family.
It has worked out very well. The 3 girls are smashing geniuses in my humble opinion.
Above all they are 3 fully different personalities with profound ideas about life and their futures.
Every week they come over and we do a hangout night and get pizza, or Chinese food, or i cook for them because they like my burgers.
We hang out and have a blast.
Last night they came over, watched a movie, American Idol, played on the computer and we had some intense conversations.
They know we can talk about anything and they ask me all kinds of questions and have ideas and opinions we talk about. Last night we talked about modern female singers and their lifestyles.
They were shocked when I said I wish I could meet and talk with “Lady Gaga” and spend time getting to know more about her life and growing up.
Since all my life I have been surrounded by girls and see and hear their discussions and views and experiences it has caused me to be an intense researcher and investigator about modern female people and the influences they make upon girls and older women too.
I research history, schools, friends past and present, college transitions, career paths, business acquaintance’s, musical preferences, personal preferences, family lifestyles, and religions.
All of these topics influence girls when growing up.
And when I study girl topics I learn the enormous amounts of information that girls take in that contribute to form behavior patterns that lead to destructive attitudes and lifestyles.
There are amazing similarities I find in many of the modern pop stars and celebrity girls and women that they use to guide their lives.
Most of it is destructive influences or principles which they acquire from observations of other girls and women which they then use to invent their way they are going to live.
My grand daughters and I had a wonderful conversation last night and we listened to some “Lady Gaga” music and studied the words in the songs.
We studied and read the reasons or motivations why Lady Gaga writes lyrics for her music. We discussed and analyzed what Lady Gaga was saying to her fans.
My 3 grand daughters are sharp smart girls, and can quickly figure out the destructive and harmful problems that so much of the pop culture and societies have shown girls in the modern world of music TV and movies
which causes girls to use conduct in ways that hurts their home life and alienates them from family.

Of course Lady Gaga is an extreme young woman with an agenda to achieve some specific task through her music and videos.
But recently a female TV reporter quoted that “Lady Gaga” is now considered the most powerful influential woman in the pop culture, and affecting the lives of many young and older women.
Somehow the free spirited brazen appearances of Lady Gaga along with her video images and musical lyrics are deeply affecting young and old women that find Lady Gaga as an acceptable lifestyle.
Lady Gaga invites freedom of living life anyway you want without concern for your ethics or morals or the consequences.
Lady Gaga is the first to exceed 1 billion views on youtube, she has over 22+ million face book fans and over 7 million twitter friends.
Lady Gaga returned from her last world tour where she made $224.7 million dollars for less than 1 years work of a normal worker.
Lady Gaga is sought after by all kinds of businesses from around the world looking to exploit her popularity, her imagery and her fan base so that they can sell products or merchandise and make lots of money off her.

Who is Lady Gaga?
She is a real girl, with a real heart, with real feelings.
Lady Gaga has value, she is the daughter of a family, she has a sister that she loves and loves her, Lady Gaga is loved by God, Lady Gaga needs the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
Lady Gaga needs Gods truth,,, in my opinion!

Who is Lady Gaga?
She is, “Stefani Joanne Angelina Germanotta”.
25 years old.
Lady Gaga shows us the a path a girl can follow that leads to harmful living to herself and others she influences.

Who will imitate Lady Gaga?
Lady Gaga list Madonna as her queen role model along with many others.
But one does not need to be on the Lady Gaga path to cause hurt or harm to themselves or others.
Our latest example is Whitney Houston.
I see so many girls and even church girls all their lives following the wrong information learned from pop culture people that creates harm to their lives.

I have always taught my daughter and my grand daughters to read the4 books of the New Testament called Matthew Mark Luke and John. My grand daughters all know that if girls do not know what these books teach then their lives and family relationships would be a mess.
These girls now know real love and are sharing this with other girls.

They have said that knowing these 4 books has given them wisdom that other girls do not know about. Their lives are better because of the information in these.

There is a path that seems right for a girl but the ends of that path are hurt, harm and destruction.

This website believes these principles.
* The Lord Jesus Christ commanded all believers to proclaim the gospel throughout the world and to disciple men and women of every nation.
* The fulfillment of that Great Commission requires that all worldly and personal ambition be subordinated to a total commitment to “Him who loved us and gave Himself for us.

Do you understand these?

Thank you,
TONY
ps
Thanks for sharing your story.
I hope you like my story too.

]]> By: Tony http://powertochange.com/family/rebellion/comment-page-1/#comment-759827 Tony Thu, 08 Mar 2012 17:37:40 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5199#comment-759827 To Claire Colvin: Thank you for your response. I do not have a copy of my comment that I posted which you removed. Please send me back a copy of what I posted. Please indicate where and what I said that was name calling. Help me learn what "you" consider name calling? I am fully open to learn your parameters. Please ! I really want to know what was wrong? Thanks Tony To Claire Colvin:

Thank you for your response.
I do not have a copy of my comment that I posted which you removed.
Please send me back a copy of what I posted.
Please indicate where and what I said that was name calling.
Help me learn what “you” consider name calling?
I am fully open to learn your parameters.
Please ! I really want to know what was wrong?

Thanks
Tony

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