Comments on: Parents – Understanding them

By: Jamie

Fri, 09 Sep 2011 23:20:23 +0000

Helena, it is a good lesson to learn how to communicate well with your parents. It is not an easy thing to do because, as you suggest, they may still see you as a child and not treat you as the growing adult you are. Yet it can be the most rewarding relationship when you make the shift from parent-child to parent-adult child.

Being properly prepared with what you want to say (having some thought provoking questions can help them begin to see you in a different light), picking your time and place to insure their undivided attention (ever thought of taking them out to dinner or setting up a picnic meal that you prepare?. As with all communication, you need to make sure that you are being honest. Holding back information and trying to protect people by fudging on the truth does not help in a long-term relationship.

Don’t give up. It may take your parents a while to make the shift but if you respond to them in a mature way, they are going to be forced to see you in that light.

I am also a believer in the way that Jesus Christ can transform relationships. Praying and asking for His help to change your attitude as well as your parents is step in the right direction. You can find out more about knowing God and how He can impact your relationships at http://powertochange.com/discover/faith/discoverpurpose/

By: Helena

Helena — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 08:35:37 +0000

I try so hard but I feel like giving up soon. My parents are recently busy and thus this left them extremely bitter and frustrated. Studying in America was something I really wanted. A mere wish, that’s all. Mentioning a tiny bit about it would cause me to be yelled at. Saying I am selfish and I never understood how hard my dad worked.
As the oldest in the family, I had to put up with the most amount of crap. –Ever increasing aims set by parents.
-Ever increasing mood swings.
-Controlling my mood swings so that I don’t end up cracking.
-Keeping a straight face while my dad spits harsh words at me.
I understand the pressures an adult has. Bills,Kids,Bills,kids,money,kids.
I may not understand fully because I am not a parent but I KNOW.
Staying in a dorm, I encounter problems in school that I will never mention to my parents. Why? I care for them so much that I don’t want them to worry about such trival things!
They never fully understood me. My dad never saw through my childhood. He never asked what happened when I was young. It hurts and I believe the truth will hurt them as well if they find this up here.

Parents, as your children we love you and we will die for you! But if you guys don’t understand us(or at least try to), we don’t know how to as well.

By: Claire Colvin

Fri, 24 Jun 2011 17:51:18 +0000

Dougie, Is there a reason why she is extra cautious? Have there been times before when she couldn’t trust you? Or was someone you know hurt? Sometimes parents get scared if they see something bad happen to someone else’s kid and their desire to protect becomes a little suffocating. Talk to your Mom. Tell her that you feel like you’re not allowed to go anywhere and have a discussion about what kinds of activities are suitable. She might be concerned about where you are going, or how you’re going to get there or who will be there. If you talk to her you can find out what she is basing her decision on and work out a way that keeps you safe and gives you a little more freedom. Remember as you are talking to her that she probably has a really good reason for her decision. Make sure you LISTEN and then together you can work out a way to make you both happy.

By: dougie

dougie — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 04:11:14 +0000

i love my mom but im 18 and she wont let me do anything i mean i dont do anything rong i dont drink or do drugs nothing like what she us to do wen she was my age its gotin so bad i cant even stay at a friends house i mean wtf i dont ask for much i just ask not to be stuck at home all the time with nothin to do

By: Jeremy

Jeremy — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 00:54:30 +0000

I wish I could run away I get in trouble for everything and my parents are overprotective so there are alot o rules I break and I can’t even see my family anymore my
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By: Rachel

Rachel — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 04:01:56 +0000

Uggghhh I love my dad with all my heart but because of my step mom he has a ton of stress. He decides to yell at me for it. When I’m in my room txting my friend and he’ll cone in and say ” u never do anything around the house all u do is sit down and txt” then he starts making me do choirs at ten thirty at night when I go to bed. He is the reason I don’t get enough sleep at night.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Tue, 18 May 2010 23:55:12 +0000

not getting enought freedom sucks because you dissapoint the person that wants to hang..parents are two confusing and sometimes they act like they were never teens

By: Steph

Steph — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 21:36:36 +0000

I am having problems with my parents and there alcohol problem… my mom found vodka in my dad truck and now they are fighting horribly!

By: stephanie

stephanie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 20:39:12 +0000

omg. I DONT GET ALONG WITH MY PARENTS AT ALL. ALL WE DO IS ARGUE AND BELIEVE ME, I WANT TO LEAVE BUT MY MOM SAID THAT IF EVER LEAVE THEN SHE WILL CALL THE COPS AND THEY WILL COME AND GET ME. I WOULD BUT I DON WANT THE PEOPLE THAT WILL HELP ME TO GET INTO TROUBLE BECAUSE I AM NOT WORTH IT

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 20:13:29 +0000

Parents are annoying at points. They love us though and when they get on our nerves that is when they love us the most. Trust me i have my mom and stepdad and my dad so i have pleanty of parents to get on my nerves. if u dont obey ur parents ur just going to get ur parents more angry at yourself. Please dont run away it just causes more trouble. if u want listen to this song. RunAway Love by Ludicrus. it tells u what kids have promblems and what they are but they arent the only ones with promblems out there in the world.