My Husband Stopped Liking Me Video provided by: I Am Second
I couldn’t have loved anyone any harder than I loved my ex-husband but somewhere along the line he stopped liking me and he let me know it. For a while I tried to pretend. Maybe you know what that feels like? You try to act like you’re fine, like you’re happy when you’re slowly dying inside.
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Thanks Esther. I owe everything to the Lord; I would never have made it without him. My therapist told me he never saw anyone so calm in the midst of such turmoil and I told him somehow God gave me peace even then. I had to stop trying to figure this out and let God handle it and he did. Also my kids were blessed with tremendous support. My ex-husband said he had never been happier, but he looks 20 years older than he did 2 years ago and is very hateful, especially towards me. He has lost the respect of everyone who knew him and is completely alienated from all of us and even his siblings. The worst part is that he no longer goes to any church and is living a very sinful lifestyle.
One Prayer at a Time, this is awesome. You did everything humanly possible but it went the way it is. Now let God do His part. Already He has seen you through by His Mighty hand and is still at work in your family. Ecclesiastes 3:3-8 says: “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace”. God’s timing is the best, for He has promised that: – ‘Call unto Me, and I will answer thee, and show thee great and mighty things, which thou knowest not.’ Jeremiah 33:3. Just continue to call upon Him, One Prayer at a Time.
Now, 1-1/2 years post divorce, I feel that my husband walked away from God some time before he walked away from me. My grown children and I begged him to get help, my Christian therapist offered to see him at no charge and our minister of 20 years repeatedly tried to meet with him and my husband would have none of it. He was bound and determined to be with his other woman who he met on a sex website. I finally had to just accept his decision and try to go on and it has, by far, been the most painful thing that our family has ever been through. My therapist and minister have assured me that I did everything possible to reverse this and I am not responsible for my husband’s poor decisions and sinful new lifestyle and that I do not have to be embarrased by him. God has been with my children and me every step of the way which is the only reason we have survived.
Marriage is a commitment and a contract that is rubber stamped by God and witnesses. It is an institute that is God ordained. Though these examples may seem extreme, some spouses at times use their partners for selfish reasons. In Deuteronomy 22:13-14 we read, “If a man takes a wife and, after sleeping with her, dislikes her and slanders her and gives her a bad name, saying, “I married this woman, but when I approached her, I did not find proof of her virginity,” this is violation of the marriage. I would equate it to 2 Samuel 13:15, “Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, “Get up and get out!”
In a case that is not an extreme, issues can be discussed between the couple and arrive at an understanding. The word of God clearly desires that a man and women stay together (till death) and the man to cling to his wife. Ultimately, God is able to listen to the prayer, cries and petition of any and every man/woman who feels distanced in the marriage relationship. God is able.
Dear Shelley, thank you for your prayers! We need the Lord, and He is our all in all, He is able and willing. Pray for our faith to increase.
Dear Makayla, you make a good point. Sometimes God does really grab our attention, and for that we should be so grateful because we can tend to be very self-absorbed.
One thought comes to mind to share: suffering is a signpost. Suffering shows that we desire something more, something good, and we don’t have it yet. Suffering points us first upward, look to God, who is everything, who is good. Suffering points us second forward, have hope, have faith, we can’t see through the mist to determine what lies ahead, but our good, gracious, faithful God is with us and has not forgotten one single detail of our lives. Rest on His promises.
Lord God! I want to lift all the concerns here in this Blog. I want to ask as they seek You that you will help them in these areas of there lives. I pray that You will heal them in this area of there lives.
In Jesus Mighty Name amen
Hello after coming acrossed Ur site it caught my attention as I went threw diff ones this one caught me sent chills and clearly it has fit my life our life’s. I pray and ask our father to help me help my family. And it is a wonderful life experience to have the lord stop n get Ur attention and it’s bitter sweet to have him talk to you and lets it be known and in good time life will b where he wants it and welcome it w open arms
Shana sure has a compelling story doesn’t she Dee. It is amazing to hear about a person who is not any better off than you or I, having faced some real hurtful things but find out that they have so much joy in their life. I guess that’s what Jesus was talking about when He said, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you.” (Matthew 6:33)
One thing that I have found is that when I am facing depression and anxiety I need to become much more intentional about listening for God to lead me every minute of every day. I put up reminders to look for God in the colours of the sunset, to listen for Him in the singing of a bird, to ask Him for directions in responding to life’s interactions. I have found that there isn’t a moment that goes by that He isn’t either teaching me something about Himself, something about myself or something about somebody else. Sometime it is lesson to be learned, sometimes is a reminder of His blessings, and sometimes it is an instruction for the next step I need to take. But the more I focus my attention on those things, ask for His help in being able to be aware, take time to thank Him audibly for answering that prayer and taking the next step in faith that He is empowering me for this moment, the more my heart is lifted in the satisfaction of knowing I am exactly where I need to be. As Shana says, it may not be where I wanted or expected to be but I know that it is the right place to be.
I hope that doesn’t sound like vague platitudes. I can get a whole lot more specific but sometimes I think I start rambling. But I guarantee you will see Him and that knowledge will be enough.
Lord God, I pray for my sister Dee. She needs to hear You right now. Open up her ears. Sensitize her heart. Pull back the veil from her eyes and let her be aware of Your presence, and your communication with her. Teach her what it means to focus on You and Your kingdom and righteousness and fill her up to overflowing with all the other things she needs in her life.
And Lord, I pray for her husband. This man is missing out on the joy of love and marital unity. Break down the walls that have been built up between them. Soften the hardness of their lives and fill them with a love that can only be described as divine. Heal the hurts that are in his life and fill him up with love, joy and hope.
I pray all of this in the name of Jesus Christ, knowing that You hear, You know and You act in perfect love and wisdom, amen.
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This video was encouraging. I am in the middle of battling depression, due mostly to feeling unloved by my husband. We’ve been married 20 years, most of which I have felt extremely alone. I am tired of holding out hope, and even though I know the “answers”, I can’t seem to pull myself out of this. Divorce isn’t an option, so God is going to have to break through…just really raw right now.
Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. This has been a particularly difficult week because my new little granddaughter was born and my ex-husband will never know her because of his lifestyle and today was my son’s birthday and he did not even hear from his dad for the second year in a row. I know it is better that my family not be involved with him because of his new lack of morals and character, but it still hurts. I also know that I have to accept that he is no longer the person that he was and that is very difficult to do, but I know God will continue to help me through this. It just seems that we have been hurting for so long.
These comments have really shown me how focusing on God’s promises can give those who hurt the strength to keep pressing forward! Your words of strength give me strength and are very encouraging. I am not sure about my husband’s feelings for me and he has stepped out on our marriage for almost the entire time we have been together. When I saw the title, it resonated with me so strongly because I often wonder if my husband truly even likes me as it was his dislike for me and our situation that must have caused him to live a double life for YEARS. God has been with me all along though and has made sure that there are certain people in my path that consistently encourage and wish me well. I am focused on the blessings and God has shown me that HE has the power to turn it ALL around! Stay strong everyone! Jeremiah 29:11 indeed! Thanks for sharing!
FOR I KNOW THE PLANS I HAVE FOR YOU “DECLARES THE LORD” PLANS TO PROSPER YOU AND NOT TO HARM YOU, PLANS TO GIVE YOU HOPE AND A FUTURE.
JEREMIAH 29-11
Been reading the stories here. I thought my life was over. Was married for 30 years, 2 great kids and now 3 wonderful grandaughters, my now e-husband woke up one day and decided he wanted to move out of state. Leaving me just 2 weeks after major surgery. WOW !!!! It’s been a year now since the divorce. The kids have very little contact with their father, I HAVE NONE !!!!!. The hurt and angery is slowly going away, but I still wonder how someone can just walk away,from family???? I lost my home and just about everything We worked for some 30 years. He moved on with out looking back. But I do understand some people are just so self center they think that what ever they want at any given time it’s theirs to take, with out caring about others . Oh well live will go on it has to, life is so short to carry all the pain and hate, let it go set yourself free.
You are not alone in your search for justice: “How long, O LORD? Will You forget me forever? How long will You hide Your face from me? How long shall I take counsel in my soul, Having sorrow in my heart all the day? How long will my enemy be exalted over me?…But I have trusted in Your lovingkindness; My heart shall rejoice in Your salvation. I will sing to the LORD, Because He has dealt bountifully with me.” (Psalm 13:1-3,5-6) David also felt the despair of seeing those took advantage of others prosper while he faced huge needs and sorrow. But David knew, “For the LORD loves justice And does not forsake His godly ones; They are preserved forever, But the descendants of the wicked will be cut off.” (Psalm 37:28)
Lord God I pray for these who have been treated so badly by spouses. Protect and preserve them O God. Execute Your justice in their lives and vindicate their faithfulness. Pour out joy into their hearts and fill them with the knowledge that they are Your children, chosen from before the Earth was formed. Fill their hearts with compassion and care that reflects Your nature of forgiveness and grace. Heal their brokenness; heal their families; produce in their lives a testimony of Your greatness, power and love. Amen.
My husband left me for another woman after 35 years of a Christian marriage. My adult children resented the fact that he cheated on me and was involved with someone else so he walked away from them and my grandchildren too. I know that God has been the reason I did not collapse, but it has been almost a year since my divorce was final and I am still hurting everyday and now cannot imagine a day without so much emotional pain. He was a good husband and dad for so many years, then just completely changed into a person that we don’t even recognize, mentally and physically. I wonder when I will ever get some relief from this tragedy. Where is the justice that he can shatter an entire family and seemingly have a wonderful life while we struggle.
Hi my dear, sorry about such a time that you are experiencing in your life. i must say it is really a trying time for you. i would love to advise that you enroll for fascinating womanhood classes that is if this course is in your country. Alternatively you can buy that book and read it carefully; God can actually restore your marriage and instantly heal your wound. Above all always find you strength in the Lord…..the source that never burns out. God closely embrace you and pave a way to a happy tomorrow for you.
Thanks all for your comments God bless you all and keep all his children from abusive partners is the worst kind of life to live.
I am in a similar situation where my husband has destroyed any love I had for him with his verbal/emotional abuse towards me. I tried to talked to him about my feelings and why I am unhappy, but I am always left feeling guilty,attacked, unappreciated, taking advantage of, and confused. I have totally changed who I was to accomodate his needs and his ever changing mood. Recently I started renewing my relationship with God and I have finally found some strength to stand up for myself and tell him I won’t tolerate being treated this way anymore. However because of my overly caring nature, I can’t find the heart to end the relationship with him out of fear of hurting him. This is the only thing that is holding me back. I would rather be in pain than hurt someone else. My heart has been totally destroyed by him and I pray that God will continue to give me strength and rescue me from my despair. I also pray that he speaks to my husband so he can discover happiness and fulfillment in his life with out me so I can be released from this bondage.
Joe, Thank you for sharing. You are correct in what you say about, “no one will want to believe women abuse men physically and verbally”. This is a fact whether people want to acknowledge it or not. In my life time I have witnessed women abusing thier partner, children, and family. Sadly, they are wounded, hurting individuals that need God’s touch of healing to set them free to be the lovely person God would have them to be. So glad that you realized what was taking place and by the grace of God have a forgiving heart and moving forward with God. May God’s peace be with you Joe as you go forward in His love. You are a power of example that things happen in life but one can choose to move on in a loving, caring way and enjoy life again!
Lucy, Thank you for sharing with us and for your wonderful testimony. As God Word says, “Sorrow may last for a night but joy comes in the morning!” Thank God, for His awesome promises to heal the broken hearted, bind up their wounds, and bless them afterwards. May our beloved Lord continue to pour His joy into your heart and life.
divorce takes its toll, God turned my sorrow into joy!
so sorry sis,but that is life for you i went through abusive marraige too,as a Man,no one will want to believe women abuse men.physically and verbally and dont think this is a weak man,just very loving and no violent towards women in me. Thank God for Jesus.have forgiving the abuser and i am moving forward with my God.
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This is a tough one that many can relate to. I do agree though that God will fill whatever voids you thought a loved could…AND God will not leave, forsake or EVER stop loving you! So Courageous for sharing this with others!