My Husband has Lost his Sex Drive Video provided by: FamilyLife
It’s a problem that can be difficult to discuss with even best friends or family members, because it’s not one women expect to happen: “My husband doesn’t want to have sex with me.” What’s going on? What are common causes for this, and how can you talk to your husband about his lack of interest in sex without getting into (another) argument about it?
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That is a tragic story Amy. I can’t imagine what has occurred in your husband’s life to elicit such a negative feeling about sex and intimacy. You are right, that is not how marriage is supposed to be. God intends that a husband and wife share deeply with each other and connect on all levels. 45 years is a long-time and I have no doubt that you gave up long ago ever feeling like things could change. Do you think your husband is fulfilled in the life he has created for himself? How have you coped in this life? Where do you find your fulfillment?
Well !! We have been married 45 years and my husband only had sex with me once the first and last all in about 20 minutes time. We were never intimate before we were married, he only kissed me and held my hand. Probably this should have been the time that bells and whistles should have went off. But no I was young and niave! So when the ‘I Do’s’ were over we had sex and he told me that was the last time he wanted sex. He thought it was totally disgusting, unpleasent and something he would never do again. Also he volenteered to work midnight whitch he did for over 40 years, and that he decided to move his things and himself to the basement. I said this is not how a marriage should be, it should have togetherness, love, family, kids ! All he said was it was not going to happen on his watch and it hasn’t. I tryed to go back home to my parents but was told no, they said you two figure it out. I never did figure out what happened in fact I just gave up on the idea. He won’t talk just primative grunts, groans and moans. Nothing civalized in over a year. Hes retired now and I want for nothing and have good benefits and a roof over my head. I wouldn’t have this if I was out on my own. I’ve buired my life in other things and stay away from home as much as possible. I’m very sad in how things turned out no kids no nothing, but I try to be cheerful and upbeat.