Breakups: Not Always This Easy Video provided by: Biola University
Even when you’re the one doing the “breaking” it’s rarely easy. This is implied by the violent analogy we’ve chosen for ending a relationship: “breaking” up. And when you’re the one on the receiving end of those dreaded words, it can be quite hurtful. What have you found to be the best way to end a relationship while minimizing the hurt involved? Is there any such way? Have you been the victim of a bad breakup, and how has it affected your current relationships?
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You’re right Jake, it is so important to begin your relationship with clear communication. It will help guard against misunderstood expectations and help work through the conflicts and problems that will always come up in a relationship.
I spent nineteen years in a marriage because I (and she) was reluctant to break up in the beginning. Worse than that, we were afraid to talk about it. Instead we were together until we just couldn’t stand it anymore and painfully separated. My recommendation is to talk about the relationship early, evaluate frequently by asking the other person if they are getting what they need from the relationship. Do it before marriage. Don’t be afraid to part ways. If you can do it by mutual agreement, you can remain friends. A delayed break-up can be rough, and always leaves at least one person feeling like a victim.
Breaking up is a difficult thing to do and one day Jessica if someone ever breaks up with you it will not be very funny. I find that if we seek Christ he will show us if we should break off the relationship and not necessarily for poor behavior. Sometimes the wrong personality are together or if a person is not keen on keeping Christ in the center of the relationship it is impossible to move forward.
God Bless
This sends a stong message to men; that it’s okay to end the relationship. I have three adult son’s, and I would hope, they would not think twice to walk away from a person with a poor behavior.
Very funny.