I can’t be happy no matter what I do

cannotbehappyI can’t be happy whatever I do. I try everything, but all the things that were making me happy aren’t making me happy anymore. I get angry too much and sometimes I don’t want to see anybody. Also, when I look at the mirror, I can’t like myself. I’ve been feeling like this for 3 months.

Advice: Usually at the onset of depression there is an identifiable event that either triggered the unhappiness, or caused it. Can you think of what that event was three months ago? If this onslaught was at a certain point in time and you can’t pinpoint it, then you need to make an appointment with your doctor. Something is causing the seratonin level in your brain to drop. Let us know what you come up with.


97 Responses to “I can’t be happy no matter what I do”

  • Doris Beck Doris Beck says:

    Hi Mariya ,
    I am so sorry to hear that you are so upset and don’t know what to do. Can you tell us a bit more about your situation?

    I am concerned about your statement that sometimes you want to die. Are you considering ending your life? I want you to know that is not the only option. There are people who want to talk with you who can help see things differently. Don’t you think it is worth a shot to connect with someone like that and see what ways that your life could get better? I’ve included some emergency phone lines for you below that will put you into contact with someone like that. I ask that you call one of those numbers right away.

    Dial 911 in Canada and USA
    1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) USA & Canada
    1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) USA-National
    International Association for Suicide Prevention – Resources:
    Crisis Centers

    If you cannot find a resource in your area, please call your local emergency number.

    Hearing impaired call 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889) USA

    Centerstone(Suicide Crisis Call Center) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) USA

  • Mariya says:

    I am to much upset. I don’t know what I do. Sometime I wanna die. Because nothing happiness in my life. Nobody understands me:-(

  • Chris says:

    idontknowwhy….sorry to hear of your situation but at the same time happy for you that you arent settling for what so many Young people settle for as the meaning to life and just being happy. life truly is much more than that. to me and to millions of others, life means being in healthy relationship with the one who created us, God. you see without God, our lives, no matter how many things we have, really mean nothing without him and i believe that is what you are seeking for without realizing it. but you can log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above to begin your personal relationship with jesus christ today and begin to really live. then, your other relationships will make sense. you will be able to enjoy friendships because you have your best friend in christ himself who will always be there for you when others may not. praying now that you would open your heart to christ, his love for you and his Word to you and begin truly living as life was originally meant to be lived!

  • idontknowwhy says:

    I have never felt bad about anything. i was nice to everyone but it just doesnt seem like its enough. i have been trough a few break-ups and i got over them but ever since i turned 16, my life just felt empty… i have been in a relationship last month but i didnt like it. as weird as it may sound, being with someone who actually loved me didnt fill that spot. my friends keep being nice to me and neither does that make me happy. im not concidering ending my life since i am young and have a lot to love for, but i cant seem te get a smile on my face. i curse a lot. i started smoking. the innocent life i lived isnt there anymore. i am changing. and not in a good way

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Everyday, I am so sorry that you had such lousy birthday. That is never an easy thing to deal with. What is it that makes you sick about yourself? Who are the people that you feel you need to make happy?

    I am concerned about your last statement. Are you considering ending your life? I want you to know that is not the only option. There are people who want to talk with you who can help see things differently. Don’t you think it is worth a shot to connect with someone like that and see what ways that your life could get better? I’ve included some emergency phone lines for you below that will put you into contact with someone like that. I ask that you call one of those numbers right away.

    Dial 911 in Canada and USA
    1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) USA & Canada
    1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) USA-National
    International Association for Suicide Prevention – Resources:
    Crisis Centers

    If you cannot find a resource in your area, please call your local emergency number.

    Hearing impaired call 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889) USA

    Centerstone(Suicide Crisis Call Center) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) USA

    You wrote that religion isn’t for you. Have you had a bad experience with a religious person?

  • everydayisexactlythesame says:

    I just cant move on, and religion isnt for me, i wont be able to read responses because im not going to. today was my 17th birthday, and i thought that i would be happy today, but it was worse than ever, im sick of who i am, where im going and im sick of what i need to do to keep the people around me happy. i just died today.

  • Aldo says:

    Moonie, the first thing you need to do is humble yourself before God. Confess your sin to Him, tell Him you are sorry for going your own way and doing your own thing, and accept and receive His Son Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. He is “the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through (Him)”- John 14:6.

    Furthermore, Jesus is the answer to all your problems, whether they be big or small, financial or habitual, domestic or physical. He wants to be your redeemer, your healer, and your deliverer. Turn your life over to Him, and trust Him to bring about what He knows is best for you. Let’s pray:

    Heavenly Father, thank You for Your love for Moonie. A love so great it is unfathomable. Help him to grasp the magnitude of that love. Help him to comprehend the sacrifice You made for him in sending Your Son Jesus Christ to suffer and die for his sins, and the sins of all mankind. Lord, touch Moonie in a special way with Your Spirit, and draw him unto Jesus. Do a regenerating work in his heart in Jesus Name I pray, Amen.

  • moonie says:

    I’m not happy. I feel mentally tortured all the time . always living in fear DAT things will never be good. Im angry and hate almost everyone . I feel suffocated d way my life is going . I want things to change fr better . I curse almost everyone all d time . lil things annoy me . I don’t feel hopeful at all.

  • Chris says:

    robin…i would suggest the cross centered mind on settingcaptivesfree.com. its a course that has helped many people overcome depression and anxiety. jesus give you his joy today. isaiah 12…remember the key to having joy is …j esus….o thers….y ourself. blesings!!

  • Robin says:

    Thank you Chris for your comforting words. I know life happens it’s just funny (not ha ha) how life is never the the same. As far as church I have been enrolling myself at my mom’s church about the last nine month’s and have even been attending with my children,however then I come home to stare at these four walls again and want to just sleep the rest of my day away.

  • dream says:

    Chris… For you too. May God lead you, protect you and give you peace always.

  • Chris says:

    dream…nothing to forgive. pray jesus best for you always!

  • dream says:

    Chris. .. Am I forgiven for being rude to you?

  • dream says:

    Chris.. I am sorrry I was rude. Do brother in Christ as God is leading you.

  • Chris says:

    dream…i am glad you are blessed in your church!!

  • dream says:

    Chris.. Are you going to church? If yes, good If not you should go and find a church and serve there too. I dont understand why you are trying to find a better church for christians. They can find church for themselves. I understand your concern and christians should have a church but its better when they will personaly visit churches and see where God is leading them. I used your offer before. You sent me address of the church but God lead me to other church where I feel more home and where I sense that God wants me to be. God bless.

  • Chris says:

    robin…sorry to hear about your struggles…we do know that life here on earth is so short. so many complications can try to come our way but jesus will always be there for us no matter what we may face. losing a loved one or believing not to, is to me the most challenging part of life. we know noone lives forever but it doesnt lessen the blow. only through jesus and seeing life through his eyes i believe, we can assimilate by his grace the challenges we or our loved ones face. you see, all jesus asks is that we walk with him through life by faith in his promises. as you fill your life with his Word of life, you can be sure of having the life of his presence always with you that will make you more than a conquerer in any situaiton. romans 8.26 to 39. not all churches are the same. if you need help finding a better one where you can sense Gods comforting spirit and presence please let me know. i pray jesus words come alive to you today especially from John 11.26 where he has promised all those who trust him never to die. blessings to you today! knowingjesuspersonally.com, thecrosscenteredmind on settingcaptivesfree.com

  • Robin says:

    A year ago this last February my very independent mom got very I’ll to the point she lost all mobility we all most lost her while the Dr’s. were trying to figure out what was wrong with her. DURING which time one of my older sisters was having burning in her chest and after going to the Dr’s was told she must under go immediate open heart surgery this was her 2nd in 20 years she died we were all devastated. Today is a year exactly the same day my oldest daughter tried committing suicide I have been really sad and can’t stop no matter what it’s affecting my life in all aspects home,work my relationships everything I’m tired of these sad feelings and have prayed started going to church to have more spirituality in my life but nothing has helped I’ve even spoken to a therapists I’m tired just not sure how much more of this I can really handle any suggestions I’m open to any from anyone.

  • Chris says:

    kaat…so sorry to hear of your sadness…i have found jesus christ to be the only way to true happiness and fulfillment. you see we all have an emptiness in our hearts that only God our father can fill. he provided a way for that through his son jesus by permitting him to take our sins, sorrows and pains upon himself at the cross. by receiving jesus today into your heart, you can know the joy of his salvation. for more information on doing just that log onto…knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. i pray you would today!

  • Kaat says:

    I can never be happy for a whole day. I can’t remember the last time I had a good day. I feel miserable every single day. I have to take depression pills to almost function right and I have to take sleeping pills to fall asleep at night but however if it’s the weekend I can sleep 14 -15 hours a day without taking my medicine for a couple of days. I just want to truly be happy for a whole day ! I see every one with a smile almost all day but I’m lucky if I smile onces a day. I need help but my therapist isn’t really helping me much she tells me to try new things like doing yoga. I didn’t like it at all I just can’t stand to not be happy anymore. It’s tearing me apart fastly.

  • Shelley says:

    Thank you for your request for prayer and I would be delighted to pray for you and anyone who reads this response to your request. Dear Father God. Lord I lift up my friend to you at this time in there life that You would respond to there concern and that You will show them Your love to them and that they will feel your presence in Jesus name amen

  • Unknown says:

    Hi I was just wondering if you could pray for me? I do pray for myself but I thought it would help if u had other people praying too also. I would like you all would pray that I would stop being unhappy all the time and find happiness, I feel like such a negative person I am always unhappy when I should be! When I try to be ,I find I have other people in my life who stops me in my tracks and makes me feel like I shouldn’t be happy I can’t say how mNy years I have been like this but it’s getting to me. I feel loney unhappy, sad tired and it doesn’t help when I also suffer from JRA. ( Juvnile rhymothiod arthritis). I am 25 and would like to be happy for once in my life, so I pray to God today that you all will keep me and all those who are suffer from unhappiness or some sort of illness, or if they are happy I pray you will keep them in your prayer! God bless!! Thank you.

  • Aldo says:

    Andreas Hasler, allow me to pray for you.

    Almighty God, touch Andreas in a special way with Your Holy Spirit and free him from the many things which are keeping him from drawing closer to You and to the Savior, Jesus Christ. Give him a great desire to read Your Holy Word on a regular basis. Bless him with a more intimate relationship with You and the Lord Jesus Christ, in whose Name we pray and agree, Amen.

  • andreas hasler says:

    I had the same feeling.you are made To have God in you and enjoying Him. If we are occupied with so meany things of us we get unhappy 1.john 2.15 if you love the world the love is not in you! The love here mentioned is the love of the Father and gives us joy.to get the love you say fathers I have so meany things in my life that I love pleas free me from them . Keep on cofessing to the Lord.

  • Kathryn Kathryn says:

    For “Unhappy”. Hi there, I see Maricris has given you some good advice but unfortunately, it is not always as easy as it seems written in a few short sentences. However, a lot does depend on you. You say that your partner is abusive to you and you mention that he is OK one minute and then calling you names and being verbally abusive the next. At least we can thank God that he is not physically or sexually abusive, that is more difficult to deal with. You can either think he means so much to you that you will keep quiet and put up with his inability to control his speech or you can tell him that you are not putting up with it anymore and ask him to stop. The thing is, maybe the home he was brought up in treated each other like that and so he does not realise how it upsets you nor how demeaning it is. You can help him change but you might need some help and support to do it. At the top of the page on the right you will see a button that says, “speak to a mentor”. If you click on that you can send a message to a mentor explaining what is getting you down. She will contact you personally probably within 48 hours and I am sure that will be helpful for you to decide the best way forward. I hope that works out for you and that you feel more hopeful about your relationships which has lasted 6 years. OK? Blessings.

  • maricris says:


    Why have you put up with that in a long time? You are worth more than that. You dont deserved that, you deserved better not anything less. I pray that you go with God. Learn to love yourself, though this is hard and its gonna be a rough ride but you need to let go of him, in order to be happy. Your happiness lies within yourself not anyone else. If you dont love yourself how can you expect someone to love you. Go with God and Trust in him to find you a man that is suited for you. You have to power to make yourself happy, surround yourself with people who encourage you and love you. I have learned this the hard way but eventually God has shown me that I am important. He will pour out his blessing to you even if you thing he hasnt. Trust in the Lord and put yourself with God. He will pull you through. God will never fail you nor forsake you.

  • unhappy says:

    I’m in an abusive relationship and one minute he treats me right the next he’s calling me all these bad names im just tired of being with him ive been putting up with this almost 6 years and i want to leave him but just by thinking of leaving him makes me sad and i feel like im going to miss him alot also i hate being alone :(

  • Tom Tom says:

    Thank you for being honest in sharing some of your pain as there are many, many people who struggle with loneliness and a feeling of hopelessness, particularly at this time of the year. It sounds as if this has been a real burden for some time, and I am sorry things seem so dark right now.

    I’m reminded of the Christmas story—how the lonely shepherds were in the fields watching their flocks. These were the outcasts of society, looked down on by those in power and authority. Did you know they were considered so insignificant that they couldn’t even testify as witnesses? They had little of anything to look forward to, and their whole life revolved around taking care of stupid, dirty sheep. But even as God himself was humbling himself and taking on human form in Jesus in that new-born baby in the manger, the angelic choir was announcing to these lowly shepherds the birth of the world’s savior. Suddenly, their testimony meant something as they viewed the baby Jesus and then went out to tell everyone in town the wonders they’d seen!

    Psalm 23 is a beautiful song written by a man who at many times was at the bottom of life’s pit but who knew that no matter where he was or how bad things looked, he had a God who really cared and was walking with him, even through the valley of the shadow of death. Jesus himself felt the loneliness of being human when he prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane, “If possible, take this cup from me. But not my will, but yours be done.” As the suffering servant, Jesus knows your pain. And no matter how few friends you may have, or how lonely you may feel, Jesus says, “I will never leave you or forsake you.”
    Sometimes feelings of depression are due to some physical/chemical problems in the body. Have you visited your doctor to discuss that possibility? However, most of the time depression stems from our focusing on our circumstances rather than the reality of God’s promises that no matter how things look on the outside, or how things feel on the inside, he loves us more than we can ever understand.

    Booklover, I encourage you to look up rather than down. I encourage you to take your deepest sorrows and hurts and pains to the Lord Jesus. If you have never turned from your sins and placed all your trust in him, what better time than now. Hebrews 4:15-16 says, “For we do not have a high priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who has suffered in all things even as we have, yet is without sin. Therefore, we can come boldly before the throne of grace to receive mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”

    “Father, I thank you that your Son is the light of the world and that you are always ready to shed that light into the hearts of anyone who will turn in faith to you. I pray that while Booklover feels there is little hope and there is no light to be found, the light of Jesus Christ will illuminate his/her heart in such a way that all fears, anxieties, sorrows, and feelings of hopelessness and loneliness are washed away in your awesome love. In Jesus’ name, amen.”

  • booklover says:

    For the longest time, I held on..kept the faith and my belief in the almighty. But the darkness seems more powerful. I could have burned myself to give light to the person I care for the most,but that is not enough; I feel it’ll never be enough. I cannot make somebody happy, forget about the sorrows of their past, no matter how hard I try. My happiness depends on this one purpose, but I feel that the light is going out. I feel lonely, I feel lost, I feel powerless.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Jack, I know it can be very depressing to know we have sinned. It can feel very hopeless. But God tells us that Jesus took all of our sin and paid the penalty for us. In Isaiah 53:5-6 God said, “He was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed. All of us, like sheep, have strayed away. We have left God’s paths to follow our own. Yet the LORD laid on him the sins of us all.” Jesus is our only hope of being in a right relationship with God. If we trust in His sacrifice for us we are set free from the penalty for our sin. Not only that but Jesus rose from the dead and now leads all who will follow Him away from sin and into a life that is on God’s path. Have you put your trust in Jesus?

  • jack says:

    i made sin i had sex with three girls .i feel i made sin i dont want to live any more ..i am depressed now

  • Alfred says:

    Dear Lostman, I’m glad I went back to check for a response from you. My suggestion is to apply for a mentor to meet you in a 1-to-1 Email via this web-site.
    Also, I want to encourage you to look daily for something that you can thank God for. It is very important that one keeps a balance in one’s life: Enough rest, excersize, sleep, good food, public time,private/quiet time, leisure time, and (every morning) Spiritual time. I pray that eventually you will be at ease, knowing that God will guide you. Continuing to pray for you, Alfred.

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up Lostman to You at this time in his life, that You will bless him as he is seeking your grace, in Jesus name amen

  • Lostman says:

    Hi Alfred, I thank you for your support, it really means a lot to know somebody is out there willing to listen to me. But I some of the things you have mentioned such as finding my passion. I have tried a lot of things since the age of 26 I’m now 31 and things just don’t seem to be going my way. I am at the age where I want to start having a family just like you have but I am unable to get the finances to support myself let alone a woman and kids. I know I should have a lot to thank god for because I’m a healthy man etc but I want more for my life and no matter how much hard work I put in things always turn out sour. I was always taught that if your work hard enough for something you will get it, what if no matter how hard you work or try it is still unattainable? I don’t want to give up because it’s not in my nature to but I’m starting to want to give up.

  • Alfred says:

    Hi Lostman, It is not till we “hit bottom” that we appreciate the God who is waiting to lift us up! Believe me, I’ve been there! I was disliked at work, unhappy with myself, and at meal-time our 3 children were facing my wife (not me) for conversations. I could not take it any longer. In my heart I cried to God to show me what was wrong. He gave me a dream in which I was on way to hell, and I knew why. For the next 5 days, upon coming home from work I knelt by my bed and sobbed bitterly for Jesus to wash me clean. Then I felt refreshed! Soon a friend invited me to a Full Gospel Business Men’s meeting where I received the baptism in the Holy Spirit. What an experience! I have never lost that joy! There were, however, many relationships to mend (some of which may take a life-time) for we need to live with the consequences of our actions. Yet, with God’s help, there is sonshine in my life now.
    So I encourage you to look to Jesus who is waiting to lift you up! We read in Ezekiel 36:26-28 26 I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will take the heart of stone out of your flesh and give you a heart of flesh. 27 I will put My Spirit within you and cause you to walk in My statutes, and you will keep My judgments and do them. 28 Then …. you shall be My people, and I will be your God. NKJV.
    Then ask yourself what you are good at, what you’d enjoy working at, and prepare yourself for a job in that area. Take your time, ask God for direction, and build yourself up for that job which God has in mind for you. Who knows, it is possible that the job you now have may be the one that’ll bring you joy and satisfaction. Also, you may not be ready for a “better” job till you can do your best and enjoy it where you are now. Then, with a new perspective on life, employers will be looking to hire you!
    Dear Lord, I lift up Lostman to You for a blessing that is beyond his wildest dreams. Show him, I pray that You can do for him what he cannot do for himself. YOU have a plan for his life, and I ask that You reveal it to him, one-step-at-a-time. I ask that You help him to thank You in advance for answering his prayer, and give him something to thank You for. In the precious name of Jesus, our intercessor, Amen.

  • Lostman says:

    I don’t know where to start really. I’m 31 year old man and since I can remember I haven’t been happy in my adult life I feel like I have under achieved in life I have a job but it’s a crapy job which I want to change but every time I apply for a good job I always fail to get them and each time I fail I feel hopeless. I have a beautiful girlfriend who is supportive but she is also very ambitious and has told me I can’t be with her if I can’t get myself in a good job so we can build together. I really want to do it but feel like I’m useless and can’t acheive anything. Is there something wrong with me?? I feel like I should just die and free every1 of the burden that is me!

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up my sister to you at this time in her life, that You will let her feel Your love to her and give her a sense of knowing that You love her and that You will heal her heart, in Jesus Name Amen

  • Farley says:

    Im in emotional Limbo, my entire world has been picked up and thrown.
    Im a new mum and have been with my partner for a very long time, we have had plenty of ups and downs as do we all along the way but we have always stuck by each other. Well 6 weeks ago I found that for 3 years of our relationship he has been paying for sex with prostitutes even during my pregnancy (which was complicated and I never needed him more).
    I still very much love this man he is the father of my child and until this was exposed he was my everything, I gave him complete love and trust.
    Now Im left feeling completely shattered and quite frankly I’ve given up on my life. I’m here only for my child and had he not been born the decision to end the road would have been an easy one for me. My life was far from the worst but it has had more than its fair share of hard times and I’m to the point where I feel like the one thing I got right wasn’t even what I thought, I’ve lost my fear, nothing makes me feel alive anymore. I dont know about the rest of you but I find the night and first thing in the morning really hard times for me. I dont know if its because Im alone with my thoughts maybe Ive hit the point I cant stand myself anymore or what but I feel completely hollowed out. My weight has plummeted Ive gone from 138lbs to 117lbs in 6 weeks, I dont know why but chewing repulses me, I cant be bothered with the grief that comes from not eating so I make sure the only meals I eat have a audience but even then its a vile process for me. Im just so freaking lost, I dont know if any of you can relate in any way, but Ive just lost complete faith in my judgments and in other people.

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Aallyah, I am so glad you are able to share your hurt with us. Keeping things like this to yourself is so dangerous, but having the courage to ask for help like this is a great step towards seeing things turn around. First, I recognize you may need to talk to someone right away. Call one of these numbers and talk with someone who can help you look at your situation in a different way and find other options to ending your lives, OK?
    Dial 911 in Canada and USA
    1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) USA & Canada
    1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) USA-National
    Hearing impaired call 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889) USA
    Centerstone(Suicide Crisis Call Center) 1-800-273-TALK (8255) USA

    So what are the things that you are sad about?

  • Aaliyah says:

    i hate my life, nothing goes right,i can’t even say the last i was happen. i feel like a burden, i’m a waste of space in everybody life and i don’t deserve to be here. what good is it to me if i’m not happy? Theres no point of me being a live!! i hate my life. i’m never happy anymore. i been gone for several years now. And never have anyone noticed, so yeah whats the point of being a live if no one sees that i’m hurting? Exactly there is no point. i shouldn’t be here. i don’t want to be here. life sucks. now days when people be like you can die by this and that, i say ” Well we all die sometimes right?, then i smile .why can’t i have a good life w.out being depressed every damn day. and then if i do leave. people won’t even know i’m gone or miss me, because everybody done upped and leaved my life. so hey maybe it is time for me to leave……. -Aaliyah

  • Alfred says:

    Hi cracked up pepper, life is quite a journey, isn’t it. Without difficulties we would not appreciate the great rewards that come our way. Many times I have sought happiness, but eventually found that it is a by-product of making others happy! I could not do this, for I was having trouble at home, at work, and everywhere, and (like you) NOT finding happiness. Then I realized that I’d let go of God. HE could not bless me or make me a blessing because I was not in a position to obey, or even listen to him! When I realized how far I’d fallen, I was my knees daily, from getting home from work till supper time, praying that Jesus wash me clean. HE did exactly that and restored me as His child! What a difference that made!
    How is your relationship with Jesus? Do you know him as a Saviour and Friend?
    Here is a resource that I pray will help you:

    Who I Am in Christ
    If you are a Christian, then the statements below are true of you. If you are not a follower of Christ and would like to know more, click here…
    I am accepted…
    John 1:12 I am God’s child.
    John 15:15 As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ.
    Romans 5:1 I have been justified.
    1 Corinthians 6:17 I am united with the Lord, and I am one with Him in spirit.
    1 Corinthians 6:19-20 I have been bought with a price and I belong to God.
    1 Corinthians 12:27 I am a member of Christ’s body.
    Ephesians 1:3-8 I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.
    Colossians 1:13-14 I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.
    Colossians 2:9-10 I am complete in Christ.
    Hebrews 4:14-16 I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ.
    I am secure…
    Romans 8:1-2 I am free from condemnation.
    Romans 8:28 I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
    Romans 8:31-39 I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.
    2 Corinthians 1:21-22 I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.
    Colossians 3:1-4 I am hidden with Christ in God.
    Philippians 1:6 I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
    Philippians 3:20 I am a citizen of heaven.
    2 Timothy 1:7 I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
    1 John 5:18 I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.
    I am significant…
    John 15:5 I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine, and a channel of His life.
    John 15:16 I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit.
    1 Corinthians 3:16 I am God’s temple.
    2 Corinthians 5:17-21 I am a minister of reconciliation for God.
    Ephesians 2:6 I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm.
    Ephesians 2:10 I am God’s workmanship.
    Ephesians 3:12 I may approach God with freedom and confidence.
    Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.
    That still leaves me with one of your questions unanswered: You say “good things happen when I’m depressed. Why? “ Might it be that God is working for you when you are unable to do some-thing for yourself?
    Well, for now I will leave you with discovering who you are or who you are (or can be) in Christ.

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord You have taught me to live each day that You give to me, by living one second at a time, within that hour and that day. To look to You within that day and seek Your grace no matter the outcome of that day.

  • cracked up pepper says:

    I usually live in the moment. Such as feelings of living in the moment. Every time something good happens or when I get happy and tell people I’m having a good day, I hear things like change of plans at the last min, or didn’t get the job, or its going to have to wait now. I can’t afford medication, and there is just so much of stress I can’t take. I try to ignore it and hold it in and wake up everyday going to work. Force myself to pretend to smile and acting like a miserable person. Problem is, good things happen when I’m depressed. Why?

  • Kate says:

    Dear Reena,

    I am so sorry to hear about your unhappiness. It does sound like you are going through a difficult period in life. Your longings for love, acceptance, friendship and intimacy are completely normal and valid. Do you think you could connect with people in a local church or join another kind of support group? It would be great to realize you are not alone in your struggles, and also I am so SURE that with your helping nature, you would be a great asset to the group. Maybe there is somewhere you can volunteer?

    Working on your temper and feelings of hate is important. How about reviewing this website about anger? http://powertochange.com/discover/life/enemy/

    Also, you can definitely connect with one of our mentors who will support you. Go to this link to fill in the form: http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/

    Let me pray for you now: Father God, thank You for caring for Reena. I hope that she will learn to lean on You as she deals with many difficulties, and that You will lead her to a group of supportive people where she can feel accepted. I pray she will grow everyday, grow more patient, more understanding, and also that she will grow in faith to trust You. In Jesus’ name, amen.

    Reena, all the best to you. You can post your feelings here anytime. This is a place for sharing.


  • Reena says:

    I m so unhappy due to the people around me. thy dnt like my helping nature and talking and making friends. they offen find fault in me. i dont want to hate others or hurt others everyone use well to get their works and through me like a waste paper. and more over i have no boy friend to share and safe guard me from any issues. i m so short temper and feels no one likes me . everyone and everything around me disturb me a lot.. i feel restless. no one to share my feeling. I m looking for a person who can see me like baby, love me lik mom, teach me like dad fight like sibblings. but i never get such a person. i cannot even smile .

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi unhappysadperson, I’m so sorry to hear of the death of your friend. What an awful road to walk. As I read through the symptoms you listed I wondered if you might be suffering from depression? Take a look at this list, does it sound familiar? http://www.depressionhurts.ca/en/depression/ If you think that you might be depressed it’s a good idea to see your family doctor. Depression is a medical condition, it’s not something you just have to “get over”. There are therapies and medications that can help. If you’d like to talk to a mentor you can use this form and you’ll hear back, usually within a couple of days. Mentoring is a free and private service.

    Death is a pretty scary thing to have to face. I know in my own life that my faith in God really helps me deal with death. Do you have a faith perspective?

  • unhappysadperson says:

    i feel so unhappy sice the unexpected death of my ex boyfried/friend , nothing seems to make me happy anymore , not my family , not my friends … not even the things i used to enjoy more than anything !! i started to get worried because i tend to cry t a lot every night before i sleep , i always feel sad and i’m loosing weight like a

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