I can’t be happy no matter what I do

cannotbehappyI can’t be happy whatever I do. I try everything, but all the things that were making me happy aren’t making me happy anymore. I get angry too much and sometimes I don’t want to see anybody. Also, when I look at the mirror, I can’t like myself. I’ve been feeling like this for 3 months.

Advice: Usually at the onset of depression there is an identifiable event that either triggered the unhappiness, or caused it. Can you think of what that event was three months ago? If this onslaught was at a certain point in time and you can’t pinpoint it, then you need to make an appointment with your doctor. Something is causing the seratonin level in your brain to drop. Let us know what you come up with.


57 Responses to “I can’t be happy no matter what I do”

  • Alfred Alfred says:

    Hi cracked up pepper, life is quite a journey, isn’t it. Without difficulties we would not appreciate the great rewards that come our way. Many times I have sought happiness, but eventually found that it is a by-product of making others happy! I could not do this, for I was having trouble at home, at work, and everywhere, and (like you) NOT finding happiness. Then I realized that I’d let go of God. HE could not bless me or make me a blessing because I was not in a position to obey, or even listen to him! When I realized how far I’d fallen, I was my knees daily, from getting home from work till supper time, praying that Jesus wash me clean. HE did exactly that and restored me as His child! What a difference that made!
    How is your relationship with Jesus? Do you know him as a Saviour and Friend?
    Here is a resource that I pray will help you:

    Who I Am in Christ
    If you are a Christian, then the statements below are true of you. If you are not a follower of Christ and would like to know more, click here…
    I am accepted…
    John 1:12 I am God’s child.
    John 15:15 As a disciple, I am a friend of Jesus Christ.
    Romans 5:1 I have been justified.
    1 Corinthians 6:17 I am united with the Lord, and I am one with Him in spirit.
    1 Corinthians 6:19-20 I have been bought with a price and I belong to God.
    1 Corinthians 12:27 I am a member of Christ’s body.
    Ephesians 1:3-8 I have been chosen by God and adopted as His child.
    Colossians 1:13-14 I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my sins.
    Colossians 2:9-10 I am complete in Christ.
    Hebrews 4:14-16 I have direct access to the throne of grace through Jesus Christ.
    I am secure…
    Romans 8:1-2 I am free from condemnation.
    Romans 8:28 I am assured that God works for my good in all circumstances.
    Romans 8:31-39 I am free from any condemnation brought against me and I cannot be separated from the love of God.
    2 Corinthians 1:21-22 I have been established, anointed and sealed by God.
    Colossians 3:1-4 I am hidden with Christ in God.
    Philippians 1:6 I am confident that God will complete the good work He started in me.
    Philippians 3:20 I am a citizen of heaven.
    2 Timothy 1:7 I have not been given a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.
    1 John 5:18 I am born of God and the evil one cannot touch me.
    I am significant…
    John 15:5 I am a branch of Jesus Christ, the true vine, and a channel of His life.
    John 15:16 I have been chosen and appointed to bear fruit.
    1 Corinthians 3:16 I am God’s temple.
    2 Corinthians 5:17-21 I am a minister of reconciliation for God.
    Ephesians 2:6 I am seated with Jesus Christ in the heavenly realm.
    Ephesians 2:10 I am God’s workmanship.
    Ephesians 3:12 I may approach God with freedom and confidence.
    Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me.
    That still leaves me with one of your questions unanswered: You say “good things happen when I’m depressed. Why? “ Might it be that God is working for you when you are unable to do some-thing for yourself?
    Well, for now I will leave you with discovering who you are or who you are (or can be) in Christ.

  • Shelley Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord You have taught me to live each day that You give to me, by living one second at a time, within that hour and that day. To look to You within that day and seek Your grace no matter the outcome of that day.

  • cracked up pepper says:

    I usually live in the moment. Such as feelings of living in the moment. Every time something good happens or when I get happy and tell people I’m having a good day, I hear things like change of plans at the last min, or didn’t get the job, or its going to have to wait now. I can’t afford medication, and there is just so much of stress I can’t take. I try to ignore it and hold it in and wake up everyday going to work. Force myself to pretend to smile and acting like a miserable person. Problem is, good things happen when I’m depressed. Why?

  • Kate Kate says:

    Dear Reena,

    I am so sorry to hear about your unhappiness. It does sound like you are going through a difficult period in life. Your longings for love, acceptance, friendship and intimacy are completely normal and valid. Do you think you could connect with people in a local church or join another kind of support group? It would be great to realize you are not alone in your struggles, and also I am so SURE that with your helping nature, you would be a great asset to the group. Maybe there is somewhere you can volunteer?

    Working on your temper and feelings of hate is important. How about reviewing this website about anger? http://powertochange.com/discover/life/enemy/

    Also, you can definitely connect with one of our mentors who will support you. Go to this link to fill in the form: http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/

    Let me pray for you now: Father God, thank You for caring for Reena. I hope that she will learn to lean on You as she deals with many difficulties, and that You will lead her to a group of supportive people where she can feel accepted. I pray she will grow everyday, grow more patient, more understanding, and also that she will grow in faith to trust You. In Jesus’ name, amen.

    Reena, all the best to you. You can post your feelings here anytime. This is a place for sharing.


  • Reena says:

    I m so unhappy due to the people around me. thy dnt like my helping nature and talking and making friends. they offen find fault in me. i dont want to hate others or hurt others everyone use well to get their works and through me like a waste paper. and more over i have no boy friend to share and safe guard me from any issues. i m so short temper and feels no one likes me . everyone and everything around me disturb me a lot.. i feel restless. no one to share my feeling. I m looking for a person who can see me like baby, love me lik mom, teach me like dad fight like sibblings. but i never get such a person. i cannot even smile .

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Hi unhappysadperson, I’m so sorry to hear of the death of your friend. What an awful road to walk. As I read through the symptoms you listed I wondered if you might be suffering from depression? Take a look at this list, does it sound familiar? http://www.depressionhurts.ca/en/depression/ If you think that you might be depressed it’s a good idea to see your family doctor. Depression is a medical condition, it’s not something you just have to “get over”. There are therapies and medications that can help. If you’d like to talk to a mentor you can use this form and you’ll hear back, usually within a couple of days. Mentoring is a free and private service.

    Death is a pretty scary thing to have to face. I know in my own life that my faith in God really helps me deal with death. Do you have a faith perspective?

  • unhappysadperson says:

    i feel so unhappy sice the unexpected death of my ex boyfried/friend , nothing seems to make me happy anymore , not my family , not my friends … not even the things i used to enjoy more than anything !! i started to get worried because i tend to cry t a lot every night before i sleep , i always feel sad and i’m loosing weight like a

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