I can’t be happy no matter what I do

cannotbehappyI can’t be happy whatever I do. I try everything, but all the things that were making me happy aren’t making me happy anymore. I get angry too much and sometimes I don’t want to see anybody. Also, when I look at the mirror, I can’t like myself. I’ve been feeling like this for 3 months.

Advice: Usually at the onset of depression there is an identifiable event that either triggered the unhappiness, or caused it. Can you think of what that event was three months ago? If this onslaught was at a certain point in time and you can’t pinpoint it, then you need to make an appointment with your doctor. Something is causing the seratonin level in your brain to drop. Let us know what you come up with.


110 Responses to “I can’t be happy no matter what I do”

  • Elkay says:

    Broken, I am very sorry that you have had to go through so many different types of pain, grief and suffering. No one should have to endure an abusive childhood or be abandoned by their parent. And then have a failed marriage . . . so very sorry.

    I cannot tell you what God’s answer to your prayer for an end to pain and suffering ultimately is. But I do know that God is good and that He’s in control. Somehow or another, for those of us who are His followers, God uses harsh trials and circumstances to mature our faith and conform us to the image of His Son. On occasion, we see immediate positive results from trials. But other times, we must wait months or years (or until we reach heaven) to fully understand what God was doing in our difficult circumstances.

    The highest prayer we can pray is “Not my will but Yours be done” and you said that if living in pain is God’s will, then you will gladly do so in service to Him. That reminds me that Peter tells you to be “very glad for the fiery trials you are going through as these trials make you a partner with Christ in His suffering, so that you will have the wonderful joy of seeing His glory when it is revealed to all the world.” (1 Peter 4:12-3)

    And earlier in that same book, he promises you that “there is wonderful joy ahead, even though you must endure many trials for a little while. These trials will show that your faith is genuine. So when your faith remains strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world.” (1:6-7)

    Broken, I hope these two Scriptures help you see what God might be doing so until your pains vanish one way or another, maybe your prayers can be for acceptance, endurance and continued thankfulness for your salvation. Let me pray for you, “Heavenly Abba Father, Broken is living a life marked by fiery trials. His faith in You is strong and he desires to live out Your will for his life. So Lord, if it can be possible within Your will, we come to Your throne of grace and ask that Broken’s pain, grief and sufferings be taken away. Until that day, please give him a strong conviction of Your presence and love and great assurance of an eternal future with You in a restored world where there will be no more sorrow, crying or pain. This we ask in the name of Your Son, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.”

  • dream says:

    Broken. Why you should accept the pain? You are not alone. Everybody has some pain but God told us to rejoice! I can tell you that it’s possible. Seek baptism in Holy Spirit with speaking in tongues. Then Holy Spirit will be giving you joy without measure. I had many suffering in my life too and recently my father died, but I also feel that there is an evil spirit who attack us, spirit of too much sadness and depression. Reject him in Jesus name. You spirit and soul can rejoice in the Lord. When you are reading psalms there David is commanding his soul to rejoice in the Lord.

  • Broken says:

    Oh and thank you for taking the time to write me back. I really do appreciate it.

  • Broken says:


    Yes I am a member of a Bible believing church (Baptist). I think my problems with happiness goes further back than my wife. That was just one of the more recent and notable examples of my life of pain. I have read the passages that you gave me but didn’t really “feel” the message you are trying to pass on to me.

    I honestly believe that I was put here to feel pain. I’ve prayed multiple times for understanding of my life. When I pray for this and then read my bible it’s always a passage about someone suffering for their faith. (John the Baptist in prison, Job, Paul, etc…) I don’t know maybe this is how my life is supposed to go. At least my physical life. So instead of asking for my pain and suffering in this life to end I think I’ll just start praying for my eternal life to be good and accept the fact that I am to be in some kind of pain until I am called home.

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