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A One-sided Relationship

life_communicateMy husband of twelve years is becoming very distant, non-communicative and unaffectionate towards myself and our children. There is very little communication between us. I feel I give to him all the time and he takes and doesn’t give back. There is no romance anymore, and sex just feels like another chore to me. I feel we are headed for a breakup. I know we need counselling, but I think we have gone beyond that. I feel unhappy all the time, lonely and depressed (there is no other woman involved).

It is never too late for counselling. Sometimes there are underlying things going on in the relationship. Sometimes its drugs, sometimes pornography, sometimes a deep woundedness, lack of communication tools, etc. If nothing else the partner who wants to grow can find ways to get on with their life, even if the partner isn’t interested and sometimes it may be best to break up. It is good to explore all the options with a counselor before papers are filed

. Some couples don’t understand the cost of going through with a divorce and when they find out what it was going to cost, they begin to put in more work.

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2 Responses to “A One-sided Relationship”

  • my name is mity says:

    im in the same thing you going thur im on yahoo pm me and we tailk lulbbles77@yahoo.com i love to chat

  • Chris says:

    Dear One-sided relationship,
    I was where you are a few years ago. My ex- hubby became extremely distant and did not seem to want anything to do with me. In fact, at one point he shared that he would buy this one truck for himself and when I said it would be for us. He got this very perplexed look on his face. I would encourage you to ask him to go to counseling. If he doesn’t chooose to go, go yourself. It can do wonders. Sometimes we need reminders about how great we are. Anyway, good luck. Keep us posted. Chris

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