My sister and I are estranged
Recently, my mother called me and said that my sister and her new fiance are wondering why I have not called to congratulate them. In short, I said they won’t get a call because my sister and I have been estranged for twenty years. I don’t like her; I don’t like her boyfriend. I’m not asking you to solve our feud, I just want to know the etiquette rule. When there is an engagement, who is supposed to call whom?
Advice: This isn’t a question in my mind of etiquette. It’s a matter of how long are you going to live and how long do you want to not talk to people? There are some people who should not be talked to-the one who molested them, abused them, etc. For most other things, we encourage people to practice forgiveness. Lack of forgiveness mostly hurts the one who has a hard time forgiving. To be estranged from someone for 20 years, one would think that you would have written them out of your life and gone on to other friends. Why is this issue concerning you now? Most people hurt other people. You will probably enjoy the book Safe People by Henry Cloud. Let us know what you think of it.
Elise, it sounds like you are in a difficult situation and you need to get some help. Are there people in your life that you do feel safe with and can trust? What do they suggest you do about your sister? I know having that kind of long-term struggle with someone can have a detrimental impact on your emotional health. Have you talked with a professional counsellor about your issues? If you go to http://www.aacc.net/resources/find-a-counselor/ you will find an online directory for qualified Christian Counselors in your area. I would really encourage you to pursue soome help.
It’s Not Safe To Talk To My Twin Sister Anymore Lately, And Honestly, I Don’t Think (No I Sure DON’T Think Alot Of The Time!) That My Twin Sister, Really Wants Me, Her Special Needs (I Am The Special Needs Twin Sister) Twin Sister, Which Is Me, Around In Her Life Anyways! I Am Sorry For Anything (And I Do Mean ANYTHING!) That I Might Have Said Or Done (Done Or Said!) To My Twin Sister Now. All I Really Want To Do, Is Run Away In The Opposite Direction Of My Twin Sister Now, Yeowch! (I Feel That It Is So Not Safe To Even Talk To My Twin Sister Anymore Now, Because I Feel That She Is Too Dangerous Acting, (Way To Dangerous Acting!) To Even Try To Talk To Her Anymore Lately YEOWCH!) :( from Elise Renee Gingerich age 40 in the Going Nowhere Highway Town Of Greenville Texas, Which Really Is A Going Nowhere Highway Town Here In Texas! Also: I’m So Scared Of Her (Threats) To Me Now, That I Am Considering Getting Off Of The Internet. (My Twin Sister Has Made Some Personal (Threats) To Me To The Point, Where I Now Feel That I Have To Get Off Of The Internet, Which Is Not Fair! (So Not Fair!) :( I Am So Sorry And So Are My Parents, For Even Having Either Of Us, Even Though They Say That They Love Both Of Us. (Even Though Both Of Our Parents Say That They Love Both Of Us Alot, That Had They Had To Have Both Of Us Kids Over Again, They Would Not Have Had Either Of Us Kids, Amen!) You Are An Annoying WITCH Twin Sister, Just Leave ME Alone Too! (YOU Are Such An Annoying WITCH Too You Know, Twin Sister, Just LEAVE ME ALONE TOO PLEASE!) PLEASE DO! :(