My sister and I are estranged
Recently, my mother called me and said that my sister and her new fiance are wondering why I have not called to congratulate them. In short, I said they won’t get a call because my sister and I have been estranged for twenty years. I don’t like her; I don’t like her boyfriend. I’m not asking you to solve our feud, I just want to know the etiquette rule. When there is an engagement, who is supposed to call whom?
Advice: This isn’t a question in my mind of etiquette. It’s a matter of how long are you going to live and how long do you want to not talk to people? There are some people who should not be talked to-the one who molested them, abused them, etc. For most other things, we encourage people to practice forgiveness. Lack of forgiveness mostly hurts the one who has a hard time forgiving. To be estranged from someone for 20 years, one would think that you would have written them out of your life and gone on to other friends. Why is this issue concerning you now? Most people hurt other people. You will probably enjoy the book Safe People by Henry Cloud. Let us know what you think of it.