My husband and I have nothing in common
We have been married for 14 1/2 years. Our marriage seems to have lost something along the way. It’s like we are two different people that have nothing in common anymore, how do we get back what we once had?
Advice: Are you both in agreement that you want to work on the marriage? You can go to a Marriage Encounter weekend. I believe you can find their schedule on the internet. Family Life, ministry of Campus Crusade for Christ, has marriage week-ends that can help change your marriage. Also read The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and figure out each other’s love language. Let me know what your love language is. Dr. Ginger
Dear Amy, I can sense from your comment how down, depressed and discouraged you are at this time. Are you seeking any help for your depression? How is your relationship with the Lord? Do you have some fun activities to do with friends or other family members? It is so important to connect with others and experience happy times with them. What about church? Do you attend, serve, or partake in a local out reach ministry? Just because your husband fails to connect with you does not mean you need to disconnect from others. You mentioned that you dress nicely every day, which is a wonderful thing for you to be doing for yourself. If you do not have a few close woman friends how about stepping out and begin to establish some? Chances are there many people that would love and appreciate your company. What do you think?
What keeps us together ! We live in a nice house and I don’t have the education nor the ambition to go back to school. I’m in my 60s now and I just don’t care any more, I guess I will die depressed, angry, unwanted, unloved, unneeded and what ever else there is. Its been a horrible life for me.
45 years is a long time to co-exist in a marriage with nothing in common. I can’t imagine how lonely that must be. What has kept the two of you together all these years?
I found out after our wedding night we had nothing in common. Since then he lives in the basement and I upstairs. He never wants to talk to me or bother him. He works the midnight shift and I do days. His weekends are mid week mine are on the normal weekend. He works all the OT he can and stays away from me. He has 6 weeks vacation but won’t take any thime of for himself or me. We had sex once and he said it was disgusting, messy, not worth the effort, no excitement and won’t do it ever again, and never has. Dosen’t care I’m depressed, angry and disappointed with my life. He won’t get haircuts or shave and dresses in old clothes he gets from the second had store. I dress nicely every day. Its been 45 YEARS like this and it will never change, do we have anything in common well 2 things 1. is were human and 2. we have a marriage license. Other than that we have nothing in common.