Top 10 Safety Tips For Women

Written by Darren and Beth Laur

womansafetyHave you ever felt frightened or intimidated when out walking alone? Have you ever wondered what you should do if approached by an attacker? Have you ever worried about becoming yet another home invasion statistic?

The sad reality is that we live in an increasingly violent society in which the fear of crime is ever-present. Personal safety has become an issue of importance for everyone, but especially for women. Concerned about this state of affairs, Sgt. Darren Laur and his wife Beth Laur began teaching self-defence classes and safety seminars in 1993, and have since reached thousands of women. The demand they saw for reliable safety information, coupled with the need to debunk widespread myths regarding self-defence measures, convinced the two experts to write a book.

The following points are ten things that every woman should know about personal safety, and are covered in the Laurs’ newly published book, Total Awareness: A Woman’s Safety Book:

1. Awareness: Your first line of defence. Most people think of kicks to the groin and blocking punches when they hear the term “self-defence.” However, true self-defence begins long before any actual physical contact. The first, and probably most important, component in self-defence is awareness: awareness of yourself, your surroundings, and your potential attacker’s likely strategies.

The criminal’s primary strategy is to use the advantage of surprise. Studies have shown that criminals are adept at choosing targets who appear to be unaware of what is going on around them. By being aware of your surroundings and by projecting a “force presence,” many altercations which are commonplace on the street can be avoided.

2. Use your sixth sense. “Sixth sense.” “Gut instinct.” Whatever you call it, your intuition is a powerful subconscious insight into situations and people. All of us, especially women, have this gift, but very few of us pay attention to it. Learn to trust this power and use it to your full advantage. Avoid a person or a situation which does not “feel” safe–you’re probably right.

3. Self-defense training. It is important to evaluate the goals and practical usefulness of a women’s self-defense program before signing up. Here are two tips:

a) Avoid martial arts studios unless you specifically wish to train in the traditional martial arts techniques and are prepared for a long-term commitment. Many women’s self-defense programs teach watered-down martial arts techniques that are complex and unrealistic under the stress of an actual attack;

b) The self-defense program should include simulated assaults, with a fully padded instructor in realistic rape and attack scenarios, to allow you to practice what you’ve learned.

4. Escape: Always your best option. What if the unthinkable happens? You are suddenly confronted by a predator who demands that you go with him–be it in a car, or into an alley, or a building. It would seem prudent to obey, but you must never leave the primary crime scene. You are far more likely to be killed or seriously injured if you go with the predator than if you run away (even if he promises not to hurt you). Run away, yell for help, throw a rock through a store or car window–do whatever you can to attract attention. And if the criminal is after your purse or other material items, throw them one way while you run the other.

5. Your right to fight. Unfortunately, no matter how diligently we practice awareness and avoidance techniques, we may find ourselves in a physical confrontation. Whether or not you have self-defence training, and no matter what your age or physical condition, it is important to understand that you CAN and SHOULD defend yourself physically. You have both the moral and legal right to do so, even if the attacker is only threatening you and hasn’t struck first. Many women worry that they will anger the attacker and get hurt worse if they defend themselves, but statistics clearly show that your odds of survival are far greater if you do fight back. Aim for the eyes first and the groin second. Remember, though, to use the element of surprise to your advantage–strike quickly, and mean business. You may only get one chance.

6. Pepper spray: Pros and cons. Pepper spray, like other self-defence aids, can be a useful tool. However, it is important to understand that there can be significant drawbacks to its use. For example, did you know that it doesn’t work on everyone? Surprisingly, 15-20% of people will not be incapacitated even by a full-face spray. Also, if you’re carrying it in your purse, you will only waste time and alert the attacker to your intentions while you fumble for it. Never depend on any self-defence tool or weapon to stop an attacker. Trust your body and your wits, which you can always depend on in the event of an attack.

7. Home invasions: A crime on the rise. The primary way to prevent a home invasion is simply to never, ever open your door unless you either are certain you know who’s on the other side or can verify that they have a legitimate reason for being there (dressing up as a repair person or even police officer is one trick criminals use). In the event that an intruder breaks in while you’re home, you should have a safe room in your house to which you can retreat. Such a room should be equipped with a strong door, deadbolt lock, phone (preferably cell phone), and a can of pepper spray or fire extinguisher.

8. Avoiding a car-jacking. Lock all doors and keep windows up when driving. Most car-jackings take place when vehicles are stopped at intersections. The criminals approach at a 45-degree angle (in the blind spot), and either pull you out of the driver’s seat or jump in the passenger’s seat.

9. A travel tip. Violent crimes against women happen in the best and worst hotels around the world. Predators may play the part of a hotel employee, push their way through an open or unlocked door, or obtain a pass key to the room. As with home safety, never open your door unless you are certain the person on the other side is legitimate, and always carry a door wedge with you when you travel. A wedge is often stronger than the door it secures.

10. Safety in cyberspace. Although the Internet is educational and entertaining, it can also be full of danger if one isn’t careful. When communicating on-line, use a nickname and always keep personal information such as home address and phone number confidential. Instruct family members to do the same. Keep current on security issues, frauds, viruses, etc. by periodically referring to “The Police Notebook” Internet Safety Page.

Darren and Beth Laur ©1999


101 Responses to “Top 10 Safety Tips For Women”

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  • ZitaZhouzi says:

    That’s useful,but why do woman always learn to protect themselve not men learn how to respect women?

  • Chris says:

    mrssad….so sorry to hear of your situation…i am praying for you now that jesus would come and touch your body and mind so that you can find his peace in being able to forgive those sinners who need jesus so much to save them from their sins. for more spiritual help log onto or click talk to a mentor above. may jesus love and grace abide upon you as you read the bible to find the comfort you need. blessings!

  • MrsSad says:

    Three months ago I was attacked by three men on the Colo Spgs city bus. I hurt my shoulder trying to hang on the safety bar and one of them hit my face knocking out my tooth. Five other opportunistic rapists joined them as they whirlpool raped me in front of about thirty nonraping bystanders (who cheered, jeered, cried, and froze). He (the big one) took cellphone pics of my naked body and crying face. The bus driver stopped the bus and stayed in his seat. The transportation police are federal, did you know that? I am over 50 years old and suffering depression and aniexty and calling suicide hotlines since the “Ims-a-man-thing” happened to me. I hope to use my right arm again eventually. Thank you.

  • Elkay says:

    Chaplin John, I wholeheartedly agree. When I read Ephesians 5:25 about how men are to love their wives as Christ loves His Church, (meaning to sacrifice themselves for her interests) and couple that with 1 Peter 3:7 about men honoring wives so that their prayers are not hindered, I get a strong impression that God places a very high value on how men treat women. He created women to complement men so that together they could reflect His image and that makes it a serious sin to assault or injure women in any manner.

  • I am so sorry that women must take such extraordinary precautions to protect themselves. Men should respect them hands down, without question and women should not have to worry when walking alone anywhere at anytime. Why doesn’t this minority of violent, self-centered men really learn to be unselfish and respect women? Its a terrible commentary on the male that he does not do more to protect women, treat them as equals, seek fair pay and honor them as fellow members of the human race. How I hope that more men learn to think others first.

  • ranga says:

    good article and really helpful to women.
    i beleive that parents have to create awareness and teach social responsibilities to their boys since their childhood to avoid such nonhuman cruel incidents and protect our society and girls/women rights.

  • Aldo says:

    Ujjwal, the Holy Bible says, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.”

    What that means Ujjwal, is that if anyone is looking for the truth with a sincere and diligent heart, the God of the Holy Bible- the one true God- will cause him/her to find it.

    Jesus, God’s “only begotten son” is the truth. Jesus, said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.” (John 14:6) He also said, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God.” (John 3:5)

    Another scripture says, “Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.” (Acts 4:12) That name is the name of God’s own son, Jesus, who He gave for the sins of all mankind. “For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved. “He who believes in Him is not condemned; but he who does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God.” (John 3:16-18)

    The Holy Bible tells us in Romans 10:9-11 “That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes to righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made to salvation.” For the Scripture says, “Whoever believes on Him will not be put to shame.”

    There you have it, Ujjwal. Salvation comes by believing that Jesus Christ is the “only begotten son of God;” that he gave his life on the cross of Calvary to pay the price for your sins and the sins of all mankind; and that if you believe and confess that you will be saved.

    If you would like to confess Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord right now, please repeat this prayer sincerely from your heart. Remember, God knows your heart and is not as concerned with your words as He is with your attitude.

    “Dear God, I admit I am a sinner and need Your forgiveness; I believe that Jesus Christ died in my place, paying the penalty for my sins. I am willing right now to turn from my sin and accept Him as my personal Savior and Lord. I commit myself to You, and ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to fill me and take control, and to help me become the kind of person You want me to be. Thank You Father for loving me and forgiving my sins, in Jesus name, Amen.”

    Ujjwal, I hope you have said that prayer. If you did, Welcome to the family of God. If you have not, you need to do it if you desire to know God as your Savior.

    I pray that you make the right decision.

  • Ujjwal says:


  • Aldo says:

    Tan, yes, these are points that men should also be aware of that can be as helpful to them as they are to women.

  • tan says:

    Very useful. I think men should also read it as many men are not aware what rights females have in defending her self when someone threatens her n verbally harras her.

  • Kate says:

    Thanks for your encouragement Ashish.

  • Ashish Jain says:

    Very useful Information.Great work by the writers. I believe that each and every girl should read this entire article. Thank You!!

  • Susan says:

    Ishika & Mathew,

    Thanks for letting us know about the article.

    God bless you all!

  • Kate says:

    Thanks Ishika. We hope you will take care.

  • ishika says:

    its really helpfull 4 all us

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Turtle, you can connect directly with the authors at

  • Turtle says:

    I am an animation student that has an interest in creating a short series of guides for both guys and girls and I was wondering if there was an updated version of this list (since it was published in 1999 from the looks of the copyright) or if there are any reading recommendations that I can use. I really want help this front, but I don’t want to give out information that could seriously complicate a dangerous situation.
    Thank you for your time,

  • Susan says:


    Let us know what you are trying to say…if you want us to pray for you, please let us know.

  • Ratan says:

    I need more really really morer!!

  • Sharon says:

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  • Mathew Lucas Masisa says:

    This is a great and helpful article to everyone.

  • Mathew Lucas Masisa says:

    This is a great article and helpful to anyone indeed.

  • Susan says:


    Glad to hear that you enjoyed this article.

  • Elkay says:

    Kalyani, we are pleased that you found this article helpful. A most important fact is in the first “rule” . . . awareness of yourself, your surroundings, and your potential attacker’s likely strategies because a criminal’s primary strategy is to use the advantage of surprise.

    “May God always protect you.”

  • kalyani says:

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  • kalyani says:

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  • kalyani says:

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  • Susan says:


    Good you shared this article with your daughter also. God bless you!

  • Susan says:


    I am glad that you like this article. Thank you for informing us.

  • Susan says:


    Glad you liked this article.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Good to hear that this article has been of help to all of you reading it. Thanks to those leaving additional safety information for readers.

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  • Susan says:

    Really very useful tips for woman.

    And thank you so much friends, for all the additional informations. Much appreciated.

  • Nimrod says:

    One can also download apps like SocialAid. it has an awesome SOS button that will alert anyone nearby with the app so they can come really quick and help. if there is no one with the app in your neighborhood, just let people know about it and they will join to your safety network:).
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  • Skandiah says:

    Be alert always.Be careful associated the mind voice

  • Jeyalakshmi says:

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  • Shelley says:

    Thank you for your advice my friends and may the Lord our God bless you both, in Jesus name amen

  • Susan says:

    COLLEGE STUDENTS: Make sure someone always knows where you plan to be, when you plan to be back, and who they can contact if they can’t reach you. Travel in pairs, don’t peel off (there’s always another day to follow up with mr.right). Whatever you’re drinking, only accept what you’ve seen poured, and don’t leave your drink unattended.

  • Millie Toups says:

    I have a 125 pd Doberman Pincher who rides with me everywhere I go…He takes a bite out of crime!

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  • Mandi Ward says:

    These are very useful tips, as a Damsel in Defense pro I specialize in womens safety and I must add one important tip that women seem to over look. Always keep your hands free, when moving a large amount of items put your items in bags with shoulder straps that way your hands are free to grab for your stun gun or pepper spray or to fight off your attacker. feel free to contact me @ [it is our policy not to publish personal contact info] for more safety tips and tools. Have a safe and blessed night

  • Shelley says:

    Thanks for your response.

  • maudgalya gj says:

    its great help to one and all women, thanks a lot

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  • sarvani says:

    Its so useful and helpful thanks alot

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  • kayal says:

    its really a very useful article for this generation.

  • Sharon says:

    once I was walking to church in another district early evening and a guy attacked me I did try to fight him off the only thing broken was my glasses no fun to be attacked I wish i read this then

  • Sharon says:

    good article very useful information thank you

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