How to deal with pressure

Written by Aaron Lee

Written by: Aaron Lee, translated by: Ramon Chi

We encounter pressure every single day in our lives and work, and there are two main causes for it. The first is that wherever we work or live we will encounter challenges, difficulties, and obstacles.  All of these will create pressure for us. This kind of pressure is regarded as natural.  As long as the hurdles are overcome, the pressure will disappear spontaneously.

But, the second cause of pressure is not so easily eliminated. The second cause of pressure  is our own imaginings and wild flights of fancy. This pressure from our own thoughts is much more difficult to get rid of because it has no real cause.

When we feel under pressure, we should first examine our lives and work to see whether there have been any recent changes. If so, have these changes have created new challenges, difficulties, and obstacles? If there happen to be any, then it means that you are experiencing natural pressure, and as soon as the barrier is crossed, the pressure will fade naturally.

For example, as some studies have shown, our pressure index peaks when a new family member arrives, such as a son bringing in a new wife, or a mother having a baby. All of these events will create pressure, but after a short while as we accustom to the new state, the pressure will gradually fade away.

Similarly, moving to a new neighborhood or switching to a new job are all major causes of pressure. But all of these pressures will disappear slowly as we gradually become familiar with the new environment or job.

On the other hand, if we find there have been no changes but we still feel pressured, then there is a big possibility that our feelings of pressure arise from the second cause, namely our own foolish act of indulging in agonizing delusions.

If this happens, what should we do? The simplest way to deal with the problem is to transform our thought patterns and habits. In other words, we need to get a “brain transplant.”

We have had exams ever since we were kids. The tests are just there to see how much we have learned within a period of time; they do not necessarily reflect whether we are smart or stupid. Therefore we could really just have ordinary feelings about exams.

Unfortunately, we would often worry too much and become too afraid of not doing well on the tests, and we would get over-pressurized. This explains why so many people have nightmares associated with exams.  The exams themselves become the primary symbol of pressure in their subconscious.

Even though we are adults now we still feel immense pressure every time we face a challenge or an unfamiliar environment.  Often the pressure does not go away even after the challenge has been dealt with. This happens because this kind of pressure is rooted deeply in our subconscious and we have made a habit of thinking in this way.

And unless we replace our brains with new ones, it will be difficult to eradicate this type of unprovoked pressure.

If you often have anxiety, frustration, or pressure coming out of nowhere, if you were feeling fine when you suddenly became depressed because of too much pressure, then without doubt your subconscious is up to something. The best way to resolve this problem is to change your thinking habit.  Start thinking positively.  Always look on the bright side of life, and replace your old mind with a new one. And then, all your worries will be solved and all the pressures will vanish. I wish everyone a successful “brain transplant,” and let your heart be joyful and your spirits lifted.

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7 Responses to “How to deal with pressure”

  • Elkay says:

    Sir Barely on Top, before Jesus ended His earthly ministry, He promised two things that can carry you through the pressures you are facing. First, He told us “My peace I give to you; Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.” (John 14:27) And the vehicle Jesus promised for this peace, an untroubled heart, free of fear was the Holy Spirit, our Comforter. (John 14:26)

    When we trust Jesus as our Savior, God marks us as His children by sending the Holy Spirit to indwell and work within us. He’s always there when we need Him to lighted our load, quiet our fears, lift our spirits, ease our pain, or invigorate us when we don’t think we can take another step. He has all the power of almighty God because He is the third member of the Trinity. Every aspect of our lives is included in the Spirit’s ministry. Although we may not feel His presence. He’s always there teaching, guiding, leading, strengthening, and encouraging us.

    We may not be able to change our difficult situations but the Holy Spirit’s presence and power in our lives remains constant. He knows exactly what God wants to produce in us and what we need in order to persevere and learn from it. He not only has the power to change our circumstances but He can also give us the strength to endure them.

    Sir Barely on Top, I hope this gives you the direction and strength you need to overcome the pressures you face and if you have not trusted Son Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior and received the indwelling Holy Spirit, the Comforter, you can do so by sincerely praying something like the following:.

    “Heavenly Father, I am a sinner and need Jesus Christ to pay the penalty for my sins. I repent from my sins and I now trust Jesus as Savior and Lord. I ask You to send the Holy Spirit into my life, to comfort me and lead me into all truth. Thank You Father for Your grace by which You pardon my sins and bestow upon me the gift of eternal life. I ask this in Jesus name, Amen.”

  • Jamie Jamie says:

    Hi Sir, I hope you don’t mind if I add my ideas. I am sure Aaron Lee can respond as well. I can relate to your description of fear (although you did a much better job than I could of describing it.) I am a procrastinator and I let stuff pile up until it becomes overwhelming and then I just want to run away and hide. The fear of it can paralyze me and hold me hostage, sometimes making it hard to breathe.

    What has made a difference for me is my relationship with Jesus. I have confidence that He knows the best way to respond, even when I create my own messes. He leads me into the best way to take responsibility for my poor choices and move forward. He gives hope, even when it is a situation where I don’t have control, because He has an unlimited perspective and knows what the future holds. The call of Jesus to me is one of comfort and peace; He said, “Come to Me all of you who are weary and weighed down; I will give you rest.” (Matthew 11:28) He sends that invitation to you as well, Sir. He has a plan for your life that is perfectly crafted for you. He will help you navigate all the pressures and emotions of University so that you are able to do your best no matter what the circumstances you find yourself in. He promises, “I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you; plans to give you a hope and a future.” (Jeremiah 29:11)

    Have you ever heard about how Jesus has a plan for your life? Would you like to find out more about that? I would love to talk to you about how I have found Jesus to make a difference in my life, if you are interested.

  • Aaron Lee. how would i revert my drastic self-destrucive behavioural pattern, when faced with pressure? I put my hands over my eyes, so to speak. I’m scared, hurt and hurtful whenever something new is expected by, just a normal demand. maybe they’re not normal, maybe they’re hurtful to me.
    Univeristy is growing close, 1year before everything clicks, and i’m supposed to feel good about everything, myself, and the cat down the road. But i can’t bear the weight. problem lies not in skill, time or preparation. I just can’t win because of my horrible emotions inside, stagnant, crashing, mountain of hunger neglected by fear.

  • B-awesome says:

    Just what i needed to hear!!! Thank you so much! Perfect!

  • Sharon says:

    good article thank you

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi bbbb, you asked a very good question. Perhaps this short Life Lesson on Finding Freedom from Difficult Emotions might help you.

    http://powertochange.com/studies/finding-freedom-from-difficult-emotions/

    Also, the Bible talks a great deal about the renewal of our minds. Do you read the Bible often?

  • bbbb says:

    But how to transform our thought patterns and habits???

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