How to deal with pressure
Written by: Aaron Lee, translated by: Ramon Chi
We encounter pressure every single day in our lives and work, and there are two main causes for it. The first is that wherever we work or live we will encounter challenges, difficulties, and obstacles. All of these will create pressure for us. This kind of pressure is regarded as natural. As long as the hurdles are overcome, the pressure will disappear spontaneously.
But, the second cause of pressure is not so easily eliminated. The second cause of pressure is our own imaginings and wild flights of fancy. This pressure from our own thoughts is much more difficult to get rid of because it has no real cause.
When we feel under pressure, we should first examine our lives and work to see whether there have been any recent changes. If so, have these changes have created new challenges, difficulties, and obstacles? If there happen to be any, then it means that you are experiencing natural pressure, and as soon as the barrier is crossed, the pressure will fade naturally.
For example, as some studies have shown, our pressure index peaks when a new family member arrives, such as a son bringing in a new wife, or a mother having a baby. All of these events will create pressure, but after a short while as we accustom to the new state, the pressure will gradually fade away.
Similarly, moving to a new neighborhood or switching to a new job are all major causes of pressure. But all of these pressures will disappear slowly as we gradually become familiar with the new environment or job.
On the other hand, if we find there have been no changes but we still feel pressured, then there is a big possibility that our feelings of pressure arise from the second cause, namely our own foolish act of indulging in agonizing delusions.
If this happens, what should we do? The simplest way to deal with the problem is to transform our thought patterns and habits. In other words, we need to get a “brain transplant.”
We have had exams ever since we were kids. The tests are just there to see how much we have learned within a period of time; they do not necessarily reflect whether we are smart or stupid. Therefore we could really just have ordinary feelings about exams.
Unfortunately, we would often worry too much and become too afraid of not doing well on the tests, and we would get over-pressurized. This explains why so many people have nightmares associated with exams. The exams themselves become the primary symbol of pressure in their subconscious.
Even though we are adults now we still feel immense pressure every time we face a challenge or an unfamiliar environment. Often the pressure does not go away even after the challenge has been dealt with. This happens because this kind of pressure is rooted deeply in our subconscious and we have made a habit of thinking in this way.
And unless we replace our brains with new ones, it will be difficult to eradicate this type of unprovoked pressure.
If you often have anxiety, frustration, or pressure coming out of nowhere, if you were feeling fine when you suddenly became depressed because of too much pressure, then without doubt your subconscious is up to something. The best way to resolve this problem is to change your thinking habit. Start thinking positively. Always look on the bright side of life, and replace your old mind with a new one. And then, all your worries will be solved and all the pressures will vanish. I wish everyone a successful “brain transplant,” and let your heart be joyful and your spirits lifted.