Ten Tips To Getting Through Menopause

Written by E. Conrad Hicks, Jr., M.D. and Valerie Otto

life_tipsmenopauseThe generation of women entering menopause is healthier, feels younger than their years, and lead more active lives and careers than previous generations. However, there is also no doubt that for many women, this can be an uncomfortable and confusing time- plagued with hot flashes, irritability, headaches, depression, sleepless nights, and fatigue, as well as waning libido and decreased ability to enjoy sex.

Following are ten important suggestions to help you embrace rather than dread this time in your life.

1. There’s no reason to suffer
If you are a woman, most likely you will spend a third of your life peri-menopausal or post-menopausal. Considering how much you’ve been through in your life, there is no reason to “tough out” the discomforts of menopause. Americans think it is normal and responsible to take various medicines for arthritis pain, cardiac and vascular disease, and diabetes. So why not also evaluate and/or treat the symptoms and changes that come with menopause? There are plenty of options available now besides hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and physicians are now embracing integrated medicine to accomplish what works best for each individual woman, whether it includes HRT or not. One of the newer products they are recommending is Oöna, an herbal supplement that combines black cohosh and chaste tree berry.

2. There is no “right” way, just “your” way
You may believe that HRT is either the “fountain of youth” or the “fountain of evil.” Truthfully, it’s neither. Become informed about all the options available and consult your doctor. With an open mind and effective communication, you and your doctor will find what works best for you. There are several integrated approaches including conventional pharmaceutical preparations, herbs, acupuncture, and meditation, etc. that many women have had success with.

3. Update your vitamin regime
If you have been taking the same multivitamin for years, now is the time to review the label. Women in midlife have different needs and should take at least 400 IUs of vitamin E (take these in 200 IU intervals), 400 mcg of folic acid, 100 mg of vitamin B6, 1250-1500 mg of calcium with 500 mg of magnesium, 200-1200 IUs of vitamin D, and 1,000-5000 mg of vitamin C with Rose Hips. Omega 3 essential fatty acids are also very important and can be found in cod liver oil pills and flaxseed.

4. Hormones are affected by stress and what we eat
As production of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone by the ovaries declines, the adrenal glands, muscles and brain begin to produce an increasing percentage of the body’s androgen hormones and convert them to weaker estrogens. A healthy diet and positive attitude have been shown to help this conversion. Also, symptoms of menopause are known to have “triggers” such as alcohol, caffeine, sugar and spicy foods, which you should eliminate or cut back on. Starches should come from darker whole breads, grains and vegetables. It’s also a good idea to eliminate, or deal with, as much stress as possible since most women feel either a greater number of menopausal symptoms or feel them with greater intensity when they are under stress.

5. There is usually more than a hormonal shift
Often there is an accompanying emotional shift. As Christiane Northrup, M.D. points out; it is characteristic of women to focus much of their energy during the child-bearing years on caring for others. As they move toward menopause, the focus commonly turns inwards to caring for themselves. Women often re-evaluate their lives and their relationships, looking for the understanding, support and the encouragement they feel they’ve been giving others for so many years. Make sure that you are not asking someone to read your mind, but rather take care in how you express yourself. If need be, consult a therapist.

6. Diet, making the best of the four-letter word
You may feel that your eating habits have not changed or that you’re even eating less, but find yourself gaining weight. In mid-life women experience a 10-15% metabolic rate slowdown, their bodies become more efficient at storing energy as fat, and as estrogen levels fall, appetite increases. After menopause this weight usually goes away as metabolism re-stabilizes, but in the meantime, keeping blood sugar level during the day by eating small meals tends to help most menopausal women. The key is not to overeat at night as metabolism peaks earlier in the day, and to cut down on carbohydrates, and have protein with each meal.

7. Exercise makes every list
Regular aerobic exercise can help ease menopausal symptoms, maintain or optimize heart heath and maintain metabolic rate. A program of weight or resistance training will help maintain bone strength. There are so many different ways to exercise nowadays; from tai-chi to spin, the key is to find one or two that you enjoy.

8. Hormones and the Libido
A deficiency in estrogen or progesterone can cause changes such as vaginal dryness and thinning of the vaginal wall, making sex less pleasurable and even painful. Testosterone levels also fall during the menopausal transition and can contribute to a decreased sex drive, decreased energy and a decreased “overall sense of well-being.” Most physicians will prescribe an estriol cream for the vaginal dryness and thinning of the wall. Similarly if low testosterone levels are detected, supplementation to normal levels is easy to achieve. Additionally, the combination of the herbs black cohosh and chaste tree berry found in Oöna will also help with vaginal dryness and thinning vaginal walls.

9. You can keep your skin radiant
First, if you smoke, here’s another reason to quit. Smoking damages your skin and most smokers see wrinkles earlier in life. (Smokers will also enter menopause earlier.) Make sure you use a face cleanser that is cream based, since soap or gel cleansers tend to dry out middle-age skin. Exfoliate once a week and mask once a week (not on the same day). Finally, supplement with omega 3 fats like flaxseed oil, cod liver oil and/or primrose oil. Vitamins C and E are also very important, as is coenzyme Q10. Water and fiber are also very important for your skin and body.

10. Keeping your mind sharp and heart strong
The more the link between estrogen and cardiovascular disease is investigated, the more apparent it becomes that the cardiovascular protection estrogen has been thought to offer may not apply to everyone, and in fact, should not be given to women with a history of cardiovascular disease. As for the mind, it is difficult to determine if a woman’s feelings of “scatteredness and forgetfulness” are caused by hormones as opposed to stress or aging. It is still unknown whether there is any connection between estrogen and Alzheimer’s, but it does appear that a minimum amount of estrogens are essential for certain memory functions. Also, good health habits have been tied to improved memory function. Eat at least 5 servings of fruits and vegetables per day, supplement with B-vitamins, E and zinc, and get plenty of antioxidants such as vitamin C. Ginkgo Biloba can also help, but it’s important to choose a reliable brand and look for standardized extracts.

Whether you are symptomatic or not, menopause is a great reminder to take a serious look at your health. As modern medicine has now extended our life span to almost twice what it used to be, our bodies undergo profound physiologic changes. The importance of the mind-body connection cannot be underestimated, and choosing to deal with what ails you is a big first step. Find an approach to menopausal symptoms that you are comfortable with and works for you, and you can begin to spend this time focusing on the positive aspects of this transitional time, instead of suffering unnecessarily. This is an opportunity to make adjustments that could ensure that the years to come are most enjoyable. You’ve earned it.


36 Responses to “Ten Tips To Getting Through Menopause”

  • Sharon says:

    to Mystic and Suzie– you welcome to mystic my pleasure praise God for this web site so we can help people. prayer for both– father God I pray for Suzie and Mystic I pray for healing over their bodies and emotions God you are the great physician nothing is impossible for these two women you love them with an everlasting love I pray for your hand of healing to go over them by your stripes God they are healed I pray comfort on Suzie for the death of her husband four years ago I pray for Christians to come among their path to encourage them in you God I pray all of this in JESUS name amen I will continue to pray for you both. I feel for you both I too have headaches and get emotional but I am on anti depressants for my hormones. you are not alone its no fun going through menopause. God be with you both at this time. — sharon

  • Mystic says:

    Suzie throughout the day I have headaches, hot flashes, emotional breaks, mood swings, some joint pains, fatigue, memory issues and sweaty nights…when I can sleep. Which really goes well with the partial seizure when excesses stress joins the mental party, my husband finds reasons to leave early from (smiles)~ Sharon, I meditate when I read your prayer again and again and again and again…

  • Suzie, says:

    Mystic, Sharon, Kat, Nan and everyone, what are all the symptoms of this menopause, I sometimes think I am dying, I have so much pain in my back, stress, anxiety, and you name it. I sleep well, that’s about it, Cant watch news as the people in Washington want to make everyone’s life a living hell. My husband was killed 4 years ago and I loved the prayer you prayed Sharon, would you also pray for me as well? I know in my heart that prayer from other people for some one is VERY Powerful. Thank you all in advance! Suzie

  • mystic says:

    Thank you Sharon, I really really needed that prayer and many more to continue to grow in faith! Like trust, in marriage I’ve learned these believes in God and my husband must always be
    presence works miracles. So glad I found this website.Thanks again Sharon for sharing your joy through prayer for my marriage…menopause is natural like love and it exist in my marriage, so relaxing by prayers I understand must be~

  • Sharon says:

    to mystic prayer father God I pray for Mystic right now I pray for this husband to stay patience with his wife and for Mystic to help her to have joy I pray a healing of her emotions bless this husband and continue to give him strength and I pray for Christians to come along their path to encourage them in you God during this time of her menopause I pray for protection over this marriage too. I pray all of this in JESUS name amen I am praying for you both I wasn’t in menopause but I had a time of I didn’t care about anything but my husband stayed with me I feel for you not easy–God be with you at this time– sharon

  • Mystic says:

    I think I’m going to lose my husband. These moody days are not getting better~I’m 53 and know I was blessed with a understanding and patient husband. We don’t have children, thank goodness! If so, they would talk my husband into leaving me. Which he might do anyway cause I’m dizzy, confused and mean to a man that [I know]loves me more than himself.

  • Kat says:

    I have been in my menopause now for 2 1/2 years i take flaxeed everday, and star flower, i still get hot flushes every hour and wake up every hour or so too, i have increased my flaxeed to one in the morning and one at night, and theres no change still can’t sleep properly. i don’t have a problem getting off to sleep it is staying asleep is the problem, also hot sweats in the night, and weight gain round the middle, i can cope with the symtoms and the weight gain, it’s not sleeping that’s effecting me the most, if i got more than a few hours a night I would feel like going to gym but i am to tired after work, any suggestions please.

  • Sharon says:

    to Nan– I am sorry of your struggle of cancer how horrible for you and no visitors from your family and friends that is sad when you are needing it the most I pray that you know God and he is with you and you can feel HIM near and I pray healing over your body GOD is your great physician I am praying for you. — sharon

  • Nan says:

    Had cancer during this terrible perimenopausal period. Disappointed as all hell in my friends and family who didn’t visit even when I asked. Wish I could run away from these losers.

  • Chris says:

    Shailaja Regmi….sorry to hear of your struggles…the human body although designed by God can have its problems as its passes through this difficult world. in the beginning God had made the world and Adam and eve perfect but sin has brought sickness and discomfort into a world that was previously like heaven on earth. not being a doctor, i cannot counsel you about your symptoms medically but spiritually i would like to shsre how that jesus is called the last Adam. that is, all that the first Adam lost, the 2nd Adam, jesus has come to restore, salvation and health. to know more about knowing jesus as your lord and savior and his power to heal log onto knowingjesuspersonally.com or click talk to a mentor above. i pray you would lift up your eyes first and foremost above to find the help you need from the one who came from above, jesus christ. blessings!

  • Shailaja Regmi says:

    I am also extremely suffering from perimenopause symptoms . I am worried I canonot be the same me.Will you please suggest for how long it goes and will the sharp memory returns?

  • Suzie says:

    Dear Elkay, thank you for the advice, I think I am doing a lot of that and waiting for some good creams (facial) from puritans pride. The going to the doctor is almost impossible because when Jim my husband died I lost insurance, my partner in life and part of me died as well. I am keyed up and nervous as well as stressed all the time from being unsure about the future, no retirement. We were ranchers all our lives, enjoyable and live in the country, but leaves nothing for later in life and Jim’s death just happened. I don’t know if I can work till the day I die and I have nothing with my job, no insurance, no retirement, nothing taken out so I pay high taxes! Obama taxes widows with no pluses on their jobs more than married couples, so there is no way to save or have a retirement or anything else, he is looking at taking (stealing) peoples savings to pay for the deficit that he caused and other horrible things. No one can get ahead, so your nerves take over. Please think of me in your prayers, I do believe in our God and I know he is way more powerful than the devil. If any one knows a REAL home based internet way to generate income please share with me, I don’t and have been scammed twice now. Those people should hang! Thanks again Elkay for caring, sometimes I bet we all feel that there is no one that cares! All I know is that I need help and soon, I don’t want to give up. Suzie

  • Elkay says:

    Suzie, we are not medical professionals so please feel free to disregard the following info that a quick internet search uncovered . . . and we cannot vouch for the validity of the recommendations although they seem reasonable.

    8 Quick Beauty Boosts for Dry Skin and Hair
    By Jennifer Acosta Scott | Medically reviewed by Lindsey Marcellin, MD, MPH

    Menopause can zap moisture from your normally healthy locks and well-hydrated complexion. Here’s how to get it back.

    You may know to be prepared for hot flashes and night sweats when they hit, but you may not know that falling estrogen levels can also affect the health of your skin and hair. According to the North American Menopause Society, collagen loss begins early but is most rapid in the first few years of menopause, leading to dry, flaky skin and lackluster locks.

    “Estrogen helps keep things hydrated and plump and youthful-looking,” says Alicia Stanton, MD, an obstetrician-gynecologist in Hartford, Conn., and the author of Hormone Harmony. “When estrogen levels drop during menopause, the skin gets more wrinkled and dry, and in some women, it can even be itchy.” This is because oil glands in the skin shrink after menopause, and less is secreted.

    Nourishing your skin and hair from the inside and protecting them on the outside will go a long way toward easing these menopause symptoms.

    Have your thyroid checked. Levels of thyroid hormone can decrease in menopausal women, which can also contribute to dry skin and hair. In fact, Dr. Stanton says, women who begin developing dryness should consult their doctor about having their thyroid function tested. Dry skin is a symptom of hypothyroidism, a potentially dangerous condition caused by low levels of thyroid hormone in the body.

    Boost your intake of vitamins and minerals. Once medical causes for dry hair and skin have been ruled out, a few simple changes can often help relieve the dryness. Getting adequate levels of nutrients through a well-balanced diet and a multivitamin (or supplements that are approved by your doctor) may just give your body the boost it needs to get your hair and skin back on track.

    Ban the tobacco. Tobacco use also reduces estrogen levels in a woman’s body, so quitting smoking may have a positive effect. “If you need another reason to stop smoking, that could be a good one,” Stanton says.

    Baby your complexion. Topical treatments for dry skin and hair abound, but you don’t have to splurge on expensive brands. The key is to look for certain ingredients on the label. Skin products containing vitamins A and C, for example, can improve skin due to their antioxidant effects, while creams with collagen (a naturally-occurring substance that keeps skin firm) may help keep skin youthful-looking. For severely dry skin, seek out moisturizers with lactic acid or urea. “You don’t have to spend a ton of money,” Stanton says. “Many of my patients do fine with over-the-counter treatments.”

    Soothe your scalp. If dry scalp is a problem, consider using a shampoo that contains zinc or selenium, ingredients that reduce dandruff for some people. Dry hair may also get a boost from a deep conditioner. Be sure to limit how often you shampoo and use your blow dryer and other damaging heat appliances. Whenever you’ll be spending a lot of time outdoors, treat your hair to a protective leave-in conditioner with zinc oxide and wear a hat; both will help your hair retain moisture.

    Relax. If you really want to go the extra mile to combat dry skin and hair, try relaxing. Stress can lower your body’s levels of estrogen and thyroid hormone. Take time out of every day to unwind, and you may just be rewarded with a better complexion and healthier-looking hair. “Yoga and tai chi can relieve stress, and that can help your estrogen and thyroid levels,” Stanton says. “Things that allow you to decompress a little can provide some benefit.”

    Hydrate from the inside. Finally, drink more water. Your skin can’t get hydrated if the rest of you isn’t. It’s an easy enough thing to do, but something that many women neglect during their busy day.

  • suzie says:

    Can anyone help me as to what to put on my face & hair to un-dry them, I have been going through menopause for about a year and I cannot cope with the change in my skin & hair from moist to dry, dry, dry. I am taking omega 3, vitamins E, and my B’s liquid form, and doing candida cleanse, plus primrose at night. I feel alone because my husband died 4 years ago, I have no one. Please help me before I go crazy! I also can’t afford healthcare do to Obama’s stupid polices, so I cannot just up and run to a doctor any time. If any one out there hears me, please help. thank you

  • Aldo says:

    Sultana and Angel4him, apart from getting professional help, you may find it helpful to chat with a woman mentor, which you can access at the following website: http://powertochange.com/discover/talk-to-a-mentor/.

    I pray that God will guide and direct your steps, that you may find the best solution to your issue, in Jesus Name. Amen

  • Sultana says:

    Hi iam taking pill but my miss provide is late more 15 days iam not pregenent do test. What can i do help me pls.

  • Angel4him says:

    I’m just beginning my journey This is horrible especially the hot flashes and the weight gain.I exercise 3 times a week at the gym and eat less than 800 calories a day. And I’m still gaining will I lose the weight after I get pass menenpause?

  • Angel4him says:

    Debbie my heart goes out to you, You are dealing with a lot other people issues and not yours. Until you learn to let go you can’t receive your complete healing. Your disappointment sounds it target towards your spouse maybe you’ll should seek council. Because at this point you seem depressed and that’s not good. It usually be the smart pretty people that go through this. But it’s destine that every one has a pathway to travel. Let your directions move you into a more positive situation. It will be alright!

  • Sharon says:

    to Debbie– my apologies for no one getting to you sooner, prayer-father God I pray for Debbie right now for protection and safety for her God I pray that you will give her a way out where there is no way out bring Christians along her path to encourage her and maybe to take her to safety, God it sounds like she is needing a miracle for her life, open the eyes of her husband to see on what he is doing to her, show her that you do love her and is always with her, I pray all of this in JESUS name amen. is there a safe house in your city for you to go to if possible go to a church and ask if they can find a safe house for women for you or find one in the phone book under I think women’s care like safe houses and if you would like talk to someone private go to www. Truth media/ talk to a mentor/ this way you can talk to a person privately. love Sharon

  • chrissy says:

    Drink coconut water before bed it takes away hot flashes. Also take a b complex and zinc with soy milk it brings back your sex drive. But the coconut water works well right before bedtime.

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift up my friend to You that you will heal them and comfort them. In Jesus Mighty Name Amen

  • Debbie says:

    JESUS! Pls! Help me! I am so miserable, mean,sad& flat sick of myself & hurting my husband. I’ve tried! But, nothing seems to help. I’m so mean to my husband. Maybe it’s cuz I hate him! I’ve tried w/him. But, truly believe it’s time to get away from him. Under so much stress. I’ve been locked up in my house the last 5 yrs. Unless taking care of my dying loved ones. He won’t work, we r broke & he’s so jealous he won’t even let me out of house. I hadn’t worked in 15yrs. I can’t remember anything & I am not functioning well enuf to work! I’ve nvr felt so helpless in my life! But, ready to live in a homeless shelter. Scared to death! But, all I do is ask God to let me die. My family don’t want me around. My son only calls whn he’s in need. I got nothing & no one! Except Jesus! But! Pls pray God makes a way b-4 I do something stupid. My Dr. Cud care less. He’s supposed to b a Christian! I’m sick of all the judgements. I’m my worst judge. I just need to go. But, I have no where to go & absolutely no one in my life. No friends, jealous sisters & a husband & son who abuse me! Pls! Jesus help me get out of this mess. Don’t make me homeless! Ladies! Pls! Pray ASAP! I don’t know how much more I can tke! I pray for u all too! TY! All! TY! Jesus!

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God.

    Lord I lift all women who are going through menopause. I pray that you will heal them and support them in this time of need in Jesus Mighty name A,men

  • olive says:

    2 months ago my hormonel level bwent crazy. it waslike a pc melt down. and since have been totally miserable seem to have every sympton that goes achoing joints ringing ears , muscles sore .mood swings and bouts of tiredness. peroid was very heavey for 6-8 months preivous then slacked off and last couple light . feel sad some times and waiting ion next sympton lol soostiff some days want to scream or cry trying all hyerbs and things sohopefully i will

  • Esther Esther says:

    Dear Karen,

    I am sorry about your situation. Is it possible to try and change doctors such as getting those who are specialized in women’s issues e.g. gynecologists or the likes? You also need to take a lot of rest in your situation as you seem to he handling very many issues at the same time: you are handling your situation, stress, depression, your mom, loss of your dad and putting all these together is in itself a ‘time-bomb’.

    I suggest you take one day at time, handle one issue at a time and not to lump everything together when you are not able to handle it. If you can, devout some time to reading the Bible, meditating on the word of God and if you are able to, share with an acquaintance or a confidant.

  • Sharon says:

    thank you for this info its good to know b/c that is where i am

  • Shelley says:

    Dear Father God
    Lord I lift up all women who are going through this situation in there lives. I lift up to you that you will bring comfort to all woman as we all will face this situation. In Jesus Mighty name /amen

  • Karen says:

    I have been going through horrible menopause symptoms for 2 1/2 yrs now. My main complaint is vaginal dryness and irritation. It is everyday. Some days worse than others. I have been going through a lot of stress for few years before menopause. I have to take antidepressants, Xanax, thyroid meds. I also have sore muscles, bloating. You name the menopause symptoms I have them. My Drs have not been able to help me at all with their suggestions. Anybody have any suggestions. This is really getting to me. I lost my dad a yr ago and my mom has alzheimers. I have a lot of stress. Please help.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Hi Karen,

    Have you gone to see your OBG or primary doctor regarding your symptoms? Perhaps your doctor can run some test to see how your hormone levels are and then advice you from there. Some women go through menopause fine and others have a real tough time with this transitional season of life. One thing I know that has helped me was to listen to tips and suggestions form other women that have already gone through this change of life. One of the greatest things that have helped me out while trying to sleep at night is to have a ceiling fan over my bed. This allows me to get a better nights rest, which then helps me not to be fatigued during the day. Have you read any books regarding menopause?

  • karen says:

    I just started going thru the changes and my emotions are all over the place. Can’t sleep and fatigue..need suggestions and help with what I’m in store for.

  • Barbara Alpert Barbara Alpert says:

    Terri, it is sad to hear you profess and say, “my kids hate me”. Do you realize that you are actually tearing them down and not building them up by the tone of your voice and improper words spoken to them? There are better ways for parents to communicate with their children while rising and disciplining them as God would have us. Perhaps your own parents talked too harshly while raising you and for this reason, you are doing the same to your children without realizing it? Our children are a gift and blessing to us from God and we are to be gentle in speech and conduct towards them so they grow up and become good, godly, loving individuals. Does your husband speak nicely to them and to you as well?

  • Terri says:

    my kids hate me. they think i fuss all the time and say stuff that is mean. i just tell it like it is

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  • Melinda says:

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