My husband says I’m too fat
My husband has been bothering me for the past year about my weight. I have gained thirty pounds since I met him. I have asked him to stop bothering me about it but two days ago he told me that I he was not sexually attractive to him because I was so fat. He said that because of my obesity he has not wanted to be with me. I still have a good shape and plenty of men like the way I look. I wear a size 14 for my height of 5’3. I am so angry at him that I have not spoken to him. I don’t want to see, touch, hear, or be near him because of what he said. I am seriously thinking of getting out of this marriage because I have my whole life ahead of me. Maybe if he got counseling I would reconsider trying to work things out but right now I do not want to. We have had large arguments before, but he said that if I keep gaining weight he will leave me.
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Advice: Does your weight interfere with your health? Do you have trouble doing the things that make life fun for you? Are you not able to function as well on the job or in your recreation? The longer it takes you to get that 30 pounds off, the more it will affect your gall bladder, knees, etc. Focus on your goals and let him see that you are enjoying life, even if he has a narrow focus. Pick up the book, Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner. Write us back after you read the book and we will suggest how to get him into counseling and how to make communication the issue.
Dear Casey, how do you feel about weighing 33.6 stone and what does your doctor say about you weighing that much? Why is your husband force-feeding you? Are you bed-ridden and no longer have the ability to get around? At your present weight, are you able to participate in fun, active activities with your children? According to the calculations I had done converting stone weight into pounds, it appears that your current weight may not be a healthy weight. Do you have other health issues that might be linked to your current weight as well? If your doctor recommends that your weight be lowered then you need to find your voice again with your husband and let him know that you desire to make healthy changes for the betterment of your own health and perhaps for all of your family has well. When was the last time you went to see your doctor?
he is a [expletive removed]for saying all of that [expletive removed] but if you really love him then lose weight but if you dont truly love him than tell him this¦
I deserve better than you, much better. and devorse him!
my husbend said i am too skinny and thretend to brake my arm if i didnt gain weight so i devorsed him! i gained 7 stone after that and now weigh 24 stone, we desided to see each other again, then got married, had 2 kids and then weighed 31 stone… i weigh at the moment 33.6 stone he is force feeding me and scared i am going to burst! i dont know when to tell him that i dont want to gain any more weight…
Thankyou Barbara! Each and every individual is here for a purpose. We were created for a purpose. God is my constant inspiration and I owe Him everything and thank Him for the opportunity to inspire others. God bless!
Sherry, I want to congratulate you on your weight loss success. Thank you for sharing your inspiring testimony of the transformation you have gone through. Many people do not realize how their weight causes so many other health problems. However, you took matter into your hands and worked it all out to your benefit and those around you. From the inside out, you have accomplished what many battle with. May you continue to be an inspiration to those around you! God Bless