If you've been married for more than a couple of days you've probably already figured out that communication in marriage is really important.  Being intentional about the way you communicate with your spouse sets a firm foundation for a solid relationship. The same rules apply when it comes to using Facebook once you're married.  Facebook is...

Many of us have hit ruts in our marriage. We live together. We chauffeur children together. We manage paychecks, and bills, and grocery lists, and karate lessons, and our parents' doctors appointments. But we don't seem to have FUN.  We often feel mildly put out. He'll be at work all day, and when he gets home, he collapses in a chair, turns on...

First comes love…or sex? “First comes love, then comes marriage, then here they come with a baby carriage.” You may recognize this little rhythm my generation used to sing to embarrass each other.  Based on today’s culture the rhythm could go: “First comes sex, then comes living together, and the baby carriage could happen anytime or...

If you are dealing with an unfaithful spouse, the pain you are feeling unfortunately comes with the territory.  The consequences of an affair are overwhelming and horrifically painful.  I have heard it likened to post traumatic stress syndrome.  You are in a place you never expected to be. Here are a few things that will help you navigate this...

Whether you've been married six weeks or 26 years, you know that there's more to making a great marriage than having "the ultimate wedding." Time was when society as a whole understood this fact. Wedding ceremonies were simple. Marriages weren't always flashy or fancy, but they lasted. They weren't subject to the emotional mood swings that so...

I am struggling with forgiveness. I know that forgiving someone who hurt me is part of my recovery process, but does forgiving someone mean that I need to be willing to treat that person as well as I would treat those I consider my closest friends? (Assuming that it’s appropriate to interact with the person who hurt me.) Does forgiving completely...

We take steps to protect the things we value. We teach our kids not to run into the street, we insure our houses and maintain our cars. Your marriage is easily your life's greatest investment. What are you doing to actively protect it? There have to be rules in place to protect things of value. A good illustration of this comes from the days I...