Right before I got married I read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. There is a great list of “flags” to go through in conversation with your significant other before, and even after, you marry. I believe most sources of conflict in marriage can be worked out so I didn’t see anything on Chapman’s list that was...

I don’t usually hide in bathroom stalls texting friends in order to avoid social situations. But sometimes, it’s the only option.   My husband Varun is Indian and I am not.  Our differences add a richness to our marriage that I’ve come to treasure, but every now and then they also highlight the importance of communication and grace. ...

“Are we ready for this?” The decision to start a family is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make.  There is excitement and apprehension, not to mention all the comments from family who think it is about time. So how do you get ready for this momentous occasion? Let me suggest a few things to consider before you go off birth control. How...

In today’s “anything goes” culture what are the parameters for good sex between a Christian husband and wife?  Are there some things that are off limits?  What about sex toys? Do they have a place in a Christian marriage? How do you know if a sexual act is wrong between a husband and wife? These are common and important questions. God...

I recently heard from a man struggling with the sexual past of a new love in his life. As a widower, his only sexual partner had been his wife. But his new friend had many, including a couple husbands and several boyfriends. According to him everything about her was perfect except this one thing. He wanted to move the relationship forward, but didn’t...

If you've been married for more than a couple of days you've probably already figured out that communication in marriage is really important.  Being intentional about the way you communicate with your spouse sets a firm foundation for a solid relationship. The same rules apply when it comes to using Facebook once you're married.  Facebook is...

Many of us have hit ruts in our marriage. We live together. We chauffeur children together. We manage paychecks, and bills, and grocery lists, and karate lessons, and our parents' doctors appointments. But we don't seem to have FUN.  We often feel mildly put out. He'll be at work all day, and when he gets home, he collapses in a chair, turns on...