They were good people. They had made it known that divorce was not an option for them. Yet here they were, going their separate ways and leaving a path of confusion and chaos behind them. There was no love affair to blame, no abuse that had been hidden. Just a slow erosion, a drifting apart, a building of resentments until one felt there was nothing...

Okay, that's a really corny title, but I've been thinking for a while about the verse in Song of Solomon which says, "Do not awaken love until it is ready." I think some of us have let our love be awakened too early, or too abruptly, and so it never really woke at all. Several routes to this disastrous awakening exist. The first is obvious:...

In today’s “anything goes” culture what are the parameters for good sex between a Christian husband and wife?  Are there some things that are off limits?  What about sex toys? Do they have a place in a Christian marriage? How do you know if a sexual act is wrong between a husband and wife? These are common and important questions. God...

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Women and Porn

Porn isn't just for men anymore. Thirty-five percent of online porn users are women. Women are attracted to porn for different reasons than men. Women want to be wanted. But porn changes the way women become aroused. Relationship expert Sheila Wray Gregoire explains how to be aroused by a spouse again. Take the next step: Porn affects your sex...

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She Doesn't Want Sex

What do you do when your partner wants sex more often than you do? In 75% of marriages the husband has a higher sex drive. If a woman feels that people are putting demands on her all day she may find that she just doesn’t have any energy left when she falls into bed at night. A sexless relationship is not going to flourish, but a “grin and bear...

I recently heard from a man struggling with the sexual past of a new love in his life. As a widower, his only sexual partner had been his wife. But his new friend had many, including a couple husbands and several boyfriends. According to him everything about her was perfect except this one thing. He wanted to move the relationship forward, but didn’t...

First comes love…or sex? “First comes love, then comes marriage, then here they come with a baby carriage.” You may recognize this little rhythm my generation used to sing to embarrass each other.  Based on today’s culture the rhythm could go: “First comes sex, then comes living together, and the baby carriage could happen anytime or...