Moving from Conflict to Renewal and Change
All of us have experienced situations where we do not see eye to eye with other people. Sometimes, differences are hard to resolve and they create feelings of anger and resentment. If these feelings are not acknowledged and dealt with, a simple disagreement can break into an out-and-out war.
When this happens, we may feel unable to control our...
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Resolving Conflict
Conflict is inevitable. If you manage conflict poorly, your relationships will suffer. If you manage conflict well, you'll help them grow healthy and strong. Here are steps to RESOLVE conflict.
1. R - Remain calm
The number one rule for resolving conflict is to remain calm and controlled throughout the process. Rash, uncontrolled speech is...
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Recipe for Peace
1 cup of friendship
1/2 cup of hope
2 cups of love
5 tbsp of respect
1/2 cup of kindness
1 cup of joy
3 tsp of understanding
1 1/2 cups honesty
Mix friendship, love, and kindness in a large bowl. Add understanding a few drops at a time. Then stir in honesty and joy for good firm dough. Sprinkle half of respect over it and mix well.
Pour...
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Forgiveness Can Be Good for Your Health
Got lingering anger, stress or high blood pressure? You may need to forgive someone (or to be forgiven yourself).
That's the conclusion of an increasing number of social scientists. Religion has long held that forgiveness is an important component of a fruitful life. A recent Christianity Today article outlined secular research that also supports...
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Stress and the Soul-Body Connection
I learned the high price of tension the hard way. The excruciating pain of a physical problem hit me in the middle of the night. The next day I went to see our family doctor. He referred me to a specialist. The specialist decided the answer to my problem was a certain very painful treatment. After suffering this procedure several times, I asked...
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Does Forgiveness = No Consequences?
I am struggling with forgiveness. I know that forgiving someone who hurt me is part of my recovery process, but does forgiving someone mean that I need to be willing to treat that person as well as I would treat those I consider my closest friends? (Assuming that it’s appropriate to interact with the person who hurt me.) Does forgiving completely...
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How do I forgive?
How do I forgive? How do I stop the conversations in my head that constantly go over past hurts and transgressions? I know it's my fault as well as theirs, and I have forgiven them, but it haunts me at the strangest times. When I least expect it, it creeps in and the next thing I know, I'm allowing it to run rampant in my mind and heart. How can...
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