Most people tend to be fairly indirect about expressing their feelings and needs. As a group we are afraid to be direct, fearing people will be put off or that we will run into conflict. Many of us equate assertiveness with bossiness.  Inability to be direct in a kind but firm way robs us of the chance to communicate and breeds disappointment, frustration...

Where do I start? My husband drinks too much, becomes angry, verbally abusive, sometimes slightly physically abusive. He has been this way for the last year. The occurrences have become more frequent (weekly) the last few months. I've tried talking to him and he keeps saying things will change and they don't. When is enough enough? I'm at the point...

I am a 16 year old girl who just left a relationship with my boyfriend. I was in love with him and had been dating him for four months until we broke up. The break-up was caused by a phone call from my best friend who admitted that she had sex with my boyfriend 2 months before. Of course this devastated me because we had agreed that we were going...

Have you been through difficult times? We want to walk with you. Talk to a mentor. My life seems to have nothing good about it. I was raped and got pregnant. I decided to have an abortion. I am so angry with life that I can no longer cope. I know I am depressed, please help me. Advice: You are living with great emotional trauma after being...

Human behavior suggests that people are “hard-wired" to retaliate when they have been hurt by another person.  Our pride or self-esteem is injured. Our expectations or dreams are disappointed.  We lose something very valuable to us.  We want recompense for the damages. But there are other resistances which block our motivation to forgive. ...

The other day my husband told me that he would like to go out alone sometimes. I've been married for about a year.   My husband and I have a very good relationship.  I was used to hanging out with friends when I was single.  But now that I am married, the idea never crossed my mind. I was very disappointed that he wanted to go out alone. ...

I am 25 years old and have been in therapy for about four years now but I am still not feeling good about myself. I really don't know how to make myself feel good for a long period of time. In fact, I can remember only feeling good about myself for no more than three days to a week. I am on an antidepressant. My main problem is this heartless...