Lynette Hoy

How do I make custody easy on my children?

My partner and I have two children. Our daughter is four and our son is a year old. We are separating and he wants to keep our children for six months and then have me keep them for six months. I feel that will be difficult for the them. I am moving to the west coast and we will not be close at all. How much time should we each have the children...

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I am scared to leave my homosexual lifestyle
I am scared to leave my homosexual lifestyle

I'm quite fearful, honestly, to leave my homosexual lifestyle behind because it's the only lifestyle I've lived that is comfortable and makes me feel good about myself and loved. Advice: First of all, I understand that thinking about leaving the homosexual lifestyle is pretty scary for you right now since you feel comfortable and don't know how...

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I’m growing in my faith but my husband isn’t
I'm growing in my faith but my husband isn't

My husband and I have been married for many years but over the last 10 years I've been really growing in my faith. My husband, on the other hand, seems no further along in his Christian walk than he was 10 years ago. He thinks and hopes there is a God, but doesn't desire a real relationship with Jesus. He considers himself to be a "good person" (which...

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Does Forgiveness = No Consequences?
Does Forgiveness = No Consequences?

I am struggling with forgiveness. I know that forgiving someone who hurt me is part of my recovery process, but does forgiving someone mean that I need to be willing to treat that person as well as I would treat those I consider my closest friends? (Assuming that it’s appropriate to interact with the person who hurt me.) Does forgiving completely...

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How do I overcome a spending addiction?
How do I overcome a spending addiction?

Could you please direct me to information on overcoming spending addictions? It seems that if I get stressed or bored I will either turn to food for comfort or go out and spend excessive amounts of money (approximately up to $500 worth of clothes or things we don't need). Usually I end up returning most of the items but I cannot stop the cycle that...

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My co-workers are slacking off
My co-workers are slacking off

I have been working at a job for a little over three months now. My co-workers feel as if they don't have to do that much of work and take more breaks than they do work. Everytime another co-worker or myself brings the situation to the boss nothing ever gets done about it. What do you think I should do in a situation like this? Should I find another...

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How can I help my depressed and paranoid brother?
How can I help my depressed and paranoid brother?

I am the older sister of a 17-year-old depressed and very paranoid brother. He lives by himself in his own flat in a very nice area. Yet he has boarded up all his windows from the inside because he thinks his neighbours are watching his every move. He doesn't like to go out as he thinks strangers in the street are out to get him. I asked him if...

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Depression: Antidepressants and the Spiritual Dimension
Depression: Antidepressants and the Spiritual Dimension

When are antidepressants appropriate for treating depression? In my opinion, antidepressants can and should be tried as an intervention for depression when people are suffering some of the following symptoms for over two weeks which hinder their functioning and ability to live a normal life: Poor concentration Difficulty sleeping and eating Loss...

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