Rough estimates put one in three girls and one in six boys in the US at risk for being sexually abused. But exact figures are hard to assess because most children delay reporting their abuse until later in adulthood or never report it at all. Many of the women I’ve led through healing were not believed when they did report it, or worse, they were...

Donned in her favorite nightgown Kimberly* slips under the covers anticipating a good night’s sleep. Patting her husband’s shoulder she says, Goodnight honey… Tentatively Ron reaches out for Kimberly and nuzzles her check giving her a tender kiss. With a familiar sick sinking feeling in the pit of her stomach, Kimberly wriggles away from Ron,...

A powerful tool for health as we approach the new year can be to focus on giving and/or receiving only real apologies when we want to heal a rift with a family member, friend, or co-worker. We hear apologies all the time, but I don't think many of them are sincere. An apology has to be real to heal. Trang Lei spent the day helping Martha buy furniture...

Sometimes, people will try to get you to do things you don't want to do by badgering and manipulating you. They might give you lots of reasons, ridicule, beg, or accuse you. They hope that if they try hard enough and long enough, they will wear you down and convince you to give in. Here's a simple technique to help you deal with these situations....

Many marriages and relationships are not violent, but they are not healthy or happy and far from the ideal of great. Why? Often, it's because one person in the relationship becomes a giver, and the other a taker. Here's an example of such a relationship described by a young woman who wrote to me for counsel. Q: This summer I found out from...