Resolving Conflict

Anger: Definitive vs Distorted

I will apologize for doing something I believe is wrong. It’s a great start however this is problematic if I didn’t see anything wrong with my action but my spouse does. Or vice versa. Has that happened to anyone? We learned a few principles to help sort this out at an anger workshop lead by Dr Gary Chapman. The purpose of anger First thing...

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Being in Love Isn’t Enough
Being in Love Isn't Enough

Right before I got married I read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. There is a great list of “flags” to go through in conversation with your significant other before, and even after, you marry. I believe most sources of conflict in marriage can be worked out so I didn’t see anything on Chapman’s list that was...

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My Turn to Blush: Dealing with Differences
My Turn to Blush: Dealing with Differences

I don’t usually hide in bathroom stalls texting friends in order to avoid social situations. But sometimes, it’s the only option.   My husband Varun is Indian and I am not.  Our differences add a richness to our marriage that I’ve come to treasure, but every now and then they also highlight the importance of communication and grace. ...

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10 Things Guys Wish Women Knew about Men
10 Things Guys Wish Women Knew about Men

Having a hard time relating to your partner? Our mentors are here for you. Request a mentor today. It is likely no surprise to you that God has wired women and men differently. We all recognize some of these differences, but others often hide in plain sight. Shaunti Feldhahn, a nationally syndicated newspaper columnist, author and speaker...

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Parameters for Sex in a Christian Marriage
Parameters for Sex in a Christian Marriage

In today’s “anything goes” culture what are the parameters for good sex between a Christian husband and wife?  Are there some things that are off limits?  What about sex toys? Do they have a place in a Christian marriage? How do you know if a sexual act is wrong between a husband and wife? These are common and important questions. God...

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I Can’t Forgive Their Sexual Past
I Can’t Forgive Their Sexual Past

I recently heard from a man struggling with the sexual past of a new love in his life. As a widower, his only sexual partner had been his wife. But his new friend had many, including a couple husbands and several boyfriends. According to him everything about her was perfect except this one thing. He wanted to move the relationship forward, but didn’t...

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Facebook for Couples: 8 Things to Do Today
Facebook for Couples: 8 Things to Do Today

If you've been married for more than a couple of days you've probably already figured out that communication in marriage is really important.  Being intentional about the way you communicate with your spouse sets a firm foundation for a solid relationship. The same rules apply when it comes to using Facebook once you're married.  Facebook is...

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In A Rut? Focus On Your Strengths
In A Rut? Focus On Your Strengths

Many of us have hit ruts in our marriage. We live together. We chauffeur children together. We manage paychecks, and bills, and grocery lists, and karate lessons, and our parents' doctors appointments. But we don't seem to have FUN.  We often feel mildly put out. He'll be at work all day, and when he gets home, he collapses in a chair, turns on...

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