This is part 5 of an eight part series - Reflections for a Bride Remember those “warts”? Guess what? You will find you both have them! You have found some of your own, and one day you will see some of his. What you may have thought was a cute little quirk can eventually become an irritant. Consider well your response to the imperfections of...

This is part 2 of an eight part series - Reflections for a Bride Oh my! There’s a date to set, a location to book, and someone to officiate. There are friends to include in the party and other friends to invite to the celebration. Of course, there are colors, decorations, attire and flowers to plan.Will family be able to come? How large will...

This is part 7 of an eight part series - Reflections for a Bride Let us take a few moments to set aside the wedding details, and briefly consider an area that challenges many women. How can you learn to live with the man you love without losing yourself? There are two sides to this. Some women, especially those who are getting established...

Have you ever been accused of not listening? As hard as we try to listen, we're afraid that at times we're both guilty of not listening. Not listening plays a big part in problem marriages. Counselors hear over and over again statements like: "He never listens to me." or "She doesn't understand how I feel." If poor listening is a sign of a troubled...

Commuting with four carpool buddies offers ample opportunity to chew the fat, so one day I posed the question:  What’s the difference between commitment and faithfulness? After a few rounds of debate the jury was in:  Commitment is our intent to stay in relationship with our wives; faithfulness is the practice of doing so. That said, let’s...

Do you still remember your first kiss? Mine was unforgettable, because it was so public and so cheeky. I still blush when I think of it. I was in grade one - in those days in South Africa, it was called Sub A. The Middle School in Ugie had organized a school concert. Not just any concert, I tell you. It was the celebration of some high point or...

Let me take you back in time to the early days of your relationship. Can you picture those days?  You meet, and you both know there's a spark of mutual interest and desire. The spark is leaping into a flame of supercharged emotions, and you're falling in love. Excitement that sets your hearts racing.   Candlelight dinners.  Long talks.  Laughter. ...