My early morning jog seemed colder than normal. I felt chilled to the bone, so I stayed in the hot shower a bit longer than usual.  I had almost exhausted the hot water supply when I finally turned off the taps. Through the curtains my husband handed me a towel.  As I wrapped the fresh white towel around my shivering shoulders, deep warmth wrapped...

“It’s my party and I can cry if I want to.” This was my attitude when my husband, a Marine pilot, was deployed over the holidays. His four deployments have separated us over four Thanksgivings, four Christmases, and of course, four Valentine’s Days. It was hard, especially the first few times. Then I discovered the secret of not only coping,...

I'm going to start with something really basic. Men want to be wanted. They don't want to be placated.  So when it comes to intimacy, we women need to step up to the plate a little bit more. You may think you're meeting his needs because you're making love a few times a week, but he won't feel loved unless you put some energy and enthusiasm into...

How's your love life? If you have questions and you're not sure who to ask, talk to a mentor. I have discovered a stark contrast between what each sex thinks the opposite sex wants from them, and what the opposite sex really does want. What women think men want from them causes women to have resentment and anger toward men, and feel hopeless...

My first lesson in cohabitation came during the first week of my freshman year at university. I had been studying and it got late.  Around two in the morning I came back to my room, opened the door and flicked on the light. An unholy groan came from the other side of the room. “What are you DOING?” my roommate demanded in tones usually reserved...

There’s no such thing as a perfect marriage, but how do you know if you’re in a good marriage? There have been a spat of celebrity break ups this week.  It’s easy to look at them at think, “well that’s Hollywood, we have real problems” but sometimes we lose perspective too.  When you’re tired, when change is slow, when you run out...

Can a broken marriage be fixed? Often, if both partners are willing to do the work the answer is yes.   In a recent article for CNN author Eileen Kelly recounts her own experience with couples' counseling.  For Kelley and her husband the end began on a Caribbean vacation with their three year old twins.  She writes about how she has seen several...