Healthy Marriage

I Proposed With A Goat (She said yes!)

Exactly 5 years ago I asked Olive to marry me. Rather than popping the question with a diamond ring, I planned to propose to her with a goat. It wasn’t a pet goat for her to keep in the yard and take for walks; it was a goat to give away to a family in need. It was what she wanted, and it’s one of the reasons I wanted to spend the rest of my...

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Solving Disagreements Without Arguing
Solving Disagreements Without Arguing

I bet everyone wishes they knew the answer to this one. Before diving into the topic of conflict, one thing to understand about conflict is that it’s absolutely normal and to be expected in the marital relationship. Conflict doesn’t happen because you’re married to the wrong person; conflict happens because you’re human. One of the pitfalls...

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New Baby, Distant Husband
New Baby, Distant Husband

Do you feel abandoned? Our mentors are here for you. Request a mentor today. “Ever since I had the baby, my husband has been distant.” In the midst of all the excitement of new baby, especially the first baby, you rarely hear expectant parents talking about how this child will change their marriage. Babies are wonderful, let’s be...

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The Power of Sorry
The Power of Sorry

“Love means never having to say you’re sorry.” Do you remember that saccharine line from the famous 1970 movie Love Story?  It sounded icky to us then, and it sounds icky to us now. If you came of age under the spell of that cloying mantra, we’d like to set the record straight once and for all: it’s a big fat lie that has nothing...

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Being in Love Isn’t Enough
Being in Love Isn't Enough

Right before I got married I read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. There is a great list of “flags” to go through in conversation with your significant other before, and even after, you marry. I believe most sources of conflict in marriage can be worked out so I didn’t see anything on Chapman’s list that was...

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Romantic Love Has Two Stages
Romantic Love Has Two Stages

Before I got married I knew that there were two stages of love I just wasn’t sure how it worked. I knew there was a difference between the “over the moon” swooning and butterflies honeymoon phase of a relationship, and the deep, sustaining quality of love that lasts through the decades. I had witnessed both kinds of love. I just wasn’t sure...

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Married? Stop Keeping Score
Married? Stop Keeping Score

It’s been just over a year since I got married. I’ve been reflecting over this first year of marriage that everyone has cautioned could be one of the hardest years we’ll ever go through. What were the hardest parts? I can only speak for myself, but for me the hardest thing is to stop keeping score. Can you relate to any of these thoughts? “I...

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Love Calls God to You
Love Calls God to You

Do you crave intimacy? Has love betrayed you? Often, our lives begin with a need for love, and our life stories consist of searching for it. Regardless of what you've been through, no matter how far you've wandered away from God (or how often you've shrugged with indifference), love moves God to you. And there's nothing this world needs more than...

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