One clear September morning my son packed up his car and headed off to college.   Oh, I knew in my head that he was ready for the next stage of his journey.   Such a clear demonstration of maturity and wisdom is evident in almost any eighteen year old – what could possibly go wrong?!   I repeated like a mantra,... >Read More

Tags: adult children, better parenting, college, depending on God, faith, fear and anxiety, parenting essentials, Self, spiritual growth, teenagers, teens, trust, values

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Listening is complex. In its simplest form its something my dog can do. Effectual listening, however, requires more than your physical presence, because it requires you to engage your heart and mind to understand not only my words but the part of myself I am communicating to you. To me, being heard, with this type of care, is essential. Take...... >Read More

Tags: authenticity, campus, communication, hear, listening, My Story, Self

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Listening is complex. In its simplest form its something my dog can do. Effectual listening, however, requires more than your physical presence, because it requires you to engage your heart and mind to understand not only my words but the part of myself I am communicating to you. To me, being heard, with this type of care, is essential. If...... >Read More

Tags: communicate, communication, listen, listening, Men, mystory, Self, spiritual growth, Women

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Whether our sexuality was stolen from us or we gave it away, we experience a loss. But unfortunately many of us don’t allow ourselves to grieve those losses. Psychologists tell us that there are five stages of grieving; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Writing out our life map begins to move us beyond denial to truth....... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, hope, intimacy, Life Issues, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, Self, sex, sex and love, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our view of sex, ourselves, others and God. Part of the healing process will be seeing ourselves and sex from God’s perspective. God made sex. And He made it good, pure and pleasurable. But when sex has been a source of pain and wounding, it’s impossible for us to... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, faith, healing, intimacy, Life Issues, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, Self, sex, sex and love, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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When we let God show us how our past has hurt us, He’s able to heal our brokenness. But the first step and often the hardest is acknowledging what’s happened to us. One way to help see your own story is to write your life map.  Divide your life into four segments based on years: 0-12 yrs, 13-19 yrs, 20-30... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, hope, intimacy, Life Issues, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, Self, sex, sex and love, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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The bonding of sex is not only physical, but also spiritual, emotional and mental which includes the chemical and hormonal bonding that happens. Although we’d like to believe that breaking up and moving on severs that bond, in truth, only God can sever the ‘one flesh’ bond He’s created through sex. 1.  Ask God to bring to mind everyone...... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, hope, intimacy, Life Issues, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, Self, sex, sex and love, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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