Life After Death at Halloween
One of humanity's quirks is that people actually like to be scared. At least, pretend scared. Kids (and often adults) dress up as ghouls, ghosts, pirates, and their favorite costumed superheros and villains and run around from house to house shouting "Trick of Treat!" and demanding candy.
I've always thought Halloween is one of the weirdest holidays:...
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A Pet Owner’s Greatest Fear
It hurt today as I said goodbye to Max. Our little dog would have turned 13 in a few days but he never made it. He was getting weaker and on Monday he was so sick that I stayed home from work with him and held him most of the day. I had to carry him as he had no energy even to come back in from going outside.
There was nothing the vet could
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How to Comfort a Friend
Comforting friends who have gone through significant hurt or loss is not easy. We want to support and encourage our friends during their time of trial, but often what we say can only make things worse.
One of my professors, while teaching a graduate course I took called "Evil & Suffering" (not the most uplifting course name ever devised) talked...
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What to Say When it Hurts
Several years ago a friend of mine’s son died. His name was Nathan and he was almost two months old when they lost him. They lost him to SIDS - every parent’s nightmare. He was there and then he was gone. I cannot imagine the depth of their grief.
In the months that followed my friend shared a few of things people had said to him. ...
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Treating the Root Problem
Too often people are tempted to put a band-aid on a problem instead of really fixing it. That was the thought that came to mind when I read an article in the Globe & Mail titled "Suicide barrier on Bloor Viaduct worked, but jumpers went elsewhere":
The Bloor Viaduct suicide barrier, a $6-million feat of engineering that managed to marry heritage...
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My Son Who is in Heaven
At 19 weeks I gave birth to a little boy. We named him Jacob. We said hello and goodbye in the same hour. He is not a miscarriage or an almost-child, he is my son. This letter was written three years after his birth. This is a glimpse into my mother’s heart, a letter written to Jacob my son who resides in heaven. If you (or someone you...
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My Son Who is in Heaven
At 19 weeks I gave birth to a little boy. We named him Jacob. We said hello and goodbye in the same hour. He is not a miscarriage or an almost-child, he is my son. This letter was written three years after his birth. This is a glimpse into my mother’s heart, a letter written to Jacob my son who resides in heaven. If you (or someone you...
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