If you are dealing with an unfaithful spouse, the pain you are feeling unfortunately comes with the territory.  The consequences of an affair are overwhelming and horrifically painful.  I have heard it likened to post traumatic stress syndrome.  You are in a place you never expected to be. Here are a few things that will help you navigate this...

My wife repeated the sentence I could not understand,  "I'm moving out". I searched her eyes for the familiar fire. Seeing none, I thought,  "Who is this woman?" My wife of two years had become an instant stranger. "What are you saying? Why do you want to leave?", I asked. "I'm unhappy and lonely and miserable actually." There, it was...

Progressive choices that lead to destruction At work, in our neighborhoods and during our daily activities we all encounter people of the opposite sex who are attractive.  That's not the problem.  Our selfish choices after the attraction create the problem. Adultery has a progression and most people (even Christians) take these steps before they...

With the advent of email, chat rooms, and other online technology, it is easier than ever for a married person to engage in a private, often intimate, relationship outside of their marriage. In the hothouse of secrecy, seduction can flourish. When Lynn met Bill in a chat room they hit it off right away. His clever little comebacks and talent for...

Is it possible to heal when your spouse moves on with their affair partner? Many people take the time to share their stories with us through this website. Some are able to heal their marriages and some are not (and some choose not to) yet somehow we must slowly heal from the pain and move on with our lives. Ruth Ritchie has had to move on...

How could she forgive the woman who had gone after her husband and ultimately married him? I thought about her. I dreamed about her. I saw her in every woman I met. Some had her name, Cathy. Others her deep-set blue eyes or her curly dark hair. Even the slightest resemblance turned my stomach into a knot. I felt trapped with my thoughts Weeks,...

Has your trust been broken? Talk to a mentor today. One of my clients once asked me what it means to trust another human being. She wanted to know how she should react when a spouse or significant other is dishonest, inconsiderate or having an affair. She wondered if it is possible to rebuild trust in someone who disappoints us greatly. What...