Crisis Intimacy
A prevailing myth in our society says that during times of extreme crisis, many (if not most) marriages falter and fail. Certainly it was something we were told time and time again when we faced our own tragedies. Grief counsellors and social workers cautioned us about this danger after the stillbirths of both our sons Noah and Simon, and even the...
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Stopping the Cycle of Divorce
So you're getting married! Congratulations!
According to the latest research, if you are under the age of 30, there is a 58% chance that you are entering your marriage as a child of divorce. Do you fall into this category?
If you're wondering what on earth that has to do with the fact that you are getting married, you need to know this: adult...
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Runaway Bride: Are You Ready to Get Married?
Jennifer Wilbanks was engaged to marry John Mason on April 30, 2005 in Duluth, Georgia. The wedding was going to be a lavish affair, with more than 500 guests and 14 bridesmaids. When Jennifer vanished four days before the wedding, it not only shocked her friends and family, but it captured international attention.
For four days, her fiancé feared...
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You Make No Sense: Improving Marital Communication
A man called his neighbour to help him move a couch that had become stuck in the doorway. They pushed and pulled until they were exhausted, but the couch wouldn't budge. "Forget it," the man finally said. "We'll never get this in."
The neighbour looked at him quizzically and said, "In?"
Do you ever feel like you and your spouse are working...
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Exclusive Entanglement
I have two clematis vines along my front walkway. As they climb up the posts they weave together, intertwining so thoroughly that it becomes impossible to distinguish them from one another. I am constantly cutting them back. It's hard work, because once you've allowed the vines to grow together for awhile, it becomes one solid bit of growth...
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His Needs, Her Needs
You don't have to have a Ph.D. in relationships to understand that men and women are different… very different. We won't list the ways; you can likely look at your own marriage and come up with a much longer list than we could cover here.
We live in an age where a lot of effort is put into denying or minimizing the differences between the...
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Mutual Satisfying Sex In Your Marriage
A great sex life: we all want it. And, judging by what we see in the movies, we've all got it.
Not so fast. It's not as easy as it's made out to be. In fact, as I've worked with couples over the years, I'd estimate that fewer than one third of married couples enjoy a mutually satisfying sexual relationship.
Sexual issues are troublesome on...
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