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Real Sex is Not Like the Movies

Call me naive, but when I got married, I did not know much about sex. I grew up in a conservative church where we were taught that sex was reserved for marriage only. I believed that (and still believe the best sex is within marriage), so I tried not to think about it. Idecided I’d keep my virginity until I got married. Actually, I was pretty afraid...

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Valentine, How Do I Love Thee?
Valentine, How Do I Love Thee?

Valentine's Day brings sweet expressions of romance. "I love you" fills telephone lines, mailboxes, airwaves, personal ads and cybertraffic. The price of flowers mysteriously rises in February. How do you say, "I love you"? Maybe a kind greeting in the morning or a phone call midday? A nice lunch or dinner can convey the feeling. So can a surprise...

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Surviving Valentine’s Day as a Single
Surviving Valentine's Day as a Single

It's Valentine's Day and you're single? That is awesome, because you can choose to celebrate it any way you want! In fact, you can even choose to ignore it completely. However, that last option is actually quite difficult to pull off. Sometimes loneliness seems especially acute on that day. So here are some ways to hold it at bay. Plan ahead....

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Being in Love Isn’t Enough
Being in Love Isn't Enough

Right before I got married I read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. There is a great list of “flags” to go through in conversation with your significant other before, and even after, you marry. I believe most sources of conflict in marriage can be worked out so I didn’t see anything on Chapman’s list that was...

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Romantic Love Has Two Stages
Romantic Love Has Two Stages

Before I got married I knew that there were two stages of love I just wasn’t sure how it worked. I knew there was a difference between the “over the moon” swooning and butterflies honeymoon phase of a relationship, and the deep, sustaining quality of love that lasts through the decades. I had witnessed both kinds of love. I just wasn’t sure...

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I Don’t Think My Wife is “The One”
I Don’t Think My Wife is “The One”

I am married to a wonderful woman.  When I first met Shelaine I was attracted to her wit, looks, wisdom, and smile.  Within six months we were engaged. The summer before we married I introduced her to a mentor couple from a church I used to attend.  As we sat at their kitchen table the wife exclaimed, “So you found her! You found the one God...

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How to Write a Love Letter
How to Write a Love Letter

What could be more romantic than receiving a love letter? A good old fashioned, hand-written love letter is still one of the best Valentines around, but don't just save it for February. A love letter is a powerful expression any day of the year. You don't have to be Shakespeare to write the perfect love letter. All you need to know is how you...

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Valentine’s Day: That Lovin’ Feeling
Valentine's Day: That Lovin' Feeling

February is known for cold weather, presidents' birthdays and Cupid's delight. As Valentine's Day approaches, hearts flutter, lovers sigh and Charlie Brown hopes that little red-haired girl will like the card he's been gathering up the courage to give her. Love, sex and amorous relationships have dominated the news over the past year.  Not every...

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