Sexual Past
Childhood Sexual Abuse: How the past affects the present
Rough estimates put one in three girls and one in six boys in the US at risk for being sexually abused. But exact figures are hard to assess because most children delay reporting their abuse until later in adulthood or never report it at all. Many of the women I’ve led through healing were not believed when they did report it, or worse, they were...
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Sexual Healing – Grieving the loss exercise Whether our sexuality was stolen from us or we gave it...
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Sexual Healing – part 2 When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our...
When we let God show us how our past has hurt us, He’s able to heal our brokenness. But the first step and often the hardest is acknowledging what’s happened to us. One way to help see your own story is to write your life map. Divide your life into four segments based on years: 0-12 yrs, 13-19 yrs, 20-30 yrs, and 30-present. As you focus...
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Because many of us feel responsible for the loss, we often don’t feel we deserve to grieve. But the truth is, we do deserve to grieve, even more, we need to grieve. In fact God grieves right along with us. For many years I believed that God was the one who was heaping shame on me. I was certain He was disappointed with me, and no matter...
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I’ve heard every possible story. In addition to hearing the stories of the women who come into our bible study for sexual healing, people email me from all over the world. Just when I think I couldn’t possibly hear anything worse, someone shares the unimaginable with me. The evil that people do to one another must break and grieve God’s heart,...
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Has love betrayed you? There is hope. “Why was it so hard to resist sex before marriage, but now in marriage, resisting is all I do?” “Why do I love my husband, but don’t want to make love?” “Why was sex so good before marriage when I shouldn’t have been having it, but now that I can, its lost its sizzle, and I’ve lost...
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I meet many married women who love their husbands but don’t love sex. Their question is always the same: they want to know why. Is it the stress of marriage, children, work? Or could it be more than sheer exhaustion or waning libido? Could it have something to do with the sex they had before they got married? After more than 40 years...
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What do you do when you have quite the sexual past, but you want to have a pure marriage, with a great sex life? Can you rid yourself of the baggage from everything you've already done? Here's a letter that I received recently: I am single, in my late twenties. In my earlier twenties, I did not live a Christian lifestyle. I had sex with two men....
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