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Awaken Love

Okay, that's a really corny title, but I've been thinking for a while about the verse in Song of Solomon which says, "Do not awaken love until it is ready." I think some of us have let our love be awakened too early, or too abruptly, and so it never really woke at all. Several routes to this disastrous awakening exist. The first is obvious:...

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Holidays Hard On Love?
Holidays Hard On Love?

Did you realize that the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas is the time spouses and family members are most ignored? Why? We get so busy doing things for our families that we don't take the time to spend with them. So take a few moments and express your devotion to each other. Are you mutually devoted? Then declare it! There is nothing quite...

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She Doesn’t Want Sex
She Doesn't Want Sex

What do you do when your partner wants sex more often than you do? In 75% of marriages the husband has a higher sex drive. If a woman feels that people are putting demands on her all day she may find that she just doesn’t have any energy left when she falls into bed at night. A sexless relationship is not going to flourish, but a “grin and bear...

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Who is Your Romantic Fancy?
Who is Your Romantic Fancy?

When I was 9 years old I was in love with Chachi. I used to dream that I was just a few years older and I was asked to star in his TV show, and he kissed me and decided that he loved me. I would work out all kinds of different plots for the show, all of which involved him falling head over heels for me, because he was so wonderfully cute. Ever...

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Does Sex Really Start In My Brain?
Does Sex Really Start In My Brain?

I'm going to start with something really basic. Men want to be wanted. They don't want to be placated.  So when it comes to intimacy, we women need to step up to the plate a little bit more. You may think you're meeting his needs because you're making love a few times a week, but he won't feel loved unless you put some energy and enthusiasm into...

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Sexual Healing – Grieving the loss exercise
Sexual Healing – Grieving the loss exercise

Whether our sexuality was stolen from us or we gave it away, we experience a loss. But unfortunately many of us don’t allow ourselves to grieve those losses. Psychologists tell us that there are five stages of grieving; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Writing out our life map begins to move us beyond denial to truth....

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Sexual Healing – part 2
Sexual Healing – part 2

When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our view of sex, ourselves, others and God. Part of the healing process will be seeing ourselves and sex from God’s perspective. God made sex. And He made it good, pure and pleasurable. But when sex has been a source of pain and wounding, it’s impossible for us to view it from God’s perspective;...

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Sexual Healing – Life Maps Exercise
Sexual Healing – Life Maps Exercise

When we let God show us how our past has hurt us, He’s able to heal our brokenness. But the first step and often the hardest is acknowledging what’s happened to us. One way to help see your own story is to write your life map.  Divide your life into four segments based on years: 0-12 yrs, 13-19 yrs, 20-30 yrs, and 30-present. As you focus...

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