When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our view of sex, ourselves, others and God. Part of the healing process will be seeing ourselves and sex from God’s perspective. God made sex. And He made it good, pure and pleasurable. But when sex has been a source of pain and wounding, it’s impossible for us to... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, intimacy, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma

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When we let God show us how our past has hurt us, He’s able to heal our brokenness. But the first step and often the hardest is acknowledging what’s happened to us. One way to help see your own story is to write your life map.  Divide your life into four segments based on years: 0-12 yrs, 13-19 yrs, 20-30... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, hope, intimacy, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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The bonding of sex is not only physical, but also spiritual, emotional and mental which includes the chemical and hormonal bonding that happens. Although we’d like to believe that breaking up and moving on severs that bond, in truth, only God can sever the ‘one flesh’ bond He’s created through sex. 1.  Ask God to bring to mind everyone...... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, hope, intimacy, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, Self, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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Because many of us feel responsible for the loss, we often don’t feel we deserve to grieve. But the truth is, we do deserve to grieve, even more, we need to grieve. In fact God grieves right along with us.  For many years I believed that God was the one who was heaping shame on me. I was certain He was... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, hope, intimacy, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma, Women

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I’ve heard every possible story. In addition to hearing the stories of the women who come into our bible study for sexual healing, people email me from all over the world. Just when I think I couldn’t possibly hear anything worse, someone shares the unimaginable with me. The evil that people do to one another must break and grieve... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, intimacy, Life Issues, marriage, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma

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Have you ever met a person who refuses to make decisions together? You might ask, “What shall we have for supper?” and the uncooperative response may be, “I don’t care.  You decide.” Or you say, “I’m thinking we might take a trip to the coast this year.  What do you think?” only to hear, “Does it really matter? ... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, commitment, communication, decision making, decisions, family issues, FamilyLife Favs, healthy marriage, priorities, protecting our marriage, relationships, resolving conflict, sex and love, spouse

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We all know that building strong relationships takes ongoing work. We start by prioritizing our relationship(s) and finding time for those who are important to us.  If we neglect to do that life moves along and we can lose touch.   A close relationship is like a dance.  When one person moves, the other one responds.  The dance can go... >Read More

Tags: better parenting, challenges & conflicts, communication, emotions, family issues, family values, feelings, friendship, healthy marriage, improving your marriage, intimacy, marriage, priorities, protecting your marriage, relationships, resolving conflict, Romance & Sex, sex and love, sexual intimacy

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