Whether our sexuality was stolen from us or we gave it away, we experience a loss. But unfortunately many of us don’t allow ourselves to grieve those losses. Psychologists tell us that there are five stages of grieving; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Writing out our life map begins to move us beyond denial to truth....... >Read More

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When we’ve been used or abused with sex, it damages our view of sex, ourselves, others and God. Part of the healing process will be seeing ourselves and sex from God’s perspective. God made sex. And He made it good, pure and pleasurable. But when sex has been a source of pain and wounding, it’s impossible for us to... >Read More

Tags: challenges & conflicts, healing, intimacy, rape, romance, Romance & Sex, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual abuse, sexual healing, sexual intimacy, sexual past, sexual problems, trauma

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When we let God show us how our past has hurt us, He’s able to heal our brokenness. But the first step and often the hardest is acknowledging what’s happened to us. One way to help see your own story is to write your life map.  Divide your life into four segments based on years: 0-12 yrs, 13-19 yrs, 20-30... >Read More

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Because many of us feel responsible for the loss, we often don’t feel we deserve to grieve. But the truth is, we do deserve to grieve, even more, we need to grieve. In fact God grieves right along with us.  For many years I believed that God was the one who was heaping shame on me. I was certain He was... >Read More

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I’ve heard every possible story. In addition to hearing the stories of the women who come into our bible study for sexual healing, people email me from all over the world. Just when I think I couldn’t possibly hear anything worse, someone shares the unimaginable with me. The evil that people do to one another must break and grieve... >Read More

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Has love betrayed you? There is hope. “Why was it so hard to resist sex before marriage, but now in marriage, resisting is all I do?” “Why do I love my husband, but don’t want to make love?” “Why was sex so good before marriage when I shouldn’t have been having it, but now that I can, its lost its sizzle, and... >Read More

Tags: Barbara Wilson, communication, emotions, FamilyLife Canada, intimacy, marriage, men and women, relationships, romance, Romance & Sex, sex, sex and love, sex resources, sexual desire, sexual intimacy, sexual past

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Does God care about your love life? First comes love…or sex? “First comes love, then comes marriage, then here they come with a baby carriage.” You may recognize this little rhythm my generation used to sing to embarrass each other.  Based on today’s culture the rhythm could go: “First comes sex, then comes living together, and...... >Read More

Tags: Barbara Wilson, communication, don't want sex, improving your marriage, resolving conflict, Sex & romance, sex resources, sexual intimacy, sexual problems, Women

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