How to Write a Love Letter

Written by Claire Colvin

loveletterWhat could be more romantic than receiving a love letter? A good old fashioned, hand-written love letter is still one of the best Valentines around, but don’t just save it for February. A love letter is a powerful expression any day of the year.

You don’t have to be Shakespeare to write the perfect love letter. All you need to know is how you feel. What makes a love letter so romantic is that it is deeply personal. It shows your beloved how well you know them, and that knowledge is the very stuff of love.

All you need to get started is a pen and some decent stationary. Use thick card stock rather than stationary with roses and cupids around the edges. The recipient is probably going to keep this letter for a long time. Writing on heavy card stock will help it last.  (You can find paper like this at scrap booking stores and some office supply outlets.)

As you are writing be specific. Tell him exactly how he makes you feel and what he does that makes you feel that way. Write in the second person ( use “you” ) so that your letter speaks directly to him. Before you start writing, take a few moments to think about your beloved.

The following questions can help to get your thoughts going:

  • What is his greatest strength?
  • What do you see in him that he doesn’t see in himself?
  • What is the most romantic thing he has ever done for you?
  • What does he do on a regular basis that shows you he cares about you?
  • When did you fall in love with him?
  • What about him pleasantly surprised you?
  • What is your favorite memory of the two of you?
  • How has your world changed since you got together?

You can start your letter anyway you like as long as you include his name. You don’t have to be super-mushy right from the start, a simple “Dear _____” works well. Begin your letter with a very specific quality that you appreciate about him. Make the sentence exclusive – for example “I’ve never met anyone as _______ as you” or “No one has ever made me feel as____ as you do when you ____” Starting out this way shows him that he ranks higher than anyone else in your books – a great way to start a love letter.

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As you write, tell him exactly how you feel. Use specific examples that show that you’ve been paying attention. Remind him of the things he has done that really meant something to you. Share a favorite memory and a hope for the future. Don’t forget to say “I love you.” It doesn’t matter how long or short your letter is, as long as it’s sincere.

There’s no rule that says you have to use poetry in a love letter, but if you’re stumped finding just the right words, one or two carefully chosen lines can work really well. If you don’t have a poem in mind, there’s a lot to choose from online. If you want to use something other than the usual classics, I highly recommend “Dance Me to the End of Love” by Leonard Cohen.

Once your letter is complete, read it over carefully and check for errors. This letter will be read over and over. You don’t want a mistake spoiling the mood.If you want to add an extra special touch, seal the envelope with wax. Sealing kits are available at most fine stationary stores, but a regular taper candle in a dark color works just as well. Simply light the candle and carefully drip a small puddle of wax about the size of a quarter over the flap.

Once the letter is complete, drop it in the mail and wait for a great response. If you’re lucky, you just might get a love letter yourself.

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24 Responses to “How to Write a Love Letter”

  • Tia Glenn-Cooke Tia Glenn-Cooke says:

    Hi Matt – Why not both? :)
    I think it’s important for you to acknowledge those great things in her, and I think it will mean a lot to her that you see her that way and really appreciate her gifts and sacrifices and love. And then express your care for her.
    Hopefully this will be healing for you and that you can move forward in your relationship again or receive clarity about what’s best for the two of you.

  • Matt says:


    I have some questions about what to write in a love & appreciate in letter to a girl I dated & lived with until November when she moved out and broke up with me due to a bunch of bad & mostly incorrect rumors her friends created. I’ve forgiven her leaving me and moving out while I was at work which is not my normal nature. We have been through more serious life events in the last 2 years then most couples go through in 20 years or maybe ever and we make it through all of them.

    Its been 3 months now since she left and we’ve never stopped talking, texting or seeing each other. I’m to the point where all of this has made me realize how much I love this girl and want nothing more in life then to get back together in a relationship but one thats much better then how we were.

    I’ve been texting her how I feel a lot and we both agree we still love each other very much. I feel that I have said exactly how I feel over and over again so don’t know if I should reiterate all of the same in the letter I write. Should I focus more on recognizing what she’s done for me, all the sacrifices she’s made and times she;s stood my my side or focus on expressing how much I love and care for her?

    Any help you can provide will be so appreciated that words aren’t enough to convey or express my gratitude!

  • Neal says:

    Thank you for a wonderful idea of retaining the future. As a professional poet I usually write mine inside of a hallmark card but this is much more personal. After thirty-five years of marriage my wife likes to know that things are still as good as they were from they one.

    Mine are not mushy but are reminiscent of things that we have done in the past that have brought us joy.

    Thanks for the idea.

    God Bless/

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  • Sharon says:

    we my husband amd me love to text so we can text our love for each other love letters text is good too

  • Yes, say exactly how you feel. Don’t use big words or worry about tripping up! This year I put a spin on Valentine’s Day and decided to surprise influential people in my past with “love” letters or letters of appreciation, noting exactly how they had impacted my life and what it means to me today. I shared it in “Love Letters to Life Leaders” at InspiredMinute. Love letters need to make a come back and thanks for doing your part to help!!!

  • siri says:

    how to write the letter

  • Kate says:

    “This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.” 1 John 3:16

  • Venu Gopal says:

    great advice… by following your advice I wrote a 20 page love letter. She is my co teacher and about leave my office within a month.. when I gave my letter she began to cry and gave a great and hot hug…. Thank U

  • Amadu says:

    This site is truly inspiring!!!

  • Claire Colvin Claire Colvin says:

    Jennifer, Be careful. Work relationships are tricky. They’re certainly not impossible, but they require special handling because more people are involved. Unless you keep the relationship entirely secret it will affect the other people you work with, whether that’s your intention or not. How closely do you work together? Are you in different departments of the same company or do you work side by side? How comfortable are you mixing your private life with your work life?

    No one wants to think about the end of a relationship at the beginning of one, but when it comes to workplace romances you do need to think about that. What happens if this does not end well? Would you be willing to quit your job if it became too uncomfortable to see him and work with him every day?

    Workplace issues aside, you ask an excellent question, “is this a great idea?” For that you need to look at your current situation. You said that this is someone you’ve known for a long time, that’s a great start. It doesn’t sound like you’re rushing into things. You mentioned that you’re friends and that ” it is obvious that there are feelings involved in our friendship”. My question to you is this: is it as obvious to him as it is to you? Generally speaking, if a guy wants to ask you out, he’ll ask you out. I have never yet met a guy who didn’t ask someone out because he “didn’t want to risk the friendship”. That seems to be something that exists in women’s brains but not in men’s.

    Is there some other reason why he would not have pursued a romantic relationship with you up to this point? Were you unavailable? Was he unavailable? Was there a misunderstanding? Have your needs or his needs changed? If there was something that was in the way before that is no longer in the way then yes it might be a great idea to tell him that now that things are different, you’re interested. However, if nothing has changed, if you’ve both been available and he has made no move toward you then it may simply be because he sees you as a friend and not as a potential girlfriend.

    I would suggest starting with something a little less risky than a love letter. Ask him out for coffee instead. Friends go out for coffee, so do co workers. Spend some time with him and see how the conversation goes. You should be able to get a better feel for what he’s thinking. If you think he’s interested, ask him to dinner.

    Love is always a risk, but declaring your love right off the bat is a huge risk with a lot of potential for embarrassment, especially since this is someone you see every day. Start small but deliberate and see where the day takes you. Love letters almost always work best in the context of a committed relationship.

  • jennifer says:

    i work with this guy who is also a family friend and for years now we have been going back and forth and it is obvious that there are feelings involved in our friendship i want to write him a letter telling him how i feel about but dont know if its a great idea and dont know where to begin…

  • Doris Beck Doris says:

    Most people do not know the person that they are going to marry at the age of 16. If you have only been on one date and he has now moved away and isn’t communicating with you, then it is pretty sure that he doesn’t feel the same as you. If he did then he would be in touch with you. Sending him a love letter would definitely NOT be a good idea.

    One of the reasons that people don’t often marry the person that they think they are in love with at 16 is because they still have so much growing up to do and will change a lot before adulthood. With each life experience we encounter we change and our perspective changes as well.

  • Danica says:

    I am 16 and i believe God has shown me the man I am supposed to marry. I think I am ready but i dont know if he is. I want to write him a love letter to tell him how i feel about him. We have been on one date to prom, and it was amazing. However, when i moved away we became 4 hours apart and I dont know if he feels the same anymore. I have known him since first grade and I think i love him honestly. Do you think a love letter would work?

  • Sharon says:

    good article, thanks

  • Mel says:

    This is helpful. Thank you for posting this. :D

  • Sharon says:

    hi kamal– if this girl is 15, don’t you think that is rather young to marry, it is done, what does her parents think about this mariage do they agree for you both to marry. prayer–God i pray for this couple, give them confiramtion whether to marry ornot or to wait a year or so. are youboth in school yet, i would wait until the schooling is done before getting married.

  • Kamal says:

    Can you please help me?? Writing a love letter to porpose a girl I like. I m 16 & she is 15 years old.Please Email me a sample of love letter to porpose a girl [ed’s note: Email removed as it is our policy not to publish contact information.] if that is possible.. Looking forward to get a reply as soon as possible..

  • eden says:

    i wrote a love letter to my husband and that made us stronger when i was in primary

  • Zion says:

    Really i need a help not comment.
    I need exaples of love letters,letter to apply for friendship,how to attract girls.Please anyone that can help should send it my [email address removed].

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