Comments on: Bringing Romance Back http://powertochange.com Mon, 04 Jun 2012 18:19:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Doris is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Doris</span> http://powertochange.com/sex-love/keepromance/comment-page-1/#comment-133682 Doris Tue, 12 Jul 2011 00:32:17 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5431#comment-133682 Having an infant or young children definitely changes the dynamics in a relationship. You gave some awesome suggestions Sarah, the idea of providing a babysitter so she can get a break is a good one. When our first child was born my husband told he to go out one evening/week to get a break and he stayed home with our newborn. It communicated his love for me and made me want to spend time with him too as a result. Also really liked what you said about watching what you think...I hope this helps Michael. Having an infant or young children definitely changes the dynamics in a relationship. You gave some awesome suggestions Sarah, the idea of providing a babysitter so she can get a break is a good one. When our first child was born my husband told he to go out one evening/week to get a break and he stayed home with our newborn. It communicated his love for me and made me want to spend time with him too as a result.

Also really liked what you said about watching what you think…I hope this helps Michael.

]]> By: Sarah http://powertochange.com/sex-love/keepromance/comment-page-1/#comment-132260 Sarah Wed, 06 Jul 2011 08:20:32 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5431#comment-132260 Because your baby is so young, Micheal, it's bound to be a little bit hard at first. You may feel there is distance between you because you have a new baby boy and your priorities have changed because of your son. For most women, we become tired and easily stressed so we just keep on going as if we're robots, continuing with a daily routine, adjusting to having a son, a career etc. Express how you feel, that's my best answer. Don't come at it from a "You don't want me anymore" situation, but look at it as a learning curve, for example, make her a cup of tea and say "Lets find a baby sitter once a week and spend a day together". Also, through personal experience, NEVER think too much into it, never think you're "going to lose her", because it'll make you go through so much emotional distress, just think to yourself, she's my wife, the mother of my child and I'm going to be there for her, I'm going to show her how much I love her by taking her to a meal once a week, then she'll feel more likely to open up to you and express her feelings and needs back. Communication is so important!. Maybe, just a thought, you should investigate in Marriage counselling?. My friends have just been through something similar and now have "Reconnected". I hope all goes well soon. Because your baby is so young, Micheal, it’s bound to be a little bit hard at first. You may feel there is distance between you because you have a new baby boy and your priorities have changed because of your son. For most women, we become tired and easily stressed so we just keep on going as if we’re robots, continuing with a daily routine, adjusting to having a son, a career etc. Express how you feel, that’s my best answer. Don’t come at it from a “You don’t want me anymore” situation, but look at it as a learning curve, for example, make her a cup of tea and say “Lets find a baby sitter once a week and spend a day together”. Also, through personal experience, NEVER think too much into it, never think you’re “going to lose her”, because it’ll make you go through so much emotional distress, just think to yourself, she’s my wife, the mother of my child and I’m going to be there for her, I’m going to show her how much I love her by taking her to a meal once a week, then she’ll feel more likely to open up to you and express her feelings and needs back. Communication is so important!.
Maybe, just a thought, you should investigate in Marriage counselling?. My friends have just been through something similar and now have “Reconnected”.
I hope all goes well soon.

]]> By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Brenda is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Brenda</span> http://powertochange.com/sex-love/keepromance/comment-page-1/#comment-126297 Brenda Tue, 14 Jun 2011 11:50:03 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5431#comment-126297 I hear your pain and concern, Michael, and I am glad that you believe that your wife still loves you. Having an infant is a tremendous change in a marriage relationship, and what I have found of great benefit in my marriage - especially when undergoing big changes - has been when my husband has done his best to show interest in what is important to me and to show his appreciation for who I am in his life through his words and by actively taking part in what matters to me. I also like it when he is willing to honestly tell me how he is feeling without being afraid to be vulnerable. This shows me that he trusts me with his feelings, and it affirms his love for me. I really liked what this article said, too, Michael. There was only one thing I felt it left out: when one partner in a marriage relationship is busier than the other, it provides the partner with more time a wonderful opportunity to deepen or seek his or her relationship with the Lord Jesus. God is a wonderful Comforter to the lonely, the best Friend we can ever have, and an ever present help in times of trouble. God bless you, Michael, and thank you for writing in. I hear your pain and concern, Michael, and I am glad that you believe that your wife still loves you. Having an infant is a tremendous change in a marriage relationship, and what I have found of great benefit in my marriage – especially when undergoing big changes – has been when my husband has done his best to show interest in what is important to me and to show his appreciation for who I am in his life through his words and by actively taking part in what matters to me. I also like it when he is willing to honestly tell me how he is feeling without being afraid to be vulnerable. This shows me that he trusts me with his feelings, and it affirms his love for me. I really liked what this article said, too, Michael. There was only one thing I felt it left out: when one partner in a marriage relationship is busier than the other, it provides the partner with more time a wonderful opportunity to deepen or seek his or her relationship with the Lord Jesus. God is a wonderful Comforter to the lonely, the best Friend we can ever have, and an ever present help in times of trouble. God bless you, Michael, and thank you for writing in.

]]> By: Michael http://powertochange.com/sex-love/keepromance/comment-page-1/#comment-124948 Michael Thu, 09 Jun 2011 04:54:38 +0000 http://thelife.com/?page_id=5431#comment-124948 What if my wife doesn't want to spend any time with me??? I think that she still loves me but we have a seven month old son and now she seems to not want me! What do I do? I love her very much, but I think I might be loosing her please help me What if my wife doesn’t want to spend any time with me??? I think that she still loves me but we have a seven month old son and now she seems to not want me! What do I do? I love her very much, but I think I might be loosing her please help me

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