Comments on: 10 Things Guys Wish Women Knew about Men

By: peter

peter — Thu, 09 Feb 2012 07:19:52 +0000

Very honest and well written Jane, i have to admit i would make a lousy woman, i don’t like organising things but, i do do the budget and we don’t have as many ups and downs as you seem to but life certainly wears you down sometimes. The repitition is what gets to me.

By: Jane

Jane — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 15:00:43 +0000

It goes both ways. Newsflash: women want mostly the same things. A few things are different. Some women may not bear the burden of responsiblity of providing for the family, but they do for caring and nurturing the family. Let’s face it, if it weren’t for the wives/mothers, Christmas and birthdays would barely happen. We do those extra things that bring the family together–that make those times special. It’s up to us to notice what is going on in the family. Who needs what–materially, spiritually, physically, emotionally. That is a tremendous burden. And as for money, I’m convinced women are better at taking care of that anyway. Some men lack the attention to detail necessary to take care of home finances. You can stand by your man with love and respect, and he will still let you down. But it’s not his fault. He’s human. Just like you. And you love him…very much. But over time, you are tired of being disappointed and you feel like you are invisible. Totally invisible–a shell of your former self with the profound sense that you’ve fallen short of your potential. You don’t blame him. It’s much bigger than that. It’s you and how you were raised and him and how he was raised and all the sucky things that happen in life and the mistakes you’ve made on the way. And you sort of stop caring. Except you can’t, because you are needed to motivate everyone. If the house, car, garage, finances, kids’ grades, physical health, or anything starts sliding, it is the woman who usually has to notice and say, “hey, do you think we should change this? Let’s make a plan or a list or a schedule or a budget…” So you both work at it for a while, until you get depressed and demoralized and things start to slide again, and then you start all over. And the man just keeps plodding away doing his job, kind of oblivious but with the faint sense that things just aren’t great and maybe sex will fix it. And God? How does he fit in? A far and distant entity that you love and know is there (just like your man), but a million, million miles away and prayer has become a duty that you do just like everything else and you feel you are letting God down by not being better, more motivated, less selfish, more appreciative of all that you have. There now I’ve said it. And I hope no one ever finds out I wrote this.

By: Andrew

Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:40:12 +0000

@ Candace,
I understand that often men don’t verbalize with words that they appreciate you as often it shows the shallowness of men. My own personal view on marriage is somewhat different than most males as it should be as the Bible teaches but most men only take half of what the Bible teaches on marriage. When Christ was on earth he built the church through 11 of the disciples with Peter being the rock. The 12th disciple Judas betrayed Christ and killed himself so their were 11 left. Christ taught them the new covenant which was he was crucified and died for our sins and so the 11 disciples and the followers could build the church. The Bible teaches that men should love their wives as Christ loved the church which meant that they should treat them so well that they should be prepared to die for there wives! But what most men read is wives submit to there husbands and forget the first part about being prepared to sacrifice ones life for there wives so often men are complete morons and become demanding due to their warped version of submissive.

When a man feels like he is desired by a woman it makes him want to do much more for his wife as he wants to be respected by her. One of the most important areas in a marriage which is often overlooked is to pray together as when we discuss issues such as your husband looking at other woman with desire in his eyes and asking God to forgive. Then the desire in his eyes for other woman will begin to fade and he will see you with the right desire. Prayer is the mediator as many couples who do not do this a wedge develops and the list that you read seems to be not right however if both are looking horizontal to Christ then it helps you deal with the vertical issues in life such as temptation. God Bless.

By: Angel

Angel — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 19:09:20 +0000

The visual tempatation piece worries me. I do not like that he thinks back on other women. he does have a past-we all do… I know this is not something I can control, but ‘I’ want to be his vision. How do I know if I am who he is thinking about and not an old flame that he sees out and about from time to time…

By: Peter

Peter — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 22:25:25 +0000

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By: Candace

Candace — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 04:18:08 +0000

I’m sorry to seem negative. But women really do so much for men already. At least in all my clan. Its men that need to do more for women. Men can have everything on that list when they learn to give a woman what she needs. Really. Her looks get better when he will actually NOTICE I am wearing something nice.. or made up my face and git a tan. But sorry ladies… when was the last time he said you look drop dead gorgeous tonight? Appreciate your husband?? How many husbands vocalize appreciation to their wives? We are just about serving our families around that clock. While they mostly just go to work end come home. I hate this list right now lol. Its for men I’ve never met anywhere. And sex?? I’ve been a beautiful woman all my life but he doesn’t care about that. He perks up for that other beauty in the room though. Men already think they are entitled to everything. Why are you empowering them with this list? Bah!

By: April Cassidy

April Cassidy — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 14:14:26 +0000

There is a LOT of power in a wife’s respect for her husband to revolutionize the marriage. I address this topic a lot on my blog if you are interested. http://Www.peacefulwife.wordpress.com. Praying for healthy, vibrant, intimate marriages!

By: dk

dk — Mon, 09 Jan 2012 17:52:32 +0000

men…..!

By: Sharon

Tue, 13 Dec 2011 03:04:36 +0000

good article, thanks for letting women know that women and men are wired different and for reminding women about men

By: smb

smb — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 08:33:13 +0000

excellent. the use of the proper word to provide an explanation is everything. thank you.