‘And I have plenty of examples of other refuted believes such as the belief of a quite far past that women may not have a soul for instance, or that they have a smaller brain. They actually did have smaller brains compared to those of men and to today’s female brains, but after current research it was found that the reason why their brains weighed less it was because they were malnourished. Women were being generally fed less because of cultural believes that they were not important. These believes are still practiced today in some parts of the world.’

I think faster than I type…

Stop talking like a politician. It does nobody no good. :)

I got lost in your text and I gave up in reading it. I actually went down and read your original post and those of women in your situation. Again I come back to saying that we live in a stereotyped world. Every human is born with equal potential to become the perfect human, however our minds are being brainwashed as soon as we start learning about morals and philosophies, and all our minds are corupted. There is no such thing as masculine brain or feminine brain or othr varaitions of this concept. These concepts are not even compatible with Christianity at all. The reason why you don’t get nobody to give you advice in your situation is because of stereotyoing. If one professional like thsi one would cut the gender out of the picture and say: a man or a woman who has difficulties with emotional intimacy, and such you would identify yourself with the audience that you do now. The truth is that the masculinity and its causes has been so much discussed, debated and over emphasized in our culture, that the mass of people don’t expect simple sound advice that would actually help individuals with real problems, but they expect a best seller or an article that will appeal to the masses instead. So the author will produce it to make money and become famous, or maybe not, maybe he is wrong and he doesn`t knw it but he might genuwinely wish to help people like the physicians from the past.

I don’t think you can find advice online, or on TV or Oprah, or Dr Oz. Look if you believe in God, you will most likely also believe that the best answers are achieved only through prayer. Prayer in most faith is considered as the only answer to our troubles and also wishes. And maybe some counselling may help, not online or TV, actual therapy.

Didn’t mean to upset you or insult your website. It just happens that I strongly disagree with this article and I chose to challenge it. I have read others like this and also different opinions, and I also have mine and my family’s experience with this problem.

Just because a guy has a number of best sellers, his career’s experience, and has been on Oprah, doesn’t really ring my bells into believing his philosophy.

So did the doctors 100 years ago believed that they could treat psychosis with freezing baths and other torturous activities, depression in women with total hysterectomy thinking that the sexual organs are the culprit to a woman’s maddness thus they had to be removed, and treating all kind of diseases by bleeding the patients to death. And all these practices were at the time based on the professional experience of many generations of physicians, not just one, yet they were recently proven to be wrong practices, only after hundreds of years!

And I have plenty of other refuted believes such as the belief of a quite far past that women may not have a soul for instance, or that they have a smaller brain. They actually did have smaller brains compared to those of men and to today’s female brains, but after current research it was found that the reason why their brains weighed less it was because they were malnourished. Women were being generally fed less because of cultural believes that they were not important. These believes are still practiced today in some parts of the world.

I do not beleive in the ridiculuous cult of Men are from MArs and Women from venous and all their followers. This kind of philosophy is not meant to bring the sexes together but instead to pull them more apart from eachother by creating stereotypes and reinforcing double standards. This man does not emphasize equality between sexes at all, instead he characterize men as children in need for nurturing from the women who seem to be held responsable for everything that goes wrong in this world.

We are all capable of the same emotions and we should all be able to express them equally. It has nothing to do with hormones or genetic makeup.

Each couple that is happy copes in some way with the differences between the two parties, however no relationship is perfect, you may sometimes feel unhappy, but you should feel happiness almost everyday of your couple life and feel that the person you are with is unique and there is nothing you would change about him/her and that you love this person the way he/she is.

I think that if you pick a guy for what you think he could be with your help and only wishing he was more loving or more caring or more attentive than he is, you’re no better than a guy who dates a girl thinking he can convince her to get fake boobs, lose more weight of go blonde. I think I have to love a guy the way he is already. I should not need to feel that I have to change something fundamental about him, such as romance and relationship philosophy, ambitions, the way he shows emotion, etcetera, and obviously he would feel the same about me.

Besides, we all know men go on and on about not liking when women try to change them. Why would you even want to change a guy anyway? Shouldn’t you accept him the way he is? Or if you can’t accept him the way he is, let him go so he can find someone who does instead? I think this is a better philosophy. Men get frustrated when women keep trying to change the way they are, women cry cuz men don’t want ot change and it’s a never ending cycle. Don’t try to change a guy. Take him as he is, find the one who fits you perfectly, don’t settle. Choosing a partner is a big deal. YOu need to be a little bit picky.

Yet again, hit me in the head but I’m a kind feminist with quite strong Christian beliefs, so, nor feminists or the church are big fans of Oprah anyways. So nobody who shows up on that show really impress me much…

I was married for 20 years and had all the empathy in the world for my husband, but we seem to forget that love is also discipline. Sometimes people only learn the hard way and that would be by losing you. If you want to stick around waiting for someone to become emotionally expressive or do any of the other things that will make you feel more fulfilled in that relationship, then by all means, do it, but did God give us a life to sacrifice it? I can’t believe that. Our own life is just as important as someone else’s. Call me selfish.

I think if we all focused on meeting our own needs first there would be no need to try to change the one you’re in a relationship with..just change yourself. Either accept things the way they are and do your own thing or decide you want something different for yourself and move on. No anger, no bad feelings. There is really nothing in this world or life that is going to last so it’s all not that important in the big scheme of things. Sometimes getting out of the situation you’re in for a while will give you the perspective you need and the ability to focus on yourself and figuring out your own needs and make the appropriate changes. We are all capable of changing and coping…try not to always take the easiest way out or the way society says is best….think for yourself! Society and religious rules are there to control us….do you not think you’re capable of being a good or decent person without someone else telling you how to do it? Do you think you wouldn’t have your own set of values or morals if no one else told you what to have? We are born and die alone…we need to rely on our own selves first and foremost and then integrate others. Just my two cents worth! Peace.

I’m sorry to hear that you were disappointed by something that you read on our site, but I was quite surprise to hear you refer to Dr. Smalley as “somebody who clearly did no reading on the real current research on psychology of genders and sociological studies” Dr. Smalley is the author of 28 best selling books, has 35 years’ experience as a counsellor and has spoken as a relationship expert on The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Live and many others. You are welcome to discount his findings if you like, but his credentials are pretty solid.