Comments on: What Men Want in a Relationship

By: Marcus

Marcus — Mon, 04 Jun 2012 11:10:23 +0000

The article says it all, yes I am a guy and it’s true. All we want is to be acknowledged and not told we are wrong all the time. Not all guys are the same. We don’t need our ego’s or our d… stimulated to keep us, that’s a bonus. Hold a decent conversation, have a great sense of humor, know when to be serious and don’t take every word that comes out of our mouths so literally. It goes both ways people. All you hear is how a woman should be treated or how a man is supposed to act. Well I got news for everyone, there was never any instruction booklet made on how to be human. Treat everyone how you would like to be treated. We all want the same thing, someone to be happy with. If we learned to accept people for who they are, not what we want them to be, life would be so much better. Change the things you can, accept the things you can’t change, and have the wisdom to be able to distinguish the difference between the two. We all make mistakes, so if you are looking for someone who is perfect, guess what? you’re going to be looking for a long time. And if you think you are perfect, think again.

By: Lisa Harris

Lisa Harris — Fri, 01 Jun 2012 17:38:19 +0000

There seems to be a pretty diversed opinion on here. Obviously every man is different, and the only thing you can do is ‘generalise’ what ‘most’ men want. I believe this is what the author of this article intended.

If you’ve had a bad experience with a man, which doesn’t relate to this article, you’re probably in the minority. If you ask ‘most’ men (emphasizing the word most) to read this article, I’m convinced that the majority would agree with all 6 points made.

By: Andrew

Thu, 31 May 2012 20:12:10 +0000

@ commentators I have read the woman’s comments I will make it very simple as to what men want or what they should want. A Godly woman who puts Christ first above her as if he submits to Christ then Christ will provide him with the love of the Holy Spirit for you. If a man just wants sex RUN!!! FAR!!! as he will get bored of you and find another woman to conquest. Many men are insecure yes as many have pointed out however a Godly man identity will be in Christ not in his wife. If a man is not willing to pray with you or study God’s word it should be a red flag as Christ is what makes a relationship work as well as the suggestions. God Bless

By: sherry barker

sherry barker — Wed, 30 May 2012 17:26:34 +0000

To sum the article up in a few words…the Bible says that women are to respect their husbands. If respecting him is too difficult, than respect the office he holds as the man of the house. Men want to be respected, affirmed, encouraged, lifted up, wives making them feel as though he’s their night in shining armor.(It actually works!Over time.) The Bible says that woman was made for the man not man for the woman. To be a helpmate to him. But as frail human beings, we’re to busy trying to get them to serve us and give us what we think we need and deserve. That only pushes them further away. It’s better to dwell on a rooftop than live with a nagging woman, also says the Bible. Ouch! I’ve been there too…so true.
And Biblically, a godly man is to love his wife. Dwell with her in understanding (whether he understands or not, his role is to keep trying without condemning.) Because she is the weaker vessel. Actually all of this is a beautiful truth and concept that really can turn a messed up marriage around if one continues in these principles and doesn’t grow weary. When I manage to continue to walk in this, I literally watch my husband as he starts walking a little differently, paying more attention to me, holds his head a little higher etc., it’s really neat.

By: Muah

Muah — Wed, 23 May 2012 13:37:56 +0000

“My husband is not more great or intelligent than the next guy, but what he doesn’t realize is without his wife and daughter, he is nothing.” How do you think a significant other would feel reading something like that. Worthless? Unappreciated? It’s clear why anyone would seem maniacal after having committed themselves to someone who thinks of them that way. How can he lift you up if you put him down? Would you want to stay with someone who thinks themselves greater than thou? Where’s the growth in that mentality? How can one ever hope to find completion with someone like that and what will the kids think? I’d probably consider divorce too. It doesn’t help either that I grew up watching my father literally do everything for my mother whilst she did nothing but think of herself to his and our depreciation. It left a hole in us. Trust me when I say that you don’t want to be that.

By: Sherry

Sherry — Wed, 23 May 2012 03:54:32 +0000

I agree with you on some of your points Trace and some I disagree with. It is good to know what both sexes need in relationships and how we finction emotionally/mentally, sexually, physically and spiritually. We are the same in God’s eyes but are vastly so different.

Not all men have power struggles with women. There are some carefree men who allow women to make their own personal choices. More serious decisions that cannot come to resolve, the man should take the leadership role without overpowering the woman.

By: Trace

Trace — Wed, 23 May 2012 03:14:33 +0000

You men need to get over yourselfs about what men want out of a women. You get these women and then because they are so independent you try and control them and put them donw all the time because you are so insecure that becuase they are so independent that they will find someone else.
Men arent all that and should try and look at them selves as when they meet the right person that they click and get along with then they have met there match..
My my men are not GODS for crying out loud they are just every day poeple like us women…
I think I only listened to the crap of what a man wanted out of a relaitonship when i was 18 if you have your relationship based on what the man wnats you wont be that independent woman they all so proclaim on this website that they want because you will be independant and not give a damn about trying to please them you will just want a partner that treats you like an equal… Look at Cathleen on this website she said her husband was geeky and she put so much effort into her man and then he turned on her like they ALL do when are how men want you to be… Been there done that too many times… NOW WAY

By: keiki

keiki — Tue, 22 May 2012 14:41:06 +0000

I feel so horrible right now because I just had a fight with my dh. I thought I was doing everything I can. We both banging each others head, so stubbornly. I feel horrible because no one wants to give up. I didn’t want to listen, I forgot how and all I could think about was why do I have to be the one who will yield. I felt like a victim, not love, and always treat like a child and nobody. He said he loves me, that’s why he still around, I know he does. I just get so wrapped up with my anger when I’m being picked on esp, when I don’t do what I say I’m going to do. And he gets on my tail until were exhausted of fighting.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Sat, 19 May 2012 08:51:55 +0000

I use to think that there was something always wrong with me. Why does he love me? Is he going to leave? Should I keep pushing him so I could be right? Than I read this article and had a reality slap. I dated my fair share of immature, egotistical men who wanted nothing more than just sex and the next pretty face. I was pretty jaded up for it, but after talking to the man I always liked since I was a teenager and now engaged to him after so many years now, I learned something I never thought I would. After my last horrible relationship (and I mean he cheated, lied about the obvious sex text messages, and had random girls at the house) I had it in my mind that everyone was the same. I was going to be single and not give a care about anyone. I was independent, self motivated, and determined to set my life on the right track. Than my now fiance came back into my life, and keep in mind we been friends for years, and told me ‘I love you, happy birthday.’ was something that made me realize I had a good man all this time. He is confident, stubborn, intelligent, and an a–hole, but he’s mine. He never thought he was handsome, but honestly, he doesn’t care what others think. He only cares for my opinion, and he does everything to make me happy. I been a total b-tch to him recently. I admit it. But after sitting back and looking at my faults and my mistakes of what I was doing, I was making the love of my life feel not appreciated. I didn’t know what he wanted, and reading this article I can’t help but face palm myself at how stupid and stubborn I had been. This is everything he wanted just the same as I. Thank you for clearing this… because sometimes it’s best to hear it from someone else. A complete strange honestly. Your lover, honest or not, is always going to tell you what you want to hear, either to prevent a argument or he doesn’t care. Mine tries to prevent arguments cause all he wants to do is talk to me and joke around, have a good time. Especially since he is in the military. I feel horrible treating him the way I did, and you know what. That is all going to change. I love him, and I know he loves me. I know he won’t cheat or leave. He makes that obvious because he does everything to make me happy. I can’t help but feel even more confident in my life now and in my love life with him because I understand more than I ever did. My eyes are now open and I plan on just loving my man. Letting him know he is irreplaceable and that he is secure in knowing I am never leaving or throwing him out. I am twenty years old and no offense to anyone out here, but all my life on seeing ‘older’ couple struggling (because of lack of communication, threats of leaving or being thrown out, no appreciation, and never having each others back when shit hits the fan) I find myself one step ahead of most people in relationships because it’s simple. I love my fiance. We have a argument, we won’t go to sleep until we BOTH say sorry and ‘I love you’ before going to bed, and that we will stay on the phone till our phones die till we are no longer mad. We admit when we are wrong, and we work through the toughness together. And that, I have no fear that our relationship is going sour. I know our relationship is in the growing process and it won’t stop till we stop. Knowing that at my age, I am proud of myself, and I am proud of us. Because we done it together without our families and friends opinions. We made it through the hard times, and no matter how hard stuff got… we made it through and were still there for each other. I really appreciate reading this article cause it made me see things clearer than before. A better understanding. I have me a wonderful great man, and he has himself a beautiful, strong woman. An empowered couple that at supported by love, faith and trust. Doesn’t get any better than that. :)

By: Carmel

Carmel — Thu, 17 May 2012 21:35:33 +0000

Hi ,,meet a fab guy about 3mt ago…we talk for a while,then went on dats…ever thing was great..he wanted a relationship with me and so did I….after 4 weeks of dating .he called the next day and said he did not thing it would not work ,because of the kids ,which are 14/16yr…dont know whay to do as i am mad about him…Carmel