Alternately, if they really truly do not think this is a good idea, don’t discount that. Often when we are in love it becomes very difficult to see ourselves and our loved one clearly. I remember years ago my brother was in a very unhealthy relationship. We tried to tell him what we saw and he ignored it. When the relationship ended, badly, he came to me and said, “Why didn’t anyone tell me?” and I had to tell him that we did point it out, more than once, but he could not hear it and he could not see it.

I don’t know if your parents are right or not, but chances are very good that they love you very much and they want the very best for you. They are not against this marriage because they want you to be miserable. Sit down with them and have a good long talk. Assume the very best of them and as much as you can hear them out without defending or arguing. They may see something that you don’t. Weddings, even the idea of weddings, have a way of sweeping you up into a fantasy. You get to be the centre of attention and everyone is happy for you and feels amazing. Sometimes those feelings can masks concerns or issues in the relationship. You want to go into marriage with your eyes wide open. Would marrying this guy break your relationship with your parents? Would they come to the wedding?

Parents are not always right, but so so often what they say comes from a place of deep love. Don’t discount it simply because it’s not what you want to hear.