Comments on: Spicy Sex http://powertochange.com Sat, 11 Feb 2012 16:46:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Jamie is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Jamie</span> http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-665487 Jamie Fri, 10 Feb 2012 22:13:17 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-665487 Hi Sammy112, your experience is not unique. Most parents go through a period of time when sexual intimacy is difficult to schedule into their lives. As with all aspects of marriage the most important part of figuring this out is honest, vulnerable communication. Having the attitude that you are working on this as a team rather than allowing it to set you up as enemies is a key aspect of making that communication productive. What many couples find is that they need to put aside the attitude of expecting spontaneous passion and becoming much more intentional of creating moments that prioritize intimacy and minimize distractions. There can be a maturing component of your sex life when it is less about the physical pleasure and more about the appreciation you have for your spouse. Both you and your husband will find that your physical pleasure goes to a new level when your passion to express your love and appreciation of each other becomes the priority. There are some great books on the subject and I would recommend that you and your husband read through them together. Some couples have found it very fruitful to actually read the chapters aloud to each other. In books like Kevin Leman's "Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage", Dennis and Barbara Rainey's "Rekindling the Romance", and Bill and Pam Farrel's "Red Hot Monogamy" you will find some very practical suggestions of how to schedule your intimacy with each other and create an environment in your family that allows the two of you to express your love and appreciation for each other. Hi Sammy112, your experience is not unique. Most parents go through a period of time when sexual intimacy is difficult to schedule into their lives. As with all aspects of marriage the most important part of figuring this out is honest, vulnerable communication. Having the attitude that you are working on this as a team rather than allowing it to set you up as enemies is a key aspect of making that communication productive. What many couples find is that they need to put aside the attitude of expecting spontaneous passion and becoming much more intentional of creating moments that prioritize intimacy and minimize distractions. There can be a maturing component of your sex life when it is less about the physical pleasure and more about the appreciation you have for your spouse. Both you and your husband will find that your physical pleasure goes to a new level when your passion to express your love and appreciation of each other becomes the priority.

There are some great books on the subject and I would recommend that you and your husband read through them together. Some couples have found it very fruitful to actually read the chapters aloud to each other. In books like Kevin Leman’s “Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage”, Dennis and Barbara Rainey’s “Rekindling the Romance”, and Bill and Pam Farrel’s “Red Hot Monogamy” you will find some very practical suggestions of how to schedule your intimacy with each other and create an environment in your family that allows the two of you to express your love and appreciation for each other.

]]> By: Sammy112 http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-652227 Sammy112 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 06:43:50 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-652227 We have three children and i'm pregnant. Sex becomes apart of the daily check list and it looses it excitement. You know, homework, feed the kids, baths, bible study prayers, sex with husband. Sex somehow has lost it's spice in my bedroom. Even when we do have time alone which is rare. We intend on having sex we maybe even attempt to have sex but we fall asleep and it never happens. By then the kids are back home, and alone time is over.Please help me??? We have three children and i’m pregnant. Sex becomes apart of the daily check list and it looses it excitement. You know, homework, feed the kids, baths, bible study prayers, sex with husband. Sex somehow has lost it’s spice in my bedroom. Even when we do have time alone which is rare. We intend on having sex we maybe even attempt to have sex but we fall asleep and it never happens. By then the kids are back home, and alone time is over.Please help me???

]]> By: Christina http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-376932 Christina Fri, 28 Oct 2011 15:17:35 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-376932 This is an interesting post. I agree that both partners have to be open to discuss their likes / dislikes in the bedroom. For some women, this is very difficult. It is my belief that most Christian women are made to feel that openly talking to your man is dirty or cheapens the relationship. And a lot of women are uncomfortable with their bodies, which makes it harder to be free in the bedroom as well. It took me a bit to get over this, but boy is it so freeing to be able to share what I enjoy or even give instruction. I don't hesitate to initiate and never have to wait for my love to initiate if I'm in the mood. If my man wants to see me in lingerie, heels, a specific costume or whatever... I willingly do this for him. And I enjoy it! Nothing is off limits between us and it has opened our relationship up tremendously. As far as the Masque Sexual Flavors... I've not ever heard of it, but there are all kinds of flavored lubricants on the market. I, personally, find the taste of the products unappealing. I will mention too that if you're having regular intercourse, most men generally don't "leak" semen. However, if your man does leak, then maybe you could ask him to wear a non-lubricated condom during oral (make sure you wipe it down with a wet washcloth first to avoid the chalky taste). If you don't like swallowing after they ejaculate during oral, then switch to hand motion only and remove him from your mouth. I'm sure your husband will understand your preferences. Also wanted to note that a man can make himself taste better by eating more citrus fruits and more pure and clean foods. This goes for women too. Makes oral more pleasant for both parties. Here's to great sex... Christina This is an interesting post.

I agree that both partners have to be open to discuss their likes / dislikes in the bedroom. For some women, this is very difficult. It is my belief that most Christian women are made to feel that openly talking to your man is dirty or cheapens the relationship. And a lot of women are uncomfortable with their bodies, which makes it harder to be free in the bedroom as well. It took me a bit to get over this, but boy is it so freeing to be able to share what I enjoy or even give instruction. I don’t hesitate to initiate and never have to wait for my love to initiate if I’m in the mood. If my man wants to see me in lingerie, heels, a specific costume or whatever… I willingly do this for him. And I enjoy it! Nothing is off limits between us and it has opened our relationship up tremendously.

As far as the Masque Sexual Flavors… I’ve not ever heard of it, but there are all kinds of flavored lubricants on the market. I, personally, find the taste of the products unappealing. I will mention too that if you’re having regular intercourse, most men generally don’t “leak” semen. However, if your man does leak, then maybe you could ask him to wear a non-lubricated condom during oral (make sure you wipe it down with a wet washcloth first to avoid the chalky taste). If you don’t like swallowing after they ejaculate during oral, then switch to hand motion only and remove him from your mouth. I’m sure your husband will understand your preferences. Also wanted to note that a man can make himself taste better by eating more citrus fruits and more pure and clean foods. This goes for women too. Makes oral more pleasant for both parties.

Here’s to great sex…

Christina

]]> By: claire http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-289456 claire Thu, 22 Sep 2011 11:53:27 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-289456 agree this is an excellent article, and it is so important to talk with our spouses about what one another enjoys, what is important, and not to assume that because one enjoys something that the other will like it too. kg73, I have not heard of Masque Sexual Flavors, but my concern would the chemical content and the health concerns surrounding what may be contained in such products for both you and your husband; the contents could create a reaction, such as an allergic reaction, for one or both of you, that could result in serious illness. I am wondering if you have considered talking to your husband about other fun alternatives that are natural – maybe foods that could be used to make the experience fun, exciting and enjoyable and also a pleasant taste experience. God did give us food and one another to enjoy god bless claire :) xxxx agree this is an excellent article, and it is so important to talk with our spouses about what one another enjoys, what is important, and not to assume that because one enjoys something that the other will like it too. kg73, I have not heard of Masque Sexual Flavors, but my concern would the chemical content and the health concerns surrounding what may be contained in such products for both you and your husband; the contents could create a reaction, such as an allergic reaction, for one or both of you, that could result in serious illness. I am wondering if you have considered talking to your husband about other fun alternatives that are natural – maybe foods that could be used to make the experience fun, exciting and enjoyable and also a pleasant taste experience. God did give us food and one another to enjoy
god bless
claire :) xxxx

]]> By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Brenda is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Brenda</span> http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-142628 Brenda Mon, 25 Jul 2011 13:58:57 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-142628 I agree this is an excellent article, and it is so important to talk with our spouses about what one another enjoys, what is important, and not to assume that because one enjoys something that the other will like it too. kg73, I have not heard of Masque Sexual Flavors, but my concern would the chemical content and the health concerns surrounding what may be contained in such products for both you and your husband; the contents could create a reaction, such as an allergic reaction, for one or both of you, that could result in serious illness. I am wondering if you have considered talking to your husband about other fun alternatives that are natural - maybe foods that could be used to make the experience fun, exciting and enjoyable and also a pleasant taste experience. God did give us food and one another to enjoy! God bless you! Brenda I agree this is an excellent article, and it is so important to talk with our spouses about what one another enjoys, what is important, and not to assume that because one enjoys something that the other will like it too. kg73, I have not heard of Masque Sexual Flavors, but my concern would the chemical content and the health concerns surrounding what may be contained in such products for both you and your husband; the contents could create a reaction, such as an allergic reaction, for one or both of you, that could result in serious illness. I am wondering if you have considered talking to your husband about other fun alternatives that are natural – maybe foods that could be used to make the experience fun, exciting and enjoyable and also a pleasant taste experience. God did give us food and one another to enjoy!

God bless you!

Brenda

]]> By: kg73 http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-138494 kg73 Wed, 20 Jul 2011 18:03:27 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-138494 So I'm desperately trying to spice up my marriage. Oral sex has become a more regular part of our lives again -- I had stopped for a long time because I didn't like the taste. But I'm wondering if anyone has tried this stuff called Masque Sexual Flavors? I saw an ad in Cosmo recently and it's supposed to change the taste of semen. I'm wondering how it works. If you've tried it can you let me know, please? You can check it out at yourmasque.com Thanks! So I’m desperately trying to spice up my marriage. Oral sex has become a more regular part of our lives again — I had stopped for a long time because I didn’t like the taste. But I’m wondering if anyone has tried this stuff called Masque Sexual Flavors? I saw an ad in Cosmo recently and it’s supposed to change the taste of semen. I’m wondering how it works. If you’ve tried it can you let me know, please? You can check it out at yourmasque.com
Thanks!

]]> By: <span class='mentorBadge' title='Doris is an official Power to Change mentor.' >Doris</span> http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-119800 Doris Thu, 26 May 2011 17:02:37 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-119800 You are so right Morgan...good things to take time, and they also take work! Having a good marriage takes both...time and work...and lots of communication. It's time to turn off the tv and talk more. You are so right Morgan…good things to take time, and they also take work! Having a good marriage takes both…time and work…and lots of communication. It’s time to turn off the tv and talk more.

]]> By: Lisa http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-118591 Lisa Wed, 18 May 2011 17:47:08 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-118591 i'm not sure about this too. i’m not sure about this too.

]]> By: Morgan http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-118288 Morgan Tue, 17 May 2011 09:13:22 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-118288 The older I get, the more I realize good things take time. The older I get, the more I realize good things take time.

]]> By: lea1222 http://powertochange.com/sex-love/spicysex/comment-page-1/#comment-108113 lea1222 Tue, 15 Mar 2011 06:25:17 +0000 http://thelife.com/#comment-108113 i truly agree, as a growing Christian i find hard to talk about sex. I find awkward & not pleasing to God. I'm blessed God as the time we live together as husband & wife. My husband understand & help me to deal being as a conservative woman. God give me wisdom how to adjust with my husband especially in sex matters. Sometimes im the one open up the topic. I've learned to be more comfortable conversing with him. Right now we're both discovering how to enjoy our intimate moments inpite of business, problems and situations. i truly agree, as a growing Christian i find hard to talk about sex. I find awkward & not pleasing to God. I’m blessed God as the time we live together as husband & wife. My husband understand & help me to deal being as a conservative woman. God give me wisdom how to adjust with my husband especially in sex matters. Sometimes im the one open up the topic. I’ve learned to be more comfortable conversing with him. Right now we’re both discovering how to enjoy our intimate moments inpite of business, problems and situations.

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